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[ - ] I am a total pear -- I have huge hips and big legs, but a very small waist. What jeans fit this body type best? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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^^Or should I just get my jeans tailored? Does any alteration place (like a dry cleaner) tailor jeans? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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low rise, boot leg are not your friend. Look for something mid rise with straighter leg. Much more slimming. I am pear also though not with tiny waist. My legs aren't too big. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:38 AM Flag
[ - ] Any moms on who had bad tearing with delivery #1? What did you do for delivery #2? Was it better, worse? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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Much better with #2. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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welli had an episiotomy w/#1 (i begged for it after hrs of pushing), does that sort of count? with #2, didn't tear at all. it was so so so much easier with #2. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:25 AM Flag
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^ even the contractions hurt less. or bc i was experienced this time, i managed it better. either way, it was so easy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:26 AM Flag
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Had an episiotomy with #1 (forceps) and a v. minor tear w/ #2 and he was pretty big. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:26 AM Flag
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op: Interesting! I thought it would be worse with #2. Did you guys do anything that helped the second time around (perineal massage)? Or it just was better? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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i'm the 2nd or and i was told by most everyone incl ob that #2 is easier. i didn't do a thing for #2, no birthing classes, no prep at all (i did a lot fo prep with #1). it was just easier. your body is ready. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:37 AM Flag
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np: ita--posted a few posts down about how quick and easy (relatively speaking) l&d was with #2. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:39 AM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone know the best neighborhoods for young families in Saratoga Springs? Looking for a newer home in a nice wooded area that is not too remote. Are there any homes under 500k around there? Also, who are the good builders or realty agents if you know them and how are the schools up there? Any help would be appreciated. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:21 AM Flag
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so am I. we are home shopping this weekend. well keep you posted. how is your home hunting going? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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Why are you moving out? SO? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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Are you still here? My brother & his wife live just outside S.Springs, in Schuylerville. They have a 2 story house with about 3-4 acres of wooded land surrounding the house. They are trying to sell the house because my brother got a job in New England. If you're interested in more info, please post. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:37 PM Flag
[ - ] If you can only send your kid to private school for some of the time (ie, only elementary or only secondary), which do you think is more important? Is it OK to send your child to a mediocre elem school if it's safe? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Preschool/Kids 05.28.08, 09:20 AM Flag
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If we could do one, we'd do private high school (assuming getting in wasn't an issue). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:21 AM Flag
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we did this - best decision ever [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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so you did public for elem and middle school? how were those schools? Our zoned schools are pretty bad unfortunately... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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our elem and middle were so - so - but my kids had excellent grades and test scores. Good teachers. Very diverse student body. Got into an excellent private hs - I would do it again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:36 AM Flag
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I've thought about this a lot, and I've decided I'd rather send dc to the best possible school for the elementary years even if it means they go to a so-so school later on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:29 AM Flag
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why would you do this though? elem years are basic, later years have more impact on college they can attend [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:33 AM Flag
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When dc are young and getting the fundamentals, and a love of school and learning is being instilled, I'd prefer dc to be in the best possible environment. I think that, along with parental support, is what provides the base for everything that comes later. As dc get older they can take more responsibility for their learning, and a bright, motivated dc can get a very good education almost anywhere, as long as the school isn't downright BAD. Understand, I'm not talking about a terrible school for the later years, just not a "tt" school. However you want to define "tt". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:47 AM Flag
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but in most NYC schools, and even many decent publics (not the most wealthy burbs), they won't get the college counseling or frankly, peer group of college bound, academic friends. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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we're going to do highschool and middle too if we can afford it. spoke with a friend in education and she thought it was smart said studies showed that academic success before 6th grade was more due to what parents were doing at home then what the school was doing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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FWIW I know people who do it both way. Many kids go from private school to Hunter in 7th or Stuy/Bronx Sci in 9th. Many kids go from public school to Dalton or Fieldston or HM or Trinity in 4th-9th. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:08 AM Flag
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and many kids can't get into any of those schools you mentioned!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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Dalton has about 8 openings in 6th grade and maybe 20-22 for 9th grade. Many of the kids admitted in 9th grade come from private K-8 schools. The girls schools add fewer kids than this for 9th grade. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:45 AM Flag
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Trinity adds 50 kids in 9th grade. HM adds quite few in 6th and 9th. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:47 AM Flag
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I went to private for high school, on partial scholarship. I truly think that high schol is where you shoudl spend your money. It sets a tone for your life long friendships, college education, ambitions,etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:49 AM Flag
[ - ] nothing is as boring as someone describing a dream they had in minute detail. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:19 AM Flag
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well - reading about someone posting that - not much better :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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this is my longtime friend...single and 39...and I think this is why she is single and 39. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:37 AM Flag
[ - ] I think my nanny thinks I am nuts - I have told her I like naps in the crib she called me to ask if db could nap on the blanket in the park I said no - would prefer the crib you can go out again later and she said "whatever makes you happy" why am I so afraid to tell her what I want?? 95 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.28.08, 09:18 AM Flag
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i can't stand when the nanny insists on having db nap outdoors. it's definitely better to nap at home. i always came home for naps if i could help it - why shouldn't nanny? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:20 AM Flag
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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She doesn't want her kid bit up by ants in the park. Neither would I. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:43 AM Flag
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you base this on what? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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oh please. she's going to place db on an ant bed? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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It is a totally unreasonable request to insist that kid sleeps in her crib w/o exceptions. Let the nanny do her job. She knows a little about child rearing, too, no? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:33 PM Flag
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np: Nothing is an unreasonable request when it comes to what you want for your child. You are paying the nanny to follow your childrearing rules. We didn't have many for our nanny, but if I did, then I would expect her to follow them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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op - I have told her one nap a day in stroller is fine just prefer it isnt the one that is long if taken in her crib [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:39 PM Flag
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you have to have exceptions once in a while [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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op - how does what I said above not give room for exceptions? MOST naps in cribs, and PREFER, not must have afternoon nap in crib [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:43 PM Flag
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SO how come when she asked for an exception you said no!? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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op - she asked what i preferred i told her - if she wanted an exception she could have made the call like she does other times [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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you are not making sense - if you are being honest that you trust her to make a decision than if she calls on a beautiful day saying that you db is ready for a nap in the park then say do what ever you want, not - don't let the baby go to sleep till you are home. Either it is an absolute rule that she cannot break or it is up to her & stop 2nd guessing her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 06:23 PM Flag
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why am i not making sense - she called and said "what do you prefer" not "do you mind", i prefer the crib - had she made that call I would have not really cared - but would have reiterated that I dont want it to be a regular occurence. Anyway - the point of my post was not to defend my preference for cribs but more wondering why I have such a hard time telling the nanny what I want! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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no she doesn't - she's the employer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:10 PM Flag
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ITD - nanny just doesn't want to stay home - and no, most nannies don't know much about child rearing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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they probably do, but just don't care because it's not their child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:14 PM Flag
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are you a wohm or a sahm? With a comment like that, I hope you stay with your kids or have kids in daycare. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:15 PM Flag
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I am a sahm b/c I want to be the one who raises my children; this post only confirms what many of us suspect happens when others raise our children [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:34 PM Flag
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I am a sahm too, but I have seen many loving and sweet nannies (out in the burbs). I want to be the one making the decisions about my db's, but I see no reason to make other mom's feel bad about having nannies if they want to work. (I do think it's bad to have nannies if you have no respect for them, or no respect for what they do all day.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:36 PM Flag
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um, why? what supports this idea? my kids can sleep anywhere, and i prefer that. they do not have to be limited to a bed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:43 PM Flag
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how old is db? i think one nap outside and one nap in the crib is ok for a newborn. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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5 mo - she takes 3 naps a day - the one right now (1pmish) is her longest so I prefer it in her crib - have told her I dont care if shorter morning nap or really short late afternoon nap is in stroller - but not in blanket in park - kinda grosses me out a little [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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just tell her that the long nap is in the crib and she can take db out for a walk for another nap. the blanket in the park thing is totally fine. let your db enjoy the weather (although today is a little breezy imo) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:25 AM Flag
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op - i said inside please you can go for another walk in the afternoon after she wakes up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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yeah your nanny has no respect for you. don't be a wimp [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:07 AM Flag
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op - why do say that she has no respect? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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didn't you say that you keep telling her this? maybe i misinterpreted [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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np: b/c she's not following your instructions - even flaunting her impertinence, imo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:11 PM Flag
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I don't think so. She didn't have to call to ask OP's permission to let db sleep on blanket. Maybe she genuinely wanted to know OP's stance because it seemed like a gray area to her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:16 PM Flag
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nature grosses you out? you could move to a bubble. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:43 PM Flag
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oh let he enjoy the weather.... maybe you can tell her an outdoor nap is OK once per week [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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outdoor naps are fine - don't micromanage too much [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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op - she called and asked so I told her my preference [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:26 AM Flag
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np: You should've just told her to do whatever is good for the BOTH of them and to let her make these decisions by herself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:40 AM Flag
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ITA! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:43 AM Flag
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I have told her to set up playdates and go out on walks etc - but if she calls and asks I am going to tell her what I prefer - it is MY kid - if she doesnt want to know then she should not call - not like I would know where db napped [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:44 AM Flag
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If you feel that way, then stay home and take care of YOUR kid. Otherwise, tell her not to call over things like this and let her do her job. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:44 AM Flag
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trust me wish i could [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:57 AM Flag
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she probably called becuase she didn't think it would be a big deal, but you have obviously made it clear you didn't want her to do it, so she called to find out, becuase in her opinions sleeping on a blanket in the park is lovely --and she is right. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:00 PM Flag
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op - if she was so confident in her opinion she shouldn't have called and I would have not known - dd took a lovely 2 hour nap in her crib instead and I will come home to a happy well rested baby. Outside she would have napped poorly and for maybe 20 min [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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why are you putting the blame on the nanny? No wonder she called you first in order to get permission for such small things like that. You are micromanaging. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:42 PM Flag
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wow, a real hands-off wohm - you probably can't remember what your dc looks like [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:13 PM Flag
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I think this comment is totally uncalled for. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:18 PM Flag
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I think the flames OP is taking are totally uncalled for - she has rules for caring for her own child - what is wrong about that??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:33 PM Flag
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hear, hear. OP, you hired that nanny because she knows a little bit about how to take care of children, didn't you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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ITDA, this is your child, if you want db in crib for naps then it's part of your nanny's job to ensure that. I can't stand nannies who have this sense of entitlement. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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or quit working and micromanage your own child's life much more closely, then ultimate control is yours. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:44 PM Flag
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why do you care? a nap outdoors sounds lovely for db and nanny [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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np: depends on the kid. My kids never got a good nap when sleeping outside. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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op - my db wont sleep outside (on blanket in stroller yes) she is busy watching the trees and the leaves would maybe close her eyes for a few minutes if REALLY tired [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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Who was with the child at that point of time? You or nanny? Don't you think the nanny knew a little better at THAT point of time? Usually kids behave totally different when they are with a nanny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:37 PM Flag
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so don't you think Nanny would have taken her home if the nap on the blanket wasn't working? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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np - for what it's worth, we had the same thing happen with our nanny who had ds sleep outdoors all the time. I asked her to try to have him sleep in his crib as often as possible, but she stayed outside whenever it was nice out. Now he's 18 months old and is totally unable to nap in his crib. I know it sounds like micromanaging, but routines have worked so well for him, I wish I'd trusted my insticts at the time and insisted that napping in his crib be a relatively strict routine as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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op - this is why I think she thinks I am nuts - I am big on routines having nephews that have none and have issues because of it - I think her other families kind of just let her do as she wanted [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:30 AM Flag
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Honestly, I know exactly what you're going through. We've had our nanny for 14 months now and adore her, but I totally remember at the beginning questioning everything I felt I needed to insist on - she had more experience with babies than I did at that point! But your instincts are key - I honestly don't regret one of them. I DO regret not trusting them all the time - the napping outdoors thing being a perfect example. What's really worked for us was that I've always asked her opinions about things, even sometimes when I didn't really want them, in an effort to be clear that I trust her and want her views. But I have been more and more emboldened to let her know MY views - it's insane that I'm even saying this, she's taking care of MY kid! Anyway, sorry for the rambling response - all I can say is, trust your instincts, absolutely let her be involved, but don't forget that you're the mommy! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:36 AM Flag
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Thanks - this really helps I honestly feel like a lunatic half the time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:42 AM Flag
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No problem - you are CERTAINLY not a lunatic! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:44 AM Flag
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I would call her on the 'tude. Say , I sense you are unhappy with me, can we discuss this? Say it in a way that means, I am the boss. So this is how it is. Period. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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But who wants to have a constantly cranky kid for 2 years? My kid is beyond cranky when he hasn't had enough rest. If he does, totally different kid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:35 AM Flag
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if you are such a wimp you shouldn't have had kids in the first place. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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I prefer my kids to be happy. If that makes me a wimp, fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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op - only if db becomes a bad sleeper [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:35 AM Flag
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finally a voice of reason! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:13 PM Flag
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Don't be afraid to put your foot down. If you think she naps better in the crib, she naps in the crib, especially if it affects her other sleep periods. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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op - thank you new at this and i go between loving this woman, hating her and thinking she is the best thing that happened to us to thinking she is a moron - so I dont always trust my decisions when it comes to db and her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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np: I assume she's experienced? Being a new mom, I always appreciated what our nanny brought to the table [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:35 AM Flag
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op - she has 3 kids of her own and has been a nanny for 8 years but she doesnt really give me much advice - I get "whatever makes you comfortable" alot which I like but sometimes I would appreciate some initiative - and not have to notice something on the weekend and then tell her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:37 AM Flag
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don't understand the last to lines...some initiative about what? notice what? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:39 AM Flag
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like db used to have 6 oz of formula every 3 hours - she clearly wanted more (like 7-71/2 oz) and didnt need to eat that often - but I had to notice that this last weekend and tell the nanny - obviously she was draining the bottle and still fussing after that - nanny should have noticed and fed her more but less often and told me not vice versa [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:41 AM Flag
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but how do you know that db was behaving that way with nanny; she may have just started a growth spurt. you sound pretty high-maintenance [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:45 AM Flag
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I asked her yesterday and she said "oh yes I noticed that too" I told her what I did and said that in the future she should feel free to change things up a bit [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:08 AM Flag
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I think your nanny is being passive agressive and I think you need to think about whether this going to work out in the long run. She is mad at you b/c you make rules for her so she is refusing to make needed changes to "prove" to you that you shouldn't tell her what to do b/c if you tell her what to do, she will only do exactly what you tell her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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op- honestly she doesnt seem the kind of woman to do that - her old boss was VERY much into doing things her way and fired her for something minor so I think she is scared to be honest with you - but I have asked her for an opinion I just dont know how else to put it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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hi. i'm also a new mom and have found managing my relationship with our nanny tough as well. decide what is really important to you and stick with it. remember you are the boss, but also if you like your nanny, cut her some slack every once in awhile. for example, i told my nanny that i would like db to take his morning nap in the crib. most days that happens, but if it doesn't happen all the time i'm okay with that. i'll also try to include her in the decision making by starting a conversation like "i don't want db to become dependent on stroller for naps. how do you think we should handle this..." etc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:43 AM Flag
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op - how did you handle? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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you probably don't want to hear this, but the issues are only going to get bigger and more complicated as your child gets older. You have a nanny that thinks she knows what's best and her "best" isn't your "best" and she will start to resent you. Then she will either bitch constantly to other nannies in front of your child, or she will ignore you and do what she wants. I think you should start to look for another nanny and wait until you find someone you are really on the same page with. Your child will be fine with this person in the mean time, but for the long run you don't want to have this kind of tension. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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np: this seems a bit rash, unless she is blatantly disrepsectful to op. its only been a few months. op, maybe you should try working on your relationship with your nanny, and see if you can improve that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:48 AM Flag
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OR. It's just my experience, but ime, these things just don't change. I had one nanny for 5 years who had the best attitude. She had a child of her own and said on the first day "this is your child and she should be raised the way you want. it may or may not be the way I choose to raise mine, but I would want to know that anyone caring for my child does it my way and you deserve the same respect." Unfortunately, 5 years later she had a second child and decided to stop working for a couple of years. We then had two nannies that had their own way of doing things and it just didn't work out. I tried to be clear about my expectations/rules, but in the end I had to fire both. Now we have someone who, from day one, was on the same page as me and all the stress from the two inbetween is gone and everyone in our home is so much happier. My kids are now older 4 and 8, and I can't tell you how very important it is that everyone who takes care of them be on the same page about rules/discipline. The older they get, the more important this is. Again, it's just my experience. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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op - you may be right - I also know that emotionally I am a mess - I wish I could be home with dd so not willing to let go - but have tried to tell nanny "these are my big 3 issues - naps in cribs as much as possible, routine, and no snacking" other than that you play it by ear but she calls me 5 plus times a day to ask stuff and frankly I only see my dd fora few hours a day and she is changing so quickly so I am not the best person to judge certain things. Also she never is blatantly disrespectful [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:00 PM Flag
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you are so not a 'nutjob'! ita with sticking to your guns on naps - it's sets a tone for the kids and makes life easier later on. my first was a terrible napper (30 mins to the minute) and it stressed me out SO much. the 2nd is better so i was more relaxed. you do what you have to do to parent your way. i do think she calls you too much - so that may be a tone you've set, or she's too insecure? the last thing you need in your day is to be reminded about the hourly issues that come up, especially with such a young baby. if you can get to work and try to rest assured that your nanny is taking care of your baby the best she can, then your day will be much easier. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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op - I have said to her before "these are the most important things to me" other than that you can go with the flow everyday, I appreciate the calls but you dont have to call" she still does calls me to update on naps, feeds and how long they were out - not sure what else to say.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:04 PM Flag
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i'm no expert because it's REALLY hard for me to address issues with my nanny (she takes ds to chuck e cheese's and believe me, i'm not psyched about that) but i would just tell her that she doesn't need to update you that much anymore, that you trust her, and that actually it would be EASIER for you to not know everything. to just call if she has any (serious) issue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:12 PM Flag
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becuase you do sound like a nutjob. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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yup, yup. But then she is new to this. I bet her kid is on a strict schedule for everything. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:40 PM Flag
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I'm a total control freak about schedules, because my kids do better on schedules. My mil hates it, because sil lets her kids run the show. I can't tell you how many times we've left their house without dinner because it was bed time and she promised to serve dinner by 6. Along comes 7:30 and no dinner. You have to stick to your guns. It's your family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:06 PM Flag
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I like you - feel this issue coming on with my MIL as well, SIL is same as your SIL. I like schedules, I think kids need structure and if that makes me a nutjob then I am [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:17 PM Flag
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Total nutjob of the family here! But I have well behaved happy kids as opposed to sil's kids that are crazy wild and completely out of sorts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:31 PM Flag
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How do you fit in the crib? It must be cramped. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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That is HILAR. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:50 PM Flag
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better late than never, I guess. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:56 PM Flag
[ - ] not gonna be driving 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:13 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone in DC area? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:13 AM Flag
[ - ] I think the moms at the park think I am a mean mommy. I am constantly saying "No" to my almost 2 yo in my not nice tone. Today she kept going into people's stroller and bags to take toys and treats and I kept scolding and scolding her. Then I had to tell her give the other kids space (she wanted to play with the other kid's jackets), or not to push, not to throw her snack on the ground, etc. None of the other moms seem to do this as much as me and I feel like they don't like me or something. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:12 AM Flag
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heheh you are me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:13 AM Flag
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I guess the other kids and moms are more mellow or something! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:15 AM Flag
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who cares what the other moms think? do what you have to do! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:14 AM Flag
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i know, but they don't really talk to me or anything. i feel like i'm in high school [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:17 AM Flag
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i often feel the same way. fuck 'em. i wish more moms would correct their perfect little angels more often. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:19 AM Flag
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Screw 'em. You're raising your kid right. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:15 AM Flag
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thx. sometimes i feel like i am yelling too much, but i dont want DD to be aggressive or do bad things at the park [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:16 AM Flag
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My dd is five and a half now. I took her to an event recently and she was the only kid there. Great behavior, got along wonderfully with the adults. We had a fantastic time. And it's because I set limits consistently when she was two. Keep doing what you're doing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:18 AM Flag
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that is good to know. DD is usually very good when we go out to eat (to a certain extent) and stuff. I hope she'll be well behaved and play well with friends when she is your dd's age. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:21 AM Flag
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One thing --- it was never just "no ... no ... no" with her. If she didn't listen, I'd escalate. Take her out of the situation, give her a time out, get her attention somehow. She knew a "no" meant business. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:30 AM Flag
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i'm doing that. and it's not me. it's dd. talking to her is like talking to a wall. it has no impact on reality. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:17 AM Flag
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ugh. doesn't it frustrate you sometimes? i kept saying "no. stop taking those snacks and toys out of the bag. no" over and over again. at one point, DD fell on her rump and pitched a fit. she is usually pretty good, but lately it's been really hard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:20 AM Flag
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lol. sometimes? how about 82% of the time? i try to remind myself that she really just doesn't have the ability to follow instructions or control her desires. but that doesn't do much for my mood about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:26 AM Flag
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i know. i have a really bad cold and i thought i was going to cry today because I was miserable and DD just would not listen!! all of the other moms were just chit chatting away. oh well [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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This is what having a curious and active 2 YO is all about. You are doing fine. They'd be much more irritated if you said nothing and let her just go at stuff. You did fine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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my dw and I parent like that. It makes the Park Slope playgrounds a lot more fun when the other kids are with nannies than when they are with their parents. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:34 AM Flag
[ - ] car seat or not on overseas, overnight flight with 2 year old DS in business? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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not. business seat should lay fairly flat right? i think my daughter sleeps better not in the car seat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:12 AM Flag
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yes, for traveling around europe [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:13 AM Flag
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We never bring the car seat on the plane, so I vote no. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:13 AM Flag
[ - ] Dry, brittle fingernails here -- any questions? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.28.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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ugh NO, bc you are ME. I hate this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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change your diet and eat muts and olive oil [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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muts? right. if you want the ASPCA on your ass [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:38 AM Flag
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how about rubbing olive oil on fingernails? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:48 AM Flag
[ - ] i am just sick, i just realized that i lost all of my accumulated american airlines mile - over 250k. apparently they sent me an email telling me i needed to use some of the miles in order to keep the a/c active. i was in the last weeks of my pregnancy and totally missed the mail. ARGH!!!! i know its a long shot but anything i could do get them to reinstate them? i know its crazy but is it worth a shot? thanks. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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if you stop crossposting, they will [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:12 AM Flag
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call and ask. give proof of birth they may come around.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:12 AM Flag
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Sometimes you can pay a reinstatement fee, or open an affinity credit card and they will reinstate the miles. Definitely play up the pregnancy! Good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:15 AM Flag
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thanks!! maybe there is hope. i will call and see what my options are if any. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:17 AM Flag
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beg? send them ultrasound pictures and a photo of your new baby? almost always worth a try, but don't get your feelings hurt if it doesn't work. Congrats! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:16 AM Flag
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yeah, i can't be too upset if they say no, it was completely my own fault. i will give it shot though. thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:18 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone have a 2nd db that was pretty difficult as an infant? Do you remember what age it got better? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:08 AM Flag
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My first ds was extremely difficult. He is now 9 years old and things have improved about 75%. It only started getting better in the last year or two. Usually difficult//spirited kids are very smart and very active. My advice is stick to a strict schedule and get lots of physical activity and therapy for you and your child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:42 AM Flag
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