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Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

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[ - ] M/C Poll: How many m/c? How many successful pregnancies? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:20 PM Flag
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1 & 1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 02:08 AM Flag
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meaning, 1 successful followed by 1 m/c [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 02:08 AM Flag
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2 sucessful, then 1 m/c, then 1 successful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 02:54 AM Flag
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1 successful, then 3 m/c, then 1 successful [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 04:16 AM Flag
[ - ] high school math text books to recommend? I know, such a boring question 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:07 PM Flag
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not a textbook exactly, but the "Easy Way" series, eg "Algebra the Easy Way". I'm dyslexic and had a horrible time making out school textbooks, but I'm also gifted in math, and this is how I learned algebra through calculus. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:07 PM Flag
[ - ] do you mostly hug your toddler when he/she is crying? or pat their back? or say, "you'll be all right" "you're okay" 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:02 PM Flag
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^^^^or "i see that you are sad" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:02 PM Flag
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big hugs, unless he was naughty and is crying b/c we spoke firmly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:03 PM Flag
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does he seem to cry a lot or not much at all? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:03 PM Flag
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he cries when he falls, or if he [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:04 PM Flag
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^^ is overtired/hungry/frustrated. compared to toddlers I see he cries less than the norm. but I don't always coo etc over him - I hug him but matter of factly say "sorry buddy, that looked like it hurt. you fell. ouch!" etc. but I don't make a big deal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:06 PM Flag
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thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:06 PM Flag
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Depends on why DC is crying! #1 is a tough cookie and usually only cried when truly upset (or sorry for misbehaving). #2 is sometimes a crier and although I do often hold her and comfort her, there are times that I "ignore" her tears (I make sure that she's okay, but I don't give her a snuggle right then). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:07 PM Flag
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thanks. helpful. i think i usually am mostly comforting when it comes to dd feeling bad when she is misbehaving. she is scared by that (she bit me today and i yelped and then she cried). when she falls, i don;t hug much, a pat on the back, "i see that you are hurt, the pain is temporary and will soon stop". and don't do much when she cries when she does not get something she wants. i just say, 'i am sorry. you are welcome to cry, but i can't pick you up right now." i just feel like i don't hug a lot whne she is crying. yes, when she is not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:19 PM Flag
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Glad to help! :) I was a nursery school teacher for many years, so I am a little "hardened" about tears. My DC are both snugglers and lap sitters and get plenty of that -- but I try to balance it with independence and resiliency. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:34 PM Flag
[ - ] how close are your kids in age? if they are close, do you feel bad for the older one, like they didn't get enough alone time w/ you before #2? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:55 PM Flag
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DC are 2-and-1/2 years apart. Honestly, I didn't love the split at first -- #1 was old enough to notice the disruption in his life, but still too young to have his "own" world. Things are great now -- DC are 6 and 3-and-1/2 and it's nice, they can play together (sort of!), but also have their own interests (and, logistically it works -- they are on different schedules and have time together and apart). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:05 PM Flag
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my dcs are all 4yrs apart. 4-4 and now 4 (pg with #3) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 03:44 AM Flag
[ - ] can one still show empathy to their child without hugging them during times that they are crying? can you be empathetic through your words mostly? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:54 PM Flag
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why? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:10 PM Flag
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not with my dd [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:15 PM Flag
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Yes, but WHY wouldn't you want to HUG your child? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 05:56 AM Flag
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sometimes it just feeds the pity party. it really depends on why she's crying [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 05:59 AM Flag
[ - ] Most common reason you fight with dh? Me: DH constantly complains he doesn't have enough free time when he comes home from work and on weekends to do what he wants to get done (admittedly puttering around the house and looking for a new job) but I need him to help with two small children. Just curious what other couples fight over. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:41 PM Flag
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we fight over his family business and silly things like when i can get a new car (it's a company car, so it's a company -- read -- his father's -- decision) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:46 PM Flag
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I'm compulsive and super organized (it's a ploy to keep my inner slob at bay) and DH doesn't hang up his coat or put his clothes away and he lounges around and and leaves crumbs everywhere and it makes me crazy. He doesn't do it to be a jerk, he just doesn't "get" it. I know that this is little stuff, but I sometimes snap over it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:55 PM Flag
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I could have written what you wrote. We have the exact same disagreement - the resolution: I'll take kids to bday parties (which he hates) - gives him time to go to gym, look for new job, fix things around the house. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.25.09, 06:08 PM Flag
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we only bicker over irrelevant things when we're tired...otherwise, no fights. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.25.09, 06:11 PM Flag
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money. always. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.26.09, 01:51 AM Flag
[ - ] So mad - MIL promised that she, YSIL and BIL would stay in a hotel for this visit. Then she changed her mind. So now, she will stay in hotel but wants BIL to sleep on our couch. I have two young toddlers who are up at crack of dawn, they want their milk and t.v. on. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:25 PM Flag
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well tell BIL that this is how it is and he will have to deal with the kids up early and tv on [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 03:46 AM Flag
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seriously. you have got to stop posting about all this crap. just deal with it already. good god. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 04:14 AM Flag
[ - ] Got an e-mail from a guy on match. Profile says he is looking for "Mrs. Robinson." Huh??? Your first reaction??? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:22 PM Flag
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not looking for Dustin Hoffman [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:26 PM Flag
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Wasn't she a totally screwed up character??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:27 PM Flag
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older woman [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:53 PM Flag
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older sexy woman. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 02:08 AM Flag
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COUGAR BABY..he wants a cougar [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 03:46 AM Flag
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he wants sex and you to pay for things [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 05:54 AM Flag
[ - ] can anyone tell me the name of the 3 wheeled scooter that so many nyc kids have (before the 2 wheeled razor)it's predominately blue. i think it runs about $75. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:15 PM Flag
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razor [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:17 PM Flag
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ketler, grwo ped [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:17 PM Flag
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op: i think it's not razor. that one is like $35. i've seen this one in a shop window and it's like $75 i think. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:21 PM Flag
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http://www.amazon.com/Micro-Scooters-America-Mini-Scooter/dp/B000K22D9Y/ref=tag_stp_st_edpp_ttl [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:21 PM Flag
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THANK YOU! This is it. I have been online trying to find this thing forever. somehow my amazon search didn't locate it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:24 PM Flag
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you are welcome. It's a great scooter. Dc just turned 5 and still uses it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:27 PM Flag
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micro mini [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:17 PM Flag
[ - ] DC scored 94 on ERB - Not sure if should be thrilled or concerned - anyone get into TT with 94? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Preschool/Kids 06.18.08, 08:07 PM Flag
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I am sure that dc have. Good Luck and apply broadly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:08 PM Flag
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I think that should be fine. ERBs are a part of a larger picture, and I think they've been made less important by the prepping some parents do. The child's visit and the school report are more important. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:13 PM Flag
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if your kid isn't top tier material, then he isn't. why try to fit a square peg into a round hole? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:22 PM Flag
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^^^sorry to be so rude. Really not nice to say this. I am sure your dc is lovely and smart. Tts like high scores, but they really do look seriously at the families, so of course you have a shot, especially if you are interested in ss. GL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:37 PM Flag
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Yes, people have posted scores in the 80s for non-sibling, non-connected children getting into Brearley and Chapin. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 04:29 AM Flag
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^^^ The book The Overachievers includes an observation of a playdate/child interview for Trinity and mentions how tangentially ERB testing plays into this. Some UB posters are crazy about parsing scores (perhaps because it's one the quantifiable factor in a sea of more indefinite ones), but the schools have professional educators who look for a variety of bright kids and families. Your child is obviously bright. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 04:45 AM Flag
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Low for tt. HM and Spence unlikely to look at such a score UNLESS you have major connections and/or $$$$. Chances not much better at the other 5. Know plenty of 98s and 99s at 2nd tier. All the tt kids I know were 98s and 99s, too. The kids with lower scores ended up at Dwight and CGPS. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 05:40 AM Flag
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just went through the process with dc who had a 94. PSD said that of all the schools, it would be an issue for Dalton (and she was right; felt we were rejected before Dalton even met us or dc). dc didn't get into the other 2 TTs we applied to, but is going to a great 2nd tier private. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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my d. had a similar score. got into brearley and hm (not kindergarten, though) we have no money ( on fa) no connections, nothing special or unusual about us. you never know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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TT will be difficult unless connected. There are many other excellent privates though to consider. Still a good score. Congrats. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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