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[ - ] This might sound weird but..ds (almost 3)lately has been playing with my zipper or putting his hand on me (down there). I can't explain it but it is more like if he is sitting on my lap or standing next to me watching tv he will slide his hand there. I always just move it away and redirect. Should I be concerned someone is doing this to him? I know I am probably paranoid..but just wondering what other moms thought. 32 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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I think that it's curiosity...my dds do this to me. I just explain to them that they can not touch me there and that no one can touch them there except mommy when cleaning.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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he's two! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:37 PM Flag
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op - i dont know how much he will understand if i tell him that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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Tell him what? what do you say? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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Say it in a way that he understands. I tell mine "no that's not nice. You can not touch mommy down there." that's it, a couple of repeats and he'll get it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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np "down there" always sounds so weird to me when coming from adults. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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op - i have tried to teach ds 'penis' etc. but everything is 'hiney' to him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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Jesus Christ...so say what ever word you're comforable with..tis all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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What?! Do you think that they don't understand....LOOK woman, I have a 2 and a 3 yo. THEY DO THAT...I talk to my dds and they understand what I'm saying very well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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I think you are a little looney [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:36 PM Flag
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not op: I think that you are the looney one and that you need to not answer posts of this nature. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:37 PM Flag
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I was sexually abused as a kid by someone in our house. Maybe I am a little bit...just want to protect him if I need to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:37 PM Flag
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HE'S a two year old. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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protect him from what? Your zipper? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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I wonder if someone else is doing this to him! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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so ask him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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I dont think that will accomplish much. He tends to tell stories at times. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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so what do you want from us then? you can't ask him and he won't understand you explaining private parts. so keep him at home with you 24/7 and let him feel you up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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Wow - Whenever I ask him where did he learn something/who told him a certain thing he always says 'uncle john' (my brother)... i need to figure out how to get the info. out of him...but seriously why so nasty? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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NP: 1. you need to ask "uncle john" 2. because you seem to react negetevly to all of the advise that is offered. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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i didn't even realize i was doing that...but the responses have helped me put it in perspective. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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Good luck...I know that it's frustrating when you don't know what's going on...God speed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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LOL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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who else is he with? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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Just my family/the day care/close family friends that is it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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Alone? Sounds like a lot of people. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 03:50 PM Flag
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geez...you're not helpful...it's a habit that needs to be broken. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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np, two year olds so all sorts of things and then wake up one day and stop doing that and start doing something else. Come on, he's playing with a zipper and snuggling up to mom. Her crotch is at a perfect level. It means nothing more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:48 PM Flag
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I suggeset that you read what I was replying to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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what makes you think I didn't? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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Maybe he justs wants back in. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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I would emphasize as clearly as possible to stop doing that. As well, ask him questions, occasionally and when he's receptive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 07:01 PM Flag
[ - ] does anyone know which theaters in nyc that you can do a kids birthday party? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:28 PM Flag
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i saw angelina in the park last summer and she was completely hands on with 2 kids - no nanny. body guard but no babysitter. she was on the slide and the jungle gym with them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:30 PM Flag
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I don't know. Someone posted AMC theatres and I looked it up and it doesn't look like they do this. You just have to take them to the movie and out to eat I guess. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:36 PM Flag
[ - ] My ds just turned one this month and has started kicking me during diaper changes. Not just kicking randomly, but turning the lower half of his body and kicking AT me during the end of his diaper change. Honestly, nothing makes me come closer to losing it then when he does this. Especially when he's covered in poop! I tell him "No", but it doesn't work. Any advice? To make matters worse, he's very big for his age - 27 lbs and 33 inches - so he's tough to control physically. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:28 PM Flag
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btdt. Pissed me off too. Not sure why the boys insist on doing this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:29 PM Flag
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have you tried changing him standing up? it's hard with bms but easier with pee. he can't kick you then. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:30 PM Flag
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and they like it much better - less submissive position [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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You hold them down and get the job done. And that's all. It's not a teaching moment [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:30 PM Flag
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btdt. have to pin his legs down with your upper arm while getting the diaper on [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:30 PM Flag
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op: that's what I've been doing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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really - try it with him standing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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op: I will. Thanks. Honestly, I almost lost it today... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:33 PM Flag
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first of all: don't loose it. He's a baby and isn't doing this to p1ss you off. Keep your calm. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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they all do it - change him standing up - he can hold onto a chair - unless it's poop [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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this is the way it's going to be from now on! :) You can distract him if that works- get a toy or a book for him to look at it. And develop coping strategies: stand to the side of him as you change him so he can't reach you with his feet; do diaper changes in ten seconds; and if it's poop, put something under him so the poop doesn't get everywhere, put his arms together over his torso, put your elbow over his arms, and wipe his butt with other hand. In other words, gently strong-arm him. Try to make it fun, and endure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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op; Thank you. I honestly thought there was something wrong with him! like he had an anger issue. I don't remember my dd being like this.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:33 PM Flag
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I can't reply below, but OMG. Anger issues? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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are you responding to my post- the one about 'this is the way it's going to be from now on'? Not sure what you mean; do you think I have anger issues from my post? I'm rereading it and I don't see how you get that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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no, I was tring to respond to the OP who thought her baby had anger issues because he kicked during diaper change, but there is no reply button showing on my screen after her post. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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op: I know it's stupid. I have a friend who's ds does have anger issues (he's 5) and she once said to me "I hope you have a boy so you know what it's like..." after her child had a meltdown. So I don't know if it's a boy thing or an anger thing. My ds is just so different from my dd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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unless you are smaller than 27 lbs and 33 inches I think you should be able to handle this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:40 PM Flag
[ - ] I need something that makes "white noise" in db's bedroom... any ideas? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 07.17.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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uh, a white noise machine? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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Gosh, that was incredibly helpful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:37 PM Flag
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you can buy them an amazon for like 45 dollars. I have one and it doesn't really keep the noise out. You might be able to buy a white noise CD for cheaper and see if it works for you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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Maybe this is a dumb question, but what does a white noise machine sound like? I'm picturing something that sounds like an air conditioner or fan running...?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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It sounds like a loud fan. It blocks some noise into ds room but not all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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i use fans. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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Toddler 07.17.08, 12:27 PM Flag
[ - ] Hello people. 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:27 PM Flag
[ - ] Who's awake?...does anyone meditate? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:26 PM Flag
[ - ] Brad and Angelina Piss me off. 6 kids, and they have WHO helping raise them? Have children to be there to raise them, not to have someone else do it for you. Annoying. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:23 PM Flag
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don't judge people you don't know at all. Besides, from what I've seen they seem to spend a lot more time with their kids than many people (celebs and non alike) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:24 PM Flag
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I am really good at judging people, but for me, I don't see why they feel that they need to have a Brady Bunch family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:26 PM Flag
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so you're just judging them because they have 6 children? You don't make any sense [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:26 PM Flag
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how many children may I have almighty one? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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as many as you can handle and raise fairly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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do you get to decide if I'm doing it "fairly" or do I? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:28 PM Flag
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you can. You're the parent :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:28 PM Flag
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so what is your problem then? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:28 PM Flag
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lolol. I was one of 6 children but we were nothing like the Brady Bunch! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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They have nothing better to do! What's wrong with having a big family though? I would have had 6 if I could--the more the merrier. They shouldn't be denied just because they are celebtrities and can easily afford it. I think they are really into it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:29 PM Flag
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right. Alice raised those kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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How long have you known them? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:25 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone had an ice skating birthday party at Chelsea Piers? How was it? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:23 PM Flag
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My son went to one, and I'll be honest with you - we did not care for it. How old are the children? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:24 PM Flag
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7 y.o.'s [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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I'll tell you what I think, and remember you asked. Not everyone ice skates. Not everyone has even been on skates. There are NOT enough adults to help those who don't. Many parents DO NOT want to get out on the ice. I think picking a sport/skill that many of your guests will not be proficient in is a bad idea. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:29 PM Flag
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Sure, I thought of that. But I would only have an instructor/lesson based party--it wouldn't be a free-skate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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There are NOT enough adults on the ice at Chelsea Piers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:33 PM Flag
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ok well then give me some birthday party ideas [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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I think most 7 yr olds would like a swimming party. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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as long as there is a shallow end of the pool. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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would you enjoy a party where you hung onto the wall and fell on cold wet surface? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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No. I would make the DH get out there on the ice since he's a good skater. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:36 PM Flag
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you would not be successful in making my dh get out there, but it sounds like your mind is made up. I hope its a great party [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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OP. no. not made up. give me some creative ideas for other parties. it is not single sex [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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how many children and what does your dd want? ice skating? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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Anywhere from 12-20. I actually wanted to do bowling, but she won't have it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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must they be entertained? Can't they just hang out? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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I offered a "playground" party and she wouldn't have that either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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That's boring as hell if you are not 3. If dd wants ice skating party, why not? The kids that can't do it either will come and start learning, or skip it. It's like with swimming parties, kids have a blast even if not everyone can swim. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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OP. I thought you were the same poster criticizing the skating party? I thought of maybe doing a party at Deb's Family Disco, but it may be a bit over the top for 7 yos. (meaning not sure if I can justify the expense). I think the adults might have fun though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:05 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone been on YAZ bc and hate it? Did you gain weight? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:22 PM Flag
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Ok, when I saw YAZ, I thought of the band which is playing at the Beacon soon. I loved that band. Looking from the window above... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone been on YAZ bc and hate it? Did you gain weight? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Los Angeles 07.17.08, 12:22 PM Flag
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no and no. love it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:42 PM Flag
[ - ] dh and I have gotten so bad about eatting and excerise. we can't seem to get motivated. I don't want to be a fat couples who just sits and eats. Are there any programs out there for couples. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:22 PM Flag
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start very simple. Take a walk after supper. Every night. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:23 PM Flag
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Dh and I do this often, I love this time of the day! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:25 PM Flag
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we use to do this but we have 2 littles and it doesn't fit in the schudule anymore [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:26 PM Flag
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Two little whats? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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littles a 3 year old and 4 month old [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:28 PM Flag
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you can still work something out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:30 PM Flag
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guess that's where motivation comes in. we give each other excuses not to do it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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and why can't they learn to excercise too? Take a walk as a family. Listen, you can come up with all kinds of reasons to stay fat and out of shape. Or, you can do something about it. Taking a walk at the same time everyday is the easiest and cheapest way to start. Eat, get fat or get off your butt. And realize, it isn't just your life - you are teaching your children to either be fit or couch potato [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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dh and i go to a pilates trainer together for duet sessions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:24 PM Flag
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buy bikes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:24 PM Flag
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stop eating crap; get outdoors [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:44 PM Flag
[ - ] Good wedding gift ideas for the parents? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:12 PM Flag
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the parents of whom? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:13 PM Flag
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Bride [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:13 PM Flag
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My parents paid for the whole entire wedding. (OP) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:13 PM Flag
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so did mine. DH and I both wrote them lovely cards which we gave them right after the wedding, and we are making them an album [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:26 PM Flag
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OF THE COUPLE? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:24 PM Flag
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All my parents would ever want was a thank you note and for me to have a long and happy marriage. Or maybe, if a gift is really thought to be necessary, a framed photo of you and hubby on your wedding day? Or a pic of your parents on that day? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:18 PM Flag
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that's what I thought. Perfect [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:18 PM Flag
[ - ] Bought a house. Do we send a gift to our broker? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:08 PM Flag
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no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:09 PM Flag
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Oh for God's sake, enough with the freaking gifts already! NO! The broker should be sending YOU a gift. And yes, I'm a broker! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:09 PM Flag
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how naive. do you really think that your broker found you a place because she likes you? it's the cold hard cash that made her work with you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:11 PM Flag
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NO. A NOTE WILL SUFFICE. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:12 PM Flag
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why would you send a note? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:13 PM Flag
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no, they should send you one [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:12 PM Flag
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send a thank you card, if anything. our broker gave us a bottle of champagne as a gift, btw. i didn't think we needed to give her a gift. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 12:23 PM Flag
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