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[ - ] I have a friend whose 4 yo dd is a real brat (rude, sarcastic, smart mouth, gets in people's faces, points and says really mean and nasty things) to other kids and adults as well. Friend doesn't seem to notice or looks the other way most of the time. Would you say something to the child or friend? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.10.08, 01:44 PM Flag
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MYOB unless kid says something to your kid. And remove the word "brat" from your vocab b/c it will come through when you do wind up saying something. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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I have been myob-ing for the longest time but now my kid has picked up some of the other kid's "habits" and it's almost like how could I NOT say something. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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how close of a friend is this friend? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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one of my closest friends [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:52 PM Flag
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that's tough then, but I would address with child directly when she acts that way around you as someone posted below. redirect your child and tell that child she can't behave that way in your home [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:58 PM Flag
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good advice. thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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I'll say it again - why would you hang out w/ a parent who doesn't discipline this out of control child? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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easier said than done i guess. friend and i are really close. we have been friends since babies were born. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:52 PM Flag
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I can assure you that your child will one day pass on unwanted habits to another child. It works both ways (unfortunately). You need to find a way to tell your child that this isn't how you behave in your home etc. and focus more on your child than the other. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:52 PM Flag
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if it has got to this point, then avoid playdates [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:58 PM Flag
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np: I prefer PITA kid to brat LOL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:52 PM Flag
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I just couldn't hang out with someone whose kid acted like that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:47 PM Flag
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I know a kid EXACTLY like that and the mom knows. Parents play dumb but she got the hint when ppl (including myself) wouldn't let her kid play with mine. This kid was a real PILL she cursed at her mom in front of everyone [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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yikes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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op: sounds just like my friend's dd! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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yes it does..unfort. I know 2 girls this way. So damn sad [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:55 PM Flag
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If she makes a smart alec remarkt o you, personally, you gently say, "we don't speak to adults that way" and enforce please and thank you if appropriate. If she is rude to your dc, you let dc know that it is wrong, and perhaps do it loud enough for dc to here it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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do you have a 4 yo dc? ime, every 4 yo acts taht way at some point no matter how much discipline/limits parent provides. say nothing, your kid will be there too at some point [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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my son is the same age [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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only see your friend in an adult setting. If she asks why, give a short reason. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:52 PM Flag
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short reason meaning the truth? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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the 'polite' version of the truth [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:56 PM Flag
[ - ] MY Rules for hiring caregivers: 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:44 PM Flag
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Attitude is everything [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:45 PM Flag
[ - ] if i am always 'hurt' by people and feel very bored often: i'm probably depressed? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:44 PM Flag
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could be. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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yeah, maybe [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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op: maybe. possibly.... you guys sound like me! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:49 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone take Pexeva (new improved Paxil)? anyone take Paxil? tell me to not be afraid to try it 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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does Paxil ever really work?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:42 PM Flag
[ - ] why does everyone dislike Alex on real housewives? you can tell she's faking her confidence. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:40 PM Flag
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the word is FAKE..why would anyone like someone who is fake [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:43 PM Flag
[ - ] how many word does your baby say age 11 mos ---- 13mos 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:39 PM Flag
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mama and dada [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:40 PM Flag
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my 13 month old says 20 words [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:43 PM Flag
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said thank you at 11mos [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Ughhh. Cheer me up. This is my second day back to a job I hate (boss is crazy) after maternity leave. So bummed, miss my baby. Totally wish I could be SAHM, but we would have to sell our house....sigh. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 06.10.08, 01:39 PM Flag
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she needs *you* more when she is older. Work hard, save money, get promoted, then stay home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:40 PM Flag
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maybe getting your first paycheck will cheer you up... as a sahm I know I'd love to get one ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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op: i am thinking it is time for a career change. Something more family friendly than working in this Lab...Maybe a teacher. I dont know. It just sucks...I miss her soooo much [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:47 PM Flag
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totally support making changes to make yourself happy. good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:48 PM Flag
[ - ] is 500 a week, car payment and no diaper changing grounds for your helper to treat you like S___ and actb lika a see u nxt tues!? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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you are paying someone $500 a week and she is treating you like crap? Get rid of her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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yes the worst part is shes my sister, [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:42 PM Flag
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OH NO..that is worse. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:43 PM Flag
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she doesnt even change poopie [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:44 PM Flag
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then don't keep her around. your loyalties are to your dc, not your sister. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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never hire family. Grandmothers (ie your mom or is his mom) are even worse. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:43 PM Flag
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never his mom lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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why put up with it? find someone else if she doesn't shape up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:43 PM Flag
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dh doesnt want a stranger, next choice is mom, 4 less days she is a baby nurse anyway [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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then tell you husband he can do the job or you can hire someone competent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:47 PM Flag
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i know but dh works hard and is very good to us, what is a normal pay""? she comes 10 30am - 6 30, i want to choke her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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are you working? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:52 PM Flag
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im tired all the time, wtf [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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that pay seems reasonable for those hours, but if she isn't actualy helping, why have her at all? who cahnges teh diapers? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:52 PM Flag
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that's crazy. i mean, if you want to, fine. but its part of her job. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:57 PM Flag
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she thinks she too good, it wasnt my fault the co. she worked for moved to jersey [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:03 PM Flag
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what does this mean? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:42 PM Flag
[ - ] How funny is this? I send out an Evite about my dh's SURPRISE 40th birthday party. Less than two hours later, my mother calls and leaves a message on our home answering machine asking if I "need any help with planning the surprise party." Dh was standing next to me when I played it back. That was the shortest kept secret ever. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.10.08, 01:37 PM Flag
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LOL! Nice that you're laughing instead of mad at your mom! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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nice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:39 PM Flag
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So double trick him, tell him when it is and make it the weekend before. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:39 PM Flag
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OP: Well, he still has no idea when it is! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:40 PM Flag
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But you have to tell him, so you can really trick him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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nice job mom! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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are we sisters? I can't believe someone else has a clueless mom like mine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Has the D1 lotteries taken place? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.10.08, 01:37 PM Flag
[ - ] Any WOH moms with a shih tsu? Are they OK if they have to stay home for long stretches? Anyone have one and have any insight? DD is 5.5 and we've promised her a dog. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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not a direct answer to your ?, but the American Kennel Association website has pretty good info on breed characteristics, including personality/neediness of each breed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:34 PM Flag
[ - ] Bathroom has beadboard on lower half of walls - currently painted white on top and dark blue on beadboard. Looking for a change and to make room look bigger - would red on top w/white beadboard below do the trick? Thx. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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Dark colors enclose. Go with white on the bed board and a sand or blue or green on top. Restoration Hardware Silver Sage Green loks great set off by white bead board. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:33 PM Flag
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If your fixtures are white and not faded (sink, tub, toilet) you could go with fresh white paint (semi-gloss on bead board) for the whole room. I like Decorator's White. Add color with rug, shower curtain and a picture or two. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:39 PM Flag
[ - ] So - who will I be seeing a PS 9 Gen Ed? 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.10.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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all the bastard sibs of anderson kids. so pissed that they lobbied for and got sib preference at our school without any reciprocal agreement. wtf? how did diane brady let this happen? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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I had no idea that happened. They're the ones who are so insistent on the schools being separate but now that it can benefit them they want them to be linked in a way? We're zoned and had better not be closed out b/c of Anderson sibs! Guess I should go register DC even while holding out hope for G&T. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:47 PM Flag
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How would an Anderson sib get preference at ps 9 Gen Ed? Do they need to go through DOE? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:47 PM Flag
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This is incorrect. There is no preference for Anderson sibs at PS9 G&T, nor did Anderson parents lobby for it. Where are you getting your info? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:46 PM Flag
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exactly -- no sib preference for A sibs at ps9 or ps9G&T. incorrect info; no parent lobby for this either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 06:16 AM Flag
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I believe Anderson sibs would get sibling preference for the g&t at ps9, not Gen Ed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:58 PM Flag
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A sibs aren't getting preference at either school. this is inaccurate information. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 06:17 AM Flag
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I think this is totally false. Have not heard ANYWHERE that Anderson sibs get preference at 9 (G*T or GenEd) or that 9 kids get pref at Anderson. Give me proof. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:08 PM Flag
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they have been lobbying for it, and I heard from someone high in the PTA that they were successful. I am so pissed about this. they also lobbied to get only one G&T class so as not to cut into shared space. And they don't want to give sib preference to ps9. I think if a ps9 kid qualifies for naderson, or a sib of a ps9 kid, they should get preference for anderson over kids outside if they are going to get sib preference at ps9. It is outrageous. they are sucking the resources out of ps9, and pushing for everything that will harm our school. I am now going to lead a major effort to lobby to get them out of the building. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:39 PM Flag
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yup, my 98 is totally screwed in district 3 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:40 PM Flag
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Must say, I am a pretty involved PS9 parent and have never hear word one about such nonsense. Even if such a thing existed, I would assume Anderson would get preference BELOW PS9 and PS9 would have to get reciprocal pref with A. The reason there is only 1 G&T class, however, has nothing to do with Anderson lobbying and eveything to do with general lack of space and the need to not continue with four K classroom each year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:43 PM Flag
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What are you talking about? There is no preference for Anderson sibs at PS9, nobody lobbied for it, nor did Anderson parents lobby for only one PS9 G&T class--that was something Diane Brady wants, not Anderson parent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:45 PM Flag
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I think you have been getting some major misinformation. I'm a pretty involved A. parent; there was no effort to get preference at PS9 for A. sibs (and there is no such preference, or to limit PS9 G&T to one class. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:48 PM Flag
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FALSE INFORMATION. stop spreading this lie. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 06:18 AM Flag
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it is true, although I heard they asked for preference for gen ed. there is no end to what they will take from others [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 03:16 PM Flag
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np: I heard the same thing. they want the gen ed preference because they know its a great school, and it will make anderson more desirable to offer gen ed spots. problem is, that eats away at space for the G&T program at ps9, which will suffer if they continue to have only one class. I would not be for granting this preference for this reason. I want to see 2 classes for G&T next year, otherwise the school will have trouble down the line. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:15 PM Flag
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nnp: Bastards!!!!!!!!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:19 PM Flag
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But PS 9's gen ed is not a "great" school yet. Not enough for Anderson parents to lobby for their unzoned sibs to go there anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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you are wrong about that. they are lobbying. they want access to gen ed and G&T to accomodate themselves. for the G&T, it is not fair to D3 high scoring kids who will have fewer seats, and for the gen ed, they are creating a greater need for more gen ed classes which will harm the G&T program and further decrease space in a top G&T for D3 kids. ps9 cannot let this happen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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np: D3 residents cannot let this happen!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:23 PM Flag
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wrong. you all are insane. anderson has not been lobbying for only one ps9 G&T class; that's a space issue/diane brady issue. nor has the school lobbied for sib preference at the gen ed and/or at the G&T. this is all such bull -- a rumor and completely untrue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 06:20 AM Flag
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it is true, and you are either not in the know, or lying. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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I am a PS9 parent on the PTA or SLT (don't want to out myself) and we have NEVER had ANY discussion about Anderson preferences affecting PS9 class size or number choices. If Anderson is lobbying the DOE for a change in PS9 preferences, then it is such a big secret that even we on the PTA/SLT have never heard of it. So I have no idea who you are to be telling us our business when you are clearly on the outside. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 08:41 AM Flag
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anderson is doing this under the radar. just ask, and you will see. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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I think specific parents are lobbying to get sibling preference at PS 9 G&T for their Anderson sibs who did not score over 97. It is not "the school" that is lobbying it is a few specific parents that are making their case to the DOE [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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nope. its bigger than that, and includes gen ed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 02:22 PM Flag
[ - ] Obama veep vetting team looks at retired military 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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oh, I'm so glad. When Hillary was hawkish, I sure hated her for it, but on him it is cute. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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He might also look at some of former rival Hillary Rodham Clinton's top military advisers in a gesture of unity [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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gotta love that unity. I wonder if there's anything else of her's that he needs to win. It's her obligation to help him out in every way. He deserves to win using her resources, positions, after he has trashed talked her. It would be so ungracious of her to mind, really. [ Reply | More
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please tell me how obama himself trash talked her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:29 PM Flag
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why no, it was only his supporters, his campaign, the main stream media. And after all, he did say she was likable enough. He's a sweetie. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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his campaign? i can understand being upset about some of the things that were said, but you are blaming the wrong person. Bil clinton said inappropriate things about obama but i dont say hillary said them. [ Reply | More
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Dear Bill, please stop posting about how everyone is screwing over your wife and her "team" and how mean Obama was to her... It is over and that's politics. Sincerely, those of us who liked you before this campaign... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:37 PM Flag
[ - ] how common are dairy allergies in kids?? My DD is 8wks, and we suspect a milk allergy. So i have been off dairy for almost 4wks, and she is a lot better. Plan on ingesting some dairy this weekend to confirm. I have just never heard of this before, so wondering how common it was. TIA 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 06.10.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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both of my dds were born with a milk allergy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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^^^once I stopped BF here she was so much better on soy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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^^BTW dc are usually more prone to this if their parents have asthma or allergies themselves [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:24 PM Flag
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op: well, DH has a CRAPLOAD of allergies. But no food allergies. Just everything else. His allergiest is amazed that he doesn't have asthma. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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very common. I was allergic to milk when I was younger. Neither of my parents was allergic, but my dad has hayfever. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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very common? Maybe 2 or 3% of all infants suffer from a milk allergy which most grow out of over time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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I meant very common in a relative sense. Milk allergies are one of the most common allergies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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op: do most kids grow out of it?? I don't really have any allergies (some mild seasonal ones now that I am older), so I am not very well verused on the subject. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:29 PM Flag
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np: many do (i did). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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or: I outgrew it and happily eat dairy products now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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yes. here's a link for you: http://www.kidshealth.org/parent/medical/allergies/milk_allergy.html [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:36 PM Flag
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op:thanks!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:36 PM Flag
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np" my dds grew out of it by 1.5yr - 2yr [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:38 PM Flag
[ - ] is a week after an interview too late to send a thank you note? I just found out I got the job. How do I handle thi? TIA 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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send it and acknowledge that you got the offer. not too late at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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what message should i send? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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just thanks for your time and excited about the offer (if you are) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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wonderful...you are the best!! Just needed a start... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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you're welcome. and congrats. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:32 PM Flag
[ - ] can't tell if I am depressed or am just starting a new chapter...but feel like everyone is boring. go out for dinner on sat. nites or bbqs over the weekend and the conversation is always about how much money people have, what their houses look like, and their kids sleeping schedule. I would rather go to sleep i think.... 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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maybe you should try to be more interesting [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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why, no one wants to talk about anything more interesting. am i depressed then? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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or snooty [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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same here, dh says im miserable, i think im tired [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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i think both are correct [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:42 PM Flag
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