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05.28.08, 09:59 AM General Topics
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I am more than 8 months pregnant and huge. I am still shocked that no one offered their seat to me on the subway this morning. Everyone looked down so they wouldn't have to make eye contact!! [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 05.28.08, 09:59 AM Flag
 

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omg. ever since i had a baby, i usually offer. also if a mom is carrying a toddler, i offer. because i've btdt i've become sympathetic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:00 AM Flag
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W/o sounding racist, I found that young Hispanic men were often the only ones to offer up a seat. White men almost never did. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:02 AM Flag
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I agree- minority males always offered me their seat, and the tougher they looked, the quicker they jumped up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:03 AM Flag
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or: this is true, ime. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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same exact experience. had a row of 30-something white men sitting, and the elderly little black woman offered me her seat. dreadful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:07 AM Flag
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i once stood (7 months pregnant) to give an elderly chinese woman with a cane a seat!! There was a young white guy sitting there and this older 40ish white women looked at me then looked at the guy and asked me very loudly do you want to sit down? Which then shamed the mguy to stand [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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So true. Minorities are also the only one's who dig into their wallets for change for subway panhandlers. White men = least generous, dh excluded. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 09:05 PM Flag
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I completely agree! I think they are raised to respect woman more than white men. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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yep. they are more macho, thus women are weaker, so during pregnancy, they really treat the woman gently. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:06 AM Flag
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that's not respect. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 09:27 PM Flag
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It is sad, in a way, because you were raised a certain way, and maybe you believed others were as well to repect elders and those who were in need of something, ie your seat on the train, bus, etc. because of children, pg, etc, and it is shocking to me that so many people are rude. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:08 AM Flag
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we were actually raised that if we were old enough to go to school, we should stand iof there were a few seats left. We were young and had energy, therefore, we should stand anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:09 AM Flag
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agree black men and then hispanic [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:11 AM Flag
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we ride different subways. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:45 PM Flag
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totally true... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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i actually stomped on a man's foot "accidently" and he asked "do you want this seat" and i said "yes" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:05 AM Flag
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I'm 7 months and huge and I hate them all. Especially, especially the fat men who take up two seats. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:08 AM Flag
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Why not just say, "Excuse me. Can I please have your seat?" A dh here and I try and be really aware but sometimes you can't tell and getting that wrong can make you look like an ass and make somebody feel really badly. (Others it doesn't bother and they think it is funny but I'll save that tirade.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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don't worry about that too much. If she's not preg enough that you can tell-- I mean really tell-- it's probably not a big deal that she doesn't sit. IMO. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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I'll start a conversation with a pregnant woman to try and clue the other passengers in. If that doesn't work, I shame them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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OP: I hear what you're saying but I am so big right now, there is absolutely no mistaking that I am very pregnant. There was NO excuse for young men or women not to offer up a seat! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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granted. And it it were my kid I'd be pissed at him. But I'd still say something. Hell, if for no other reason than awareness for the next preg woman who comes along. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:30 AM Flag
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lame excuse. If you suspect someone is pregnant, give up your seat. If it turns out that she's just paunchy, you still did a nice thing. I'm sure her shoes are less comfortable than yours. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 09:08 PM Flag
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I ripped into a woman who tried to steal my taxi when I was 8 mos. pregnant. I swear she nearly cried. It felt great though after so many mornings where no one gave me their seat on the subway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 09:04 PM Flag
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