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[ - ] NANNY question: when interviewing, do you throw out a salary or do you ask them what they want/expect? My current nanny has to leave suddenly & I'm thrown back into the interview process after many years 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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eh, have you ever looked for a job? Done any salary negotiation? It's the same when it comes to hiring a nanny. You are on the employer side, though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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OP: last time I negotiated salary was 10 yrs ago, so it's been a while. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 04:43 PM Flag
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What's with the annoying "eh"? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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I asked, "What do you charge," and then had a response in mind. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 04:44 PM Flag
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ask her what she expects first [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 04:44 PM Flag
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i am currently available for a nanny position i am a 33yrold mom of a 4yrold i am great with kids and also big on being organised [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:24 AM Flag
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I asked them and generally got the "whatever you think" response- which I found irritating. This left me feeling like I was overpaying bc what if they would have done it for less. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:27 AM Flag
[ - ] name poll: Alice, Lucy, Jane. 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:14 PM Flag
[ - ] tips for dealing with morning (all day) sickness? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.04.08, 01:11 PM Flag
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Sour things helped me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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can you just sleep your way through it ? I could only keep down nasty fruit punch flavored gatorade... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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icy water with lemon squeezed in it, lemon candies (Lemonheads, I think they're called). Stay in fresh air as much as possible, near windows, and get a lot of rest. And one day it will be gone- keep reminding yourself of that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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op: takes 9 months for me. did for #1, and for my mom and sis too. was looking for some fresh ideas. i'm only a couple wks into it this time and already don't know how much longer i can deal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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meds! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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The sea-bands helped me a bit, though you get odd looks for the '80's wrist bands [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:29 PM Flag
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also, ginger candies and crystallized ginger. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:30 PM Flag
[ - ] Today is dd's 2nd b-day. MIL just called to ask what she might like as a gift. Was this the first you thought of it, MIL? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:11 PM Flag
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is she coming over tonight? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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No, she lives 1,000 miles away, i.e., whatever she does buy won't arrive for several days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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np: as if your 2 yo cares... don't make a big deal out of this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:29 PM Flag
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maybe it was. Is that so terrible? Better than a week late. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:32 PM Flag
[ - ] Please motivate me to start organizing my house. The movers are coming Monday and I haven't done a thing. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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getting stoned usually gets me in a cleaning mode... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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OP The last time I got stoned, I crawled into a rack of clothes at Dillard's because I just knew that the secutiry people were onto me being stoned. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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that would be bad... i don't leave the house "baked" but inside the house i turn into a cleaning tornado... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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all I have to do is watch one episode of that john and kate plus 8 show and then I feel completely inadequate and like a slob schlub pig. I always always clean my house after that show [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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How does she do it? My dh thinks she's a bitch but i think she rocks. Somebody has to take charge and if they need to get bitchy so be it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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agreed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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i think she's amazing... but i wonder about having twins and then so quickly going back for more med help and ending up with six. it's a fucked up situation to implant that many, to retry so quickly, etc tec... that being said, she's certainly coping well.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:24 PM Flag
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I'm guessing they are packing? Go into a room, set timer for 20 minutes. Fill up a bag of garbage, a bag to donate. Repeat until 20 minutes are done in each room. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:34 PM Flag
[ - ] what movies express your personal philosophies? I recently saw Coming to America and Parenthood again when they were on TV after years of having forgotten them. those movies pretty much sums up my views on life 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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Betty Blue, After Life, Star Wars [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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^^not sure about summing up a philosophy, but these really resonated with me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:18 PM Flag
[ - ] In order to celebrate Obama's nomination, DH and I had sex for 5 hours last night after his speech. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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good for you! we don't usually need a "reason" to have sex but whatever gets you off deary. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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if he wins you won't walk well for a week. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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I'm exhausted just thinking about that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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are you walking funny today? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:35 PM Flag
[ - ] We pay nanny of 2.5 yrs $850/one DC (started at $650. raised 3x). We are having #2 -- what is appropriate raise? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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wow. Those are big raises! everyone I know raises $25/year and $50-100 for a 2nd child. Honestly, I think you put yourself in a bad situation by raising so much for yearly raises. Don't know what to tell you. Will the older child be in school when the younger is born? If so, will you be taking the older child to school or will your nanny? Do you SAH or WOH? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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Thank you so much. I know you are kind of right about the past raises, it was a little failure to plan right on our part. I WOH, and she will be bringing DS to school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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Then I think you need to increase to $950. No only will there be a 2nd child, but she will need to shlep that child to and from school each day, so having your older child in school doesn't actually make her day any easier. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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She is one of the best paid I know - unless she has unusually long hours. don't think another raise is needed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 02:43 PM Flag
[ - ] DD broke her arm at daycare last week. She was holding a rope they use to bring the kids to and from the playground and another kid pulled the rope, breaking her arm. Teacher waited 4.5 hrs. to call me, even though she cried a lot and arm hanging limp. I was all set to find new situation--would be difficult, but I couldn't see leaving her there another day. But I spoke to director, and she said all the right things and implemented major changes to safety protocol. It kinda took the wind out of my sales and now I'm not sure whether to pull her anyway. WWYD? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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that's horrible. I don't think I could keep her there after that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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the teacher waited almost 5 hours to call you and you don't think you should pull out DD? what if this was somethign even more serious than a broken arm???? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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Director had a meeting with all staff and told them all that parent must be called immediately. She apologized and sais teacher was wrong to wait. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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what i would say is "i don't care what safety protocols you put in place after this incident! the problem is, no one called me when my child's arm was broken after almost 5 hours!!!!!" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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^^sails [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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I would talk to my ped. who would have a lot more experience with broken arms. Maybe your ped will tell you lots of parents wait a long time, don't realize the arm is broken. OTOH, maybe your ped will tell you that only a moron wouldn't have realized that immediate medical care was required. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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her daughter was crying and her arm was limp. she shoudl have called the parent [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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ita. A friend of mine is a K teacher and had a student break her arm on the playground, and she kept her in the class all afternoon because the child didn't complain that it hurt! She needed surgery too- it was awful, and my teacher friend was a wreck about it. But she really didn't know that it was serious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:11 PM Flag
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my mom waited 2 days before taking me when i broke my arm as a kid. i wasn't freaking out, i could move it in all directions, and she didn't think it was anything more than hurt. after two days of soaking in epsom salts, she took me and they put a cast on it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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^i was around 9 when it happened -- i remember the whole thing, and i totally don't blame her. i didn't think it was broken either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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my mother waited 5 days after my sister broke BOTH arms and only took my sister to the hospital because school was starting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:35 PM Flag
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I can't imagine that the teacher knew it was broken or how bad it was hurting your child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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how does your daughter feel? does she want to go back and holds no grudge, or is she fearful? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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np: this would be the determining factor for me too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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I think I might ppull her. Poor kid!! How old? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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my dd broke her leg last summer slipping on some paper. we didn't take her to the hospital until the next day, mid-day. it is not always an easy call. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:36 PM Flag
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my mother is a piano teacher and had a student in her class who had two broken arms for about 5 days until my mother noticed. i broke my foot, and my mother (the same woman, obviously) waited about 5 hours to bring me to the hospital. it is fine. did your daughter cry the full 5 hours? i doubt it. i can understand you would feel this way, but i don;t think the teacher was necessarily in the wrong and that you have to pull your kid because of it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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In the teacher's defense, it seems so unlikely that being pulled while holding a rope could break an arm. My friend waited days before realizing her dd's arm was broken from a fall off a bike. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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did they put ice on it? offer ice? did they care for her-- in other words does your daughter feel safe and cared for there? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 03:47 PM Flag
[ - ] DH and I met when we were in college and worked parttime at the Gap. We used to stay late and have sex all over the story, including on top of piles of clothes! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:00 PM Flag
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my question: are you guys still so hot for each other? and how long have you been married? and do you get horny when you go to the gap now? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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Yes we are still hot for each other after 9 years of marriage....sex abotu 3-4 times a week. And yes I get horny at the gap [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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and? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:02 PM Flag
[ - ] I was so afraid about my boobs looking bad after breastfeeding and after almost 2 years of nursing, i think they look pretty good. Not as perky as they used to be, but not horrible looking either. Just wanted to put that out there for anyone else who is nervous about this. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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mine are as perky as ever but much smaller [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:00 PM Flag
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mine are bigger, although i am heavier than i was before being pg and they are a tiny saggy, but still pretty cute. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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i'm left with one much larger than the other... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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they still have milk in them to keep them perky. Once you dry up completely they will deflate. BTDT. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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it's been almost 3 months, there's no more milk [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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i'm totally deflated, but i don't care, my bra fixes the issue, i love my deflated floppy boobs and so does my dh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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we call them the "dog ears"... i sort of hate mine... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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That's hysterical. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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i am laughing through my tears, however... i used to think my boobs were a secret great asset... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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i consider it (the floppy twins) a badge of honor, child birth and nursing, the entire ordeal is hard hard hard (it was for me) and i'm proud of my body for doing it, even the floppy results, i earned these stretch marks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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i know i've earned it and my body has done some great things for me and my dc, but i do miss the "old" me... i hate aging probably more than i should and i fear it... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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mine looked good after a year of nursing. I've heard, and believe, that it's more genetics and pregnancy itself that wrecks the boobs, not the actual nursing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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