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[ - ] Almostr 44 yo ttc'er - you on? 35 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:09 AM Flag
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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I'm in the same boat - what's your situation? how long ttc? I'm 44 in September. TTC for #2 and seeing an RE. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:28 AM Flag
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I will be 44 in a few weeks. Had a m/c a year ago February, possibly another one (very early) this March. Didn't ttc right away after last year's, I wasn't ready to dive back in emotionally. Now ttc since december. Not going to see RE. If it works great (would love sib for 2.5 yo ds - both dh and I come from large families) but if it doesn't, we'll have one great ds. I feel that it's kind of "last call" age wise. Either way it would make me older at dcs graduation than my own mother is now! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:40 AM Flag
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or: Don't feel that way about age. My mother was young when she had me, and passed away 5 yrs ago, so you really can never say about that. I did see an RE, my FSH is low, eggs are "good for my age", etc. I had a MC last yr too (end of May) and, same thing, waited to start ttc again just was too wiped out. I am giving iui a chance - no meds, no big deal, but better odds I'm told. My dd is 3 - I'd love to have a sib for her, but know it just might not happen. It's hard, cause most people can't imagine ttc at my age, so I generally don't talk to anyone about it. How long did you ttc before getting pg the last 2 times? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:44 AM Flag
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Sorry you lost your mom. I meant it more in terms of energy level, income producing for dcs college when the time comes, etc. Discussing with other people, I know what you mean - most of my ds' friends moms are about 10 yrs younger, so different situation. With ds got pg on first try, same with 2 mcs. But it is a question of timing and didn't use ovulation kit, just own estimation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:50 AM Flag
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OP: That's a good sign that you got pg so fast. Took me 3 mos ttc with each pg. I try not to compare with the younger moms, no point. Only regret is if I can't get pg again. I have a coworker who has 4 kids and just got pg with an oops at 45. It KILLS me!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:53 AM Flag
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3 mos is still pretty good. I know what you mean with co-worker, though 5 kids... I get that with all the #2s that were born in the past year, when I was almost there. Or when people ask me if we are planning on having another one - and I don't always feel like going into TMI. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:59 AM Flag
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TY. Yeah, the reactions can be a total pita. If I DO get pg again, I can only imagine my MIL's reaction. It kinda sucks that you don't just get to enjoy your pregancy thing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:16 AM Flag
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lol - and if I get pg again, I will need MIL and my parents for backup! Good luck to you - personally I think it's fine either way. would love sib for ds, but absolutely cannot complain about current situation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:20 AM Flag
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np:have either of you tried acupuncture? 43yo here and tried it after 4 mths of ttc. Pg now after 3 mths of treatment. Even if it doesn't work for you, fwiw, I found it restful and felt better after every session. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:43 AM Flag
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OP: Yeah, I did accupuncture when I got pg with dd. Got pg after 2 mos. Doing it again now, been going a little more than 2 mos. How long ttc before you got pg? Is this #1 or #2 for you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:45 AM Flag
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4 mths. #2. Btw, didn't do any other treatment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:46 AM Flag
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^^4 mths ttc on our own, 3 mths of acu then pg [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:47 AM Flag
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very cool - congratulations! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:51 AM Flag
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so 4 mos ttc and no luck and then 4 more mos with accupuncture? (8 mos total)? COngrats btw! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:48 AM Flag
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^^ ah, I see your above post. That's great - congrats! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:48 AM Flag
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thank you. have to admit that the 4 mths of ttc on our own wasn't as 'scientific' as I would have liked - dh's schedule, dc sick etc. Liked acu though - felt it made a difference [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:50 AM Flag
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op: My accupuncturist keeps acting like it's no big deal, I'll def get pg. It's funny, cause I just can't be that optomistic at this point. But she sees alot of people my age and older, so at least I know I'm not completely alone in this game! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:49 AM Flag
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np above:mine was pretty confident as well. My view was that I would try it for a few months and see how I felt about it. If it felt like a waste of time and money, I would stop. I found I liked it and found it restful. Liked my acupuncturist and decided to continue - glad I did! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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For what it's worth, my friend tried to conceive from the age of 40 - 44 with no luck. She decided to give up and was shocked when she got pg at 46 with no help. Good luck to you both. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:49 AM Flag
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OMG that's fantastic. Did she have assistance from and RE when she was initially ttc? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:50 AM Flag
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Yes, for 4 years. She now has a 4 year old dd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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wow! thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:50 AM Flag
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I'm 44 and just had #2 8 mo ago! :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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yeah! we can do it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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yep - :) - I get so sick of the drama queens on this board who are frantic at 36 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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ita! I didn't even meet dh until I was 38, got married at 39, had ds at 41. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:05 AM Flag
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op: COngrats!! How long ttc? Did you use an RE? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:07 AM Flag
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I'm the other 44yo ttc #2, who had conversation with you above in this same post. Did not use RE. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:17 AM Flag
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^^ good luck to op. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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op: thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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don't give up.. i had db#1 at 43 yr..got preg naturally ..factors against us - age, low sperm count and quality, fibroids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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omg, I'm loving this post!! COngrats and thanks!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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good luck to you ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:20 AM Flag
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congratulations! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:19 AM Flag
[ - ] Would your 13/14mo DS start digging in a large potted plant if you had it on the ground? Have had it up on a coffee table (larger rubber tree) and he hasn't tried to get in it so far, so thinking of putting it back on ground...what do you think? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:07 AM Flag
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mine would dig [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:09 AM Flag
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How have you babyproofed? I know this is a stage but it's such a long one that i'm tempted to get rid of all kinds of things including furniture. so annoying! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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we really just have one room - living room, he can be blocked in there. have moved book shelves, extra furtniture, etc... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:12 AM Flag
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Oh god yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:21 AM Flag
[ - ] Getting an iud in a little while. Feeling a little anxious about it. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:06 AM Flag
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same here- are you getting Mirena? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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no, going old school: paraguard (i think that is the name) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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I've had mine for about 6 months. it isn't a big deal - really. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:09 AM Flag
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what isn't a big deal? the insertion or having it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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love my mirena. take a few motrin now, it pinches. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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thanks. did you have any cramping afterward? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:14 AM Flag
[ - ] PS 3 or PS11 G&T? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 05.23.08, 08:06 AM Flag
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totally different types of schools. tour both and see which one suits you better. boht are great [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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11 G&T. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:04 AM Flag
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where is the evidence that ps11 is great? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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where is the evidence that ps3 is great or even any other school? Test scores?? Just because a school has good or bad test scores doesn't mean it's a good or bad school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 11:13 AM Flag
[ - ] i am (fairly) short and (very) heavy. I am finally committed to doing something about it. Here are my options. Join Curves or another gym and try to go in the evenings. Get some exercise dvds and do them while dcs nap. Just try to be more active and watch what i eat. any tips or suggestions? tia. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:06 AM Flag
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join a gym; drink water (keeping hydrated helps liver function more efficiently to metabolize fat); pay attn to what you eat/when (maybe a food diary); try to walk more [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:07 AM Flag
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Weight Watchers and start walking a lot and trying some exercise at home. Don't join a gym yet.. trying to do all at once will overwhelm you. Plus, with weather getting nicer, can do more outside. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:07 AM Flag
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ita - start walking, 15 mins, 20 mins - keeping going up. then is you can run, that will take off the weight the fastest. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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op: thanks. i've been completely sedentary this winter. i need to just start moving a little bit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:20 AM Flag
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focus on diet, try to be more active on a daily basis, even if it just means a 10 minute walk [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:07 AM Flag
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op: i think this will work for me. i can't see myself doing weight watchers at this point. especially b/c i don't have much flexibility in my diet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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You're not really committed to doing anything about it - you're just saying you are. The ONLY way to lose significant weight is to modify your diet. Toning up will come later. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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i'm actually in the mood to *do* rather than not do, so that's why i think exercise is a better option for me than watching my diet. but i am willing to cut out snacking and unhealthy breakfasts, which i think are my biggest dietary problems. i don't need weight watchers for that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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Excuses excuses... Look, I'm normally a really skinny, vain fashion girl (now 39 wks pg, so all bets are off). I'm being honest here. If/when I have weight to lose, it doesn't matter if I go to the gym 5-6 days a week! If you wanna take it off, efficiently and effectively, you change how you eat. Period. The gym is for when you're shaping. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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ok. thanks. i am willing to make changes to my eating habits. i'm going to start being more active, eating better and we'll see what happens. If it's not working, i can reconsider weight watchers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:24 AM Flag
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weight watchers to keep you honest, curves AND dvds [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:07 AM Flag
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honestly, start with the eating part- join ww or something. it'll kick strat the process and motivate you. exercize helps but won't actually cause a lot of imeeditae weight loss teh way dieting wiill [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:07 AM Flag
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OP: funny but i would've thought the opposite. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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np: I agree with this OR, most weight loss experts say that diet is the biggie, exercise is helpful for keeping weight off, but not for taking it off [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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Doesn't work that way. You need to change how you eat. WW is the least impactful, lowest maintenance way to do it and it works. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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ok. i will do that. now i just have to get a realistic idea of how much weight i can lose. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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not a gym - you won't go. exercise dvds plus watch what you eat [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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i think i'd go to the gym if i went on my way home. but then i'd have to pay the sitter more plus the gym membership which is a strain for us. that's why i htink i'd have to go in the evenings when dh is home and by that time i'd probably be too tired to drag myself out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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WW and something reasonable. Like no more fast forwarding through commercials. Every commercial you do sit ups. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:14 AM Flag
[ - ] just looked up and saw that maury is on...what the hell, people actually watch this? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:05 AM Flag
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is it about giant babies? he's really cornered that market [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:09 AM Flag
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^^^or WHO'S THE DADDY? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:09 AM Flag
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my nanny does [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:10 AM Flag
[ - ] manhattan moms, how much do you pay your cleaner/h'keeper? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:03 AM Flag
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750 sq ft 2 bdrm with laundry 2x per montn 85. She does not do a good job FWIW. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:05 AM Flag
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how long is she there for? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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i have large one bedroom on UES would like price for once a week (every other week) ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:12 AM Flag
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700 sq ft 1 br with laundry $70/week (1 dc and 2 cats - its a pretty big job1) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:11 AM Flag
[ - ] Help! I am stuck in NYC after school lets out on the 6th and we need a summer camp for June 9 - 19. There doesn't seem to be anyone doing camp, even though the private schools are all out. We're downtown but would go elsewhere if it's good, especially on the east side. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 05.23.08, 08:02 AM Flag
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for how old? Have you checked the McBurney Y? Their camp starts earlier, I believe. It is based out of ps41 in W. Village [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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try chelsea piers [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:36 AM Flag
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do you need childcare or are you afraid of 2 wks of unstructured time wiht your kids? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:06 AM Flag
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St. Bart's? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:06 AM Flag
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I believe some of the Kids places have week long programs, like GymTime on the UES. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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chelsea piers, chinatown y, maybe try claremont or lrei-both have camps and get out of school at same time. childrens aid too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:38 AM Flag
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OP - she's 7, first grade. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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What are her friends doing? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 10:52 AM Flag
[ - ] I am taking Concerta 18mgs...I told doc. i still don't see a huge difference so he told me to double it today. i feel very jumpy right now...hopefully it will wear off...also feel kind of scattered and way too chatty. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:02 AM Flag
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are you sure you are add? your response to the med is the opposite to what an add patient would have [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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that is what the doctor said i have tried others and they made me very edgy but i felt like i could focus SOOOO much better. feels like the fog has finally been lifted. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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try focalin - it is the same stimulant as the others but chemically different to give fewer side effects. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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ok i will i mean this is just day 1 of the double dose. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:30 AM Flag
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I know but methelphenadate based meds are very fast acting and out of your system completely in 8-10 hours, so what you get today should be what you get tomorrow [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:32 AM Flag
[ - ] I drink a bottle of wine per night. Questions? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:00 AM Flag
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Red or white? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:01 AM Flag
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Red. A lot of Pinot Noir [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:02 AM Flag
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how long have you done this for? do you feel it's made you gain weight? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:01 AM Flag
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OP: Ever since I had last db 2 years ago. I exercise a lot (swimming) so I'm not too worried. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:03 AM Flag
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I do nearly that, and I suspect it hinders my weight loss (though, I suspect it may also be pill)... I run a fair amt too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:03 AM Flag
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is it making you fat/bloated? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:01 AM Flag
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OP: Not yet, but I exercise daily [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:03 AM Flag
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I'm almost there and actually work it into my WW points. I am a functioning alcoholic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:02 AM Flag
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That's what I do [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:03 AM Flag
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favorites? For me just to drinnk its riesling for white and malbac for red [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:02 AM Flag
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OP: Love pinot noir but also enjoy Italian wine (Sangiovese) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:03 AM Flag
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have you tried AA? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:03 AM Flag
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OP: Nope. No problem here. I can go with out it (have when pg) and can hardly feel the effects [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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Are you Irish? [ Reply | More
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OP: Yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:05 AM Flag
[ - ] Is it really true that mentioning youbemom.com on here can get you banned? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:00 AM Flag
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I would say "you tell us", but that hardly makes sense if what you say is true [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:02 AM Flag
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no, not in conversation. but spamming about it repeatedly will [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:02 AM Flag
[ - ] This question is probably too vague, but here goes - DH is just finishing up a terrible stretch of work (months of working long hours, every single day). We want a last-minute vacation, something as easy as possible. I have never done a resort vacation and have NO idea where to begin. I was looking at Expedia and Travelocity vacation packages, but I just don't know even what islands to pick. We could take 2 yo DS but are open to our first trip without him, too. Any suggestions? Thanks! 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.23.08, 07:58 AM Flag
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Decide if you are taking dc and then repost question. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 07:59 AM Flag
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Ok. Can we just say we are taking him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:01 AM Flag
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Barbados. You could go on tours around the island, snorkel, or do nothing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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if bringing dc, try to go to a four seasons, or a ritz carlton as a second choice. The hotel makes things so easy for you, plus they are in good locations. They have everything you need for a dc so there is much less for you to worry about. Look at locations and then pick one based on availability and price. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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Thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:09 AM Flag
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If you want a totally hassle-free relaxing vaca, DH and I have had a wonderful time in Puerto Vallarta. They have great all-inclusive resorts with a number of good restaurants on the premises. The resort we've gone to that we loved is called Melia. We've also stayed at a couple of the biggies, Sheraton or Hilton or Hyatt (sorry I can't remember which now.) but if you want the inside scoop on how good these places are I highly recommend going to to vet them out first. Also, you'll get a great deal now since it's off season. Have a great time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:12 AM Flag
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Do Punta Cana - all inclusive resorts. You can bring the kid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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Thanks for the suggestions! Very helpful! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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bermuda [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:25 AM Flag
[ - ] I keep thinking about something that my foster sister and I did when she first came to my house years ago........................ 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 07:57 AM Flag
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she is the one that told me about 'the birds and the bees'. I was 8 years old at the time. We then started to mess around with each other. Hiding in places so we could kiss and feel each other up. This went on for an entire summer. So weird that we never talk about it now and I wonder if we should? Just bugs me for some reason. We get along fine now and are both married with kids etc. Is this normal practice? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 07:59 AM Flag
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Really? You really feel the need to tell us this on a Friday morning?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:01 AM Flag
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what would be a better time for you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:01 AM Flag
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op - it has been on my mind a lot lately... concerned that we both have unresolved issues that we need to take care of. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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not sure... do you have a therapist? I think SOME experimentation is normal, but I don't know how much, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:05 AM Flag
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or: Stop obsessing. What you did was perfectly normal within a wide range of normal behavior patterns. Those patterns are part of growing up; not every thing we do has to be gone over with a fine tooth comb and discussed. If you have a healthy productive life; if you have a healthy relationship with your family - - move on. (I say all this in the nicest way possible - - I am not trying to beat you up.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:06 AM Flag
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I guess - I just wonder if it means I am bisexual or soemthing? I am married now but people often think I am into women. I did think about it as an adult but never followed through. I guess I wonder if maybe this is why my relationships never work? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:09 AM Flag
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Well, I am not a therapist or anything but my sense is that everyone has an element of bi-sexuality in their nature. So, I doubt that this period of experimentation has affected your ability to have long term relationships unless you leave the men because you think about women. I would suspect if you sat down and really analyzed your relationships, you would start to see patterns in your behavior (i.e., even if it is something as simple as picking the same type of men). Part of the trick to life is to stay conscious of our behavior... now, having said all this - - have you explored a lesbian relationship to see if it appeals to you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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^^^ sorry, ignore that last question. What I meant to say is "have you considered exploring a lesbian relationship to see.....?" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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I do repeat the same mistakes in my relationships for sure. I have too much Catholic guilt to explore that idea really. Maybe in secret but not something I could do in public. Not judging just not strong enough for that righ tnow. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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Then I don't think I would spend my energy on this. I would focus on enriching yourself; analyzing what steps you consistently take in relationships that undermine them and go from there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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np: Just curious.. but what made you start thinking about it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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Maybe she (foster sister) was sexually abused? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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ask her about it. If you feel close enough with her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:12 AM Flag
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op = she was very advanced for her age. I just wish I would have learned about it in a different way and where the hell was my mother when we were doing all this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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np: how old was she? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:21 AM Flag
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9 years old and was responsible for her handicapped parents most of her life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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sounds like you need to discuss with your mother too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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my mother is not stable emotionally talking to her would not get me anywhere. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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go back to work, bored dh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:06 AM Flag
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*snort* [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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ita [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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not something everybody experiences, but still well within the realm of normal IMO [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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