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Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

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[ - ] ok, if I do not know the gender of the person I am emailing, what do i do? address it to Mr/Ms. Smith? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:37 PM Flag
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Email isn't so formal -- can't you just say Hello, Or Dear Customer Service, or something? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:38 PM Flag
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this is a job applicant that I want to schedule an interview with. law firm, so we are formal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:39 PM Flag
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Dear Pat Smith, I know it is a little weird, but I like it better than Mr/Ms. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:40 PM Flag
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Do you have first and last name? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:40 PM Flag
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yup. and they are ethnic and i cannot tell the gender, because i am a clueless white person. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:41 PM Flag
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Just say Dear Firs Last, [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:42 PM Flag
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i think i have to do that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:45 PM Flag
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what's the first name, maybe we know [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:42 PM Flag
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amrit. and i googled, there appear to be both men and women with this name. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:43 PM Flag
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doesn't the law firm have a website? most law firms have pictures of each attorney [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 03:08 PM Flag
[ - ] what's an appropriate way to address your nanny's inappropriate dress? (pardon the turn of phrase) 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:36 PM Flag
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Hey, BOARD WHORE, wear a uniform. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:37 PM Flag
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OP: I obviously missed something - is there a search term that explains your reply? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:39 PM Flag
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board whore [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:45 PM Flag
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what's the issue? too sexy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:40 PM Flag
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Try addressing it in terms of expectations. A nanny's job involves a lot of walking and playing in playgrounds, typically. Comfy, active shoes are required. The rest of it you can't say anything about. It's her cleavage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:40 PM Flag
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i heart you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:42 PM Flag
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how does she dress? does she show her tramp stamp off? does she go braless? what's your problem? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 03:02 PM Flag
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I put it up front in the expectations statement, along with wear a watch and keep your cell phone with you when you are out. At this point, you'll just need to say something like, "I need to ask you to dress more appropriately for playing with kids" or "I worry you can't keep up with the kids in those heels... can you wear some flats for running around?" Always rough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 03:48 PM Flag
[ - ] I have to stop logging onto this board. After listening to all of you and your speculation about the 400-500 99s I am now convinced that my 98 will be closed out of all of the citywide and district choices that we selected. My husband says that if he gets a good placement I will have to swear of UB forever because of all the bull-sh*t that I seem to swallow here. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.10.08, 02:34 PM Flag
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amen to that. but honestly, i'm addicted. can we start a ub-anon program? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:13 PM Flag
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Another 98 here -- we'll know this week. Until then "keep hope alive" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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I think 98s have an excellent chance. No way there are 400-500 99s. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:52 PM Flag
[ - ] do you tell people you got a government stimulus check, or are you worried that people will be able to find out (roughly) the amt. of your income by disclosing whether or not you got a check, and how much it was for. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:31 PM Flag
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Funny, never thought of it that way but I did not tell anyone I got it either [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:33 PM Flag
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i guess it hasn't come up in conversation yet [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:48 PM Flag
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Told a group of friends and was actually suprised about one who did not qualify. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:56 PM Flag
[ - ] Calling all Hip Urban Mommies that are in need of a part time gig! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:30 PM Flag
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yes? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:31 PM Flag
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yes? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:36 PM Flag
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How much $$$? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:37 PM Flag
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THIS is my part time gig! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:59 PM Flag
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and? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 03:03 PM Flag
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very curious. i'm up for hearing about this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 03:04 PM Flag
[ - ] 4 yo bit her tongue pretty badly (bleeding) so the idea of dinner is appealing to her stomach but not her mouth. any ideas on what I could give her? she's already had some ice water to ease the pain/discomfort and an ice pop. tia 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:29 PM Flag
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I would make my dd a smoothie with frozen fruit, yogurt, milk, etc. I would think something cold she could drink out of a straw might work? Or a milkshake? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:31 PM Flag
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thanks, good idea. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:33 PM Flag
[ - ] sorry for stupid post. if someone's first name is Amrit, is the person male or female? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:27 PM Flag
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Don't know, but in similar circumstances I've googled the name to see what comes up. That usually will clue you in. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:42 PM Flag
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tried that. got both. sigh! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:43 PM Flag
[ - ] i moved home when my company closed and i also had insomnia. i wasn't getting along well with my mom - who cannot get along with anyone (she has no friends or contact with her family). she told me i had to go to a 'state facility' for my 'drug addiction' -for taking the Ambien my doctor gave me to sleep. i can't forget this -especially because she's still always mean to me and will never feel badly about what she did. WWYD? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:24 PM Flag
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you're not going to like my reply... forget it, and move on. seriously, you are me 5 years ago, and my mother was HORRIBLE to me and pushed my buttons and was incredibly mean and had no friends etc etc... At the end of the day, you cannot control anyone but yourself, and it's a lot more fun to have fun. set your boundaries. don't talk to her if she disrespects you. tell her when you will talk to her again, etc. but really... let it go and get a life for yourself [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:30 PM Flag
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NR: I agree with above but two both of you - you moved home. You have to expect being treated like a child when you act that way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:32 PM Flag
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op: i lost my job and had insomnia. being treated like a child is fine but threatened with being "put in the jail system" is not how a parent 'treats a child.' [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:33 PM Flag
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you need another option than staying with your mom. SHE can't handle it and can't say so, so she's taken you in and is taking her anger out on you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:35 PM Flag
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did she do anything that bad? do you like her- is she nice to you now? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:32 PM Flag
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I didn't move home (sorry, I missed that part of your post) but yes, she was bad to me... freaked out at my wedding and stopped talking to me for 5 months afterwards... and now, we get along well, but it's not because "she is nice to me" it's because I've decided to have a relationship with her. When she starts to get nasty, I immediately withdraw and don't talk to her for a week... If she's nice after the week, we talk again, if not, I give it another week. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:34 PM Flag
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op: she kept telling me i "belonged in the system." i'm a professional who never even tried a drug. i didn't have a paycheck or any friends i could live with. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:31 PM Flag
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I would protect myself from her (she won't change) and have minimal contact with her, perhaps only at birthdays and other holidays. You will feel better when she is mostly out of your life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:39 PM Flag
[ - ] Okay-since we are obviously not getting the letters today, let's come up with something else to debate. Let's take a poll on the number of 99s we think there are. I will go 320 who scored that high, but just 200 who returned their forms with a citywide selected 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.10.08, 02:24 PM Flag
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Donna at Anderson said 200...My guess is 250 with 50 lot returning apps. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:27 PM Flag
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okay, I'll play, I think 325 scored 99, I think at least 200 ranked Anderson 1st, but only 75 ranked Nest 1st. That leaves 50 who either ranked Zoned G&T or did not return application. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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I think about 250 scored 99. Of those, 30 did not return form. 170 ranked A first, and 50 ranked Nest first. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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You left out the proportion who ranked district first. I would have to think that some of the far out people in Brooklyn with good local G&T picked district first [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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Yes, that's possible, and then there are the siblings who want to be in the same district G&T program. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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From your 250 (which I think is a good number) I would do the following: 150 ranked A first and of that 75 ranked Nest second and 75 ranked a district program second, 40 did not return form, 30 ranked Nest first and 30 ranked district first [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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That's pretty good. That would give my dc a 1 in 3 chance in the Anderson lottery! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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glad to oblige! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Of course it had to happen... dd copies everything my mother does. So now, all the little things abt my mom that drive me nuts, i hear from my daughter. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:22 PM Flag
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So true! My 7 yo DD today was watching her little sister's ballet recital, and she criticized EVERYTHING. Sounded just like my mother. I wanted to KILL her. I finally told her if she couldn't shut up she was going to have to sit outside in the hall by herself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:32 PM Flag
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is it possible she gets the criticism from you? i'm just talking about turns of phrase and ways of doing things. and i try not to take my annoyance at my mother out on dd. it's hard, tho. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 03:04 PM Flag
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She was grouchy and didn't want to be there. It turns out that she prefers to be the center of attention. Too. Bad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 03:10 PM Flag
[ - ] i read that doing IVF in countries like Panam costs abt 1/3 the price and the drs are US trained and in US hospitals. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:20 PM Flag
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it's the embryologist you really care about in a fertility practice and good ones are hard to find. less likely to be found in panama perhaps. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 03:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Saw THE MOST boring moving at the Metropolitan Museum today. Quite literally, five people in my immediate vicinity feel asleep. Who knew that Leonardo da Vinci could be so boring? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:20 PM Flag
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there's somethignin teh air at teh Met. i alwys feel sleepy when i am there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:24 PM Flag
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How about it's 95 degrees today. She probably was just tired. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:26 PM Flag
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i once paid $24 admission to the planetarium and fell asleep during the opening scene. those chairs are so comfy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:25 PM Flag
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i cannot stay awake at any planetarium. it is physically impossible for me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:28 PM Flag
[ - ] what are essentials for flying to London with 3 dc under 5? We are in coach, with the bassinet for the baby. I was thinking of getting those neck pillows for the 3 and 4 yo. Are they comfy for them? We are trying to borrow a portable DVD, but if we can't, what other essentials should we bring? Our flight is at 4 pm, so they won't be quite ready to sleep. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:19 PM Flag
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you *must* have the portable dvd player. buy one if necessary. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:22 PM Flag
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I just had a long trip (but with only 1 DC, 4-yo) and brought lots of lightweight books, crayons and those activity pads with writing games and simple puzzles, DH's compputer with DVD drive, and it was fine. The only thing I could have used was a deck of cards to play go fish or something. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:23 PM Flag
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Essentials - send a bouquet a flowers to every fellow passenger who will endure this trip with you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:32 PM Flag
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I wrote this to another post, but the "secret" backpack with things they've never seen before is what I have success with... the standard stuff to color with, magnetic games, finger puppets, and the DVD ! The other woman was right on with that... get the DVD by hook or by crook ! And my kids don't get to open the backpack before the flight... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:35 PM Flag
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we do the secret bag too. works very well. also. LOTS of snacks! LOTS LOTS LOTS. Bring one lovey from home too. Not many, just one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 03:52 PM Flag
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What airline are you flying? Are you sure they still do the bassinets? I know American Airlines does not do them anymore. But AA has outfitted many of their planes with the individual screens which always have kids' movies. It's worth a call so you don't feel the need to lug a dvd player with you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 03:59 PM Flag
[ - ] what age did u start solids? ds is almost 5 months and want to wait til 6 months. he is a healthy baby--weighs 19 lbs? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:16 PM Flag
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that's fine. he's a big baby! mine started solids at 5 months, 8 months and 6 months and they were all a bit smaller than him. They were just ready at different times. No reason to rush. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:20 PM Flag
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#1 started at 4.5 months,w hich was a mistake. #2 at 6 months [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:21 PM Flag
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5mo is fine. started my 1st at 5mo b/c he was always hungry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:21 PM Flag
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I waited until 6 months. I had a friend who ebf'd until 9 months, then started. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 03:44 PM Flag
[ - ] How can I get the board to stop putting most recent post to top of page? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:14 PM Flag
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uncheck 'sort by recency' in your settings on the right [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 03:08 PM Flag
[ - ] Just got back from my 26 week check up and was told I gained too much weight. I'm so upset b/c I try to eat better but I just crave sweet things all the time. I just feel so despondent and that I'm already turning out to be a bad mother b/c I can't even follow simple rules about what to eat. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 06.10.08, 02:11 PM Flag
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oh snap out of it. how much have you gained? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:13 PM Flag
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20 lbs :( [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:15 PM Flag
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don't sweat it...i gained almost 50 lbs. and db was perfect. some women just get really reallly hungry when pg. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:13 PM Flag
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don't worry. with each of my pg, I gained 8 lbs bw dr appts around 22 wks. i gained 40 with my first, 19 with my 2nd and lost all the wt. it is hard for you in this heat, so, if you are like me, you wallow in what is bad. plus, in this heat, it could be water retention [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:14 PM Flag
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if you're craving sweet foods, you may need mor eenergy. so perhaps try eating lean meats, cheeses or nuts when you have those cravings. see how it effects them over a week or two. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:15 PM Flag
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^^oh, and this has nothing to do with being a bad mother. you're fine. everyone does it. (ok, almost everyone) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:15 PM Flag
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it will be fine. just keep eating the best you can and try to get some exercise. I gained a little more than I wanted with all 3 of mine, but I've lost it all too. I gained 34 lb, 38 lb and 42 lb. It took me 5 months, 9 months and 13 months to lose it, but I am now back to my normal weight after #3. I too was depressed about gaining fast with #3. Just do the best you can, but don't stress about it! I too craved sweets a lot when pregnant-try to have things like cucumbers, celery to snack on when you just feel like munching and limit the sweets. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:17 PM Flag
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What is "too much"? I smell BS. I gained 45 my first time and 35 my second. Both times the weight just came off. My friend gained SIXTY, and she lost it all too without any effort. I think you gain what you gain. BUT, I did find that if I cut out all white carbs (including pasta) and ate lots of lean protein, I could go longer between meals. I just wasn't as hungry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:17 PM Flag
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Really really bad advice from your Dr. Follow your body - if you need sweets more its because your body needs more calories. Many many people are retaining water in this weather and it is especially bad if you are pregnant - did they tell you that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:19 PM Flag
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Thanks all - I'm feeling better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:19 PM Flag
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do make sure to drink a lot of water-you need more than you think-you should need to be peeing pretty often. When I noticed I wasn't needing to use the bathroom as often, that was when I gained a big amount (which was partly water retention I think). So I started drinking a lot more and it did help the weight gain slow down. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:22 PM Flag
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too much doesn't exist... my dad is an OB and said I was pacing to be the size of a rhino, but it all came off (almost 65 for #1 and 70 for #2)so I say "Eat" ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:33 PM Flag
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how long did that take, and did you breastfeed? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 10:11 AM Flag
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too much totally exists....recent studies now siggest that pregnancy is leading factor in obesity and that there are many overweight women who have better outomes if they actually lose weight while pg [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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I gained 20 lbs at my 20 week appointment. my OB does not think it's an issue at all. she herself gained a lot during both of her pregnancies. many times, the male OBs make an issue of weight gain and many female OBs think it's a mistake to focus on it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:33 PM Flag
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I gained 60 lbs. with both pregnancies, and was able to lose all the weight the first time - am working on the last 5 lbs. from the second. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:50 PM Flag
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Can anybody explain to me why weight gain is such a hot topic with some OB/GYNs. I had three pregnancies and with all three I had my doctor (three different doctors) tell me all the time I should watch my weight blah blah. In the end I gained a lot, I gave birth to healthy children, I lost my weight sooner or later. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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God, get a new doctor. Mine hassled me, too, and wanted me to see a nutritionist. By term, I had actually only gained 28 pounds. I went to another for the last two pgs. I've been pg 4 times, gained differently with all of them, eaten the same. The smaller gains actually took longer for me to lose, strangely. I've gained 55 (!), 28, 28, 30. Whatever. I am back to my original post all-babies weight. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 11:05 AM Flag
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