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[ - ] so my three month old just started to take a bottle - one bottle a day of formula he has been doing it for almost two weeks - it was hell to get him to take the bottle but he finally did it which is great - but now I feel like he doesn' t like to eat from me... is this possible or am I over thinking it? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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my 6 month old began refusing to bf I weaned him at 7 it wasn't worth the fight. i had a stomache virus and he wasn't getting milk and became frustrated with me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:55 PM Flag
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op: - I have tons of milk - that isn't the problem - in fact I'm really uncomforatble while at work b/c he won't eat from me (I go over and feed him during the day) and I don't have my pump here at work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:57 PM Flag
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teeth maybe? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:58 PM Flag
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I was thinking that but then wouldn't he not want to eat from the bottle either. He sucks 6 oz like a champ from the bottle. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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bottle is easier maybe he is having a preference [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 02:03 PM Flag
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np: this is very possible. make sure you use a very slow nipple on the bottle. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 02:22 PM Flag
[ - ] Here's my rant for the day....We have an office water cooler that is shared by about 20 people. People will use the water cooler until the reserve is completly empty and walk away without changing the bottle. I change that dang bottle about 3 times a week and the water is then warm when I get it b/c it hasn't been in the reserve! Why are people sooooo rude??? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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because they're lazy shit heads who are entitled babies [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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beacuse you enable them to [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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Yeah...I've done the walk-away and wait for someone else to change it. I've actually seen people go over, find it empty and walk away. Am I suppose to wait ALL day? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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I can't change it w/o water all over the floor. So I ask a big strong man, or at least someone taller who can lift it high enough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:55 PM Flag
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At least you find someone to get it changed. I'd be fine if someone came to me and said "I can't change this, I've seen you do it, can you help?" These lazy people just let it be until someone else does it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:59 PM Flag
[ - ] if you have breast fed and pumped and done bottle with breast milk, which bottle did you find your baby liked best?? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:44 PM Flag
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playtex drop-ins were great. Stored bm in bags for easy use. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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drop ins for sure with slow flow nipples [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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Thanks you guys!!!! Hey also what breast pump did you use and is it easy? For the person who stored the bm in bags does the pump just pump it into the bags? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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I use medula (sp?) I pumped into the medula bottles and poured into the bags because it was easier. pumping is not always easy give yourself time and don't feel pressured. how often will you need to pump for occasional feedings or while working [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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Occasional feedings... for getting out on a date, etc. I just want to have a baby that will take a bottle occassionally. I have so many friends that tried to leave db at home for the night but db would NOT take a bottle! So I want to do a couple times a week in a bottle. Now I know I am going to sound dumb here (this is my 1st time though) what kind of bags did you store it in? Ziploc? I was thinking of getting a medela too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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They have ziploc type bags but I would use the bottles that come with the pump. If you just want to pump occasionally did it in the morning and store it up in the freezer. If you have dh feed db pump out that feeding. It is a pain but worth it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 02:02 PM Flag
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So just pump into the bottles and can you put the bottles into the freezer if you won't use them that day? did you like the medela bottles for feeding? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 02:05 PM Flag
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I never used them for feeding I liked playtex. You can put the bottles in the freezer but then you need alot of bottles. started looking on the internet there are a lot of storage options. You'll find one that works for you. I used storage bags they are cheap. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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use medela rental pump and bags, dr browns bottles when small, now any. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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The medela rental pump is overkill for the occasional bottle--also costs like $80 per month. A cheap battery or electric pump will do just fine if this is all it's for. FWIW, if I were OP and really just doing this a few times a month, I'd give formula. An occasional bottle's not going to make any difference at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 03:45 PM Flag
[ - ] Frustrated. My 2 y.o. is going through a terrible sleeping phase. It's a convergence of many things: her older siblings' schedules, new sleeping arrangements, molars coming in. I know it will get better but I made the mistake of complaining to a friend with only one two y.o. and she told me I needed to "lay down the law and get her to bed earlier." I very nicely explained that life is different w/3 than it is w/one but she wouldn't accept that some things are beyond your control (or not worth taking control over?) and acted like I am a slacker mom who is getting what I deserve. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:43 PM Flag
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She won't get it until/if she has another kid. That said, bed time is like religion here and just not something I budge with. But then, I just have two. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:44 PM Flag
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op: i'm actually very structured in normal life. but we've had a lot going on b/t visitors and work on the house and neighborhood parties right outside our house. like i said, i know it will pass but i just hate when people act like i'm being too loose - prob b/c i am very structured when i can be. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:47 PM Flag
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it's summer everything gets mixed up in the summer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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shake it off it's easy to judge from the outside [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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fuck her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 02:27 PM Flag
[ - ] My younger sister occasionally offers to watch our 2 dc for us ( 23mo & 5mo), but only at her house. She is 21 and shares a 2-story house w/2 roommates and 4 dogs. Of course, that isn't an option. How should I respond- since I appreciate the 'offer' but only would accept if it was at my [childproofed] house? She is our only family, btw. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:40 PM Flag
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Have you explained why your house is better. she may just be clueless and think her house is more fun. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:42 PM Flag
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At first I would just decline for different reasons (dh has to work tonight, etc). I honestly think its because she wants to be able to 'do her thing' at her own house...which makes me even more worried that my dc would be getting quality care. Not to mention baby is only 5 mo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:52 PM Flag
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You can say that, but you can't demand it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:43 PM Flag
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I would never demand it, she is actually the last person I'd like to use as a babysitter anyhow (flighty, doesn't like to hold baby, distracted by a text message every 30 sec)...but I feel bad at the same time because she acts like she wants to do it for 'bonding' purposes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:47 PM Flag
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she can come and visit [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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I guess I just don't know how to respond to the guilt trip she gives me for not dropping my infant and toddler off at a party house. I want to be tactful, get point across without hurting feelings etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 02:04 PM Flag
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please she's not ready to be responsible wait to the kids are older she can take them out to eat and stuff she'll be the cool aunt [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 02:11 PM Flag
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Just be clear, I'd love for you and the kids to do something like that but they are way to young for that kind of environment. Do it here and I'd be grateful. THEN set it up for something quick and close by... like a mani/pedi. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 02:32 PM Flag
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I think you either have to go with the terms given to you for free childcare or say no. My mother only watches the kids at her house. No issues like those at your sisters, but we can't demand that she stay at our house to do us a favor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 02:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Recs for dinner in Boca Area? Just me and dh. No kids... 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Special Needs 07.17.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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Chops, NY Prime, Matteo's [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 02:13 PM Flag
[ - ] What is the vibe in Cold Spring Harbor LI? And how much for a pretty 4 BR Victorian there? TIA. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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I think its pretty $$$, but of course I haev no idea what your frame of reference is like [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:46 PM Flag
[ - ] I was thinking of starting a preschool just for boys. I love their energy and worry they are being treated unfairly. Do you think there would be takers? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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might be a hit ss preschool [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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DS's class was all boys last year - just a coincidence, but really it was so good for him. I think it's a great idea. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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Not me. I want my son to have smart girls around to learn from. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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I thought of that I just wish there was a way to help teachers deal with boys energy without sending them for testing or crushing their spirits [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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my son's preschool teachers (one in particular) did exactly that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:43 PM Flag
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mine too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:44 PM Flag
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np: there are plenty of schools that allow kids to be energetic w/out "crushing their spirits." you actually sound very sexist that you think only boys are the only ones with energy or spirit. if you want your kids to run wild with no structure then keep your kids at home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:46 PM Flag
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you are very right I shouldn't assume that I have 2 boys so I guess that's why I feel that way. When I think back to my preschool classes actually the active girls stick out in my mind more. They won't have faired well with some teachers either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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It's a cute idea. Funny though, at DD's preschool the ones going like gangbusters are all the girls. It's a co-op and the boys all stay very close to their moms and play quietly w/ trucks or in the sand. The girls are the ones squealing, getting naked, splashing, running around, mixing it up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Been TTC for over 2 years - 1 miscarriage a year ago. Been through numberous tests (I have a blocked right tube) and 3 IUI's, all unsuccessful. Now have an appointment with a RE. Just wondering what to expect? Am I going straight to IVF?? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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If your eggs are fine it does sound like you're headed in that direction. Do you and DH know how far you want to take tx? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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If RE says IVF, yes, we will go there. I know it will be super expensive. I'm just wondering if we will have to, since I have gotten preg on my own. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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I don't know for sure. I've never been pg. My problem was high FSH (diminished ovarian reserve). We did one IVF but it was a huge failure so they started pushing DE and then we switched to adoption. What are your other options? Would they do a different drug protocal w/ the iui? They will/should retest you to look at your hormone levels, etc. That's when they caught my high FSH--it hadn't shown up before. The fact that you have gotten pg before is a good thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:40 PM Flag
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I'm sorry about the FSH. I don't know much about that, I've only had 1 FSH level taken and it came back normal. I was on Femara (my doctor thinks it's better than Chlomid) and a HCG trigger shot before each IUI, however, I was ovulating from my right ovary each month, so the chances were really low. We didn't know about the blocked tube until after the last IUI when they decided to do a HSG(?) test. After the test, my doctor referred me to an RE. BTW, I'm 31. DH and I haven't really looked at alternatives yet. We talked a little about adoption, but nothing serious yet... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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Anyway you slice it, it's just such a hard thing to deal with. I was 31 when we started ttc. The thing with the FSH is the number changes every month and you're only as good as your worse number (which is the highest one). I got a very high one the month we started IVF, so we knew the outlook wasn't good. But we switched right to adoption and now I've got two fantastic kids--absolutely the kids who were supposed to be with us. I'm very, very lucky. Hang in there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:47 PM Flag
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Thanks so much! I'm happy to hear of your 2 wonderful dc. We are starting to feel like we'll never have children!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 02:03 PM Flag
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Hang in there, you will. It was so hard waiting, but then when DS & DD showed up it was totally why I had to wait. If you have any adoption questions let me know. GL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 02:04 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you ever get the sneaking suspicion that your therapist dislikes you? I sit there and spill everything that I need to spill, all the things I normally hide, and I can feel her sometimes not really liking me. I don't say anything really bad - it is just the sort of complaining that you are supposed to reserve for a therapist. Anyone else have this experience? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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I have the opposite. Mental health professionals seem to love me. It makes me feel weird, like maybe I'm a sociopath or something. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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Or too much a victim [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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Meaning "easy" to treat [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:22 PM Flag
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No, definitely not that. I went for a while for I/F and then for some anxiety. But I think I'm a very entertaing patient. My best friend teases me about it a lot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:29 PM Flag
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how are you entertaining? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:43 PM Flag
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Lively, funny, interesting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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maybe that's why she doesn't like me. i only whine and give off bad energy. but i need to do it with her so i don't do it elsewhere. but now I am starting to not want to see her anymore b/c i can read her face too well... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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I would switch therapists. Even if this feeling is part of your insecurities, a good therapist would be working double to ensure you didn't feel that way/get that vibe [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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No, a good therapist would be exploring why you feel that way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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A good therapist wouldn't engender those feelings in a patient [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:22 PM Flag
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Depends. There may be some transference going on, depending on what's going on with the patient. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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what do you mean by "transference"? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:44 PM Flag
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There is a difference between "dislikes you" and dislikes what you say. I think my therapist likes me, but she disagrees with this and that and asks tough questions. Sometimes that is hard too, but I appreciate it. I don't like therapist who say yes, yes, yes and aren't honest. If you think she genuinely dislikes YOU, then you might look for somebody else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:24 PM Flag
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i think its a bit of a female thing going on. and it bothers me how much she seems to like my husband. :) seriously! i just feel like she always thinks he is the good guy and i am the problem. it is just a sneaking suspicion now...but it is always there after a session... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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ask her upfront about it! Maybe she tries to be the advocatus diaboli... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:29 PM Flag
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mine has a really hard time keeping a straight face sometimes, and I'm not trying to be funny! I always know when she wants to crack up but knows she shouldn't because she grabs her bottle of water and pretends she's focusing on drinking it. And she's totally struggling to keep a straight face. It would be better honestly if she would laugh- I mean I can see the humor in these ridiculous life situations of mine too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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If you are my MIL then maybe there is a reason why she doesn't like you as she knows you are wrong every single time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 02:22 PM Flag
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I would raise this issue with therapist. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 02:40 PM Flag
[ - ] tough decision, MIL would give us some miles and we would just have to buy 2 tix to go to hawaii for a week with her. question is, is it worth it? shortest flight with 1 stop is 13 hrs long, 6 hrs difference, and 5 yrs old + 2 yrs old. what would you do? or opinions? tia 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.17.08, 01:11 PM Flag
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yes, I would do it - great vacation (can't you fly nonstop?) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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where she's going there is nothing nonstop from nyc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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I see. I would do it regardless. kids sleep on planes, and if not there are movies, etc. We travel long distances with our kids and have since they were babies, and the trip is always worth it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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we travel long distances too, but go just for a week to a 6 hrs different time zone? i am just having doubts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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well, we travel from CA to Europe all the time (sometimes for 4 days) and that's 8 or 9 hours! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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Get over it and get your ass packing!! Have you been to Hawaii? Have your kids? Travel may sound daunting but it's so broadening. Go go go... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 08:46 PM Flag
[ - ] I've really felt like drinking a lot lately. I have the urge today after work, but I think I will go to the gym instead. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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that is a good decision. one i would never make. but good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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I am re-thinking now that it is 5 PM. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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I love drinking...bad, bad, bad : ( [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 03:21 PM Flag
[ - ] my sister is a trainwreck! lost her house in mortgage crisis, moved herself and kids back in with ex, started dating yet another guy, now my parents are bailing her out again giving her 200K for a downpayment on another house. she has placed a bid on a house that is $425K she makes $50K. why, why, why are my parents letting her make another ginormous mistake!!! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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anyone? does anyone have anything to say about her? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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Are you concerned about her well being? Are you jealous? What would you do to help her, if you don't agree with your parent's down payment? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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I agree. I sounds like at least your parents are helping but that seems to be more upseting to you. What do you think needs to be done? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 02:18 PM Flag
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The parents need to stop enabling her, but that is easier said than done...especially because of the grandchildren. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 03:23 PM Flag
[ - ] can anyone reccomend a double stroller for a 2 year old and a newborn? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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phil and ted!! really it's the way to go! That and the BOB Revolution duallie. I have 2 dc that are two years apart. I've tried them all.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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I bought the caboose good for shot trips. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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np: I'm the poster above and I've had that one too. Nice, but as the poster says, for short trips. Get the ultralight. I bought the original and the wheels started squeaking the second time I used it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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we are going to get the bob [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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what is the bob [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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bob is a brand, they have doubles and an accessory that allows a carseat to clip to one side [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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Phil and Ted. I swear by it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 02:17 PM Flag
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