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05.22.08, 17:46 PM General Topics
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Tell me something good about having 3 kids. Just got a positive...wasn't planning or expecting or wanting this at all. It will change SO much and all I can think of is the negatives. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 05.22.08, 05:46 PM Flag
 

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You will be giving them another sibling. You will love this child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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does another sibling make up for the loss of attention from parents? I feel like I'm stretched thin as it is. ugh. baby is only 9.5 months.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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yes, but look at jon and kate plus 8 - it is going to be a lot of fun [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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Goodness, I hope that jon and kate plus 8 is NOT the type of fun I am in for! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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eventually, after the hard part of babyhood, you are going to have a lot of fun with three and they will play together - you will like it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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I sure hope so!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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how old is oldest dc? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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He's 3.5 (so he'll be a little over 4 and my daughter will be 18 months). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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You will let go of wanting to control everything and be happier because of it (or at least, I did). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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this child might be the light of your life... you might be pleasantly surprised... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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It might be tough the first year or two but you will never regret your third. In the big picture, the early years will fly by. Give yourself time to adjust. I would be freaked if my #2 was 9.5 mos but in some ways you are lucky that the decision was made for you (accidently). We go back and forth about #3 all the time for the reasons you mentioned- it is hard to pull the trigger deliberately! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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great answer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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the only trigger we were planning to pull was the vasectomy doctor's. DH is so regretting putting off that appointment. We literally did it ONCE the day after my period ended. I still don't see how I possibly oculd have been ovulating. ugh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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spiritually, this baby has chosen you and you have been chosen to be a parent again at this time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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I keep telling myself this as well. I just worry that I'm somehow jeopardizing the great family that we have and it scares me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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np, your family hasn't reached it's full greatness yet. with this new db... it will. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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maybe you'll miscarry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:01 PM Flag
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You're a turd [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:41 PM Flag
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i love it. i feel like it's made me a better parent. there are fewer comparisons between kids. it used to be "he's a good eater but she's not". even trying not to, every strong aspect about one child was in comparison to the other. but when there are three or more, their strengths are theirs, not as exclusions to someone else. hope this makes sense. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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yes, I can see that. I'm fine with it a few years from now. I just REALLY don't want to go through the pregnancy and I worry enough about the 2 I have...another newborn might push me over the edge. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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can you afford any help? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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I have help so I really shouldn't complain, but, another year of nursing and not sleepign through the night and being fat and sick and grouch is NOT what I'm in the mood for. No amount of help really helps that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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OR: it doesn't end up feeling like that. it's just a continuation. much harder to stop and start up again. you'll be in the groove, you'll have everything ready. it's not like you'll have to start dealing with diapers bags and changing tables all over again. everything is there and ready. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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lol! I totally hear you on that. Like someone said above, though, as hellish is all that is, it really will just be a blip on the screen in the big picture. I always say that maybe we'll do things differently if we had a third like....gasp, hire a night nurse or something like that! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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thanks everyone. it is just overwhelming...will need new car, bye bye guestroom, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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my dcs are also close in age. i found the pregnancy to be harder than dealing with dcs. (i had three under three). i can tell you the following: it's normal to have mood swings when you are pregnant. it's normal to feel like you can't handle things. take it one day at a time. don't sweat the small stuff. and just hang in there. good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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honestly, OP, if you really don't watn to go through with it, don't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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I know I have options, that is probably why I am so stressed. If I felt differently then I'd just have to happily adjust to the idea! (which I am trying to do anyway) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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I had two and at 41 went for #3. It took 4 yrs and it is the best thing we ever did. I wanted this child so much I nearly lost my mind waiting for him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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I just wish I was in the "I wanted this child so much" frame of mind. I have plenty of friends who would LOVE to get a positive result and here I am not feeling at all grateful and just mourning the loss of my 2 child family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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you are already busy. #3 fits right in, and a new baby is a source of joy - you tend to forget how lovely they are as your kids grow. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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true. And I do love my kids so so much that I'd love a million of them. I was also just ready to be done with this phase - they can do so much more as they are older and now it just seems like starting over. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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my #3 is almost 6mo, and it has gone by so quickly, I just wish I could pause time and enjoy him as this little one indefinitely. you may not believe it, but the third's babyhood goes by SOOOOO quickly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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I do believe it. My #2's has flown by and now she wont' even get to be the baby anymore! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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ah! but now she'll be a big sister, and that is awesome too :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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having a third was a big mistake. i love #3 but i regret it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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that is NOT the answer I want to hear :-). I'm sure I may regret it, but, if we don't go through with this, I may regret that as well. I'll just try to have no regrets either way, right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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i'm sorry, i'm at a low point right now. i haven't taken my meds. you will love having #3. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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My frend wept when she found out about #3 but adjusted and is really, really happy. Of course your realize if you were BFing this would not have happened with #2 an 9.5 mos. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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wow. you are an idiot [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:05 PM Flag
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ITTA, she is an idiot. But out of curiousity, OP: were you bfing? I know there's a *chance* of getting pg, so just wondering... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:47 PM Flag
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how Does DH feel about it? how old are you btw? [ Reply | More
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