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07.13.08, 06:51 AM General Topics
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anyone a former sahm and go back to work because being at home was too depressing and stressful? i think i am going to have to go back to work because i am going insane. all i do is yell at my dd because i am so tired of not having a life and being with her 24/7. i feel so guilty saying that but it is true. any advice from btdt moms? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.13.08, 06:51 AM Flag
 

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I've tried the SAHM route this summer with my 4 yo and it's just too much. If she were in day camp every day for a few hours, it would be more bearable, but trying to "entertain" a non-napping little kid for 12 waking hours is very hard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:54 AM Flag
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I went back part-time and feel it is ideal. I get plenty of kid time and yet enough time with adults to stay sane. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:58 AM Flag
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op: that is what i am thinking. i will feel guilty (seems like no matter what i do i feel guilty) if i go back full time and put her in daycare after being with me for the first two years of her life. i think she would love about four hours a day of kid interaction. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:00 AM Flag
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well nursery school does begin at 3. just wait till then [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:04 AM Flag
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if you yell at her as much as you say you do i think she will be better off in a daycare or nursery school. you sound awful, [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:05 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:15 AM Flag
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why don't you try to improve your parenting? what makes you think you won't yell at her if you're working? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:49 AM Flag
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OP, please ignore this sanctimonious troll. Try to get some adult time and have a balanced life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 09:54 AM Flag
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i'm not a troll. i'm pointing out that she is assuming she yells at her dd for certain reasons. how does she know that once she's juggling the logistics/stress of working she won't still yell at her dd? if she wants to work, work. if she wants to stay home, stay home. but i worry if someone's reaction to unhappiness and/or stress is to yell at their child. I think an examination of parenting strategies is completely warranted. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 02:21 PM Flag
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np - for many moms, our patience gets much shorter when we have to deal with DCs 24/7 without any real breaks. Plus, some children are just very active and demanding, and that can be a drain. At least she's acknowledging the problem - many moms don't and don't do anything about it, which is much worse. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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seriously, what is wrong with you?! There is nothing wrong with needing some life outside the house. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:28 PM Flag
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^^^sorry, this was supposed to post in response to the troll above, not you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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I have no guilt about working part-time. I am a much better Mommy because I work and my dd loves being with other kids (she is very social). She also gets to do lots of art projects that I never think of (or don't want the mess they create). We are both doing really well. I do think it depends on the child - some kids really need a lot of time with a parent. I am lucky because DD is so outgoing that she is happier seeing friends three days a week then just being home with me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:11 AM Flag
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op: i hear you. i know my dd will be much happier with kid interaction. she is also very outgoing. she is probably tired of being with me constantly. what do you do and how do you work out the schedule? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:17 AM Flag
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I am in fund raising. I work a set 20 hours a week around my daycare schedule (I started at 2 1/2 days because that was what they could give me. I then changed to three days and I pull her out earlier on those days - or get the shopping done without her in tow. I prefer the shorter days and when she is in school full time I will probably work 4 or 5 shorter days so I can pick her up at the end of the day. I have been lucky in that I am allowed to set my schedule as long as I am consistant (my boss doesn't want it to change every week). Good Luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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everyone is different. SAHMing is the right thing for some people, and not for others. I think it sounds like being away from home working, part-time or full-time, would work great for you and make you much happier during the time you are with DC. really, don't give yourself guilt about this (and I am someone who left work to go very-part-time from home. that was right for me, but not for everyone!) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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Is it an option for you to work part-time or to get some part-time help w/ DD so you could have a little time to yourself. I am really happy that I get to stay home, but I know that it can be tough. I try to build in some downtime for myself every week. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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