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[ - ] Anyone else watching the Tour de France? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:33 AM Flag
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no. who cares? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:35 AM Flag
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Other than me and a couple of million other cycling fans... I don't know. I'll put you down as a "Doesn't care" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:37 AM Flag
[ - ] Would a brownstone or a pre-war be more likely to have a bug problem? looking in Park Slope if that matters...tia 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:29 AM Flag
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pre war because you have other tenants. brownstones do have the occasional waterbug wander in. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:35 AM Flag
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Above makes sense but I was voted to be devil's advocate for today so I'm gonna chime in: in pre-war though you have to figure there is a regular exterminator contracted. You can't keep bugs from ever coming in so in pre-war, they are less likely to colonize and become an issue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:41 AM Flag
[ - ] This is New York. EVERYONE breaks rules -- it is not confined to school zone choices. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:27 AM Flag
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well, there's a healthy attitude. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:28 AM Flag
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I live in NY -- I have my whole life. I don't intentionally break rules. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:31 AM Flag
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you're either lying to an anonymous message board or to yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:32 AM Flag
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You pretend to know me better than I know myself and you want to cast me as delusional? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:36 AM Flag
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ditto..native NYer here and I'm a rules person. It was the way I was raised. I don't break rules. I get annoyed when ppl do and think they are above the law [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:33 AM Flag
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I agree with you. I think those people who claim to not break the rules just have enough money to pay their way around it. They don't double park because they are ready to spend $10 on parking, etc. REAL New Yawkers know how it's done. I know one very wealthy family when told that the local fire house would not allow a tour for their sons birthday, even though they were willing to pay huge for it, called up the fire commissioners grand daughters and got strings pulled. That is breaking the rules. But it happens all the time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:42 AM Flag
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^^ i was born and raised on manhattan. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:43 AM Flag
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np: so was I and am poor and still don't break rules. Maybe because I'm a cops kid but always followed rules. I don't have money to buy my way into anything. If I can't do it I just do something else [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:45 AM Flag
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cops are always getting off tickets, parking at hydrants with their special I'm a cop windsheild sign. I am not saying breaking the LAW I am saying breaking the rules. Although the original post on School zone choices may in fact fall under "the law" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:50 AM Flag
[ - ] How many times a day does your baby do tummy time? And does DC do it on a flat mat or with a little pillow under chest? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 07.08.08, 07:21 AM Flag
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I remember when tummy time was an all consuming concern. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:45 AM Flag
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What?????? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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those were the days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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That does not really relate to the question [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:49 AM Flag
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it relates to the OR. we were remembering the days when we were all-concerned about tummy time. gone forever. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:50 AM Flag
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or: I no longer remember how many times a day or for how long or any thing about tummy time. I do remember that at the time I thought it was a much bigger deal than it was. In the blink of an eye they are crawling and tummy time doesn't matter and the amount of time I spent thinking about it seems silly to me now, except that it was an innocent and easy time and couldn't see that while it was happening. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:56 AM Flag
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Good Lord..... Was a simple question with a VERY complicated answer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:00 AM Flag
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and THAT, dear poster, is exactly what UB is all about. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:00 AM Flag
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the message is: don't worry too much about tummy time. Put him on his belly once in a while and leave it at that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:31 AM Flag
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we never did tummy time -- dc hated it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:33 AM Flag
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I do it with db once or twice a day every couple of days and I put her down flat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 10:31 AM Flag
[ - ] why isn't there a philadelphia board? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Site Feedback 07.08.08, 07:17 AM Flag
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They don't have internet access there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:17 AM Flag
[ - ] Gay guy here. Female friend I haven't seen in a while just introduced me to her new DH. Turns out I've been sleeping with him for the past year. Had no idea. How do I tell her? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:14 AM Flag
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Perez? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:14 AM Flag
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What are you doing on UB? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:15 AM Flag
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too funny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:16 AM Flag
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if this is true (which I hope it is) tell him the he has a choice..he either tells her or you do [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:16 AM Flag
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^^meant which I hope it's not [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:17 AM Flag
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Well, I don't want to piss him off ... we've got a good thing going. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:17 AM Flag
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not like his sausage is made out of gold. He's not the last mandingo in town [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:18 AM Flag
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Well, it's not just that. We both get into the same "scene", so to speak. Very rare to find someone you click with so well sexually ... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:20 AM Flag
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next you are going to say he's your soul mate? come on..the pickin's are slim on both sides of the team but it's not the end of the world [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:23 AM Flag
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Oh he's hardly that. But he's a great phuck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 04:43 PM Flag
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very clever post. made me laugh. totally fake though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:24 AM Flag
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agree on fake. not funny at all tho [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:34 AM Flag
[ - ] This board doesn't really move that fast anymore, does it? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:08 AM Flag
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no, it sure doesnt [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:13 AM Flag
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Is everyone at the other site, or have people generally given up? I used to UB every day; now I'm here once a week at most. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:14 AM Flag
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You know whats sad? The board is sooo slow but still I sit here painfully watching the posts trickle in [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:17 AM Flag
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lol, me too. actually, in a way I don't mind that much -- I feel like I can step away a lot (which I do) and not miss all that much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:21 AM Flag
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It's summer. People are outside, on vacation or doing things other than sitting at the computer. It will pick up again in Sept. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:22 AM Flag
[ - ] Do second children do things generally slower or faster than their older siblings? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:07 AM Flag
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in my house, my 2d child mostly did things faster other than roll over, sit up, crawl and walk [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:10 AM Flag
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in my experience faster because he wants to keep up with older brother, but not always. He still can't ride a bike and older brother was riding for a year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:36 AM Flag
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For us our second has done everything faster. Some of it is probably about birth order, but I think a bigger part is temperment and the fact that DS (my oldest) was a preemie. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:38 AM Flag
[ - ] Just had a boy. I have an older girl. How will they be different in the early years? I've heard that boys are more physical. Any other commonly-accepted generalities? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:06 AM Flag
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I think it all depends on the boy. I'm pg with a boy now and have 2 dds. My brother was a very calm, easy going kid (I was 11 yr when he was born). He was farthest from what ppl say boys are like. I just pray my son is like my brother [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:17 AM Flag
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i have heard from a few friends that their sons tend to be clingier. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:18 AM Flag
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this is true for my ds. DD is pretty independent, affectionate and loving, but not clingy. DS is attached to my leg and will take every opportunity to sit on me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:40 AM Flag
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boys are much better at math and girls care more about what they wear. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:34 AM Flag
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do you have dds? Please don't make girls sound like they are air head bimbos. Mine aren't [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:36 AM Flag
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np: I agree. These generalizations are ridiculous. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:37 AM Flag
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np: I think she's making fun of the whole question. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:38 AM Flag
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tone is hard to read online. I hope she's joking [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:40 AM Flag
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OR: of course i was joking. i have a dd and 2 ds. the question is flawed in that OP is setting up expectations based on gender which is wrong wrong wrong. just let your children bloom and find out who they are and what their differences are. 2 girls can be just as different as a boy and a girl. it's a silly silly question. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:59 AM Flag
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boys are right up front with their emotions, girls are much more convoluted. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:34 AM Flag
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my dd is right up there with her emotions. Boys that I know tend to hold things in and when it comes out it comes out in a rage [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:37 AM Flag
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yeah. guess i meant boys are more black-and-white about things emotionally, girls are a big fat gray. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:39 AM Flag
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I don't see it that way. I have 2 dds and they are upfront with their thoughts and emotions but that's my experience [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:41 AM Flag
[ - ] Just hired a part time nanny one month ago. She works 24 hrs a week on average @ $15/hr. I am heading overseas with the baby next month for 3 weeks to visit family. How to handle paying her? Do I have to pay her for all the hours she would have worked? She is a nickel and dimer so far and it works my last nerve. Any advice greatly appreciated :) She is great with the baby (12mo) btw. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:05 AM Flag
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Pay her the average of what you have paid her to date. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:06 AM Flag
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so I have to pay her for all the time even though she only works part time? Rats... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:07 AM Flag
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no, I mean figure out on average what you pay her a week, then pay that for 3 weeks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:10 AM Flag
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Of course she's a nickel and dimer ... you pay her so poorly, nickels and dimes are quite valuable to her. So sad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:06 AM Flag
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lol, this must be from the wack job paying her sitter $50k. a year [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:07 AM Flag
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do I really??? I am being serious. This is what I always paid in NYC and now I live in CT and thought that was still the going rate. I am really clueless with these things as I don't have many friends with kids/nannies [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:08 AM Flag
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you're fine, almost everyone here pays nanny $15/hour. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:11 AM Flag
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np: that rate doesn't seem so bad to me. (Lower than we pay our PT sitter/nanny but in the realm) BUT if you have "lain claim" to certain hours each wk from her you need to pay her for those hours even though you don't need her. Or consider her a free agent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:15 AM Flag
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How often do you anticipate these longer trips? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:09 AM Flag
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op-once a year max [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:09 AM Flag
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so pay her for 2 weeks of the trip and next year plan in advance [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:11 AM Flag
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she really needs to pay for the whole trip. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:15 AM Flag
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no I don't agree. If she were full time def. but not in this case. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:23 AM Flag
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Then she's risking the nanny finding a new job. Most people would pay while they're on vacation and the nanny knows this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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I have had the same parttime nanny for 5 years. I think the relationship works really well because I have always treated her like a fulltime nanny, but prorated. So if I have engaged her for the same two days each week, I pay her whenever I cancel, go away, etc. on those days, plus I pay her for federal holidays that fall on those days. I think this is only right. It's not her fault that you're going away. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:05 AM Flag
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I would pay her for the three weeks and if you want to nickel and dime her back ask that 24 hours of the time being paid for be used for any "extra overtime" so if one week she works 25 hours you don't need to pay her an extra 15. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:22 AM Flag
[ - ] whats a good site that sells car seats- good car seats but cheap? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 06:58 AM Flag
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op: whats a good car seat for a 22 pound baby? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:00 AM Flag
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Target regularly has various car seats on sale. best one IMHO is Britax Marathon, but it's not cheap. OTOH, car seats are one thing you really don't want to cheap out on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:14 AM Flag
[ - ] whats a good online store that sells car seats? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 06:57 AM Flag
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albee [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:35 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone on now with a 4-5 month baby? How are they sleeping at night? My 4m/o is having a huge sleep regression, so I'm wondering if that's normal. TIA. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 06:57 AM Flag
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they say it is, though I didnt have it at 4 mo. but we are havign some issues at 8 mo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 06:58 AM Flag
[ - ] Advice? Have a relative from Europe coming who wants to go to a show with me and dinner too. They want very expensive seats etc. DH and I are on a tight budget right now. We really have nothing extra. This is money we don't have right now to spend. Is it rude for me to say I can only do one or the other? I would prefer not to do the dinner would love to do the show. What would you do? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 06:55 AM Flag
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I think it is more polite to have dinner with them so you can talk/catch up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 06:59 AM Flag
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I wish I had read this before I emailed her. I just agreed to the show. I can't do both and agree with the poster also that I always feel too rushed with dinner before a show. Uggh. Single career minded relative that doesn't get my life now at all! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:09 AM Flag
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Tell them you can't afford it. What's the harm in being honest? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 06:59 AM Flag
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Just because you live in NYC does not mean that you're obligated to do all the fancy stuff that tourists do on vacation. Is this person coming by himself? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:00 AM Flag
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I actually feel rushed at dinner before a show and too full. I prefer to do one or the other. Can you just say you can't get a babysitter until 7:30 when the show starts (or something) and would love to do the play and then a drink? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:02 AM Flag
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why be dishonest? There is no shame in living within your means. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:09 AM Flag
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OP here. I'm not lying to her but thats why this is harder. Maybe would be easier if I did! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:10 AM Flag
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OR. Yes, you can do that too. But some people are really dense and are weird. We have overseas guests all the time, and going to the Empire State Bldg, plays, helicopter rides (true story - we declined), Tavern on the Green, the Boathouse all in one weekend adds up big time! Sometimes we just say we are busy for X part of the day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:13 AM Flag
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You know, I resent how out-of-town guests assume we go to places like Tavern on the Green all the time -- as well as see all the Broadway shows -- just because we live here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:17 AM Flag
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But "busy" or "other plans" even if it is busy sitting on the couch watching Blues Clues or the other plans are to sleep late and stay in your underwear till noon is not dishonest. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:19 AM Flag
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