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[ - ] stepmoms of teens? i need some advice 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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i'm a stepdaughter who became one as a teen, and all i can say is sorry. esp. if they're girls. but what advice do you need? i think it can sometimes work out great but tread lightly, don't try to be too good friends, but be open to them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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and never, ever play yourself against them with their dad. sorry, all this is unsolicited. what is it you wanted advice about [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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oh, dh and i present a united front. but, you know. the childrearign is never equal and i tend to be the bad guy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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i need advice making a 'pact' of sorts abotu consistency with exdw [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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ohhh, you mean discipline-wise? hmm, i have no experience with that. do you get along with her? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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i have no problems with her. we're not chummy, nor is she someone i would be friends with, but she's not crazy or anything. wants the best for dd in both households, knows that dd can be irresponsible. she's a fair woman [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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i guess i'd agree with your dh on what you want the plan to be from your perspective, then talk with her about it openly, listen to her ideas, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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i almost feel like i need to speak directly with her-- i am a little weary of feelign like a 5th wheel when i am co-raising her dd. maybe this is just a power thing on my part, but it's she and i who are doing the work [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:39 PM Flag
[ - ] my mom thinks her role is to do everything for everyone. she wipes my dd after she pees! (I put a stop to that today, she is 5 already). I ask her to at least give my kids a chance to try things on their own before doing everything for them. Its my childhood all over again, she used to do my homework for me unless I took it from her. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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does she cut your dad's meat? wow! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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no she's not like that with him, he was always very dominant and she struggled to be dominant herself so she never babied him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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interesting... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:37 PM Flag
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Oh, just let her. She's grandma now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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we have the same mom. she still tells me what i should say to this person or that, as if i couldn't do it on my own, etc... i have very low self-esteem when by all outside measures i should have high, and i think this is one major cause. if your mom is w/ your dc's often, i'd talk to her too. if not, prob. no harm. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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^^^cause of low self-esteem in that growing up (and still) i had someone tell me how to do everything as if i couldn't possibly figure it out on my own, or it would be the end of the world if i made a mistake trying. really sends a negative message to a kid imo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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that's why I want her to back off a bit and give them room to figure stuff out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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gl! (this would not work w/ my mom. old dog new tricks....) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Repost again (sorry, not used to new setup): Can anyone recommend an A/C cleaning company? I skipped it last year -- can't really do that again... 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.22.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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I bet any cleaning service would offer that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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OP: I think you need an A/C service team, don't you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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for central air yes, call any central air installer. for units lots of heavy duty cleaning services would do it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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Yes, I have units -- PACs, as opposed to window units [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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^^^PTACs -- the big room units that are permanent [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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We use Cottam heating and air for that purpose. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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Thanks. Tired of getting ripped off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Will this pillow (http://www.hableconstruction.com/shop/cart.php?target=product&product_id=17091&category_id=548) look okay on a white couch? (The pillow's background is "natural".) 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.22.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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This is at least your second post about a PILLOW! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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It's my second post! I waited a few hours before reposting (and since there's no more autofill, I changed the post!). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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$100? vba? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:53 PM Flag
[ - ] dd has been in speech therapy for 2yrs. we are stopping next week. we love speech therapist and she toldme yesterday that she is 6 weeks pregnant with twins. dd is a twin. i would like to get her a thank you present and something for her as a congrats on her pregnancy. i need ideas. tia. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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i would write her a nice note but i would be careful getting her something for her twins since she is still so early on.... maybe wait a few months and send something off her registry... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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i was just going to say that. signed, miscarriage mom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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op: i was not going to get anything for the twins. i wanted to get her something for her during the pregnancy. did anyone get anything, lotions, etc, that they liked and would recommend. sorry i was not more specific. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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how about a really great light weight decorative type of colorful funky scarf.....brings life to maternity clothes. Not so keen on lotions as gifts because smell is soooooo personal. Gift cert to Medical Massage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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Spa / pedicure gift certificate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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A personalized drawing from DD is the best, plus a gift card "for the babies." She can always use it for whatever no matter what happens. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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A beautiful set of personalized stationary [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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prenatal massage? gift certificate to a store to buy some maternity clothes? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Did we discuss Denise Richards? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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I cannot believe how much child support she is getting. $52k a month! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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Plus $60K a month in alimony, but she's doing the show to support her family... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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She and Charlie deserved each other. They are both vile. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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both tax free!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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no but the post had something on page 6 about her -- sheen said she gets about $55,000 a month in child support and that she's getting $65,000 a month in alimony for 10 years and that she gets a cut of his sitcom, which is said to be worth about $25 mil... (he also produces it, i think) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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TAX FREE!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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np: That's actually quite a generous settlement considering they were married only 3 years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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she's no saint, but i'm sure that he wasn't an easy one to be married to [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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ITA, but she knew that getting into it. It wasn't like he had been some saint that turned into a monster once married. Just saying that it's a good deal for a short marriage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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what about all those awful allegations she had made? any light on that? I always thought she was a twit, but I also remember his name had come up during the original Heidi Fleiss bust back in the 90's. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:31 PM Flag
[ - ] How would you cope with 3 kids under 3? 1 + twins? 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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plenty of xanax and some live-in help... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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I couldn't ever - that's why my 3 dcs are 25, 21 and 7 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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how old are they? i had three under three (no multiples though) and it was hard at first but got easier once we got into the hang of things. that being said, it takes a lot out of you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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Twins will be 3 and a newborn [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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^^so far it's been pretty manageable with the twins alone and I figure they'll hopefully be potty trained by 3 so maybe things wont be THAT bad [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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This was me. Twins were 2.5 when the baby was born. I got live in help and I stay at home. It's been great but hectic. I thought one would be a breeze, compared to infant twins but it's been harder since managing toddlers is far more time consuming that a baby who sleeps most of the day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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my plan is to go back to work 2 days/week and have live-in help but still need some type of preschool for the twins [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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I would sell at least one on the black market. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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i would get help. gl. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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good lord. just get through these first few years adn then it'll be fun & good. but for now, hard. hav ea cocktail and sit back [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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I just found out I'm pregnant with #3 - and I am already overwhelmed (my oldest will be 4). Can't imagien your scenario! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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My oldest was 3.5 when I had my 3rd dc. Get help lined up. As long as you have a babysitter a couple afternoons a week and plan on having groceries delivered and use drugstore.com for toiletries you'll make it through. Really try to have everything setup so you don't need to go to the store ever. And forget about the kids' nutrition for the first year. just feed them what is easiest for you. you can get back to healthy food later. Good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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op dumb question here... were you alone the majority of the time with all 3 except for when your babysitter arrived or did the older 2 have school/activities to go to while you managed the baby? If the did have places to go, were you the one taking them? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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I say to get a babysitter because I didnt and I think it would have helped a lot. The 3 yo was in preschool 3 mornings a week. Other than that it was just me and the kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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you rock [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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^^I would highly recommend getting your twins into preschool at least a few mornings a week. They will like having a place to go where they don't have to deal with the baby. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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good point [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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I know someone who had triplets when DD was 18, and she is the calmest person I have ever ever met. She said the first year of all four was mind numbing. GL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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18 months or 18 years? how hard (either way!) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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1. a good double stroller with a toddler seat. 2. School every day for the 3 yos, at least one or two extended days. 3. afternoon/evening help to help with bedtime (ie dinner, bathsw, reading stories) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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any recommendations for the stroller? TIA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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I think th eonly one that does this is the ABC buggy.....you can also look at the Valco (sp)....I believe they have a toddler option...the one that sits on front is more stable. The MBUD was working on one, but might not have it yet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:43 PM Flag
[ - ] First time car shopper here. Any thoughts re Toyota Sienna vs. Honda Odyssey? Also, what is considered "good" in terms of MPG? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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they're both about the same -- you just have to see who offers you a better deal... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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well, we just agonized over car purchase and ended up with a used prius and i have to say it was a good choice, get a hybrid if you can. you won't regret it, so so so so much better mileage and at this point with gas prices, not to mention the good for the earth thing, it's a good choice [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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Thanks, I need to get a vehicle for both kid crap and also for gear on film shoots for work, so I think I need the space of a minivan. But I definitely do want to get the best mileage possible... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:31 PM Flag
[ - ] didn't know bruce jenner had more kids than the 2 boys 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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yes, he has two girls with his new wife, right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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not only that, he was kids older than brody (and the ponytail guy). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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Plus 2 girls from before, 6 in total. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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there is a third son, i forget his name. so that's 4 girl (total) and 3 boys... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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wow -- he has been really busy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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clearly! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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is there something on right now that you are watching? and how many kids? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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sheesh i can't even count how many kids! and yes, watching E! because my life is sad [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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these hollywood blended families.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:27 PM Flag
[ - ] 8 yo was playing on the floor with our pug - the pug kept licking his face- ds said "hey stop making love with me" to the pug - let it go right? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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yeah let it go [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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LOLOLOLOL let it go?? youtube it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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totally. and post the link here! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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what exactly would you do about it if not ignore it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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yeah, talking about it will onyl cast it into greater relief and make him consciuos of it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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yeah, i think so. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:25 PM Flag
[ - ] I think Ugly Betty has jumped the shark. 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone familiar with ps 10 in Brooklyn? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 05.22.08, 05:23 PM Flag
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