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[ - ] Taking a 4-5 night vacation with dh in August. Needs to be near Carolinas. Any suggestions? thinking hilton head or Charleston. . .up for ideas. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:55 PM Flag
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boring unless you like golf [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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any other suggestions? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:03 PM Flag
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outer banks... okrakoke... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:00 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone else not get D3 lottery letter today? Did nyone who got one actually get a spot? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.10.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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We got our letter yesterday. Got our first choice (87). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:53 AM Flag
[ - ] i didnt have sex w dh until almost 1yr after baby born. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Help: 11week old went down for a nap at 4p-she isn't much of a napper but is still asleep at 5p, we usually try to get her bedtime routine started around 6:30/7 -should i keep letting her sleep -will it mess up her sleep tonight??? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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I wouldnt let is go past 2-3 hrs in my experience it wont mess her up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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thank you!! Had no idea she'd even sleep in her crib no less, think it is the heat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:01 PM Flag
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yes, my 13 month ild was the same way [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:04 PM Flag
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op: what no crib or the heat making her sleepy? I am afraid we won't get her to sleep tonight it has been so hard!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:06 PM Flag
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How can an 11 week old be on any kind of schedule? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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op: she isn't really but we are trying to get her to bed around the same time, although not really working anymore, it was for a while [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:08 PM Flag
[ - ] i cannot stand any social plans but maybe i just haven't met the right people? or is my anxiety taking over again? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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hmm, how long has this been going on? for me this comes and goes, but if it's been a long time, you might need to see a doctor/get medication. or meditate or something [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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it's so much my way of life. i hate social plans now that i'm married and renovting a house and raising a baby. even for my baby. it's just me but i want a friend for weekdays. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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maybe both [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:55 PM Flag
[ - ] take-out tonight. I'm not cooking in this heat. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.10.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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thai beef salad [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:56 PM Flag
[ - ] did you have major side effects while on anti-depressants? did the side effects go away eventually? including inorgasm, no libido, etc 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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I had both those, and the side effect didn't go away [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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did you stick with the med? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:02 PM Flag
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side effects went away for me after a bit [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:02 PM Flag
[ - ] I have a long flight coming up soon. 6 and 3yo dds. Was toying with the idea of getting them leapsters but worried about introducing the whole video game thing. Thoughts? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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there are a ton of things to buy without opening that Pandora's box, IMHO. We travel overseas a bit and I pack a secret backpack that they drag / carry with books, coloring stuff, "learn to fraw" stuff, snacks, etc etc and everyone always comments that my dc (who are usually monsters) are so well behaved. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:57 PM Flag
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^^ meant "Learn to Draw"... don't know what frawing is myself... maybe I should buy "Learn to Type" for the next trip ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:58 PM Flag
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dd loved her leapster. it kept her busy in the car. and she learned how to write letters and other stuff from it. she grew ou tof it pretty quickly, tho. doesn't really use it anymore and she got it abt six months ago. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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how about a dvd player?unless you are vvehemently anti-video. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:02 PM Flag
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ITA... DVD rocks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:03 PM Flag
[ - ] i NEVER want to socialize with my new semi-friends but i'd love to have a close friend i could truly talk to and trust. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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how do you think you find those ? They usually start out as new friends and semi-friends that you build a rapport with... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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i just don't see these progressing. they've been either too indifferent or just aren't my kinda people [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:58 PM Flag
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do you have children / some of the moms i met through this are my closest friends now... but i agree that it can be hard... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:04 PM Flag
[ - ] Want to take a series of photographs in Central Park... What locations would you visit if you wanted to capture something special with kids... Are there any areas that are quite 'romantic' in nature?... TIA for any suggestions. (p.s. don't know Central Park well so any brief guide to the location would be great too). Thanks. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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I think a picture of kids on the merry-go-round is very cute. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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super beautiful garden, conservatory garden i think, up near 103rd east side. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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second that. across the street from the museum of the city of NY and El museo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 05:14 PM Flag
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also, zoo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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Alice in Wonderland statue, definitely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 09:18 AM Flag
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http://www.audreyleephotography.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:36 PM Flag
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Shakespeare Garden, Belvedere Castle, Hans Christian Anderson statute, pool where they sail the toy boats. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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Victorian Gardens (where Wollman Rink is in the winter.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 05:33 PM Flag
[ - ] what is G&T re: public schools? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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it's a public school that is considered gifted and talented. Testing is required for entry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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so are there a lot of public school parents on this board? i would have assumed a lot of private, but that's interesting to me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:52 PM Flag
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I can't reply under your reply so I'm getting kicked off..but I'm the OR from above.. There are more private parents on here during the school yr but since the admission season for privates is over, seems like more public school parents on these last few months [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:54 PM Flag
[ - ] My rules for hiring caregivers. 1. Never keep your baby nurse. They suck with toddlers, even if you felt very comfortable with them. And they will cost you an arm and a leg. Hire a live-in if you must, but you don't need to spend that much money. 2 Never hire your mother. Not matter how much you trust them, they are grandmothers, not nannies, and they are tired and cranky. I've seen it numerous times. And you can't fire them. 3. Treat this like a professional position. If you go away, you pay them. Set up their vacation schedule and holidays in advance. 4. If you need to install a nanny cam, you hired the wrong person. Trust your instincts. 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.10.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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and why do i care about your rules? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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why do you care about NEST, LL, Anderson, failing HS freshman, fertility little brother, etc. etc. etc. Do you write that under every post that does not concern you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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nobody else says "these are my rules" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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np why do you care that she says they're her rules? does her confidence and experience make you insecure? maybe others find this helpful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:57 PM Flag
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nanny cams should be required for all moms [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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no. If you have to spy on your employees you are doing something wrong. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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OP: everyone I know who purchased a nanny cam (after hiring) did so because some thing felt not right. They then fired the nanny after viewing tapes. Bottom line, if you feel like you *need* a nanny cam, you hired the wrong person. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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I agree with all of those "rules" but I disagree with number 3. It depends on the person you hired. It can very well end up in a friendship or she could become part of your extended family. I would even go so far that it should or you didn't hire the right person. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:52 PM Flag
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np: those aren't mutualy exclusive. you can have very warm feelings for your nanny but you should not use that as an excuse to pay les or beinconsiderate about scheduling. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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OP, by professional, I mean to follow good corporate compensation rules of fairness. I absolutely agree with you about extended family relationship. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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okay, I can agree with that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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ita. and it blows me away how people don't seem to acknowledge their children's very real attachment to their caregivers. you fire a nanny (not that it isn't sometimes necessary), it's going to hurt your child [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:55 PM Flag
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disagree with your #2 - my mother not only watches our DCs - she also lives with us, and it's been 100% terrific. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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My sis in the burbs (a workng mom who uses daycare and sitters and is a teacher) and me in NYC (both WOHM and SAHM) have both observed that grandmothers are not caregivers. I know that moms think everything is OK, but what we see on days off would say that your mother is a very, very rare exception. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:58 PM Flag
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I guess - DD clearly adores her -- she spends time playing with her even when DH and I are there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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playing and adoring are very different from caregiving. I see grandmoms who can't sit on the floor in kids' classes, who are very short with the kids, who have them watch tv too much, etc etc...... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:02 PM Flag
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mine's awesome - she's very involved and patient. I know I'm very lucky. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:03 PM Flag
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she must be younger than many of our mothers...and I agree...you are very lucky. That is nice for you family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:04 PM Flag
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she's actually close to 70, but I was an only child and she always yearned for more DCs - I think that makes a huge difference. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:04 PM Flag
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You could be right! Enjoy her and the relationship! As the OP, I would also say we could find excetpions to all these rules, but they are rare and a good place to start. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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I would add, trust but verify. Ask local SAHMs & SAHDs what they think. Keep asking. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:21 PM Flag
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OP: that is a really good idea, too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:30 PM Flag
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As a SAHM it makes me crazy. If your nanny is good, I'm thrilled to praise her, but it is very difficult to criticize without an invitation. Do NOT assume no news is good news. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:33 PM Flag
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I've called one person about a nanny. She said, "Oh a few people have called about her, but I'm not worried." WTF...still has the same nanny 7 years later and she is still nasty to the girl. Too inconvenient for the mom to search around. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:36 PM Flag
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Several friends saw a nanny FALL ASLEEP while "watching" toddler. After a few times, they called the mother, and she said she felt sorry for the nanny. She was so tired. WTF INDEED. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:38 PM Flag
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this nanny was verbally abusive , said the kid needed to be discliplined because her head shape made her stubborn, stormed out of a music together class (leaving DB there)cursing in Tagolog after the teacher made a remark that it was OK to chew on toys (not directly at the nanny) after the nanny kept pulling toys roughly away from the db...(saw all this myself) and my nanny and another nanny told me that had sort of adopted the child and nanny to keep an eye on her. I had a few sahms call me about her ( I was wohm, but in touch with the neighborhood mafia and they didn't know this mother at all). When db2 came, a boy, she played disgusting favorites. But heck, she showed up, right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:44 PM Flag
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I couldn't disagree more with your "mother" rule. My mother watches my son, she has more patience with him than I do, and she enjoys all the games and never tires of him, also she is very strict with discipline and doesn't let him get away with anything. And more importantly, she is my mother so I never have to worry for one second about my child. I also have several friends sho see my mother with my son all time and comment about how amazing she is with him. I am not saying all grandmothers should be caregivers, it's certianly not a job that all seniors would be up to, but it certainly is the best in my case. My mother also gets to my house at 6 am, when DS gets up, so I can go back to sleep for an hour before work (does that sounnd like a lazy person to you?) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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^^^^^maybe you and the OR above are the one in a million exception, but all of my observation says don't hire the grandmother. My sis and I say nothing when we hear these women brag abut having their mothers/mils as caregivers, but we know the truth. No, she's not lazy and I hope you pay her well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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ITA! I am fortunate that I have a high paying job and can afford to follow your rules and pay a top nanny a professional salary, medical benefits and paid vacation (5 weeks). She has been with us 5 years and I'm hoping she's with us for another 5. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 02:41 AM Flag
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there are other ways to fairly compensate a nanny. it is not just about money. If you and DH have fairly flexible jobs you can pass this flexibility on to the nanny. We, for example, couldn't pay our nanny much (below UB standard) but we made this up with pretty much unlimited vacation time for her (she never abused that), a cell phone that we added to our family calling plan, etc. etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 05:56 AM Flag
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What are good rates for live-in UES? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 06:12 AM Flag
[ - ] hi i'm visiting from ybm. have i missed anything here? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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lots and lots of school talk. and some sex talk in between. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:53 PM Flag
[ - ] where is ps9 that everyone is talking about. is it a g & t? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.10.08, 01:47 PM Flag
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PS9 is a gen ed school on the UWS. it also has a G&T program adn Anderson is housed in the same building. more info is on insideschools.org [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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ps9 is the most popular G&T program in D3 (uws). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:52 PM Flag
[ - ] Just tested pos on hpt - so probably 2 wks preg. had mammo one week ago. will this hurt the db? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:47 PM Flag
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don't think so. but, call your ob [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:47 PM Flag
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yikes. i'm sorry to hear this. i'm not 100% sure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:47 PM Flag
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my guess is it's probably totally fine. honestly. don't worry too much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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i dont know, what you are asking? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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if the radiation exposure from the mammogram would hurt my growing fetus [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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i've read that it's not that high a radiation level but call the mammo place and your ob. also you can find a bit online [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:52 PM Flag
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^^^i'm a nnp. not the semi-rude or above [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:52 PM Flag
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ohhh, its fine, but double check with OB [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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nope- you would need 1000, before it wold have an effect- BTDT [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:53 PM Flag
[ - ] MCAIN IS THE MAN! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:46 PM Flag
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joke? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:48 PM Flag
[ - ] What do you do with all your kids' artwork/projects? I'm overrun, especially since my 5 yo just finished school and all the stuff that was in her classroom was sent home. I'm going to hang up some of it, but what to do with the rest? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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you throw it in the garbage. where are all your 5yo art projects? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:46 PM Flag
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Voila ! Paintings become wrapping paper ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 01:46 PM Flag
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I save only really special ones and throw out the rest when DC isn't around. I havae to bury them deep in the garbage, otherwise her eagle eyes will spot them! I framed one or two, but it's gotten out of control so to the garbage they go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:28 PM Flag
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Mail them to relatives. DC can help and write "notes" to go with them. Great rainy day (or hot weather day) project. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 02:29 PM Flag
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