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05.28.08, 09:50 AM General Topics
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eesh. have friends with 2yo ds coming to visit (we have 2yo dd) over july 4th wkend. they can't go anywhere from 12:30 to 3 or after 8 due to sleeping schedule. any ideas of what to do? we're near columbus circle. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 05.28.08, 09:50 AM Flag
 

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tell them to toss nap schedule out the window for vacation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:52 AM Flag
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i tried. even offered up our good stroller so he could nap when out. she says no. he needs to be in a crib with the shades drawn and his noise machine on. Fun weekend ahead! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:55 AM Flag
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she is in for a world of hurt...kid ain't gonna sleep like that on the road. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:00 AM Flag
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lol! i know. we travel a lot with dd, but she's never taken him anywhere. it will be very exciting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:05 AM Flag
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oh this woman needs to have another kid or two. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:00 AM Flag
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exactly...even Weissbluth's book says to toss out the nap/sleep schedule for vacation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:06 AM Flag
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she's a bit of a nut. doesn't see her kid much, so she seems very unsure about him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:08 AM Flag
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you sound like a great friend [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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because i said she's a bit of a nut? i say the same about myself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:13 AM Flag
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read through what you're saying about her. if somebody said i didn't spend much time with my child so i seemed unsure about him i'd find that really super hurtful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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didn't mean at all to be hurtful. she clearly loves him and wants the absolute best for him. i've been unsure myself plenty of times. i don't really think that's a bad thing -- i think everyone goes through it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:22 AM Flag
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well, then be sympathetic and respect her family's needs/schedule - not everyone parents the way you do [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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cancel now, frenemy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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they'll have to adapt when they are on vacation. so stupid. just go out without them then [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:08 AM Flag
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we will. did you see the part about the white noise machine? they're bringing it with them... she offered to get temporary blackout shades for dd's room. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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what's her email. i'm going to let her know she shouldn't come into your home. so ungenerous! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:13 AM Flag
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actually, i said i'd take care of it. we're doing our best to make the trip as comfortable for them as possible. i'm just venting here to get it out of my system. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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central park, time-warner border's on rainy day, long walks up columbus ave. honestly, you could go to the park all the time, and get back in time for naps. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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true. i guess we'll just do that. they started by saying they wanted to do all of the tourist things, but i think it would be better if we just hang loose. they can run with it and i'll just back them up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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We were very stict with #1--like your friend. BUT, on occasion we pushed it. We paid for it, but it was usually worth it (fireworks, a rare dinner with friends, etc.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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if you are over someone's apt for the weekend, you DC should adapt a little. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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people are nervous traveling, and she's Probably trying to make sure her kid will be well-behaved and rested while there, making the trip easier on everybody, including the hosts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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you don't live in her house. All kids are different. If this is what the kid needs, so be it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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eesh. i know. we're following all of her rules. as i said in other posts, i'm just getting it off my chest. i think it's clearly time for me to sign off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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the rules aren't for you or your kid - they're for HER: you can go out during naptime, and get a sitter for after 8 pm if she wants [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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the friend doesn't live in HER apartment either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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I travel with 10mo ds inc overseas and I am very careful about recreating his routine when traveling, even more so than at home. Of course you push it sometimes for the sake of the vacation but I bring the drapes and the sound machine everywhere and he sleeps great. I think it sucks to rag on this woman for trying to make sure her kid sleeps. If he's anything like mine, everyone suffers if he doesn't get his nap in his crib. I think she is doing the right thing for her kid. What about the moms who drag their dbs all over kingdom come without any concern for their sleep needs? I think they are far far worse. Just my 2 cents. I wouldn't stay with a friend who didn't understand how I mother. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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you are crazy. just sayin' [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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holy cow! i've said about 5 times that i'm doing absolutely EVERYTHING she's asked. i'm freaking bending over backwards to make this as comfortable for her as i can. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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don't listen to the crazy woman. I cannot believe she brings drapes over to someone's house! how rude is that? "excuse me, but I'll have to replace your window treatments for mine" weirdo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:06 AM Flag
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lol. funny thing is i'm the least judgemental person... i figure whatever works for you is fine. it's just that she's asking a lot of me. i will do it all and smile, it just helps to vent a little. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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she's not asking anything of you. she offered to bring something to cover the windows, and gave you her child's schedule. what else is she asking of you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:11 AM Flag
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i have an email with 10 points. i just didn't feel like listing them all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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okay op. see the comment below. the woman says that your friend is neurotic and is going to have a neurotic child. that's the impression you give of your 'friend'. this makes you a lousy friend. tell her not to come, and let her mama her baby the way she wants without your judgmental interference. i bet if she knew the way you were 'venting' about her, she wouldn't want to come. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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OR of the comment below: I see this stuff happen over and over again. it's one thing to adhere to a schedule, it's another to be completely crazy about it so your child cannot adapt to different situations. My DD naps at 1:00 on the dot every day, but if we were visiting someone, I might push that nap later to accomdate everyone. The world does not revolve around YOUR child and YOUR child will have to learn that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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that's not really how 2 yolds learn that message, by delaying their naps. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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it's not just about the naps [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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seems to be. all the info we have says it's about the naps [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:30 AM Flag
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i cited what I do with DD's nap because this is what the OP is talking about. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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funny part -- she IS neurotic. she'll tell you that herself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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okay, tell her that, show her what you're saying about her. "FUN weekend ahead!" and see if she's charmed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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np: i would love to meet you. you must be so perfect if you've never complained about someone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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well, i do complain about people, but not friends generally, esp for being nervous about traveling with bebe [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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she obviously is neurotic. i call it as i see it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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np: her friend is neurotic. and she's going to have a neurotic child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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ita. i'm the same as you, try to maintain the sched for baby-o [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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np: 10mo needs are VERY different from 2yo needs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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i try to adhere to a schedule with DB, but I also try to be flexible when I am visiting someone. Asking someone to be home bound for the bulk of the day in a small NYC apt is A LOT to ask of a host imo. If the kid drops a nap, what's the big deal? It is 3 days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:16 AM Flag
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if my kid had dropped a nap at 2 yo, she would have gone to bed at 8, woken up at 10 and stayed up until 3. that was the way she was. maybe this other mother is trying to avoid something liek that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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mine too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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Lead by example. "We are doing X. Here is how you get back to the apt. We can meet you at such and such a time/place." Don't try and change her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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that's good advice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:15 AM Flag
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i'm absolutely not. i've given her a few options (very delicately put), but otherwise just plan to play it by ear. it's just one weekend, so it doesn't really matter. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:15 AM Flag
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can't you get a babysitter to watch both kids and go out at 8 - why do you have to sit at home [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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that's what we offered... even have sitter come over after dc go to bed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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Nothing wrong with venting. Obviously there are some high strung moms on here who are slightly defensive. If I were you I would aquire the services of a babysitter as soon as possible or your friend isnt going to see any fireworks this 4th of July. Is the husband nutty too...maybe your husband could chat with him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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thanks! :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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that mom doesn't sound nutty at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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Maybe not nutty but if she's on vacation in NYC and planning on doing touristy stuff yet needs to spend 3 hours an afternoon with her kid napping and a 8pm bunktime, she's not going to see too much of the city. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:52 AM Flag
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