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[ - ] small vent. dh's aunt, with whom i get along well. called today and woke me up while i was napping. i was napping bc i haven't been sleeping much lately and am badly overtired. she called my cell, dh's and hte home phone., so i thought it was important. it wasn't. then she tells me that i sound tired and should see dr bc maybe there's something wrong. YOU WOKE ME UP!! I"M TIRED BC I NEED TO SLEEP. THat's all. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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vent heard and sympathized with. my mom does this with what seems like eerie timing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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funny how they know. dh's aunt is great in many ways, but she says things that get to me (from time to time). the last thing i remember was 5 yrs ago. i was just preg with dd and she told me, trying to be supportive, that if i had genetic tests done on the baby and wasn't happy, it would be ok to have an abortion. (I swear, i hadn't asked a thing to this end). hmmm... i wonder if dh's aunt is your mother. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:13 PM Flag
[ - ] What is with the Brooklyn vs. Manhattan posts today? Some of us on the NY boards live in Queens and the Bronx. Last time I checked NYC meant All 4 boroughs. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.10.08, 02:05 PM Flag
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all five. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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oops. right. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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i wasn't sure if you were joking! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Please help me decide where to move - Ridgewood or Montclair (NJ)! I'm so confused and we're house hunting in both towns. TIA! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:05 PM Flag
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i think the schools are much better in ridgewood [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:11 PM Flag
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That seems to be the general thought, although I'm hearing that Montclair has really become very good in the last few years. Aside from schools, any other reasons? Thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:15 PM Flag
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Ridgewood, Ridgewood, Ridgewood! I went to Mtc public schools and it was awful!!! I live in a different state now.... The schools are diverse but totally dangerous at the middle school and HS level - fights all the time!! I graduated 15 years ago, but I have hear it has only gotten worse! I know a lot of people who live there. The only physical fights I ever really saw up close were in the the cafeteria, gym, locker room... The PS system is fine for your young kids, but not for middle school and high school. My 3 other sibs would tell you the same thing and many friends! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 10.17.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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Ridgewood is a nice, preppy town. High taxes but a lot of good services. Nice downtown with cute shops. Schools are highly rated.. Not a lot of diversity if that's what you're looking for, though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 03:10 PM Flag
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I love both, but I am also not sure what to believe re: the schools in Montclair. Where can you get a better house? How do the commutes compare? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 10.17.08, 05:44 PM Flag
[ - ] Why can't I reply to posts? Anyone else have this problem? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:04 PM Flag
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yes a few people have reported this. try closing your browser & quitting & then reopening. that might work [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:06 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone been banned from UB since the change? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:04 PM Flag
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oh the good ol' days. Getting banned for 53 minutes or 2 weeks or one time 7 hours. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:08 PM Flag
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YES- ME. i defected to another BETTER site but i won't say the name cause i don't wanna get banned from this site. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:16 PM Flag
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i don't think they ban for that. that said, i find the "other site" to be creepy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:18 PM Flag
[ - ] just got 18mo evaluated for early intervention program for speech therapy. they qualified him. why do i feel sad? anyone have any experience with EI? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:04 PM Flag
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what were the signs that he needed this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:05 PM Flag
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he only says one word... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:06 PM Flag
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out of curiousity... what is the word she says? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:26 PM Flag
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hot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:49 PM Flag
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no, but my ds gets CPSE services (the next level up after EI). Be glad that your ds's problem was caught early. He'll be fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:06 PM Flag
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I wouldnt feel sad. My daughter's experience with EI was wonderful....and now, at 4.5 she is the biggest, clearest chatterbox and sings up a storm. EI is a leg up for a little one and it is better to get it now, the earlier the better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:08 PM Flag
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I had the same thing happen when EI came to see our son (prompted by a UB post btw)...and I freaked. I promptly had DS seen by a neurologist who muttered darkly and said he saw "red flags". I was disconsolate of course. Now DS is 21 months, goes to EI and still has only a few words. BUT I strongly believe he is okay and it will work out whereas before I was worried about all kinds of things. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:12 PM Flag
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I had mixed feelings as well when my 18 mos old qualified. He had no words, was reevaluated at 2 yrs and had caught up, so no longer qualified. Good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:13 PM Flag
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My ds said less than 10 words at 24 mos. (Mama, Dada, no, can't recall the others!). After 6 mos of speech therapy, he was up to speed and at age 5, he talks a mile a minute. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:52 PM Flag
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my ds has been in EI for motor skills since he was 13 months. It has been wonderful for him. Great experience, so glad and relieved that he is doing it. It is nice to have an outside person evalutate (and play) with your child 1x week. It provided me with a sense of calmness. That said, before I started I was nervous and a bit frantic. No regrets though, quite the opposite [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 03:03 PM Flag
[ - ] 2.5 yo DD spent the night at MIL's and I found out she had soda and gum - first time ever for each, and I would definitely not offer these items to her. WWYD - say something to MIL or leave it be and assume it will happen only rarely, if ever, again? 32 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:02 PM Flag
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let it go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:03 PM Flag
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RELAX! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:03 PM Flag
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try to let it go... that's what grandparents are for, to corrupt your kids without consequence... it's their prize for putting up with their own kids' crap for their whole lives [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:03 PM Flag
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^^ you'll get that prize when you're a grandparent [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:04 PM Flag
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if she gave it to dd at 2.5 I assume it won't be an isolated instance [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:04 PM Flag
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if anything, mention it to MIL very light heartedly and say that you prefer they are treats. not too often. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:05 PM Flag
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say nicely that your ped doesn't want 2 yos to have gum and soda. Where is MIL from...I can't imagine a grndmother who would do that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:05 PM Flag
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huh? grandmother = treats and being spoiled [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:12 PM Flag
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gum and soda for a 2.5 yo? Come on. JUjst not appropirate. My mom gives a few Hershey Kisses or some M&M's or ice cream with extra chocolate syrup on it. And not for a 2 yo without asking. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:18 PM Flag
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np i don't muind gum so much. but at that age, need to be watched. i have more a problem with soda. would only let dd have it if she brushes her teeth after. that's actually something i'd mention. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:19 PM Flag
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are you really serious? I think it is insane to be a nag over a stick of gum and a glass of soda. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:20 PM Flag
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not sure if you're talking to me or the pp... it's one thing to mention it. another to nag. i'd mention it. MIL might not know OP has a prob with it and perhaps woudln't do it. bc there ar eplenty of other treats she can give too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:22 PM Flag
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OR: I wasn't suggesting nagging and I even gave the OP a sensible way to present her reason for not allowing it. And there are nice treats for a 2 yo that an grandmom can give...pudding, ice cream, chocolate milk, home made cookies or pie....just no need for those particular items at 2.5 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:29 PM Flag
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id be freakin, id have dh tell her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:05 PM Flag
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yes say something to MIL. Just say nicely that little Mary told you she had this and you would appreciate if this was the first and last time since you and HER SON decided not to give your kids this CRAP [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:05 PM Flag
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yes mention something. Tell DH to tell his assbackwards mom not to give this crap to your dc..in nicer words :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:06 PM Flag
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this would PISS ME OFF but did you give her the do's and don't when it comes to snacking that your dc is allowed? Some ppl lack common sense [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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OP: no, I didn't - guess I'll say something if it comes up. I don't want to rob her of being a grandma, but that stuff is gross for toddlers, IMHO [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:12 PM Flag
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Wow I am glad we are not friends, it is ONE TIME people and it is not crack. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:13 PM Flag
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or: well you are being a bit dramatic...but soda and gum have no business in a 2yr old stomach. The gum is a choking hazard [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:17 PM Flag
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Is gum a choking hazard? Otherwise, just let it go. Make sure DD understand that these "treats" are only found at Grandma's house, because at home we eat healthy, nutritious foods. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:15 PM Flag
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is that a rhetorical question? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:16 PM Flag
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My DC are older, so I don't remember. If it's a choking hazard, you gotta tell Grandma no. Otherwise, spoiling is her privilege. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:22 PM Flag
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I agree- and my 3.5 yo understands that chocolate milk only happens at grandma's house. Never asks for it at home [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:29 PM Flag
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I think grandmothers are allowed to spoil a little and give treats that you might not at home, but the gum would worry me as a choking issue still at that age. I would say something to her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:16 PM Flag
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If this is getting you so riled up I think you need to prepare yourself for the next 15 years. Parenthood means giving up a lot of control. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:17 PM Flag
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that's bullshit. Other ppl don't have the right to feed your dc crap if this isn't what you allow. PPL need to respect what parents allow and don't allow [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:18 PM Flag
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People who are providing free babysitting do get a bit of leeway. Especially when they raised DH just fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:21 PM Flag
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oh geez - she wasn't there for the "free babysitting", FWIW [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:22 PM Flag
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unfortunatley, this isn't really true. you only have so much control over what your children do or don't do. and quite frankly, i'd rather dd be with someone i trust, who will keep her safe and love her than worry over a stick of gum. as with everything, you have to pick your battles. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:24 PM Flag
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I'm not all riled up - if I had been, I would have said something right away. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:18 PM Flag
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what is so bad about soda once in a while? i think teaching children certain foods are off limits only increases the children's desire for the foods. i allow my daughter to have a bit of everything - her choices in the long run seem to be about 80-85% nutritious foods and the balance more "fun" foods. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:21 AM Flag
[ - ] who do u fantazize about? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:02 PM Flag
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almost every good looking man i see... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Holy crap! I just got home from work, and I got THE LETTER!! I literally felt dizzy when I saw it. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.10.08, 02:01 PM Flag
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what did it say?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:01 PM Flag
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what letter? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:01 PM Flag
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what does it say [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:01 PM Flag
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Are you telling the truth????? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:04 PM Flag
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false alarm -- wrong letter. sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:04 PM Flag
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huh? What was it the lottery? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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fake [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:05 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm 32, married...due to career reasons, will attempt to start getting pregnant at age 34/35. No history of past pregnancy/miscarriage/abortion. Just scared after hearing the stories on NYT (Patient voices - Infertility)...does anyone recommend anything I can do NOW, to ensure pregnancy later? 58 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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there aren't any guarantees, but make sure you are at a healthy wt and work out-will make pg and labor much easier. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:01 PM Flag
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no, just don't worry. you'll be fine. or, if you're really worried, start trying now and figure your career around it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:01 PM Flag
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i cut out caffeine and both hubby and i took multi vitamins daily, i got pg fast at 37, gl [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:02 PM Flag
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You cut out caffeine how much before trying to get pregnant. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:03 PM Flag
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gradually and then mostly had decaf during the week, a cup of caf on the weekends [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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We tried all that and ended up having to do IVF because of tube problem. Get checked out both of you first if you are having trouble getting pregnant before you spend a lot of energy doing other things. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:08 PM Flag
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just have sex when you are ready. You can't predict. I never had a pg before and thought I was going to have a hard time. At 32yr I got pg after the first try, had #2 at 36 and now pg with #3 at 40yr old. Mind you I was sexually active since I was 16yr old and never once had a pg. I was just very lucky [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:03 PM Flag
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no guarantees, but clean up your diet. cut out processed foods. take vitamins. folic acid. chart your periods to see if they're regular. (a la TCOYF). exercise. yoga. swimming etc. anything you think you'll continue while pregnant. (yoga was a godsend for me when preg). take the time to quit or reduce any bad habits you may have. be they smoking, weed, drinking, caffeine, sugar. peraps lose some weight but only if you think it's really necessary. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:03 PM Flag
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my reproductive endocrinologist says NONE of this - aside from drinking, drugs, and caffeine (and weight loss if you're obese or have PCOS) affects fertility. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:06 PM Flag
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it's more about preparing your body to get ready to carry a baby. get as healthy as possible. i talked to an herbalist who specializes in reproductive health bf starting to try. this is what she suggested. none of it is an absolute must. but it helps. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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actually big link between nicotine/fertility.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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OP: thanks, helpful. Except caffeine and maybe using Splenda, no real risk factor. I exercise, BMI 19.5, not on the pill. Do have longer cycles (35 days) and 1-2 times a year miss my period before starting the following month (stress I guess). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:08 PM Flag
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actually, i'd say with your BMI, maybe you need to gain a bit of weight, if anything. but if that's your natural weight, no worries. i would say if stress affects your periods (it does mine), try finding some things that reduce your stress. be that therapy (which i think is a good thing to try bf having a baby anyway. helps you sort some things out bf a huge life change). and again, yoga. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:10 PM Flag
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omg why don't you just stop living. no reason to do this unless you are having problems [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:56 PM Flag
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bank your embryos is best guarantee. you can also see an RE now and have FSH tested and get antral follicle count done - will give you some sense of where you are with your biological clock (every woman is diff. and i've seen plenty of very young - altho more older women at the RE's office). ultimately, if not having kids is something you'll really regret you might want to bump it up a bit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:05 PM Flag
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stupid idea - many of them don't make the thaw. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:53 PM Flag
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Good idea about seeing an re & taking a FSH test - it "dates" you eggs so you can really tell how much time you have. Only prob is at your age it might show a false positive - can take the test 9 times & if the 10th time is a bad number that trumps all the others. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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Try now. You never know how long it could take. You can't plan it like a career. May be easy or it may take years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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np - I completely agree with this. I started trying at age 35 and I've been trying over a year now with IVF. We've spent $40k and had lots of stress and heartache over it. harder than juggling with my career? definitely not. hopefully you won't be me, but be careful with thinking you can schedule everything. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:10 PM Flag
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sorry I hear you. Just that if I try now....I rarely would ever see my baby... what is the point of having a baby, if you can't spend ANY time with it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:17 PM Flag
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i know. nothing's perfect. i'm trying now and will start medical residency next month. it's just the way it is - now or never. somehow i'll make the best of it and db will be ok too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:20 PM Flag
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You'll find a way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:20 PM Flag
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Because believe it or not a 4 month old doesn't really care who changes her diapers & you will have that precious baby for sure in two years when you can ease back a bit on work time & she will relish having you are then even more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:32 PM Flag
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THERE IS SOOOOO MUCH TRUTH IN THIS STATEMENT< OP!!!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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ITA. Don't wait. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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you dont know you have a problem until you try. seriously. the problem might be your dh, too! you can have your ob test your FSH which shows your egg reserve. and you can go for a pelvic ultrasound to make sure you dont have polyps or cysts or anything that could get in the way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:10 PM Flag
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You are not giving yourself time for any problems. If you intend on having more than 1 that is too late imo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:15 PM Flag
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ita. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:21 PM Flag
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ITDA. i had my first at 36 and 2d at 40, and i didn't start trying much before 35. i was lucky, yes, but OP may be as well, adn she may want to space children closer together. lots of people start at 35 and have more than one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:22 PM Flag
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yes. you were lucky. and the point is whether op wants to roll the dice or not. she should just go into her choice with her eyes wide open (and I would really recommend getting screened by a reproductive endocrinologist as part of this - FSH, E2 and AFC). np [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:23 PM Flag
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eh. she can start trying and see what happens. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:25 PM Flag
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sure - NOW. but i wouldn't wait until 35 unless she'd be ok with not having kids, using donor eggs, or adopting if it comes to that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:26 PM Flag
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and i hope she can start saving up for the ivf that she may need for #1 and is likely to need for #2 or #3. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:27 PM Flag
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i think that is alarmist. yes, she should think through those options. but to jump to assuming she'll need ivf? at 35? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:28 PM Flag
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welcome to my world. and the ivf office is filled with women like me. sorry to say it but i'm just laying it out there. wish i had known. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:30 PM Flag
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i'm not saying it doens't happen (at every age) and of course OP needs to think about waht she'll do if that happens. but its nto at all a sure things, or even more likely than not at 35. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:35 PM Flag
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ITA, signed career mom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:39 PM Flag
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32 is young. But once you hit 35 you are considered a little more high risk and your doctor will have you for an amino when your PG etc. I would say start trying - I have a low FSH for my age (7.2) and am still have a hard time getting PG. I have been trying for number 2 for two years and gearing up for my 6th IVF. No one plans for infertlity - it just happens and it sucks. I would not wish it on anyone. I would get tested by an RE who takes your insurance. If there is any sign of trouble start trying right away and find the best RE you could afford. Gl to you with your career and family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:23 PM Flag
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OP: I guess take home point...see a RE. I have United Healthcare, money is not a constraint....any recs for a RE and OBGYN, I should start building a relationship with? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:30 PM Flag
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I loved my RE Dr Janet Choi with Columbia and i love my ob dr Sharon Patrick (affiliated with Roosevelt) both take United HC [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:48 PM Flag
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thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:51 PM Flag
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why would you see an RE now -I think this is fake. You cannot be for real [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:58 PM Flag
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Dr. Griffo @ NYU gave me my girls [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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You are potentially choosing your career over having a child. If you are comfortable with that choice, great. But if you aren't, or think you might not be, you might want to re-think it. DH can bank his sperm (and should), but there's not much you can do except stay healthy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:30 PM Flag
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no, she is potentaily choosing her career over her bio child. which is a real thing, but not the same as no child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:38 PM Flag
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^^ (Can't reply to a reply for some reason). You are right. Adoption is an option, albeit an expensive a difficult one. So is surrogacy. My neighbors (a gay couple) had a lovely baby girl by surrogate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:39 PM Flag
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or donor egg, or lots of other things. yes, all more trouble and more expensive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:44 PM Flag
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I had my dd at 36 with no problems conceiving and pregnancy. I think each individual is different. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:42 PM Flag
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I had my 2nd dc @ 36 w/no problems but unable to concieve again after him - 3 lost babies due to chromosonal abnormalities. You cannot predict. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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I had my first at 34 and my second at 37, pregnant the first month with db1 and second month with db2. You might have a problem, you might not. Friend of mine started trying at the same time (same age as me) and finally after multiple tries at *everything*, (including surrogacy, accupuncture, IVF) had donor egg triplets at 40. You just don't know. I wanted to wait one more year and dh wanted to have kids sooner sa I wanted to travel more. But it is sort of irrelevent at this point. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:52 PM Flag
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Don't wait long - 32 is still a good age - it starts to get much harder after 36 - take it from me! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:53 PM Flag
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I would get your FSH tested every few months to see if the number is going up -- that's a concern. I would also see if your tubes were blocked or not with an HSG -- and that's about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 03:06 PM Flag
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What career is worth this? DF had her baby in second year of residency. I had first DB as a junior associate at a biglaw firm. DF announced pg within months of getting new job at an IB. All still have THRIVING careers. JUST DO IT. Adoption is getting more difficult....especially international. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:50 PM Flag
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You are taking a big risk. I got pg at the drop of a hat @ 30 & 33 but had 3 mcs later & finally had to have donor egg IVF at age 36. The only thing you can really do if you are determined to wait is see an RE to evaluate your fertility health & start taking folic acid religiously. Oh & you might try & get exposed to a child w/5ths disease since that causes mcs to pg women unless you have the antibody already :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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OP should get all her booster shots. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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Can't reply to OR who did donor eggs for her third kid. Can I ask why you felt so compelled to go through such great measures for a third kid? Not a slam, I may have to do the same. Just wondering. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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You know, I can't really explain it, part of it ironically was my ability to get pg so easily before gave me an "earth mother" self image, part of it was I didn't even realize how badly I wanted another till I lost the (first) baby. Finally I just really feel that the best thing I have ever done is have my dcs and raise them to feel loved and strong. If I had started earlier, I would probably have had ten! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:44 PM Flag
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There's nothing you can do to ensure fertility. I started trying to get PG at 32. 2.5 years later, I finally got pg via IVF (diagnosis was unexplained infertility). There are no guarantees. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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New York City 06.10.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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I want to know, too. DC took ERB 3 1/2 weeks ago and still waiting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:20 PM Flag
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OR: I just checked their website and report was there. So 3 1/2 weeks! GL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:40 PM Flag
[ - ] dd is 4mo today, and I turn 36 tomorrow... why am I so depressed? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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i dont' know you are both very young [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:58 PM Flag
[ - ] would you take an antidepressant if it gave you major side effects but your life was fairly painful without it? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:58 PM Flag
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yes. but that's because i don't think that you have to have side effects. most of them have very few. and they really really help. take them. if only for a little while, long enough to see that you can be happy again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:58 PM Flag
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i get major awful side effects though. my first fraction of a pill and i'm nauseous and hyper. but i want to see what i 'can' be like [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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try a different med this time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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there aren't any other SSRIs or SSNRIs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:01 PM Flag
[ - ] At what age do DDs typically start playing with Barbies (keep in mind, I hope mine never does, but just wondering what to expect). Thx. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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I have 2 dds 8y and 4yr..they never did. YAY [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:08 PM Flag
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Mine either. "Barbie-ish" is a put-down from my dd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:47 PM Flag
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