• Filter the conversation
 

Dear UrbanBaby community,

Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

If you have any questions or concerns, you can email us at urbanbaby-support@cbsinteractive.com.

Thanks so much,

UrbanBaby Support

[ - ] Don't you realize that if you lie about where you live, your dc has to as well? 48 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:56 PM Flag
»
huh? is this for the school boards? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:57 PM Flag
»
Huh? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:58 PM Flag
»
That poster was rationalizing dishonesty plain and simple. I lived in PS for 20 years and people like that overcrowded the schools. They are like rats. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:58 PM Flag
»
Wow, I don't even live in NYC and this is so none of my biz but what a bitch you are! [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:59 PM Flag
»
A) Why is she bitchy? B) Why does your address matter? This is a problem everywhere. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:00 PM Flag
»
who are people like "that" overcrowding "her" school. If its a problem just drop a dime on someone [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:01 PM Flag
»
She didn't say either of the things you put in quotes. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:02 PM Flag
»
yes she did, take a read [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:03 PM Flag
»
Okay. said "that", but not the way you are implying, and she didn't say "her". Do you really not get it? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:04 PM Flag
»
you are an "ass" [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:07 PM Flag
»
and you are a "bitch" who "makes trouble" just for the "fun" of it [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:09 PM Flag
»
lol [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:10 PM Flag
»
P.S. 321 has been very popular with parents out of district for many years. I watched many people fake addresses to attend the school. it's not right and it takes away from the children who actually live in the area. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:05 PM Flag
»
I don't "inform" on people. My point is that it is an all too common practive and it is despicable. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:07 PM Flag
»
Go away. What are you doing on the NY board commenting on things you know nothing about? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:02 PM Flag
»
Anyone who calls a child a rat is out of her mind. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:05 PM Flag
»
The parents, the parents. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:08 PM Flag
»
np: ITA. Everyone I know who does this is so freaking proud of themselves too, they are dumb enough to tell other parents. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:09 PM Flag
»
thank you! [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:11 PM Flag
»
Can't you read? OP is saying the families' dishonesty was overcrowding the school. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:09 PM Flag
»
Like "rats"? If you lived in a crummy school zone you would so cheat to get into another one. You suck. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:01 PM Flag
»
np: You are rationalizing bad behavior by assuming everyone does it. If you want your child to go to a good school, move to the neighborhood with that school. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:03 PM Flag
»
Is that what you did? Do you live in a zone with a bad school? I do. Now, I didn't cheat. I got into a better school fair and square and then got into a really good school through a lottery. But I had the time to research and pursue my options. I don't judge. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:05 PM Flag
»
No one is talking about judging. And yes, when I bought my home I took the time to consider where I was buying. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:05 PM Flag
»
You have more prescience than most people I know. I was childless and never gave it a second thought. I figured since it was a "good" neighborhood it would have a "good" school. Nope! I also figured I'd have more options. It's crazy these days. But YES, you are judging. You "took the time to consider." I guess the OP snoozed, so her kid will lose, eh? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:07 PM Flag
»
I'm sorry, this is the way these things are. Everybody I know considers things likes schools when buying a home. It is like thinking you are entitled to my backyard because you don't have one. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:10 PM Flag
»
what a nasty, mean spirited person you are. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:11 PM Flag
»
I'm really not. But I live in the real world. If everybody just chose which school they liked best, what would happen? Now, personally, I wish all schools were equal. But they aren't, and there is a set criteria on these things. And, quite frankly, I think that teaching your child to lie and to break rules is not good. Call me crazy. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:13 PM Flag
»
If your child really wants a toy, but you can't afford it, is it okay to steal it? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:15 PM Flag
»
ummmm we're talking about education here, not a toy. big difference. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 08:15 PM Flag
»
np: ITA, but think it is deplorable how the city decides to just throw away so many students because of this system. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:12 PM Flag
»
Yes. That I will agree with. But the children that are really being thrown away here are not the children who are sneaking in. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:13 PM Flag
»
Right you are with that. I think the whole thing with having to apply for middle school also means that so many kids just don't count. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:15 PM Flag
»
n: I think when people lie about their addresses, they feel they are cheating the System which is not fair, not the kids who are zoned to live in the system. We live in Westchester because of this very issue, but even here to afford the best districts you have to pay ridiculous taxes and through the nose for a dump. So there is definitely an element of the have nots trying to get the best for their kids. Why should their kids suffer? Not defending, but also don't think these people re being "rats." Pretty damn harsh. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 08:16 PM Flag
»
itta! [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:10 PM Flag
»
Not everyone can afford to move into an area with a "good school". Shouldn't their child be entitled to a good education too? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:51 PM Flag
»
Yes, but that is literally thousands of children. They can't all go lying and cheating to get it. I don't think anyone is saying the system is fair. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:54 PM Flag
»
The parent of all thousands of kids won't try to move. I think that the parent that is willing to go the extra distance for their child should have more options than being forced into a crappy school [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 08:07 PM Flag
»
That's ridiculous. There are other options, like getting a variance into a decent district. But of course these people think their kids are too good for a decent education. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 08:08 PM Flag
»
You, I believe are exactly who we are talking about. lol [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:10 PM Flag
»
You are obviously an obnoxious idiot. Why would you call a parent trying to get a better education for their child a rat? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:49 PM Flag
»
No, not really. It's not like he's going to march up to the teacher and announce, "I live outta zone!" You only have to live in zone for a year to qualify. No one is going to police it. Now, if the Bd of Ed does what it is threatening to do and start bumping in-zone kids because of overcrowding, duck and cover all you cheaters. Because you WILL be ratted out. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:00 PM Flag
»
You think that a child never talks about where he lives? What street do you live on. What neighborhood. What goes on in your neighborhood. Of course he will have to lie. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:01 PM Flag
»
He'll be a kindergartener. The teacher isn't going to tell, even if he lets his address slip. It's the administration doing random checks the original OP has to worry about. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:03 PM Flag
»
You are really missing the point. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:05 PM Flag
»
np: They have been doing random checks in PS29 zone for several years now. And have caught a few people. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:02 PM Flag
»
wow, wasn't that post hours ago? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:02 PM Flag
»
I guess things are slow. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:03 PM Flag
[ - ] is there really NO SEARCH function now on urban baby? how much does that stink? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:56 PM Flag
»
what about the search option right there in the corner? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:57 PM Flag
»
what are you talkinga bout? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:57 PM Flag
»
In the upper right hand corner there is the search option. That is where you search. Type the word you want in the white space and push "go" [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:58 PM Flag
»
Of course she doesn't say thank you [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:00 PM Flag
»
top right hand corner Sherlock [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:57 PM Flag
»
np: gasp - you mean where it always was? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:58 PM Flag
[ - ] morningside montessori... opinions? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:56 PM Flag
»
where is it? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:56 PM Flag
»
morningside heights [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:57 PM Flag
[ - ] Today someone accused me of "trying to hail a livery cab" -- does anyone know what the fine or penalty would be for that offense (not a fine for the livery driver, but for the prospective passenger). Just curious. I told him I was trying to establish whether the car was from the company I had phoned. It was not. Felt like if he had decided I had the wrong answer I could have ended up arrested. BTW he reminded me of Spitzer -- not that he was ES but he reminded me of him in his manner and also appearance (in some ways). 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
New York City 05.22.08, 05:55 PM Flag
»
who accused you? are you holding a public office? i hail black cars all the time [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:57 PM Flag
»
no, I am nobody like that, just a mom trying to get two very tired middle school kids safely home after a 3 day school trip, could not drive them myself since my kindergarten child needed me back at the school to sit in on something he was doing for the next 90 minutes. The man seemed interested bc of the luggage the kids had, seemed to think we were hailing a black car to the airport? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:01 PM Flag
»
wow. you should have told him to myob [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:57 PM Flag
»
I don't think it's illegal for you to hail one, but it is illegal for the livery driver to respond to your hail. Was this some random guy or a police officer? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:57 PM Flag
»
not dressed as a police officer, but in metrotech area of BKlyn, full of courts and police in general. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:59 PM Flag
»
Aw come off it! There aren't any yellow cabs around there! What a jerk. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:02 PM Flag
»
only the ones at the Marriott one block over but they are furious if you take them back into bklyn, since the marriot bklyn bridge hotel is so close to the bridge and they REALLY only want fares going into manhattan. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:05 PM Flag
»
ITA....I mean a tourist could try to hail one. That guy was full of sh*t. It's illegal for them to pick you up from a hail and they know that. You can stand there and wave your arms like a nut job all you want. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:59 PM Flag
»
I was talking to him at his window after he dropped off other passengers. TEchnically it IS illegal to hail a livery car, but I wonder what is the penalty. I googled and it said hailing a livery car is illegal but I could not find any reference to fines. This mean guy seemed like he was ready to slap on the handcuffs and haul me off to jail. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:03 PM Flag
»
It is not illegal for you, but it could be illegal for a livery cab to stop. BTDT and went to taxi court with the limo driver. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:59 PM Flag
»
the driver saw him and quickly said he was not the person I was looking for, and left [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Speaking of Brooklyn Bridge, do you think Brooklyn would have been better off if they avoided incorporation? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:55 PM Flag
»
Would be twin cities like Minneapolis - St Paul [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:04 PM Flag
[ - ] Buddakan or Spice Market???? which is better? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:54 PM Flag
»
Spice Market is more "fun" but food is much better at Buddakan. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:55 PM Flag
»
buddakan can be more fun [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:55 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm in the East Village--anyone know what's with the gun-fireworks-sounds going on for the past half hour?? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:53 PM Flag
»
Brooklyn Bridge Anniversary Fireworks [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:53 PM Flag
»
really?? are they on the Manhattan side? they sound like they're right out my window [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:54 PM Flag
»
oh that is good to know! I am hearing them in williamsburg too [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:03 PM Flag
»
Fireworks celebrating Brooklyn Bridge's birthday. HB, BB! [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Who is dirtier in bed -- you or DH? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:52 PM Flag
»
me by a thousand miles although DH purports to be "outta control" [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:53 PM Flag
»
me, but he is a good student. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:55 PM Flag
»
DH (I'm pretty vanilla!) [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:59 PM Flag
[ - ] What's on TV tonight? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:52 PM Flag
»
TIVO [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:52 PM Flag
»
grey's anatomy finale [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:52 PM Flag
»
Unfortunately, Wonderpets on Noggin. The last of the night and then she is going to bed. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:53 PM Flag
[ - ] Need temp agencies to find a job as an Exec Asst. I'm desperate during a horrid divorce. I already called Suzanne Davis, Robert Half and Salomon Page. Anyone else, Please ? Thanks. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:52 PM Flag
»
Don't you have a temporary support ruling? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:52 PM Flag
»
not yet. are you divorced or a lawyer? i am soooooooooo freaked about this. he is out of the country and not paying, to punish me. of course it's the children that are being punished. we are waiting (my lawyer and i) for the judge to come back with a temporary support ruling. and even then if he wants to continue to be a complete jerk he won't pay. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:55 PM Flag
»
Headway or Gainor? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.23.08, 06:01 AM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone have mentally ill parents? Are they in your life? How do you deal with them? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:50 PM Flag
»
mil is. we see her about once a month, she lives not too far away. It is tough [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:55 PM Flag
»
is she depressed? bipolar? and do your kids know? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:57 PM Flag
»
Not quite -- but my parents were in a car accident and both had brain injuries and have lingering issues (that may look like mental health issues). My mom's memory for trivial things is spotty -- but she was always a bit spacey, so it can be hard to tell! My dad's injury was much more serious -- at one point, he was disoriented and agggressive and lost his language capabilities. He has made major strides and functions like a "healthy person" -- but he has mood swings (connected to the location of the neurosurgery) and he can be "off" from time to time (although never in public, so I wonder if he just "lets go" at home). They are very much in my life and I try to keep a postive outlook -- but there are times when the sadness of the situation overwhelms me (and then I pull back a bit, until I'm in less of a funk about it). [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:58 PM Flag
»
Sorry I didn't see this before, because I've got a lot of experience with this. Depressed mother, depressed & slightly paranoid father....the depression isn't as hard to deal with as the paranoia, which can freak out the kids, as in some "I heard what you said!" accusation when they weren't talking at all. It's a difficult line to tread to keep them in my life, but not to let them do any harm. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.23.08, 01:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Ds is so shy that I'm worried about him separating for the ERB. He has a summmer bd, and there is no testing at the school during the summer. Should I have him take it at the office in the summer (where he may have trouble separating) or wait till the fall. If I wait till the fall, I won't have the scores until after we apply to schools. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
NY Schools 05.22.08, 05:49 PM Flag
»
IME, it is much, much better to wait. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:54 PM Flag
»
you don't think not having the scores will hurt us? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:56 PM Flag
»
you may have to cata wider net of schools (always a good idea, anyway) and you will still no long before the porcess is over....you may still be interviewing, anyway. Much better to have of a "hurt" to have not great scores than to not know the scores. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:07 PM Flag
»
ughhh typo queen...cast a net, know long...process [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:08 PM Flag
»
do any of the schools do pre-screening based on ERB scores? I feel like for a summer bd, we may get automatically eliminated due to the bd. If he has a high ERB, it may actually help, but if they're doing pre-screening they may not have the ERB. Am I overthinking this? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:16 PM Flag
»
You are overthinking..take them in the fall. they will all interview you if you apply. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:18 PM Flag
»
thanks for that. waiting seems to be the reasonable thing to do [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:22 PM Flag
»
I personally feel Trinity prescreened as we interviewed way before scores were in and didn't get the time of day (even though clearly diverse). [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 07:10 PM Flag
»
>>scores came in at 99x3 - but still too late. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 07:13 PM Flag
»
do it at school if he is shy [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:54 PM Flag
»
ITA. And not having the scores won't hurt you, OP. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:07 PM Flag
»
OP: anyone else care to chime in? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:05 PM Flag
»
Yes, my advice is to wait--particularly if he is just turning 4 this summer. At the schools they get them used to the tester and he will already be separated from you for the school day. Also that gives him extra time to mature. I will tell you from personal experience however that a summer boy is going to be almost impossible to place in school even if he does incredibly well on the ERB. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:08 PM Flag
»
ita, even summer sibs were asked to wait a year this year (not related to feedback) [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:09 PM Flag
»
Our PSD said to wait until DC is 4-1/2. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:12 PM Flag
»
I agree. DD was shy and I had her take ERB at school a few years ago. No issue about separating, and she did great. Am taking DS to the ERB office this summer, since he is not shy at all. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:11 PM Flag
»
OP: Thanks all. Sounds like you all agree that I should wait. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:14 PM Flag
»
My advice is to take it in October -- after DS has a chance to get acclimated to his new class, but in time to have results and make last minute adjustments to applications. And, of course, apply broadly. GL! [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:16 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone know the laws regarding child support payments? My husband currently pays child support to his ex. His daughter is 17 and his son is 15. Does it stop when they turn 18? or 21? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:47 PM Flag
»
My guess is through college or 21 but it is all spelled out in his agreement. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:48 PM Flag
»
won't he still have to help them with school and such? I wouldn't worry about the legalities so much. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:48 PM Flag
»
hijak - is he planning to pay for college? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:48 PM Flag
»
he is paying the whole college tuiton. Does he still need to pay child support? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:50 PM Flag
»
then depends on his agreement. I would think he would need to subsidize them while at school if he could. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:51 PM Flag
»
he will give money to his kid in college, absolutely. But does he still have to send a check to his ex every month - even though she won't be living with her. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:53 PM Flag
»
it's 18 if they don't go to college...21 if they do [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:49 PM Flag
»
depends on court order &/or agreement. I know someone who agreed to support until kids were 25. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:50 PM Flag
»
man, I was married at 24. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:03 PM Flag
»
why don't you ask a lawyer [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:54 PM Flag
»
why don't you ask your husband? he should know. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Tell me something good about having 3 kids. Just got a positive...wasn't planning or expecting or wanting this at all. It will change SO much and all I can think of is the negatives. 42 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:46 PM Flag
»
You will be giving them another sibling. You will love this child. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:47 PM Flag
»
does another sibling make up for the loss of attention from parents? I feel like I'm stretched thin as it is. ugh. baby is only 9.5 months.... [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:48 PM Flag
»
yes, but look at jon and kate plus 8 - it is going to be a lot of fun [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:50 PM Flag
»
Goodness, I hope that jon and kate plus 8 is NOT the type of fun I am in for! [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:52 PM Flag
»
eventually, after the hard part of babyhood, you are going to have a lot of fun with three and they will play together - you will like it. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:55 PM Flag
»
I sure hope so!! [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:56 PM Flag
»
how old is oldest dc? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:54 PM Flag
»
He's 3.5 (so he'll be a little over 4 and my daughter will be 18 months). [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:55 PM Flag
»
You will let go of wanting to control everything and be happier because of it (or at least, I did). [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:49 PM Flag
»
this child might be the light of your life... you might be pleasantly surprised... [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:49 PM Flag
»
It might be tough the first year or two but you will never regret your third. In the big picture, the early years will fly by. Give yourself time to adjust. I would be freaked if my #2 was 9.5 mos but in some ways you are lucky that the decision was made for you (accidently). We go back and forth about #3 all the time for the reasons you mentioned- it is hard to pull the trigger deliberately! [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:51 PM Flag
»
great answer [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:52 PM Flag
»
the only trigger we were planning to pull was the vasectomy doctor's. DH is so regretting putting off that appointment. We literally did it ONCE the day after my period ended. I still don't see how I possibly oculd have been ovulating. ugh. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:53 PM Flag
»
spiritually, this baby has chosen you and you have been chosen to be a parent again at this time. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:56 PM Flag
»
I keep telling myself this as well. I just worry that I'm somehow jeopardizing the great family that we have and it scares me. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:57 PM Flag
»
np, your family hasn't reached it's full greatness yet. with this new db... it will. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:05 PM Flag
»
maybe you'll miscarry [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 08:01 PM Flag
»
You're a turd [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 09:41 PM Flag
»
i love it. i feel like it's made me a better parent. there are fewer comparisons between kids. it used to be "he's a good eater but she's not". even trying not to, every strong aspect about one child was in comparison to the other. but when there are three or more, their strengths are theirs, not as exclusions to someone else. hope this makes sense. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:53 PM Flag
»
yes, I can see that. I'm fine with it a few years from now. I just REALLY don't want to go through the pregnancy and I worry enough about the 2 I have...another newborn might push me over the edge. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:54 PM Flag
»
can you afford any help? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:57 PM Flag
»
I have help so I really shouldn't complain, but, another year of nursing and not sleepign through the night and being fat and sick and grouch is NOT what I'm in the mood for. No amount of help really helps that. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:59 PM Flag
»
OR: it doesn't end up feeling like that. it's just a continuation. much harder to stop and start up again. you'll be in the groove, you'll have everything ready. it's not like you'll have to start dealing with diapers bags and changing tables all over again. everything is there and ready. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:03 PM Flag
»
lol! I totally hear you on that. Like someone said above, though, as hellish is all that is, it really will just be a blip on the screen in the big picture. I always say that maybe we'll do things differently if we had a third like....gasp, hire a night nurse or something like that! [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:03 PM Flag
»
thanks everyone. it is just overwhelming...will need new car, bye bye guestroom, etc. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:06 PM Flag
»
my dcs are also close in age. i found the pregnancy to be harder than dealing with dcs. (i had three under three). i can tell you the following: it's normal to have mood swings when you are pregnant. it's normal to feel like you can't handle things. take it one day at a time. don't sweat the small stuff. and just hang in there. good luck. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:57 PM Flag
»
honestly, OP, if you really don't watn to go through with it, don't. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:00 PM Flag
»
I know I have options, that is probably why I am so stressed. If I felt differently then I'd just have to happily adjust to the idea! (which I am trying to do anyway) [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:02 PM Flag
»
I had two and at 41 went for #3. It took 4 yrs and it is the best thing we ever did. I wanted this child so much I nearly lost my mind waiting for him. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:56 PM Flag
»
I just wish I was in the "I wanted this child so much" frame of mind. I have plenty of friends who would LOVE to get a positive result and here I am not feeling at all grateful and just mourning the loss of my 2 child family. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:01 PM Flag
»
you are already busy. #3 fits right in, and a new baby is a source of joy - you tend to forget how lovely they are as your kids grow. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:00 PM Flag
»
true. And I do love my kids so so much that I'd love a million of them. I was also just ready to be done with this phase - they can do so much more as they are older and now it just seems like starting over. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:03 PM Flag
»
my #3 is almost 6mo, and it has gone by so quickly, I just wish I could pause time and enjoy him as this little one indefinitely. you may not believe it, but the third's babyhood goes by SOOOOO quickly. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:07 PM Flag
»
I do believe it. My #2's has flown by and now she wont' even get to be the baby anymore! [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:08 PM Flag
»
ah! but now she'll be a big sister, and that is awesome too :-) [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:18 PM Flag
»
having a third was a big mistake. i love #3 but i regret it. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:07 PM Flag
»
that is NOT the answer I want to hear :-). I'm sure I may regret it, but, if we don't go through with this, I may regret that as well. I'll just try to have no regrets either way, right? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:13 PM Flag
»
i'm sorry, i'm at a low point right now. i haven't taken my meds. you will love having #3. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:14 PM Flag
»
My frend wept when she found out about #3 but adjusted and is really, really happy. Of course your realize if you were BFing this would not have happened with #2 an 9.5 mos. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:45 PM Flag
»
wow. you are an idiot [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 08:05 PM Flag
»
ITTA, she is an idiot. But out of curiousity, OP: were you bfing? I know there's a *chance* of getting pg, so just wondering... [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 09:47 PM Flag
»
how Does DH feel about it? how old are you btw? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:48 PM Flag
[ - ] 12 mo has always fallen asleep really easily for naps and bedtime. A week ago we took away pacifier and now there is 5 minutes of hysterics before she falls asleep and if she happens to wake up in the middle of the night (rare), its the same thing. When will she learn to fall asleep on her own again?? This is killing me 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:46 PM Flag
»
no one??? new UB sucks [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:48 PM Flag
»
whatever you do, you did the right thing. dumb pacifier was the devil's instrument, heaven forbid we lost it, there was hell to pay. I am so glad its gone from here [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:49 PM Flag
»
try a new bedtime routine - to make up for the 5 minutes of hysterics - perhaps a new stuffed animal, bedtime book, etc. If she wakes up in the middle of the night wait for her to go back to sleep on her own. After a few nights it should be fine. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 06:09 PM Flag
[ - ] Am I the only one sick of seeing all of the school posts?? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:45 PM Flag
»
Just wait it gets worse certain times of year [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:46 PM Flag
»
NY Schools is the only setting I deselected [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:47 PM Flag
[ - ] Is anyone in love with someone they can never, ever be with? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:45 PM Flag
»
I think so but the grass is always greener [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:45 PM Flag
»
I think I will always love my college bf. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:46 PM Flag
»
i used to be and then i realized what a loser he was.... [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:46 PM Flag
»
Coach Taylor [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:46 PM Flag
Refresh » New Post »
Select Category
close [X]

close [X]

Select a Category (only 1)

category
Stages
Regions