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[ - ] Thinking about starting therapy again - though I am not a fan. Anyone have experience with a psychologist who also bills themselves as a Life Coach? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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Life Coach- that's a ridiculous reason to charge more [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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Believe me I am cynical enough about this process as it is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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I've been in "real therapy" for years. And I'm still nuts. But I think it hardly matters what the person calls him/herself -- it's all about whether they are perceptive and you click. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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So can I ask why you stick around? Are you seeing substantial albeit incremental changes after all these years? Often I think it becomes a place to blow off steam and get sympathy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:56 PM Flag
[ - ] IB moms: Will bonuses suck this year, or just not increase? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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not in IB but it sounds like the people I know who are in that line of work are planning for bad or non-existant bonuses. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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Not going to happen. Bonuses never evaporate all together. They can be hit, but comp follows an S-curve. There is an absolute floor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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Can you be more specific? IB is still pretty broad. My group has been doing very well, so I expect to be flat to up from last year. Other groups are doing very poorly and will probably be down. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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It depends, if the bonus was decent last year then I think your bonus will suck this year. That's because the firms that paid well last year realize that they didn't have to to retain talent. That post about having an absolute floor is nonsense. There can be a zero bonus. It depends what department you're in and what the profitability is in that department [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 06:04 PM Flag
[ - ] Name Hannah's sister please 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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banana [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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Rachel, of course [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:40 PM Flag
[ - ] so tired of NYC. We would love to move to Hawaii and live by the water. I'm in finance and my dh is a PT. We have one dd. Do you think we'll get by in Hawaii? We've only been there once & loved it. I'm willing to work in hotel. What do you think? I've lived in NYC all my life & am so tired of it. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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Once you get there you might find it boring. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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unless you get into the private school there (and they mostly take native hawaiians), schools are complete crap. plus, cost of living is crazy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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Have you lived there? Just curious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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dh family has a home there, a family member teaches at one of the hawaiian schools [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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True - have to get into Punaho (?) (Obama's alma mater), or you're sort of screwed, school-wise [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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I think a basic 2 bedroom will run about 1 mil - makes NYC look like applachia [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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yeah, why not try moving to the East or West Coast first. Even Florida...I hear you can get a deal of real estate! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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Cost of EVERYTHING is high in Hawaii, may be more than NYC. I agree Hawaii is nice, but unless you are a surfer family or something, the place would be best for visiting, not living. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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np: Much higher than NYC for food, gas, amenities. And getting healthcare out there is really weird - everyone I know flies back to mainland for anything serious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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I have some friends who moved to Hawaii. Both attorneys, very happy wit their choices. But it is VERY hard to be so far from their family in NY. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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i think if we move, my mom and dad will follow as they love being around my dd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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maybe but that is a rather huge assumption [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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ah... wouldn't everyone? Go figure it out and tell the rest of us how to do it. If we knew we wouldn't be here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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how about southern california? real estate is down about 25% there year over year. you'll be closer to home [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 06:32 PM Flag
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Just be aware that everyone there works multiple jobs, which is necessary because salaries don't match the cost of living. My friend is a tech professional, adjunct professor and runs a consulting company. For the most part, the price of things are comparable to NYC, but salaries are about 40 percent lower. So while you are willing to work in a hotel, you would have to have other sources of income. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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friend did this - they lasted a year. everything on the island must be imported, so the prices are often worse than nyc. and, as another poster explained, the salaries aren't commensurate. check out charleston, sc or north carolina (if you want hawaii, you won't be happy with florida). Or you could try california or portland, oregon on the west coast. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:07 AM Flag
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I'm with you about being tired of NYC. Seriously...I am so over it. It was fun being single, fun as married couple, but with db, i hate it. I don't even want to go outside. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:09 AM Flag
[ - ] Repost: Trying to figure out invite for DD's gym bday party. 1:30pm so I'm only serving cake (always served pizza at past parties and they just get tossed). What's a nice way to state that on the invite so people don't show up hungry? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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join us for cake and ice cream at blah blah blah [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:37 PM Flag
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yep [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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pizza gets tossed? it's always been scarfed down by parents and kids at all partied I've ever attended. I suppose you could say "cake and light refreshments will be served" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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It's a strange time. The gym portion ends at 2:30 and at that time nobody wants to eat. Not hungry after lunch, too early for dinner. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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i would go with the above- cake and light refreshments served [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:42 PM Flag
[ - ] 6yo DS has weird rash. Started on his face, now spread to chest and back with a little on arms and legs. Google came up with scarlett fever and rubella. Any other ideas? Calling doctor in the morning (yesterday I thought it might just be heat rash, but it's clear something is up tonight). 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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honestly, i cant believe you people who post on UB what is wrong with your kid. call the dr! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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It's not an emergency, I can't call the dr now. And I posted because I'm a little nervous and feel guilty that I didn't realize it wasn't heat rash right away. Give me just the smallest break please. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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any vaccines or cold/illness symptoms in the past week? Is it on the palms/soles? Scarlett fever is the rash with strep throat- definately a possibility- sore throat, stomach ache or headache? Rubella unlikely presuming he was vaccinated [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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He had a mild cold last week. Throat looks clear. Was just looking further and seems as though a lot of viruses can cause these rashes - that reassured me. Thx. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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if he is well otherwise, rash will likely go away within a few days (aka viral exanthem) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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my dd had the same and it was called scarlett something. She got it when we went to St. Lucia. It's harmless and antibiotic should work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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my kids often get a fine rash when getting over a virus. but if it's still there in the morn check it out.lots of strep out right now. gl. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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Thanks again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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Fifth's Disease? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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Oh, hadn't thought of that one. Will check it out, thx. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 06:05 PM Flag
[ - ] How much is a cab from LGA to Penn Station? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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40 bucks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:33 PM Flag
[ - ] can you tell me the daily schedule for a NY public school 1st grade - is it 8:30 - 2:30 or 3? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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It varies by school. Ours is 8:30 to 3:20. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:28 PM Flag
[ - ] if I made a filet mignon on saturday night, can I eat it for lunch tomorrow or is that too long? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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i'd eat it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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i wouldn't but meat leftovers bother me anyway [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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yes three days is fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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I would never have left over filet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:46 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone ever gone to a Pediatric Endocrinologist re early puberty? My 6 y/o has recently grown arm pit hair which I believe is not supposed to happen for a while. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.09.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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Just read your post and laughd. I thought that was happening to my 6 year old too. I am embarassed to admit that it was dirt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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NP: OR laughed? ???? Hopefully it is just dirt but if it's not you should consult your pediatrician. Best of luck to you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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Yes, my 6 y/o has the same problem. Diagnosed with advanced bone age, and watching for other symptoms of early puberty. He/she should have kidney scan to see if adrenal gland is enlarged or has tumor, just as a precaution... there's often no obvious reason why this happens. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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I've heard this could be due to hormones in meat and dairy, but I'd do my own research (and buy organic, etc.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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OP: Any good doc recs? What tests should I expect for a dd? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:48 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone have similar issues w/3.5 yo? For most part, he is pretty easy to deal with, but he does have tendency to whine a lot when he doesn't get his way (whether it's tv, snack, wanting a playdate and not being able to have one, etc.). The other issue is that he has started to rudely confront strangers in public places, much to my mortification. For instance, if he sees a kid in line at grocery around his age/size -- or even considerably older -- he might point his finger and say "I AM GOING TO GET YOU!" He has even done this kind of thing with adults who, trying to be nice, say hi or ask him a question. I try not to draw too much attention to it right then and there as he's not that loud (it just looks bizarre) and the other party always seems more amused than offended, but I try to really emphasize the Golden Rule in this situation. Also tell him that if he does such things to strangers, people will think he's mean (or weird) and won't want to play w/him. He doesn't really seem to care, so I'm wondering if I should begin some kind of immediate consequence in these situations (and if so, what, since time-outs just don't seem to work for us). The thing is, I am really trying to be less hard on him, as I had a realization a while back that I was expecting way too much for his age. I also know that this kind of behavior is somehow related to the pirate/superhero role play he's picked up at nursery, so it's a tough one. Incidentally, he is not like this w/people he knows. Anyone btdt? Any advice is greatly appreciated (for whining as well). Thanks! 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:23 PM Flag
[ - ] WWYD? We've been trying to potty train my 2.9yo dd. Had a bit of success when she was 2yo, but then my ds was born and we didn't want to push her. She resisted for a while, but has pooped on the potty twice in the past ten days. Tonight, she sat on the potty for a long time with her books, but then wouldn't get off. I could see she'd pooped, but she kept insisting she hadn't and that she still had to go to the potty. After a long time, finally lifted her off the potty and then she was fine, but we had lots of tears and she seemed so sad. We really aren't pressuring her, but I'm not sure how best to proceed. Any advice? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.09.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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i would dial it back a while. give it two months and gently try again. they are ABLE to do it but may not be ready to. Less pressure, let her lead and it goes much easier. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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My son was about to turn 3, and had been interested in it around 2, but lost it totally when we moved. My wife was out of town last week, so I spent a really hard three days doing nothing but potty training him. It was exhausting. I just stayed next to him all day. He pooped and peed on the floor and in his underwear, but I never put a Pull Up on him. After his successes I praised him mightily and gave him a special Curious George fruit snack. I didn't specifically say it was for poo or pee. It's been a week and with the exception of bedwetting at night, he's totally trained. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:49 PM Flag
[ - ] Hi! I'm a single mom of a 2yo ds. I recently met someone with my son for the first time at a local symphony event. Is this possible? I've never met a man who made the first move while I had my son with me. Is this weird?? We have a first lunch date Wednesday. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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My friends tell me it's possible. Never happened to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:20 PM Flag
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weird like you mean he's somehow interested in your son?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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pedophile? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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