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[ - ] 30 wks and baby was breech. still time to flip around? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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See an acupunturist. They have methods of turning breech babies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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oh yes. see spinningbabies.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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i agree....do spinningbabies....and some prenatal yoga [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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plenty. I agree with the suggestions above; if all else fails, closer to the end doc can try to flip the baby. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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friend just "turned" her baby with acupuncture too ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:43 PM Flag
[ - ] For a 2yo - trike or wagon as a gift? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.10.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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trike [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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with a handle on the back for parents yo push [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:58 PM Flag
[ - ] I wonder if I should hope that the DOE lost our rankings. Getting a 98 child into NEST in a second round is probably more likely than in the first round. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.10.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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don't believe the 400-500 99 posters. it isn't true... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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I'm confused -- what is the second round process? Help! A 98 Nest #1 parent hoping... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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Children who moved to the city after testing will be able to test this summer. They will then be grouped with apps lost for all remaining seats in G&T. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:33 PM Flag
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There *is* no second round. Families who move to NYC after testing period ends are having the kids tested this summer and then they get placed. Don't hold your breath. Your child will be placed based on what you ranked. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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the seats that the DOE is going to hand out to kids tested during the summer are partially seats that were declined by others. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:37 PM Flag
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But calling it a second round is very misleading [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:40 PM Flag
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huh? But it is a second round. Everybody who returned the rankings get their assignments. Some folks will decline the spot they are given. Those in addition to any vacant seats are put back into the pot and are used for another round of assignments with is exclusively for the people who were not part of round one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:43 PM Flag
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Sorry for remedial requests, but will there be wait lists for #1 choices? There has to be some movement, no? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:43 PM Flag
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No waitlists. I assume, though, that in the end if there are too many seats left the DOE might call some of us asking if we were interested in a spot at xyz. Who knows. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:46 PM Flag
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Why would you want to go to NEST? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:40 PM Flag
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why would you not? It's a great choice of school for some of us. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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Other option is Brooklyn New School. Wouldn't you prefer NEST? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:44 PM Flag
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ITA. I toured both BNS and NEST. Would not send my kid to BNS but would send my dc to NEST [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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np: I would. Also toured BNS and was not impressed despite the hype. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:17 PM Flag
[ - ] Is Pug Mom still on UB? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:53 PM Flag
[ - ] MIL has recently started sharing with me some personal info about SIL's struggle with infertility. I had no idea she's been going through this -- she is still young (30) so if I thought about it at all, I just figured she and her husband weren't ready to have kids yet. SIL and I aren't close and I kind of feel like she wouldn't be happy if she knew MIL was telling me about this difficult experience. So, should I do anything? Tell MIL to stop sharing? Say something to SIL? Or just try to be sympathetic to MIL (who is obviously stressed out about this) and don't ever let on to SIL that I know. So far this last option has been my choice. But I also wouldn't want her to think i don't care...plus I am now pg with my 2nd dc...I'm not sure if I even need advice or just wanted to vent this to someone! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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i have been in her situation. young and going for fertility treatments... my advice is not to butt in. MIL probably shouldnt have told you in the first place. if SIL wants to tell you she will. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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I would keep on with what you're doing. And if you want to let SIL know you're there for her, don't let on that MIL told you. Just ask a general question or perhaps make a comment about a friend or something that lets her bring it up if she wants to talk about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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ditto - just let MIL vent - she probably doesn't want to talk with SIL about her worries, etc so she needs an outlet. I also agree with the above poster - maybe mention a "friend" that is going trough something like SIL is and see if SIL opens up to you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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thx all. will just keep on as i have been and let her talk to me if and when she chooses. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:15 PM Flag
[ - ] So are Birkenstocks really hideous, or do they just look horrible on me? I have seen a few women wear Birkenstock sandals lately and swear that I really like the way they look, and they certainly look comfortable. What do you think? Cool and comfortable, or very effective birth control? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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I was extremely into them in college and grad school nd they are very comfy but they are also pretty ugly. It's not just you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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some are more hideous than others, but they certainly aren't stylish. very comfortable though! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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HID-E-OUS....unless they are on a really crunchy outdoorsy man. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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OP - that's what I thought, and I am confident that my DH would agree. Rats, I'm always uncomfortable! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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np: seriously who cares. Comfort is the most important to me. I'm 40 yrs old and don't give 2 shits what others think. If shoes are comfy, I wear them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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there are plenty of other decent looking comfortable shoes. Check out Merrells and Eccos. Also Donald Pliner for more stylish looks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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I wear them. I love them. Some are really fugly but I love mine. I have spinal issues and these really help [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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they look good on people with really nice ankles & legs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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there are a few that are quite adorable [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:00 PM Flag
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There are some great sandals that are just as comfy...for example look on Zappos...Eden by Stone Fly (the thing type), as well as others in that brand are very comfy have good arch support and good looks (some less than others). Mephisto now has some really cute sandals where the straps are stylish, but the soles are classic Mepisto. My fave comfy but really good looking sandals are calle "Ana-Tech." They are hard to find, but they are very high quality made in America (but not on Zappos). Cute and strappy in different colors, too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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I wear mine eventhough I know they're ugly. I try to imagine that they tell the world that this mom with now saggy boobs (in a great bra, mind you) and a mortgage used to be a sexy hippie on tour with the Dead... Ahhh... the good ol' days... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:42 PM Flag
[ - ] What do you think about this? Whenever we have family weekends or vacations at our inlaws house, one of my sils always wears a string bikini. All of the other sils wear tankinis or one pieces because we are having a "family" weekend. Some of the sils think it's fine to wear a string bikini but some think that it's inappropriate. What do you think? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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I think it's totally fine (but I'm Brazilian). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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whatever. I would wear one too if I didn't look like a whale being prepared for roasting in it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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LOL!! I'm sure you look great. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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I think it's totally fine, assuming she doesn't have fatrolls or something. I've never understood why women feel they have to be relegated to nunlike swimwear once they hit 30. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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She is not 30 and it's a family event [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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Her family is offended by the sight of her in a bikini? I am not sure what the problem is here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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Sweet Lord!! WTF???? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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why is it inappropraite? its not like she's naked. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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fine! i think this is a nonissue [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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it's a little trashy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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Why? Why is wearing a two piece tacky. This country is so hung up on the wrong sh*t! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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don't pretend a two piece = string bikini. I have no prob with a 2 piece (I am talking normal coverage, not a tank top and granny skirt). But a string with 3 little triangles covering your boobs and crotch is kinda nasty in front of all the inlaws. imo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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I'm not pretending anything. If she has the confidence, good for her! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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confidence is well and good, but it is still trashy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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really? if she's comfortable, that seems to be the end of it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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of course it's the end of it but ppl are going to have opinions about it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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how many SILs are there? Sounds like there's a tribe. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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it's fine, of course. if i didn't develop the world's worst stretch marks on my belly I'd be wearing one still. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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totally fine... a body is a body and we freak out too much about them. see other wacko posing about the 4 year old... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:34 PM Flag
[ - ] who's the bad "guy" in the curious george movie? anyone know? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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who provides the voice, you mean? If so, it's David Cross, who played Tobias on Arrested Development. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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Loved him as Slow Donny [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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op: no, i mean which character; ds watched for 1st time yesterday & i was not paying attention; today he's crying & shaking when certain characters appear; [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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It's the museum owner's son. But there was nothing particularly scary about him that I could imagine freaking a kid out - nothing like some of the disney villains. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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op: ds is 2yo - this is his 1st "movie" (he normally watches playhouse disney shows & curious george shows); he keeps crying & saying "georgie bye-bye" - i did see the end where he's separated from ted but it ends happy (i think-i was back & forth w/ colicky 3wo db) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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at one point the hero, who is kind of a father figure, gets sick of all the trouble George is causing him, so he calls the animal control people and tells them the monkey is dangerous, and they take George away, back to the jungle. It's pretty sad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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^but then he realizes he loves George and goes and gets him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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op: oh, ok - this must be it; thanks; i feel awful for not watching it WITH him but so much to juggle right now; thanks again for responding [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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it's a very sweet movie, but you might want to watch that part with him again, and talk about how you'd never give him away, even if he does cause a lot of problems ; ) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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op: good point... there's probably other things in his head as well since the new db is getting a LOT of attention (since he's colicky w/ reflux) & although #1 is v. patient he's still been acting out to get attention & then (since dh & i are v. sleep deprived) we are not being as patient as we should be; ugh - feel horrible [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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just look at it as a good way to talk about it and let him get his feelings out. And he's a lucky kid to have a sibling, I'm sure it will get easier as you go [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Any cop mom's on? Do NYC Firemen and Cops get along? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.10.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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my dad is a retired cop. He had many FDNY friends. I think like any line of work, there is a natural competitive feel but when it comes down to working together, they do..or at least drinking together [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:56 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone else NOT get D3 lottery letter today? Anyone who got one, did you get a spot? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.10.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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Got a letter. Got bupkus. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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Got 87. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:53 AM Flag
[ - ] My friend routinely has her 4 yo dd play in public sprinklers, on the beach, etc. wearing only the bottom of a two-piece. She thinks the top is unnecessary and ridiculous for a 4 yo. What are your thoughts? 86 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.10.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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My DDs wear a top but not because it is necessary. Because they want to wear it. At that age it sure is optional. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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at 4 yo??? um, no. they know about modesty and private parts by this age. or should know! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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good grief [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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Um, what does modesty have to do w/ a 4 YO torso? Freak. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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that is not my experience. The 4yos I know couldn't care less if they run around naked in public. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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well you must know lots of WT [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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what is WT? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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you're an ass [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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you must be WT [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:00 PM Flag
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ita [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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then you'd freak at my dd. she liked to "air dry" after her evening shower and would lounge around totally nude. she did that until she was about 10 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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gross. could everyone see her in your trailer? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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bite me. did you start this thread just so you could pull this shit [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:00 PM Flag
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no, did you start to to brag about being a pig and teaching your kid to be one too? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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being naked does not mean the child is a pig. You have issues. I'm all for modesty, but give me a break with your nasty class hatred. It's more about you that you think like that. I bet you're not far from WT yourself if you think it's such a big deal [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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if the child is 4 yo and doesn't know enough to cover herself in public then she is being raised to be a pig. sorry. but true. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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exactly why should she cover her chest? it is visually identical to a 4 y.o. boy's chest. in fact,if i put my daughter in a boy's bathing suit, you couldnt' be sure what you were seeing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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You're a pathetic ass teaching kids to have a warped sense of their bodies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:11 PM Flag
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pig mom? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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or: no, anti pig mom. commenting on how warped pig mom's kid will be. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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no you are the pig mom if you are pro-naked little girls in public [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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np. Naked? She's not naked, she just doesn't have a top on. Which is fine, since SHE'S FOUR, you stupid freak. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:47 PM Flag
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your anger is so disturbing. Girl's bodies aren't evil, it is people like you who think that women's bodies are shameful and disgusting that are the problem. And I am very modest, and so is my daughter. I just don't accept calling people pigs just because you see their bodies. You are nasty. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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ITTTA. She is acting like the pig. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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Agreed. Probably has loads of skeletons in her closet, enjoys kiddie porn and suffers from grave self-loathing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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you ppl sound like the freaks to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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it's so not about being evil, shameful, etc. it's about teaching your dd to protect and respect her own body. if you don't then yes you are a pig! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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np: You are so sadly misguided. Raising a very insecure little girl, no doubt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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hardly. good luck raising a pig though! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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There are lots of self-loathing, damaged people out there and misery loves company, so this is just another carrot to dangle in front of possible sources of engagement. The very judgment is riddled with inappropriate, sexual inferences; Don't engage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.25.09, 08:20 AM Flag
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Wow, you are self-hating b..tch for sure! I feel sorry for your husband, kids and anyone around you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:54 PM Flag
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op here: I'm not the one calling people WT [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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ignore the troll [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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what the hell is WT? White Trash? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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^^^yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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This wacko would be humerous if she weren't messing up her children with her ideas and freak-show mentality about nudity... i feel sorry for her. Being nude as a child is one of the great things about childhood ! her kids - sadly - are screwed ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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I know. I remember visiting my cousins during the summer in New Orleans when I was 9, and I was thrilled that my aunt let me run around without a shirt because it was so hot! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:36 PM Flag
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You lose that sense of freedom soon enough. Why deny it to kids who don't yet have hang-ups ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:39 PM Flag
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I think your friend is WT [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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I think sun protection is very, very important at that age and she should be wearing a SPF top (as should DSs). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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I have a ds and I always put a tshirt on him for that reason. ITA about sun protection. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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so put on sunscreen. unless her top has long sleeves you need it anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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do both - tons of sunscreen and shirts on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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I agree w/her but everyone is so puritanical here I'm sure it makes people nuts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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it's fine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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my 3.5 y.o. does this, so i don't have a problem with it. at some point it has to change, but anolder kid will understnad social norms better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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aren't you worried about some pedophile ogling her or taking pics of her? They often loiter outside of playgrounds for this reason. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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no. it may happen, but i canm [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:00 PM Flag
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^^ oops but i can't live my life that way. soem pedophile woudl be turned on by her in a bikini top as well, or dressed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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no they don't [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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Well-- my 4 year old looked like a 6 year old (when she was that age) so NO WAY would I have done that. I guess it depends what the DD looks like. Chubby and babyish? Maybe they can get away with it or if they look more like a 3 year old. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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why is 6 any different? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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The kid should start covering up when she feels that she has to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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I agree with her and wouldn't care if I saw this except I'd worry about sun exposure [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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You need to learn modesty, like anything else. She may not want to wear a top as much when she's older. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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BS. Modesty comes when they become aware that their bodies are changing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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and the standards of the people around them, too. I'm not against nudity, but it is partly social [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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no it comes when they are taught about what parts are private and what parts are not [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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no that is called shaming. a child can understand about private parts and not touching and such and still not care about running around in a sprinkler with her top off [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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some kids learn that parts of their bodies are private without it being a shameful thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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I sure hope so. I wasn't suggesting the two were mutually exclusive. I just think that a 4yo can understand about private parts and still want to run around in the sprinkler topless [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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ita, the modesty about wearing a shirt will probably kick in later. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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no a child cannot understand that and still want to run naked in front of strangers [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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my older child has a sense of waht are private areas. he also likes to ruin around our house naked, even when we have guests (no, we don't let him). its two different things [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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then he hears what you are saying but he doesn't UNDERSTAND it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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eh, so what? The puritanism in this country is way over the top anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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but there are some girls who will end up on the Girls Gone Wild tapes, and some who will not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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and I'd put my money on those that do were brought up in a repressive household, where they were taught their bodies were nasty and shameful. Otherwise, what's the thrill in showing your tits. Girls that are not ashamed of their bodies are not the ones flashing. I'd put money on it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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ita, there is a certain rebellion in some of the girls who are flashing like that, and then there are probably also girls who just grew up to tolerate a lot of nudity and they don't think it is a big deal. I think you can teach privacy and modesty without telling them that nudity or their bodies are bad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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I am not sure where in the thread anyone ever said to teach that??? I said to teach them that private parts are not for public touching or viewing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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well if you are the one saying that the little girl is learning to be a pig, do you mean that in a nice way? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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Agreed. People are confusing nudity and porn; they are totally different and have no connection. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.25.09, 07:54 AM Flag
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Are you crazy - are you saying a 4 yr old has boobs!? What exactly is "private" about a toddler's torso? Maybe if your dd is obese & has boobs already she needs support but otherwise.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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Our thoughts don't matter. your friend thinks it's ok and her daughter feels comfortable. It's a personal decision at this point and remains one until puberty. I suspect your friend's dd will want a top long before that. Now what can we do about fat, saggy men and women wearing teeny swimsuits? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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don't forget guys with hairy shoulders in tank tops. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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Based on your OP and everything else you've posted in this thread, I think you're Psycho Troll Mom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:46 PM Flag
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More power to her. They don't think twice about this is Europe & neither do I [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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Agreed. A top on a little girl looks so silly and what purpose does it serve? My dc's were usually naked at 4 yo, so yours seems a bit overdressed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.25.09, 07:48 AM Flag
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this post is 9 months old. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.25.09, 07:56 AM Flag
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This comes up every Spring. I think little bikini tops are far more sexualizing of a young child's body than being 'topless'. Our children went topless to 5 y/o at US beaches and played in sprinklers, urban pools and playgrounds in one-piece swimsuits or bottoms with t-shirts. Our building has a pool and they often swam in only bottoms until 6 or 7 yrs old, when they understood that their bodies made OTHER people uncomfortable. We don't mince words in our family. Our kids are pretty clear that people have different views and comfort levels, based on social, religious and cultural differences.Sharing close quarters in an urban environment is a balancing act with a lot to juggle. If you've got enough energy and time to sit around judging people that don't cause you any harm, maybe you could use it for a more constructive pursuits. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.25.09, 08:16 AM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 10.15.09, 08:52 AM Flag
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You just had to do this, right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 10.15.09, 09:17 AM Flag
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you know what, you are totally right...whenever i see a girl that age in a 2-piece it looks creepy, like they're trying to look older...bottoms w/ no top, on the other hand, just looks like a little kid running free & having fun [ Reply | More
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General Topics 10.15.09, 09:29 AM Flag
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i wouldn't give it any thought. my very conservative and modest immigrant mom never put a top on me until i wanted one - so i was maybe 7 or 8. i did not grow up to go topless on girls gone wild, nor did i wear next to nothing in my teens and 20s when going out. one has nothing to do with the other. nudity in kids is no big deal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.25.09, 08:02 AM Flag
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considering that it's basically only this puritanical nation where fully grown women feel they have to wear tops on the beach, i find it beyond silly to obligate a 4 yo. to do so [ Reply | More
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General Topics 10.15.09, 09:25 AM Flag
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Good idea. It is silly for little girls to wear tops. I didn't and neither did my dd. It is much more natural for them and it doesn't draw attention to the differences between little girls and little boys. Besides, the kids never care; it is only parens that seem to have a problem. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 10.15.09, 11:15 AM Flag
[ - ] need serious help. it was v. hard for me to get pg b/c of male factor IF. so we used IUI. i got pg. now i'm 8 months along w/ our son. we had a 3D ultrasound and the baby looks just like me! dh acting weird. doubting paternity and not saying that he's looking forward to the baby. he is being crazy, but i'm afraid he won't bond. what can i do? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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just wait it out. men are very odd during pregnancy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:48 PM Flag
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he is just nervous. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:48 PM Flag
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your baby will look different at birth, adn on average more babies look like their dads in the first year. wait until he sees the baby. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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omg. your dh is nuts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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that is what I was thinking. I would be so pissed at dh if he doubted paternity just because dc didn't look like him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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seriously. like anyone could control that. my dd looked just like dh, good thing she came out of my vaj or else I wouldn't think she was mine! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:00 PM Flag
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OR: ditto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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you could really see the kid that well? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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it was very clear. i compared pics of the baby to pics of me when i was infant... it's like looking at the same child. same eyes/mouth exactly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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it sounds like your husband may be having trouble coping with the idea of becoming a father. i have no idea whether it has to do with the problems getting pregnant, but i think it is more common than you would think (given its something people dont like to talk about). talk to him about it, if he struggles after the baby is born maybe try therapy. this may sound extreme but my dh had a crisis after our baby was born, though now almost 2 years into it he is fine and very well bonded -- it did take a while though. gl! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Are rental properties a good investment? We've got $25k sitting in a 3% online savings account. What do YOU do with your savings once it builds up? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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put it into whatever bubble is going at that moment and then watch it crash to nothingness. Dotcoms, then Real estate, now Commodities. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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Good thinking. Maybe I should get into a euro-denominated commodity fund? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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Okay, I'll try and give you a helpful reply. Try CDs or also check online bank rates and open a new account - you could possibly get up to 5-6%, even if it's for a short period of time, you could always transfer to a new account later. Def don't keep in an account getting only 3%. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 03:18 PM Flag
[ - ] I cannot believe my bad luck. No lottery letter or G&T letter in my mailbox!! 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.10.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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what is the lottery letter? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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what does this has to do anything with luck? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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go to district 3 or doe website... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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YEs, lottery info is now all online [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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http://csd3.nycdoe.org/home.aspx [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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op: Yes, but I do not know my lottery number. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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Bad luck day for me too. No G&T K letter today... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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no one got it--again--the longer it goes the more agitated I get [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:09 PM Flag
[ - ] normal for a 21 month old to go from a hardly ever crier to one that cires every 10 minutes or so? don't know how 'real' the crying is. could be teething and we are moving. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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Mine went through a sensitive stage around that time. Not crying but became a disaster at bedtime. It lasted about a month [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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how did you respond? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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I tried to give some extra attention and acknowledge that he was having a tough time - we were also in the midst of a lot of transition. But I also tried to set some limits. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:48 PM Flag
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thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:49 PM Flag
[ - ] If I used an interior decorator to do a child's bedroom, what do you think that would cost? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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why do you need one? it is so much fun to do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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I'm not very good at it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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ask your kid what he/she wants. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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^^^or pottery barn. hate it but it is cheap. doesn't look so bad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:48 PM Flag
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He's 2. We're moving to a new house and I was hoping to do up his room in a way that will be appropriate now and at least through elementary school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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pottery barn... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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the most expensive thing is the custom made everything. drapes etc. try to pick out a few things yourself like the furniture and then just use decorator for finishing touches. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:48 PM Flag
[ - ] want to buy a Rainbow system play set for the yard. there are so many freaking choices on their site, it's way more work to decide on a set than i would like! anyone have a rainbow set that they can recommend? i hear they go on sale for almost half off in the fall. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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they use the swing and the climbing tower. Never use the rings or the straight bar. Don't need the pirate ship accoutrements. The less specific play help the better. Let their imaginations decide if its a fort or a spaceship or a pirate ship [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:45 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm bored. Ask me anything. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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do you prefer cut or uncut meat? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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No preference, really. Have been consuming cut ever since I met DH :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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are you in love wth james nachtway as well? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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I don't know who that is, so I'm thinking no. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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go find out who he is. you will. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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You're right - I do know who he is. Admire him but am not in love. Less competition for you :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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watch war photographer and you will [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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How old are your kid(s)? What's your biggest fear for them? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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