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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:00 AM Flag
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congrats! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:02 AM Flag
[ - ] Anybody get their mail today (Wednesday) & get a PreK letter? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 05.28.08, 10:00 AM Flag
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Zippo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:28 AM Flag
[ - ] I am more than 8 months pregnant and huge. I am still shocked that no one offered their seat to me on the subway this morning. Everyone looked down so they wouldn't have to make eye contact!! 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:59 AM Flag
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omg. ever since i had a baby, i usually offer. also if a mom is carrying a toddler, i offer. because i've btdt i've become sympathetic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:00 AM Flag
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W/o sounding racist, I found that young Hispanic men were often the only ones to offer up a seat. White men almost never did. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:02 AM Flag
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I agree- minority males always offered me their seat, and the tougher they looked, the quicker they jumped up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:03 AM Flag
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or: this is true, ime. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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same exact experience. had a row of 30-something white men sitting, and the elderly little black woman offered me her seat. dreadful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:07 AM Flag
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i once stood (7 months pregnant) to give an elderly chinese woman with a cane a seat!! There was a young white guy sitting there and this older 40ish white women looked at me then looked at the guy and asked me very loudly do you want to sit down? Which then shamed the mguy to stand [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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So true. Minorities are also the only one's who dig into their wallets for change for subway panhandlers. White men = least generous, dh excluded. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 09:05 PM Flag
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I completely agree! I think they are raised to respect woman more than white men. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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yep. they are more macho, thus women are weaker, so during pregnancy, they really treat the woman gently. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:06 AM Flag
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that's not respect. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 09:27 PM Flag
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It is sad, in a way, because you were raised a certain way, and maybe you believed others were as well to repect elders and those who were in need of something, ie your seat on the train, bus, etc. because of children, pg, etc, and it is shocking to me that so many people are rude. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:08 AM Flag
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we were actually raised that if we were old enough to go to school, we should stand iof there were a few seats left. We were young and had energy, therefore, we should stand anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:09 AM Flag
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agree black men and then hispanic [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:11 AM Flag
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we ride different subways. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:45 PM Flag
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totally true... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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i actually stomped on a man's foot "accidently" and he asked "do you want this seat" and i said "yes" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:05 AM Flag
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I'm 7 months and huge and I hate them all. Especially, especially the fat men who take up two seats. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:08 AM Flag
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Why not just say, "Excuse me. Can I please have your seat?" A dh here and I try and be really aware but sometimes you can't tell and getting that wrong can make you look like an ass and make somebody feel really badly. (Others it doesn't bother and they think it is funny but I'll save that tirade.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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don't worry about that too much. If she's not preg enough that you can tell-- I mean really tell-- it's probably not a big deal that she doesn't sit. IMO. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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I'll start a conversation with a pregnant woman to try and clue the other passengers in. If that doesn't work, I shame them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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OP: I hear what you're saying but I am so big right now, there is absolutely no mistaking that I am very pregnant. There was NO excuse for young men or women not to offer up a seat! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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granted. And it it were my kid I'd be pissed at him. But I'd still say something. Hell, if for no other reason than awareness for the next preg woman who comes along. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:30 AM Flag
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lame excuse. If you suspect someone is pregnant, give up your seat. If it turns out that she's just paunchy, you still did a nice thing. I'm sure her shoes are less comfortable than yours. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 09:08 PM Flag
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I ripped into a woman who tried to steal my taxi when I was 8 mos. pregnant. I swear she nearly cried. It felt great though after so many mornings where no one gave me their seat on the subway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 09:04 PM Flag
[ - ] PG with a yeast infection. Does the doc usually just recommend the OTC usual treatment? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.28.08, 09:57 AM Flag
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try using some plain yogurt down there. And eating some, too. This will help your good bacteria balance in your body. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:58 AM Flag
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i've heard of eating it, but applying it?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:59 AM Flag
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yep...it works. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:01 AM Flag
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do this instead of monistat? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:03 AM Flag
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yes...wow...you are kinda dense. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:05 AM Flag
[ - ] HR question: if an employee has not requested FMLA and she has not reported to work but i found out that she had a nervous breakdown, do i have to consider her on FMLA or can i fire her? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:57 AM Flag
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you found out she had a nervous breakdown and you want to fire her? Aren't you a peach. And um, no-- I would not fire her. You'll be opening yourself up to a lawsuit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:59 AM Flag
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ITA. lawsuit ready to happen. Why do you want to fire her? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:09 AM Flag
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what do you mean by "nervous breakdown"? that isn't a clinical term [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:07 AM Flag
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you suck [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:08 AM Flag
[ - ] HELP. I have a just turned 3yo boy and I feel like he has gotten a real aggressive streak. He is a real lovey dovey kid...lots of hugs and kisses for everyone, but all of a sudden that is coupled with pinches and pushes and hits. I feel like I"m at my wits end and spend playdates yelling at my son. HELP. I need advice, I'm too wrapped up in this to figure it out. TIA. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.28.08, 09:57 AM Flag
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Take a breath--totally normal, even for kids who weren't previously agressive to go through an agressive phase. Find a method of discipline and stick with it consistently--don't talk to much or explain too much. Just "if you do X, Y is going to happen" and then follow through EVERY SINGLE time. If it means leaving where you are, so be it. Three sucks btw. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:00 AM Flag
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It is par for a lot of kids. Correct him and make sure your attention does not become just negative -- that is the hard thing to master. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:03 AM Flag
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normal...testing out new "powers." But you have to also say that you will leave the park, playdate, class whatever if he does something that you warn him not to do. And you must carry through with your threat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:04 AM Flag
[ - ] psychic mom on? i'm 5 weeks pg, is db a boy or girl? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:54 AM Flag
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do you really believe she will know? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:55 AM Flag
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yes. like everything else on ub, this is for fun, dumbass [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:56 AM Flag
[ - ] Friend had twins today and both babies weighed together weighed slightly more than my newborn. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:53 AM Flag
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your point? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:54 AM Flag
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not much, just felt like posting it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:55 AM Flag
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alrighty then [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:56 AM Flag
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good news, for her sake. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:55 AM Flag
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I'm sure their weights are fine, it's not easy to carry twins. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:59 AM Flag
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oh they were fine, just under 5 lbs each. MY ds was big--I should have made that clear I guess. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:01 AM Flag
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Yeah, those are quite good weights for twins. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:02 AM Flag
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I had twins and then a singleton; my single child weighed more than my twins together, and she wasn't very big herself (7 lbs 4 oz). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:07 AM Flag
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I knew a woman who had twins, each over 8 lbs. Now that's a lot of baby. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:08 AM Flag
[ - ] Why does it seem that no one goes into labor during the day, usually late evening or ealry morning. What time did you go into labor? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:53 AM Flag
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I went into labor at 11:30pm and delivered at 3:30am the following morning (i.e., 28 hours later). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:55 AM Flag
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I don't know, scientifically, but I think it has something to do with relaxing/not being in the middle of your to-do list. Your body decides you're ready. Of course, with my first my water broke at work, middle of the day, 3 wks early. So that doesn't fit the theory. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:58 AM Flag
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op: That's actually my biggest fear!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:00 AM Flag
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it's a little embarrassing-- looks like you wet your pants-- but it's not SUCH a huge deal. If you're worried, make sure you carry a long jacket or trench with you every day-- you can hide. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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2am [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:04 AM Flag
[ - ] eesh. have friends with 2yo ds coming to visit (we have 2yo dd) over july 4th wkend. they can't go anywhere from 12:30 to 3 or after 8 due to sleeping schedule. any ideas of what to do? we're near columbus circle. 60 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:50 AM Flag
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tell them to toss nap schedule out the window for vacation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:52 AM Flag
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i tried. even offered up our good stroller so he could nap when out. she says no. he needs to be in a crib with the shades drawn and his noise machine on. Fun weekend ahead! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:55 AM Flag
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she is in for a world of hurt...kid ain't gonna sleep like that on the road. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:00 AM Flag
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lol! i know. we travel a lot with dd, but she's never taken him anywhere. it will be very exciting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:05 AM Flag
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oh this woman needs to have another kid or two. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:00 AM Flag
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exactly...even Weissbluth's book says to toss out the nap/sleep schedule for vacation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:06 AM Flag
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she's a bit of a nut. doesn't see her kid much, so she seems very unsure about him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:08 AM Flag
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you sound like a great friend [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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because i said she's a bit of a nut? i say the same about myself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:13 AM Flag
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read through what you're saying about her. if somebody said i didn't spend much time with my child so i seemed unsure about him i'd find that really super hurtful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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didn't mean at all to be hurtful. she clearly loves him and wants the absolute best for him. i've been unsure myself plenty of times. i don't really think that's a bad thing -- i think everyone goes through it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:22 AM Flag
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well, then be sympathetic and respect her family's needs/schedule - not everyone parents the way you do [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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cancel now, frenemy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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they'll have to adapt when they are on vacation. so stupid. just go out without them then [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:08 AM Flag
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we will. did you see the part about the white noise machine? they're bringing it with them... she offered to get temporary blackout shades for dd's room. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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what's her email. i'm going to let her know she shouldn't come into your home. so ungenerous! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:13 AM Flag
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actually, i said i'd take care of it. we're doing our best to make the trip as comfortable for them as possible. i'm just venting here to get it out of my system. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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central park, time-warner border's on rainy day, long walks up columbus ave. honestly, you could go to the park all the time, and get back in time for naps. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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true. i guess we'll just do that. they started by saying they wanted to do all of the tourist things, but i think it would be better if we just hang loose. they can run with it and i'll just back them up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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We were very stict with #1--like your friend. BUT, on occasion we pushed it. We paid for it, but it was usually worth it (fireworks, a rare dinner with friends, etc.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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if you are over someone's apt for the weekend, you DC should adapt a little. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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people are nervous traveling, and she's Probably trying to make sure her kid will be well-behaved and rested while there, making the trip easier on everybody, including the hosts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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you don't live in her house. All kids are different. If this is what the kid needs, so be it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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eesh. i know. we're following all of her rules. as i said in other posts, i'm just getting it off my chest. i think it's clearly time for me to sign off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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the rules aren't for you or your kid - they're for HER: you can go out during naptime, and get a sitter for after 8 pm if she wants [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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the friend doesn't live in HER apartment either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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I travel with 10mo ds inc overseas and I am very careful about recreating his routine when traveling, even more so than at home. Of course you push it sometimes for the sake of the vacation but I bring the drapes and the sound machine everywhere and he sleeps great. I think it sucks to rag on this woman for trying to make sure her kid sleeps. If he's anything like mine, everyone suffers if he doesn't get his nap in his crib. I think she is doing the right thing for her kid. What about the moms who drag their dbs all over kingdom come without any concern for their sleep needs? I think they are far far worse. Just my 2 cents. I wouldn't stay with a friend who didn't understand how I mother. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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you are crazy. just sayin' [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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holy cow! i've said about 5 times that i'm doing absolutely EVERYTHING she's asked. i'm freaking bending over backwards to make this as comfortable for her as i can. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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don't listen to the crazy woman. I cannot believe she brings drapes over to someone's house! how rude is that? "excuse me, but I'll have to replace your window treatments for mine" weirdo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:06 AM Flag
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lol. funny thing is i'm the least judgemental person... i figure whatever works for you is fine. it's just that she's asking a lot of me. i will do it all and smile, it just helps to vent a little. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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she's not asking anything of you. she offered to bring something to cover the windows, and gave you her child's schedule. what else is she asking of you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:11 AM Flag
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i have an email with 10 points. i just didn't feel like listing them all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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okay op. see the comment below. the woman says that your friend is neurotic and is going to have a neurotic child. that's the impression you give of your 'friend'. this makes you a lousy friend. tell her not to come, and let her mama her baby the way she wants without your judgmental interference. i bet if she knew the way you were 'venting' about her, she wouldn't want to come. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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OR of the comment below: I see this stuff happen over and over again. it's one thing to adhere to a schedule, it's another to be completely crazy about it so your child cannot adapt to different situations. My DD naps at 1:00 on the dot every day, but if we were visiting someone, I might push that nap later to accomdate everyone. The world does not revolve around YOUR child and YOUR child will have to learn that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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that's not really how 2 yolds learn that message, by delaying their naps. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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it's not just about the naps [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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seems to be. all the info we have says it's about the naps [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:30 AM Flag
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i cited what I do with DD's nap because this is what the OP is talking about. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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funny part -- she IS neurotic. she'll tell you that herself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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okay, tell her that, show her what you're saying about her. "FUN weekend ahead!" and see if she's charmed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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np: i would love to meet you. you must be so perfect if you've never complained about someone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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well, i do complain about people, but not friends generally, esp for being nervous about traveling with bebe [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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she obviously is neurotic. i call it as i see it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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np: her friend is neurotic. and she's going to have a neurotic child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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ita. i'm the same as you, try to maintain the sched for baby-o [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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np: 10mo needs are VERY different from 2yo needs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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i try to adhere to a schedule with DB, but I also try to be flexible when I am visiting someone. Asking someone to be home bound for the bulk of the day in a small NYC apt is A LOT to ask of a host imo. If the kid drops a nap, what's the big deal? It is 3 days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:16 AM Flag
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if my kid had dropped a nap at 2 yo, she would have gone to bed at 8, woken up at 10 and stayed up until 3. that was the way she was. maybe this other mother is trying to avoid something liek that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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mine too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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Lead by example. "We are doing X. Here is how you get back to the apt. We can meet you at such and such a time/place." Don't try and change her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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that's good advice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:15 AM Flag
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i'm absolutely not. i've given her a few options (very delicately put), but otherwise just plan to play it by ear. it's just one weekend, so it doesn't really matter. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:15 AM Flag
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can't you get a babysitter to watch both kids and go out at 8 - why do you have to sit at home [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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that's what we offered... even have sitter come over after dc go to bed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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Nothing wrong with venting. Obviously there are some high strung moms on here who are slightly defensive. If I were you I would aquire the services of a babysitter as soon as possible or your friend isnt going to see any fireworks this 4th of July. Is the husband nutty too...maybe your husband could chat with him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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thanks! :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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that mom doesn't sound nutty at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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Maybe not nutty but if she's on vacation in NYC and planning on doing touristy stuff yet needs to spend 3 hours an afternoon with her kid napping and a 8pm bunktime, she's not going to see too much of the city. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:52 AM Flag
[ - ] At what point is it safe to get a prenatal massage? Three months and my back is killing me; wondering if it's okay to have one in a week or so... 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 05.28.08, 09:49 AM Flag
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IT's actually okay anytime, some place won't do 1st trimester because people will blame it on the massage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:51 AM Flag
[ - ] DH here. Feel free to discipline me if I am being an ass. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:48 AM Flag
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I posted above about getting one of those tee shirts for my dh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:49 AM Flag
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I saw --- I figured a UB post was the next best thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:52 AM Flag
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third dh: I wrote the post about putting that tee on my kid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:53 AM Flag
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what are you doing on ub? go away, pervert! signed, another dh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:51 AM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:54 AM Flag
[ - ] Holy overpriced gas, Batman! 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.28.08, 09:48 AM Flag
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