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[ - ] I loved Grey's Anatomy last night...I just really really did. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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it was so good! what do you think is going to happen to mcdreamy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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np: Rose will have a mental breakdown, and he won't be able to leave her? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:46 AM Flag
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^^^or get in a tragic car accident on the way and get amnesia. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:46 AM Flag
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I will get SO annoyed if they do that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:48 AM Flag
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I know, but it's not improbable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:49 AM Flag
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We were expecting HIM to get into an accident on the way to Rose -- that would have been the predictable cliffhanger... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:59 AM Flag
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I know, but it's also a series opener, you know? and Mer's still standing there in the middle of all those candles... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 10:00 AM Flag
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stupidest show ever, however I'm glad they have a lesbian thread now, not that I sense much chemistry between the two of those women. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:39 AM Flag
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Yeah. We watch 'cuz we watch, but last night WAS pretty entertaining! It's driving me nuts -- I know that brain tumor girl from some other show and can't place her -- you just reminded me of that! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:46 AM Flag
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she was so pretty. even when she wasn't made up. natural beauty [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:47 AM Flag
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funny - I was remarking to myself how weird looking she was [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:52 AM Flag
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Just looked on IMBD.com. I think I know her from Hanging with Mr. Cooper! LOL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:54 AM Flag
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oh yikes - I don't think you should be admitting that :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:55 AM Flag
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LOL! I totally recognized her, but felt I knew her as a kid, not this age. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 10:00 AM Flag
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I am glad the Chief finally slapped Hahn down for her treatment of Christine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:51 AM Flag
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christina's so close to the edge, though. i expect to see her in a straight jacket next season - in the psych ward right next to McDreamy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:52 AM Flag
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Anyone willing to give me recap? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 10:02 AM Flag
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no, then someone will yell about the spoiler. you should just watch it online. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 10:05 AM Flag
[ - ] What's the problem with treats and sweets for your children? And dessert only on weekends and special occasions? My kids get plenty of those all the time and they still eat their meals, have good teeth, are of good health, etc. etc. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.23.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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i just answered you in the other post. i let dcs have snacks. but if i'm not serving a formal meal, i'm not serving a dessert course with it. and i really didn't like when dc was demanding a dessert course. it doesn't have to be a part of our lifestyle. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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I'm the OP of the original post and my kids also get plenty of sugar, believe me. And they have healthy diets otherwise and I never have to beg, plead or otherwise demand that they eat their veggies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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Is this a take-off from the MIL thread? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:47 AM Flag
[ - ] Live in a rental house. Have a small leak in the basement. Repair guy (paid by landlady) came out and said it would take a whole day with water shut off to fix it. a) must I stay home for the repairs, or can I insist that horrible landlady come to my house to let repair guy in/out/supervise? b) can I ask for a rent reduction due to hassle? (NOT in NY state, in WA state with crappy tenant's rights, so this is more a reasonableness question than legal question) 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:19 AM Flag
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You can say you won't be there but you can't insist landlady stay. Leaks happen -- you are not due compensation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:30 AM Flag
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a. you can let her know that you aren't going to be there and it's her choice to stay there. but if i were you, i'd be more worried about theft of your property which is your problem, not hers. b. that's ridiculous. i'd laugh in your face if i was your landlord. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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Really? But my water will be shut off for a whole day - and this is repair visit number 16 in the last four months. The place is a hellhole, which we stupidly didn't realize moving in. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:35 AM Flag
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i think if it's overnight you can ask for compensation for renting a motel room. but for one day? grin and bear it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:40 AM Flag
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np: you can probably use that to break the lease. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:41 AM Flag
[ - ] is it ok to get botox about one month before TTCing? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:17 AM Flag
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I wouldn't - your body will retain a lot of fluid once your pg [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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ita [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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no! No botox 6 month prior to being pregnant. you have to sign a release on this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:33 AM Flag
[ - ] Weird question: Is it okay to drink Emergen-C while pregnant? or too many vitamins all at once? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 05.23.08, 09:14 AM Flag
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Nope--it's fine!! It's mainly Vit C and B6 anyway--good for you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:16 AM Flag
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why do that ? take your prenatal...eat well and get plenty of rest [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:16 AM Flag
[ - ] H&M was founded in what country? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:05 AM Flag
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sweden [ Reply | More
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Hennes & Mauritz - Sweden [ Reply | More
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England [ Reply | More
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wrong [ Reply | More
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[ - ] Where can I rent a bike in Montreal with a seat for my 15 month old? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:05 AM Flag
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I would google Montreal bike shops [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:07 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone buy the deluxe dining option at Disney World. Is it worth it? or should we go ala carte? TIA 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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I am sorry... I had to laugh at "deluxe" and "Disney World" being used together. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:04 AM Flag
[ - ] Serious question: how did you dress during early pregnancy to avoid looking pregnant before you were ready to announce it? Only 6 weeks here and boobs are heavy and there's some bigtime bloating going on despite all the water I'm consuming. Any advice? Tia 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 05.23.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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I was lucky - it was winter, so just wore looser sweaters - try slightly looser but not voluminous clothing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:04 AM Flag
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op:need to go shopping for a few pieces! Right now my jackets look snug across the chest and my faces looks puffy too. Maybe I feel self-conscious. Just don't want to discuss it with anyone until later. I hope I just look fat!!! Want to hug this pg to myself for a while, you know? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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baby doll styles are still very much in fashion [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:05 AM Flag
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op:trouble is they make me look pregnant! It's the boobs. Good thing is I can maybe buy some babydoll things for maternity wear later... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:13 AM Flag
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Yes, but they make everyone look pregnant, so that's your excuse! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:36 AM Flag
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op:true! I guess I can live with people thinking that I made a bad fashion choice!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:43 AM Flag
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I'm almost twelve weeks, with #2, and this has been a huge problem for me (was not, with first pregnancy). I'm already really sticking out, so all my pants are uncomfortable, and my stomach is visible in anything clingy. Making it worse: I'm the ed in chief of a magazine, so manage a whole staff, and really don't want anyone to know. Plus, have to look great every day. Basically I've been wearing Empire waist dresses--very much in style, thankfully--or loose shifts, with great shoes (not super-high heels, but wedges or 2-inch slingbacks, Corso Como or such), and little cardigans. Bought a great sleeveless cotton one at The Gap (plain black, can be dressed up or dressed down), and have a couple of knit ones from Forever 21 (didn't want to spend a ton of money, b/c knew I'd soon be in maternity), and another from Zachary's Smile, on Lafayette. I've been wearing the same things over and over, but figure, who cares... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:13 AM Flag
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op:thanks and congrats! I'm a 32D normally and can't always wear empire waisted dresses/tops. Do have a few though. tRouble is that my boobs are now really 'full' and uncomfortable and I seem to be having a problem with water retention! Drinking loads of water, avoiding salty foods etc. Still, mirror tells me I look more pregnant than I want to look, and clothes are way too snug. Thank you though. I think you must look fab! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:17 AM Flag
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or: I completely understand. I'm normally a 32C (which sounds big, but I'm actually kind of small) and am now up to a 32D, but for me the problem is really more the stomach. It's so bad that two weeks ago--despite the empire waist--a mom at my son's school said to another mom, "Oh, I didn't realize she was pregnant!" (And I was only 9.5 weeks.) I'm kind of a small person, so that might be why, but still! One thing I'd say is, it's actually gotten a little better (the bloating) in the last week or so. So you may feel better soon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:49 AM Flag
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op:goodness, how did you react to the other mom's comment? I would have died! I really don't want to share this news yet (history of mcs and don't want dd to know until later if at all possible) . My stomach is big too (a little flabby to begin with but never bothered me too much). Good to know that the bloating will get better (like week 10-11?!) Last pg was symptom free as I recall. Thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:56 AM Flag
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It was winter for me too so I wore a lot of big sweaters. I'm a 32DD normally so I totally understand the empire waist thing. I "came out" at work a lot earlier than I had planned b/c by 14 weeks I just felt HUGE and was already wearing maternity pants. I would try to buy some of the underbelly maternity pants and wear longer shirts to cover your belly. Unfortunately, not much you can do about the big boobs and puffy face. GL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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op:thanks! re. the underbelly pants, when did you start wearing them? My jeans feel tight but don't know if it's only for now or if I'm going to need maternity pants soon. Wish I could get away with those empire tops because they're everywhere and would make my life easier in terms of getting dressed everyday. Wish I could wear sweaters or keep a jacket on but it's getting warmer already. Tia [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:34 AM Flag
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I started wearing the underbelly pants at about 12 weeks. Pea in the pod had some nice lightweight wool ones that looked identical to the ones I wear normally. I am still wearing them but starting to outgrow them a bit (now 24 weeks). I bought my jeans at 13 weeks b/c I knew I'd need a week to get them hemmed the way I like. I bought them at Bellydance and bought a size too big based on the input of the sales woman. I really regretted it at first, but now I am SO relieved. They fit great and are still comfortable. I also bought some of those belly bands around 12 weeks but only used them for a week or two. They were helpful but I was more comfortable in the maternity pants than trying to fake my own. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:53 AM Flag
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op:thanks, you're being very helpful and I appreciate it. Re. the belly bands, do you think I could get away with one now? Wear jeans a lot (sahm) and the currently snug fit I'm experiencing is giving me a muffintop. Will try and go shopping next week to try on empire waist tops (cringing!) and hopefully I'll find something that suits me. I know I they're out there (empire waist tops/dresses for big boobed women) but haven't had much luck, since the trend started, to find them on my infrequent shopping trips. Bella bands (just googled them) sound intriguing (didn't use them last time) but not sure how effective or how visible they'll be? Tia [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 10:02 AM Flag
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The belly band are perfect for that. I would wear my pants unbuttoned and use a ponytail holder just to hold the button in place. Then I'd put the belly band over so I didn't look completely ridiculous. I just wore tops that were long enough to cover everything or that would look like I had a tank top on if you happen to see the belly band [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 10:07 AM Flag
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op:thank you - this sounds like a good solution for me since I do wear tanks! Last question (you're being soooo patient!):can I just order this online or better to try on at a store? Tia [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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If I remember they were one size fits all or just simple sizing (like S,M,L). They are really stretchy so ordering online should be fine. I bought mine in a store but never tried them on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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op:thank you! Btw, did you already have your baby? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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Don't know if you're still watching but I have to go. Just wanted to say congratulations, and thanks for the help/advice. :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 11:19 AM Flag
[ - ] Name of your favorite porn DVD? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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Hannah Does Her Sisters; with honorable mention to Rambone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:21 AM Flag
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I'd love to play this game, but I don't buy porn...well, I don't PAY for porn [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:31 AM Flag
[ - ] My MIL just died recently and I think I am most sad for my kids -- is there any chance that my 4 yo will actually remember her? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:01 AM Flag
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my nephew was 4 when my mom died...he is graduating from college this week--he still talks about his grandma [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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Actually remember hard to say. You will be the guardian of the anecdotes. Do you have video of her? Make a photo album about her. One of my great grandmothers passed away when I was 1, but I always felt that she was part of the greater family, from all the stories and pictures I had of her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:04 AM Flag
[ - ] This is tricky but I am annoyed. I am all for treats and snacks but not as a reward for eating the healthy food that is served, but MIL recently moved closer so she is watching the kids and has introduced the idea of dessert so now I am constantly having this stupid interactions with kids over whether they can have "dessert" and how much they need to eat and I am sick of it. I don't care if, when she watches them, she serves them candy all day long, but I feel I need to put my foot down about dessert. 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.23.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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very strange. I would think dessert would be fine, but eating candy all day long...not such a good thing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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I think I was going to extremes to prove my point that it isn't about different rules at Grandma's house, but more about the idea of the coercion used to get them to eat a healthy meal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:07 AM Flag
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i think you are right about this notion of dessert as a reward and eating nutrious food as a task to be completed. can you explain your philosophy to her and hope that she gets it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:05 AM Flag
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This is exactly my point. I talked to dh and if I don't get the nerve over the weekend, he'll talk to her when he gets back. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:06 AM Flag
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ITA with you but I think DH should be the one to speak with MIL if possible [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:08 AM Flag
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Okay. I'll just wait for him to get back into town. Thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:09 AM Flag
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same boat. they serve dessert in dc's school lunch program. i made a rule in my house that dessert is for weekends and special occasions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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You should bring the school a big fat copy of child of mine and get a child nutritionist in there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:12 AM Flag
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You know what? The kids will do just fine. With or without he help of an "expert". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:16 AM Flag
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But the administration that thinks they must coerce children into eating a healthy meal needs some help. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:29 AM Flag
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OR: my dc's school makes me nuts about this. they have strict rules about what we can send for snack and then they go and give them treats frequently. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:21 AM Flag
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They serve dessert only after the kids have eaten the meal or they serve sugary treats WITH the lunch? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:12 AM Flag
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i'm not sure. i think they serve fruit for dessert. i just dislike the whole idea. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:18 AM Flag
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I am sorry but that is ridiculous. Dessert is only for weekends and special occasions? Oh, my. You are going to be a horrible grandparent down the road. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:15 AM Flag
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when she a grandmother, she'll give dessert all day long! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:19 AM Flag
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come on. g'parenting is a whole new ballgame. i don't care [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:19 AM Flag
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^^^i don't care as much what dcs do at g'parents. but i am not serving dessert as part of our daily meals. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:20 AM Flag
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well, expect your kids to make up for that once they have lunch without you in control [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:21 AM Flag
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please. this doesn't have to be a rebellion issue. i let my dcs have snacks. but if i'm not serving a formal dinners, it's not going to include a dessert. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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np: itttta. my mom was so strict about sugar - basically none ever. occasional oatmeal cookie and that's it. I spent two decades eating as much sugar as I could to make up for it, and still have a problem with it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:39 AM Flag
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OR: i don't have a problem with sugar or snacks. i have a problem with a dessert course. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:41 AM Flag
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really? even a fudgecicle or a cookie? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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np:we had dessert growing up and my kids do too. It's always homemade or fruit or a little bit of ice-cream. However they don't get any candy during the day unless they're with other kids who have them or it's a treat. They hardly ever ask for candy and even if offered usually say no or one is sufficient. Not judging you, just offering an alternative view. I think you have to make the rules since you're the primary caregiver. Either talk to MIL (usually doesn't work!) or tell kids MILs rules are the exception ie okay for while they're in her care but not anywhere else. gl [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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My kids sound a lot like your kids, minus the dessert thing. They hardly ever ask for candy because I don't make a big deal out of it. But today at lunch it was ridiculous. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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np above:then maybe it's just a novelty for them now? Maybe don't make a big issue about it, just tell them no dessert because that is the rule in your home. If they're not big on sweets they may tire of asking soon. My 2-cents is you may be more upset with MIL than with the issue of dessert. My MIL drives me crazy and she lives with her unmarried older daughter so I sometimes feel as if I have 2 MILs to contend with - both trying to convince dcs that their way is better for everything. gl [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:38 AM Flag
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ITA with you, OP. I have no issue with desserts, etc., but when they're used as reward for eating other things, it basically says that ice cream is better than dinner. It should just be another thing we enjoy in moderation, not a prize. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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we had dessert when we were little but it was mostly fruit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 10:43 AM Flag
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What a bunch of party poopers! What's the harm in a little yogurt or fruit or (gasp) a cookie or graham cracker after a meal? Geez/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 10:50 AM Flag
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Kids are really flexible about what a dessert is. If I put sprinkles on anything it immediately is transformed into dessert. Sprinkles and mango, frozen blueberries or frozen grapes are all dessert at my house. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 10:53 AM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone know how many K classes PS9 will have in September? how many gen ed? G&T? or is that info not out yet? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 05.23.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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the "official" word is 2 gen eds and 1 G&T but there have been rumors of the reverse. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:16 AM Flag
[ - ] This is tricky but I am annoyed. I am all for treats and snacks but not as a reward for eating the healthy food that is served, but MIL recently moved closer so she is watching the kids and has introduced the idea of dessert so now I am constantly having this stupid interactions with kids over whether they can have "dessert" and how much they need to eat and I am sick of it. I don't care if, when she watches them, she serves them candy all day long, but I feel I need to put my foot down about dessert. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.23.08, 08:57 AM Flag
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Then that is what you say - - your house has different rules than MIL's house. The dcs may either accept that and benefit from having those options and recognizing that your house is different OR... you'll have to ask MIL to stop offering desserts, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:58 AM Flag
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I think I am going to have to ask her to respect this one rule, but it makes me nervous. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:59 AM Flag
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I wouldn't. I would let her have this and just make the children recognize that it is unique to her house. Sometimes, the best memories are the smallest things.. watch, years from now, when she is gone your dcs will say "remember when grandma used to make suchandsuch for dessert?" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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The thing is that I don't mind dessert, so I don't care if she makes and serves it - I just don't like the coercion. And MIL has major food issues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:01 AM Flag
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You are missing my point (or I am missing yours). You have to stop focusing on the food issues at her house and just make the children realize they don't carry over to your house. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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I think we are missing each other. I think this is a discipline issue, embedded in a food one, so it is a big deal. It isn't just a rule thing, as I see it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:05 AM Flag
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So, is she using dessert as a means to get them to eat their dinner? Is that what is annoying you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:07 AM Flag
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Yes. She uses it for dinner and for lunch. And now I spent all of lunch having the most boring conversation with my kids about "dessert" instead of about the fun stuff we usually talk about. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:08 AM Flag
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ah ha! I am sorry, I totally missed that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:09 AM Flag
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No problem. Like I said below, I obviously wasn't expressing myself clearly due to being frazzled. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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I totally agree with your concerns. You are going to have to step in on two fronts - - first with the children and then with her. She won't understand your issues tho because what she is doing has been done for generations. It is a relatively old school mind set. So, before you approach her, put yourself in her shoes ("my mother did this to me, her mother did it before that, etc.") and approach it from an perspective that doesn't undermine her history (i.e., implying that there is something wrong with her and worse.. her mother) so that she doesn't get defensive. Sorry I missed this point btw. It must have been really frustrating to talk to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:49 AM Flag
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I don't know if you are even still around, but, no, it wasn't so bad talking to you ;) I really do believe in different people giving different things and that includes here on UB, but I am glad you see where I am coming from and I appreciate your advice on not attacking her history. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 10:49 AM Flag
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np. you are missing or point. she doesnt wantt eh kids coerced into eating healthy foods. she wasnt a more natural relationship with food to develop and is concernced that MILs way is setting up a pattern for food issues [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:07 AM Flag
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Exactly. Thank you. I am obviously frazzled by the dumb conversation at lunchtime. [ Reply | More
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