UrbanBaby

06.10.08, 13:44 PM New York City
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I have a friend whose 4 yo dd is a real brat (rude, sarcastic, smart mouth, gets in people's faces, points and says really mean and nasty things) to other kids and adults as well. Friend doesn't seem to notice or looks the other way most of the time. Would you say something to the child or friend? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
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MYOB unless kid says something to your kid. And remove the word "brat" from your vocab b/c it will come through when you do wind up saying something. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:45 PM Flag

ita [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:48 PM Flag

I have been myob-ing for the longest time but now my kid has picked up some of the other kid's "habits" and it's almost like how could I NOT say something. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:50 PM Flag

how close of a friend is this friend? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:51 PM Flag

one of my closest friends [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:52 PM Flag

that's tough then, but I would address with child directly when she acts that way around you as someone posted below. redirect your child and tell that child she can't behave that way in your home [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:58 PM Flag

good advice. thanks [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:00 PM Flag

I'll say it again - why would you hang out w/ a parent who doesn't discipline this out of control child? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:51 PM Flag

easier said than done i guess. friend and i are really close. we have been friends since babies were born. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:52 PM Flag

I can assure you that your child will one day pass on unwanted habits to another child. It works both ways (unfortunately). You need to find a way to tell your child that this isn't how you behave in your home etc. and focus more on your child than the other. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:52 PM Flag

if it has got to this point, then avoid playdates [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:58 PM Flag

np: I prefer PITA kid to brat LOL [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:52 PM Flag

I just couldn't hang out with someone whose kid acted like that. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:47 PM Flag

I know a kid EXACTLY like that and the mom knows. Parents play dumb but she got the hint when ppl (including myself) wouldn't let her kid play with mine. This kid was a real PILL she cursed at her mom in front of everyone [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:49 PM Flag

yikes [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:50 PM Flag

op: sounds just like my friend's dd! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:51 PM Flag

yes it does..unfort. I know 2 girls this way. So damn sad [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:55 PM Flag

If she makes a smart alec remarkt o you, personally, you gently say, "we don't speak to adults that way" and enforce please and thank you if appropriate. If she is rude to your dc, you let dc know that it is wrong, and perhaps do it loud enough for dc to here it. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:50 PM Flag

do you have a 4 yo dc? ime, every 4 yo acts taht way at some point no matter how much discipline/limits parent provides. say nothing, your kid will be there too at some point [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:51 PM Flag

my son is the same age [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:54 PM Flag

only see your friend in an adult setting. If she asks why, give a short reason. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:52 PM Flag

short reason meaning the truth? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:54 PM Flag

the 'polite' version of the truth [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:56 PM Flag