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[ - ] moms of 3-- what was your biggest challenge going from 2 to 3 kids? and any advice? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:53 AM Flag
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naps for #3 while others had things we needed to get to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 09:36 AM Flag
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op: so did you forego naps in crib/bassinet to get where you needed to be? or scale back on #2 and #1 activities or get more help? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 09:37 AM Flag
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I couldn't really scale back - preschool dropoff and pick up, etc. I just transfered db to the stroller or infant carseat and took him where we went. When he got to big for that he was down to one nap in the afternoon and I did try not to schedule gymnastics or swim lessons during that time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 09:42 AM Flag
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My middle son whined for 6 months, but it really wasnt so bad. Its great now (youngest is 2) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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you're outnumbered. where before we could split up and each do one on one time, with three that's impossible. it took a while before I felt like each child over a week was getting enough mom time. now I still feel like everyone get shortchanged. Yes, there's always more love in your heart available, but there's no more hours in a day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 02:15 PM Flag
[ - ] My 4 yo DS is taking swimming lessons for the first time at camp. He's been in the water a ton in the past - jumping in off the side and we catch him. But he refuses to get in the water at camp. Only kid sitting on the side. It's killing me.... how do I get him to go in? He's had 9 chances so far and just won't go in. Doesn't even want to go to camp on swim days. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:50 AM Flag
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it sounds like he doesn't trust the teachers to me. you may have to pay a visit to the pool to reassure him it's okay. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 09:01 AM Flag
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My 4 yo was like that. Just took him longer to feel comfortable, especially without me or dh right there with him. Nothing I tried worked. He didn't like taking lesssons--he just wanted to free swim on his own, in his own way, and ended up teaching himself [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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is there anything wrongw with letting him sit on the side? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 09:57 AM Flag
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My 3yo DD is the same - would go in the pool with her dad anytime, but when it comes to swimming lessons at camp - NO WAY! Sitting on the side, screaming bloody murder that she doesn't want to go to the camp pool... I guess sometimes they are unpredictable. At this stage, I am just letting her have it her (although atrange) way [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 10:03 AM Flag
[ - ] can anyone suggest a good b-day gift for my 5 YO DD? she has all of the big stuff, dollhouse, kitchen, bike, easel, table & chairs. when i ask her what she wants she says hugs&kisses and cake, lol, so it doesn't need to be over the top. i just dont' really know hwo she'll be changing in the next year. she's never really embraced dolls, still loves stuffed animals and woud love more, but i dont' know if the stuffed animal phase will end soon and she really doesn't need anymore. any suggestions appreciated!! TIA 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:46 AM Flag
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does she have a leapster? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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good one - or Nintendo DS [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 09:43 AM Flag
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better yet: a wii. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 02:26 PM Flag
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5 yrs for a DS is a little young, no? I would be afraid she would lose it somewhere [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 02:42 PM Flag
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bicycle [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 02:28 PM Flag
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oops, sorry! i can't read. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 02:28 PM Flag
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A pop-up tent is a great place to be all the characters she can be. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 02:52 PM Flag
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Check out hearthsong and magic cabin(for the more fantasy oriented ones). Walkie Talkies, decent binoculars or a good, moderate telescope. There's a lot of celestial action this late July and August, esp if you're in the North East. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 02:56 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone had to leave their nursing toddlers for a few days? What happened to your milk supply? Were you able to return to nursing (we just do it before naps and at bedtime). TIA. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:33 AM Flag
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your breasts will get full and painful, if you don't pump your supply will go away in "a few days" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 09:59 AM Flag
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just keep pumping and pumping, I think mine went down temporarily and then went back up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 10:00 AM Flag
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i did -- left for 2 days. I was able to express a bit in the shower (didn't have to really pump) to alleviate the fullness. we went right back where we left off when I got back. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 02:23 PM Flag
[ - ] What's a nice bday gift for nanny? If cash, how much?? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 07.13.08, 08:32 AM Flag
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a Macy's gift card. I would do $100-300, whatever you are comfortable with [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 10:22 AM Flag
[ - ] 6 wks pregnant: Slight cramping/aching in pelvic area. Should I be worried? TIA. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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probably no worries. any bleeding? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 10:45 AM Flag
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If there is no blood and/or it is not concentrated in one spot or on one side, then there is nothing to worry about. Even if there is a slight amount of blood or it's on one side, it is usually fine, but warrants a call to the doctor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 10:48 AM Flag
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You should let your doctor know to ease your mind, but if there's no blood enough to fill a pad, it probably fine. I bled/spotted for 2 weeks straight in early pregnancy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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probably not, but call your doctor if it eases your mind. i almost never called my OB, and when i'd tell them about the problems i was experiencing during office visits, they'd always scold me for not calling. it's what they're there for, and the doctor who's on call is working, so don't worry about calling. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 11:26 AM Flag
[ - ] aahhhh!!! i hate angelina jolie right now! we are expecting a dd and the name, which i've kept secret until now, was to be Vivian. please help me feel okay with still using this name... despite the celebrity association it will now have. TIA. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:09 AM Flag
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seriously? if this is all you have to worry about you'll be ok. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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Her Dd is Vivienne [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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yeah, it sounds exactly the same... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:20 AM Flag
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I don't think so. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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what's the difference? viv-e-an [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:34 AM Flag
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viv-e-anne [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 09:55 AM Flag
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Nope; it's French. It's more like Viv-vyen [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 03:25 PM Flag
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They don't sound the same to me. Different emphasis at the end. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 09:04 AM Flag
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Are you worried that people might get the two girls confused? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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its not like naming her shiloh - there are lots of other vivians in the world. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 09:12 AM Flag
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I named my now 3.5 mo dd Vivienne and I am beside myself. I feel your pain. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 09:50 AM Flag
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ditto for my 14mo Vivian [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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I am in the same boat, I have been sick for days since finding out about lame Angelina. I picked Vivienne because it wasn't popular. I just read an article "Will Vivienne be the next Isabella?" Apparently after Nicole and creepy Tom Cruise named their girl Isabella the name went from obscure to top 10. I used to like that name too. I am hoping Angelina will eventually loose her uber celebrity status It's such a personal thing to have a special rare name associated with your child be plastered across the media. You can't relate until it happens to you! The last thing I want is for people to think I named my child after a stupid celebrity noe do I want the name to become super popular. The only consolation I can give others feeling this very real personal pain is that it's going to have to take some time before the name can popular, I mean how many girl babies are born each year that will be named Vivienne? Also, perhaps Angelina will be collecting many more children so that people forget about the latest. Or hopefully our society will start focusing on real things instead of lame celebrity parents who don't even parent their children. I am also thinking my baby can use her middle name. Which can you believe is also a French name starting with M that sounds just like Angelina's baby. My husband is a French speaker. UGH! Stupid Angelina!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 01:01 AM Flag
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Isabella is has not been obscure for at least 7 years! My dd is 7YO and every other girl in her class is named Isabella. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 04:22 AM Flag
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not the new one [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 11:58 AM Flag
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yes, exactly isabella raised in popularity when tom cruise and nicole kidman named their child that about 7 or whatever years ago...that's why according to the article the name gained popularity. it went on to say that now that tom cruise is thought of as a wierdo and the association with scientology there hasn't been the same effect on the name suri. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 02:24 PM Flag
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exactly, you didn't understand the post....it is not obscure but super popular now which is why there are as you said so many girls now named isabella. it became popular after tom cruise and nicole kidman named their child that 7 years or so ago. that's the point that people follow celebrities and it effects baby naming patterns and society in general. so, f you are a person who finds such things as naming your child after a family member than only to be asked if you named your child after some celebrity versus the family member you were trying to honor it can feel bad silly or not. it just shows our society's values even if one does not ascribe to them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 02:32 PM Flag
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self-centered much? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 02:22 PM Flag
[ - ] I dislike my DH so much and I am not nice to him, rather cruel in fact. I've been asking for a divorce for 2 years. He wants to keep trying. I am so depressed and the the depression leads to me being nastier. I feel so trapped and am in therapy, constantly trying and fear for DD going up in the environment of hate. I have no idea what to do. How can I get out of this? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:44 AM Flag
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you need to get your act together and treat your DD's father with respect. if she grows up in an environment of hate that is all on you, babe. all on you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:46 AM Flag
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you do not know the situation with DH, so no it is not all on me. DD has two parents. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:50 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:02 AM Flag
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you need to get out of that house. i grew up with parents who shouldn't have been married and it took me forever to have a healthy relationship. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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I am trying to figure out what to do. I'd like DH to leave. I would leave myself and leave him with DD, if I thought he would be a good parent but he is not. I can not leave her. I have invested all my $ in the house we live in and I am not currently working. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:52 AM Flag
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np. You would really consider leaving your dc if it was an option? I cannot imagine even considering that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:55 AM Flag
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I would not give up custody but would allow DH to be main caretaker if he were able so I can get out. It's that bad. I can not leave DD though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:35 AM Flag
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Separate and then see if you can develop a good relationship. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:52 AM Flag
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He will not leave saying it is too expensive and his retirement savings will be less [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:54 AM Flag
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One of you has to leave. The divorce settlement will split the assets. Neither of you will be as well off but at least you will be out of a situation that you feel is bad for everyone involved. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:56 AM Flag
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Can you serve him with papers, even though he still lives with you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:57 AM Flag
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Why did you marry and have a child with a man you dislike so much? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:03 AM Flag
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I had no idea that he was like this. I found out so much after we were married and I was pregnant. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:14 AM Flag
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i cannot stand women who say this. he really hid a whole other side from you to trick you into marriage and parenthood? take some f**cking responsibility for your decisions and your life and quit blaming all your troubles on him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 02:18 PM Flag
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Deception is a characteristic of many personality disorders with the true personality of many abusers coming out much later in many relationships. I don't thinking blaming the victim is the answer. and you need to clean up you language and your aggressive attitude [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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nothing in OPs post identifies the abuser at all. you just assume that she is the innocent party. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:43 PM Flag
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You do realize you can take your child and move into your own apt. So can dh. Either of you can do this. What you shoudl do right away is make an appt for a free consultation with a divorce lawyer to get the facts for the laws in your state, how interim custody/interim child support work, etc. He doesn't have to agree to a divorce for you to leave him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 09:07 AM Flag
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make sure you talk to a lawyer first, being the one to leave can hurt you, and it sounds like dh knows that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 10:13 AM Flag
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Don't let him talk you into more misery. Clearly, he is a wrong person for you, otherwise yu would not be miserable at all times. Get a divorce and tough it out on your own. You will still be miserable at times as it would be harder on your own, but at least you would be free, and happier! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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I am working with a therapist and trying to figure everything out. I am not working and have no $ of my own. I invested it all in the house which we are living in so I need to get myself situated. I don't want to leave the house but DH will not leave. I have no $ for bills or mortgage if he did. It is very difficult. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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Why is everyone responding that she has to leave and saying this DH is abusive? There is nothing in this post that suggests that at all -- it just suggests that OP has anger and control issues and likes to play the blame game. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:37 PM Flag
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you sound like a disgusting cow. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:40 PM Flag
[ - ] my mil told me yesterday that a grandmother's love is more intense than a mothers. this was after i said "he's the apple of my eye" to which she responded "mine too, mine too". should i bar her from my house? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:39 AM Flag
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mil has issues obviously, has she done anything else or is this a one time thing? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:45 AM Flag
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she does this stuff all the time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:47 AM Flag
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"does"? What did she do? She said something that hurt your feelings. MILs can say goofy things just like anyone else. Ignore her. And by the way, if anyone is going to "bar" her from your house, it has to be DH. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:54 AM Flag
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toxic. DH needs to talk to her when she insults you like this. I would ignore and then have DH have a talk with her. My MIL is extremely toxic and we went to therapy and this is what was advised. It helped. We also avoid MIL for a long time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:55 AM Flag
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In suggested the therapy thing because DH doesn't know how to express anger at his parents. He's appalled by her but sort of shrugs his shoulders. HE brought it up to her and she said "of course that's not what I meant.: But she [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:06 AM Flag
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^^ but she's conniving and manipulative. Oh, and I should mention my 6 wo son is currently in hospital. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:06 AM Flag
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uggg, she is obviously trying to get attention. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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bar her from your house? lol. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:46 AM Flag
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Just laugh loudly when she says rubbish like that. Treat it like a joke. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:52 AM Flag
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ita. don't give her the power to insult you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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if fact, flip it around. "hahaha, so you love my son more than your son?" as a joke. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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Kind of pathetic. try to be generous with her and have a sense of humor about it. He's a whole bushel of apples. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 09:51 AM Flag
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you sounds as nutty as she does. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 10:01 AM Flag
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You should be happy she loves your son so much. What is the problem? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 02:13 PM Flag
[ - ] how big should a baby be before going jogging with them? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:38 AM Flag
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I think once they have good head control. The jogging stroller will probably have a guide age. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:53 AM Flag
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6 mos - when they have solid head/neck control [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 09:26 AM Flag
[ - ] Is it normal to have no appetite for the first week after delivering? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:32 AM Flag
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hormone rush can upset your stomach [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:46 AM Flag
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i had a very little appetite and think it was related to post partum depression [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:35 AM Flag
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I ate everything that wasn't nailed down, but I think pretty much anything goes for the first few weeks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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ditto, I have never been hungrier in my life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 10:30 AM Flag
[ - ] My 11 mo. old ds is currently obsessed with stairs. 2 questions: does anyone know of a safety gate that can be attached to the foot of the stairs where there is only one wall (the other side is the spindles on the staircase)? Also: for the top of the stairs - can you reccomend a gate you love? Thanks for your input! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:31 AM Flag
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just teach him how to be safe on the stairs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:51 AM Flag
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This is unrealistic advice for an 11mo. You should have gates on stairs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:59 AM Flag
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Top of stairs has to be wall fixed - not pressure mounted. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:57 AM Flag
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We have stair gates attached to the wall and a spindle you can get adapter kits for this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:58 AM Flag
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check out onestepahead.com they have all kinds of gates [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 10:16 AM Flag
[ - ] moms, what service would you pay for to help you ave time? or help you in general? sleep training, helping put baby on scheule ,findinga baby nurse or nanny who suits your needs? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.13.08, 07:31 AM Flag
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Most of what you are asking about I learned easily from books. If you don't want to do all your childcare yourself you can get a nanny but it is possible to do it yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:01 AM Flag
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there are people thoug who will pay for services, trying to figure out what people are most likely willing to pay for. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:03 AM Flag
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Definitely not sleep training or scheduling--that is easy and wouldn't want/need help for that. We used a night nurse for 2 months w/ #2 and that was helpfu. We have a Sat. night sitter and couldn't do w/o her--totally essential. A personal assitant/part-time nanny--someone who could help w/ the kids but also do errands, light house work, jack of all trades type would be the most useful. I wouldn't want a full-time nanny though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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I am asking about a service you would pay to help find a babysitter,network with other moms,etc... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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That wasn't clear from the original post. Are you asking about an agency? Referral service? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:43 AM Flag
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I think she is asking for business ideas. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:48 AM Flag
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i think so too which is why i'm ignoring [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:50 AM Flag
[ - ] we got a new puppy and she is so cute! like a dark brownish coppery color. 1/2 poodle 1/2 schnauzer any name suggestions? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:07 AM Flag
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Penny [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:07 AM Flag
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we thought of that but one - still looking [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:08 AM Flag
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ohh my sister has a schnoodle he is great ,he yodels when he gets excited its so cute. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:51 AM Flag
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What is he called? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:01 AM Flag
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i have always wanted a schnoodle and name it pauzer!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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Mookie or Hazel. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 03:16 PM Flag
[ - ] about to start TTC #2, but just finished up a 3-day round of cipro for an infection last saturday. need to wait or okay to try? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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TTC 07.13.08, 07:01 AM Flag
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I probably would start trying but if you are concerned wait a bit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:13 AM Flag
[ - ] What do you think of this bed for a little girl? I love the look, but I don't get what is meant by "veneer tops and sides" - is that a cheesy/unsturdy material? TIA!! http://tinyurl.com/6llkmo 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:54 AM Flag
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Hard to know without seeing it but lots of furniture is veneered. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:07 AM Flag
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probebly the best material, because chances are your little girl would destroy the bed before yuo know it. My DD sharpens her teeth (?!) on her bed, go figure [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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I don't think that I would buy a bed that was that pricey online without seeing it first unless it was all wood. The chances that it is junk is just too great. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 10:27 AM Flag
[ - ] anyone a former sahm and go back to work because being at home was too depressing and stressful? i think i am going to have to go back to work because i am going insane. all i do is yell at my dd because i am so tired of not having a life and being with her 24/7. i feel so guilty saying that but it is true. any advice from btdt moms? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:51 AM Flag
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I've tried the SAHM route this summer with my 4 yo and it's just too much. If she were in day camp every day for a few hours, it would be more bearable, but trying to "entertain" a non-napping little kid for 12 waking hours is very hard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:54 AM Flag
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I went back part-time and feel it is ideal. I get plenty of kid time and yet enough time with adults to stay sane. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:58 AM Flag
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op: that is what i am thinking. i will feel guilty (seems like no matter what i do i feel guilty) if i go back full time and put her in daycare after being with me for the first two years of her life. i think she would love about four hours a day of kid interaction. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:00 AM Flag
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well nursery school does begin at 3. just wait till then [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:04 AM Flag
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if you yell at her as much as you say you do i think she will be better off in a daycare or nursery school. you sound awful, [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:15 AM Flag
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why don't you try to improve your parenting? what makes you think you won't yell at her if you're working? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:49 AM Flag
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OP, please ignore this sanctimonious troll. Try to get some adult time and have a balanced life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 09:54 AM Flag
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i'm not a troll. i'm pointing out that she is assuming she yells at her dd for certain reasons. how does she know that once she's juggling the logistics/stress of working she won't still yell at her dd? if she wants to work, work. if she wants to stay home, stay home. but i worry if someone's reaction to unhappiness and/or stress is to yell at their child. I think an examination of parenting strategies is completely warranted. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 02:21 PM Flag
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np - for many moms, our patience gets much shorter when we have to deal with DCs 24/7 without any real breaks. Plus, some children are just very active and demanding, and that can be a drain. At least she's acknowledging the problem - many moms don't and don't do anything about it, which is much worse. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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seriously, what is wrong with you?! There is nothing wrong with needing some life outside the house. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:28 PM Flag
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^^^sorry, this was supposed to post in response to the troll above, not you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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I have no guilt about working part-time. I am a much better Mommy because I work and my dd loves being with other kids (she is very social). She also gets to do lots of art projects that I never think of (or don't want the mess they create). We are both doing really well. I do think it depends on the child - some kids really need a lot of time with a parent. I am lucky because DD is so outgoing that she is happier seeing friends three days a week then just being home with me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:11 AM Flag
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op: i hear you. i know my dd will be much happier with kid interaction. she is also very outgoing. she is probably tired of being with me constantly. what do you do and how do you work out the schedule? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:17 AM Flag
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I am in fund raising. I work a set 20 hours a week around my daycare schedule (I started at 2 1/2 days because that was what they could give me. I then changed to three days and I pull her out earlier on those days - or get the shopping done without her in tow. I prefer the shorter days and when she is in school full time I will probably work 4 or 5 shorter days so I can pick her up at the end of the day. I have been lucky in that I am allowed to set my schedule as long as I am consistant (my boss doesn't want it to change every week). Good Luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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everyone is different. SAHMing is the right thing for some people, and not for others. I think it sounds like being away from home working, part-time or full-time, would work great for you and make you much happier during the time you are with DC. really, don't give yourself guilt about this (and I am someone who left work to go very-part-time from home. that was right for me, but not for everyone!) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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Is it an option for you to work part-time or to get some part-time help w/ DD so you could have a little time to yourself. I am really happy that I get to stay home, but I know that it can be tough. I try to build in some downtime for myself every week. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:54 PM Flag
[ - ] My incoming first grader is not yet reading on his own, but is no longer interested in picture books, unless they're full of suspense/adventure. Any suggestions for books I can read aloud in this in-between phase? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:40 AM Flag
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Do you want longer books? DS is that age and he likes: Kipling (esp. Rikki Tikki Tavi & the Mowgli stories), the Little House books, Catwings, Pippi Longstocking, anything by Roald Dahl. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:45 AM Flag
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Great suggestions, thanks! Just ordered BFG by Dahl and will look into the others now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:55 AM Flag
[ - ] Angelina had the babies! A DS and a DD. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:34 AM Flag
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I like Vivienne. Knox just makes me think of gelatin, but it does go with the other siblings' names, I guess [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:44 AM Flag
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i actually like them both [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:47 AM Flag
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Me too. I love Vivienne. Beautiful name [ Reply | More
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