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07.13.08, 07:44 AM General Topics
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I dislike my DH so much and I am not nice to him, rather cruel in fact. I've been asking for a divorce for 2 years. He wants to keep trying. I am so depressed and the the depression leads to me being nastier. I feel so trapped and am in therapy, constantly trying and fear for DD going up in the environment of hate. I have no idea what to do. How can I get out of this? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.13.08, 07:44 AM Flag
 

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you need to get your act together and treat your DD's father with respect. if she grows up in an environment of hate that is all on you, babe. all on you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:46 AM Flag
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you do not know the situation with DH, so no it is not all on me. DD has two parents. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:50 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:02 AM Flag
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you need to get out of that house. i grew up with parents who shouldn't have been married and it took me forever to have a healthy relationship. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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I am trying to figure out what to do. I'd like DH to leave. I would leave myself and leave him with DD, if I thought he would be a good parent but he is not. I can not leave her. I have invested all my $ in the house we live in and I am not currently working. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:52 AM Flag
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np. You would really consider leaving your dc if it was an option? I cannot imagine even considering that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:55 AM Flag
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I would not give up custody but would allow DH to be main caretaker if he were able so I can get out. It's that bad. I can not leave DD though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:35 AM Flag
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Separate and then see if you can develop a good relationship. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:52 AM Flag
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He will not leave saying it is too expensive and his retirement savings will be less [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:54 AM Flag
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One of you has to leave. The divorce settlement will split the assets. Neither of you will be as well off but at least you will be out of a situation that you feel is bad for everyone involved. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:56 AM Flag
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Can you serve him with papers, even though he still lives with you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:57 AM Flag
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Why did you marry and have a child with a man you dislike so much? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:03 AM Flag
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I had no idea that he was like this. I found out so much after we were married and I was pregnant. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:14 AM Flag
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i cannot stand women who say this. he really hid a whole other side from you to trick you into marriage and parenthood? take some f**cking responsibility for your decisions and your life and quit blaming all your troubles on him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 02:18 PM Flag
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Deception is a characteristic of many personality disorders with the true personality of many abusers coming out much later in many relationships. I don't thinking blaming the victim is the answer. and you need to clean up you language and your aggressive attitude [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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nothing in OPs post identifies the abuser at all. you just assume that she is the innocent party. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:43 PM Flag
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You do realize you can take your child and move into your own apt. So can dh. Either of you can do this. What you shoudl do right away is make an appt for a free consultation with a divorce lawyer to get the facts for the laws in your state, how interim custody/interim child support work, etc. He doesn't have to agree to a divorce for you to leave him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 09:07 AM Flag
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make sure you talk to a lawyer first, being the one to leave can hurt you, and it sounds like dh knows that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 10:13 AM Flag
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Don't let him talk you into more misery. Clearly, he is a wrong person for you, otherwise yu would not be miserable at all times. Get a divorce and tough it out on your own. You will still be miserable at times as it would be harder on your own, but at least you would be free, and happier! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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I am working with a therapist and trying to figure everything out. I am not working and have no $ of my own. I invested it all in the house which we are living in so I need to get myself situated. I don't want to leave the house but DH will not leave. I have no $ for bills or mortgage if he did. It is very difficult. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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Why is everyone responding that she has to leave and saying this DH is abusive? There is nothing in this post that suggests that at all -- it just suggests that OP has anger and control issues and likes to play the blame game. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:37 PM Flag
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you sound like a disgusting cow. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:40 PM Flag
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