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05.23.08, 07:57 AM General Topics
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I keep thinking about something that my foster sister and I did when she first came to my house years ago........................ [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 07:57 AM Flag
 

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she is the one that told me about 'the birds and the bees'. I was 8 years old at the time. We then started to mess around with each other. Hiding in places so we could kiss and feel each other up. This went on for an entire summer. So weird that we never talk about it now and I wonder if we should? Just bugs me for some reason. We get along fine now and are both married with kids etc. Is this normal practice? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 07:59 AM Flag
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Really? You really feel the need to tell us this on a Friday morning?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:01 AM Flag
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what would be a better time for you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:01 AM Flag
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op - it has been on my mind a lot lately... concerned that we both have unresolved issues that we need to take care of. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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not sure... do you have a therapist? I think SOME experimentation is normal, but I don't know how much, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:05 AM Flag
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or: Stop obsessing. What you did was perfectly normal within a wide range of normal behavior patterns. Those patterns are part of growing up; not every thing we do has to be gone over with a fine tooth comb and discussed. If you have a healthy productive life; if you have a healthy relationship with your family - - move on. (I say all this in the nicest way possible - - I am not trying to beat you up.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:06 AM Flag
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I guess - I just wonder if it means I am bisexual or soemthing? I am married now but people often think I am into women. I did think about it as an adult but never followed through. I guess I wonder if maybe this is why my relationships never work? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:09 AM Flag
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Well, I am not a therapist or anything but my sense is that everyone has an element of bi-sexuality in their nature. So, I doubt that this period of experimentation has affected your ability to have long term relationships unless you leave the men because you think about women. I would suspect if you sat down and really analyzed your relationships, you would start to see patterns in your behavior (i.e., even if it is something as simple as picking the same type of men). Part of the trick to life is to stay conscious of our behavior... now, having said all this - - have you explored a lesbian relationship to see if it appeals to you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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^^^ sorry, ignore that last question. What I meant to say is "have you considered exploring a lesbian relationship to see.....?" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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I do repeat the same mistakes in my relationships for sure. I have too much Catholic guilt to explore that idea really. Maybe in secret but not something I could do in public. Not judging just not strong enough for that righ tnow. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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Then I don't think I would spend my energy on this. I would focus on enriching yourself; analyzing what steps you consistently take in relationships that undermine them and go from there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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np: Just curious.. but what made you start thinking about it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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Maybe she (foster sister) was sexually abused? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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ask her about it. If you feel close enough with her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:12 AM Flag
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op = she was very advanced for her age. I just wish I would have learned about it in a different way and where the hell was my mother when we were doing all this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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np: how old was she? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:21 AM Flag
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9 years old and was responsible for her handicapped parents most of her life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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sounds like you need to discuss with your mother too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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my mother is not stable emotionally talking to her would not get me anywhere. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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go back to work, bored dh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:06 AM Flag
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*snort* [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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ita [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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not something everybody experiences, but still well within the realm of normal IMO [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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