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[ - ] anyone get pg very easily with #1 and have problems with #2? how old when you began trying and how long did it take? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:22 PM Flag
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I got pregnant one month after going off BC at age 36, then couldn't get pregnant again. Thought about IVF, saw a fertility guy after trying for 6 months, but we don't have the money for multiple IVF cycles and the stress was too much. Decided we were lucky with our one perfect child. Good luck to you-- very stressful I know. Whatever happens for you will be the right thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:27 PM Flag
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thank. i would be happy if we only had one too. how old were you when trying for #2? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:28 PM Flag
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Yes LOTS of problems with #2 that resulted in IVF. No.1 was a breeze... Had two miscarriages and suspected chemical... Blocked tubes and evidence of endo - just to highlight what we found after years of trying... Basicially I'd say we tried seriously for 2yrs before resorting to IVF... Before that we just were plodding along hoping (about another 2 years)... Thought the miscarriages were just unlucky and we would try again... Had No.2 @ 36. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:30 PM Flag
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^ sorry that should have been a new post... New to this changed website... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone had luck using concealer or something else to cover up stretch marks on your breasts? I bought a low-cut dress and it's revealing more than I had intended!!! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:17 PM Flag
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can u wear a camisole? i don't think i'd risk concealer? could run, stain, etc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:46 PM Flag
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nothing will make it better. exchange the dress. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:47 PM Flag
[ - ] What do you guys think of these shoes? Too much $? TIA http://lastylistmom.wordpress.com/2008/06/01/timeless-ladylike-chic/ 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:15 PM Flag
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wouldnt even bother to look, she has horrid taste imo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:16 PM Flag
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They're Prada. And you're nasty. What's your beef? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:17 PM Flag
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Your mom has horrid taste. Beat it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:19 PM Flag
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you asked "LAStylist Mom", if you can't take the heat get out of the thrift store [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:24 PM Flag
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I asked the board. The link is from her site. Pull the stick out of your large ass. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:30 PM Flag
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quite fit actually but thanks "LA Stylist mom" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:39 PM Flag
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You're welcome! Now go get a real job ; ) [ Reply | More
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waaaaah [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:25 PM Flag
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they are not bad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:35 PM Flag
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spam spam spam, go pay for some advertising [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:40 PM Flag
[ - ] stopped work (freelance TV) when I had dd who is now 2 1/2. interviewed for a show today that has car chases, fights--translation, 80 hour work weeks, no exaggeration. I desperately want to leave dh and this job would give me the financial independence to do so, however, dh works less hours than me, more flexible schedule. He could be there for her more than me. I don't want to lose my daughter. I want to work but I haven't had a lot of success finding another line of work. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.10.08, 04:13 PM Flag
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You will get joint custody anyway so you can share the time with her - you pick up more on the w'ends. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:16 PM Flag
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I really don't want to be a weekends only mom and if she lives with him, I wouldn't want to break up that routine and take her when the show ends in nine months. I'm afraid he could simply take her away from me just because he has the ability to earn money without working ridiculous hours. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:19 PM Flag
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np: no judge is going to take her away because your job requires more hours. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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I work in film business. Don't do it. It is terrible on families, especially moms. Find another job. I'm sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Can't decide if we should bring DS (20mo) on vacation with us. Going to Hawaii (Big Island) for one week wiht DH. If we take him, meals would be an issue (not an all-inclusive) and we'll prob. be limited to beach activities only. On the other hand, we've never ever left him before, so it's scary. And somehow feels a bit wrong to go have all this fun w/o him... anyone BTDT? We have a live-in nanny who loves him and is ready to do 24/7 for a week, so childcare is not an issue. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:07 PM Flag
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Leave him. the Big Island is great-- wilder and less touristy overall than Maui for example. He'll be fine, you'll have a great time with DH and that is important. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:09 PM Flag
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we always take dc on vacation if it's going to be more than 3-4 days, just because I would miss them too much and not really enjoy myself anyway. This is a very individual thing- he sounds like he'll be fine at home, so... it's about you and your feelings, and how much you need a kid-free vacation, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:09 PM Flag
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I don't really *need* it, but def. think things would be more relaxed w/o worrying about meals and naps... it's a hard decision. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:11 PM Flag
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you should definately go! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:35 PM Flag
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What's wrong with taking a family vacation? You're a family now. I can see a weekend away to refresh with DH, but a whole week? You have a kid now. Save the week away alone until DS is out of the house. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:11 PM Flag
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The only problem is all the things you can't do with the baby in tow. You know - the hike up the volcano to watch the sunrise, snorkeling daytrip, that type of thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:13 PM Flag
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Aside from snorkeling, we've always managed to do what we want with the kids. Throw him in the backpack for the hike. You just adjust the itinerary slightly. We've taken kids to Australia, Peru, Yosemite; gone hiking, boating, camping, to the beach, skiing -- our vacation have only been enriched by exposing our kids to so many different things. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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This is very inspiring. To be honest, we've tried the backpack thing, but our toddler doesn't last more than an hour in it. Do you have any tips for keeping them happy hiking? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:43 PM Flag
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could you bring nanny along? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:16 PM Flag
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Can you bring nanny with you? Or hire someone at the hotel you are staying at to watch DC on a regular basis? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:20 PM Flag
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I wouldn't do it. I'd be sick to my stomach that far away from dcs and for that long. I'd figure a way for him to come, either bringing the nanny, or booking hotel sitters. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:24 PM Flag
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You know, that's an idea. We can't afford to bring the nanny but I will look into a hotel sitter! Haven't even thought of this before. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:45 PM Flag
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I suggested the hotel sitters--we were v. pleasantly surprised at quality of hotel sitters at FS Punta Mita. Apparently, hotel spends big $$ to get well-trained people. Also got same sitter for whole stay. Highly recommend if not bringing own nanny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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you should go to a family resort now= I'm putting hawaii on hold until dd is at least 7 and can enjoy it. Club med is now on the agenda - I would not leave my kid with a nanny for a week - grandparents yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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oh please. You are entitled to take a vacation without db and it is allowed to be more than a weekend away. As long as you are leaving him with someone he knows and that you trust, he will be fine. It will be great for your marriage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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depends, do you want to see the big island or do you want to be stuck on beaches and dealing with naptime? it's a week, dump the kid and hang out with hubby. check out the lava and observatory. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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BTDT!!! at the same age, my husband and i left ds with nanny for 5 nights to go to puerto rico to celbrate 5 yr anniversay. i also never thought i would do that. but ds is o used to the nanny and she knows him so well that i felt fine doing it and they had fun together. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:34 PM Flag
[ - ] What can be done about major hemmorhoids? DD was born 5 years ago, so I'm guessing these fun things aren't going away on their own. I'm way too embarrassed to ask my GP who I only see once every couple of years. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:04 PM Flag
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my OB said that she would give me a referral to the "colo-rectal guys." Needless to say, I have not yet requested this referral. Mine aren't major though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:06 PM Flag
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friend of mine had hers surgically removed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:25 PM Flag
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you can get them surgically removed, but you will run a greater risk of incontinence when you are older (or so I was told by the colorectal surgeon I saw about mine). He gave me some cream and some cleanser to help the problem, and while I still have them, they don't bother me much of the time, so i'm giving it more time (last db is 18mos). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Not from NYC so educate me. Are Hunter and Anderson private or public? Are they elem schools? What makes them so special? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 03:48 PM Flag
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really? all the talk about schools on here and no one will answer this simple question? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:02 PM Flag
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In case you're watching this: Hunter and Anderson are both public schools for gifted kids. Anderson is K-8 and Hunter is K-12. Anderson adds maybe 10 kids or so for 6th grade. Hunter adds around 170 kids for 7th grade. Anderson is open to dcs from all 5 boroughs from kindergarten on. Hunter is only for Manhattanites in K, open to all NYC in 7th grade. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 10:28 PM Flag
[ - ] Please give me some ideas for Father's Day gifts. I can't think of anything. What are you getting your dh? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 03:48 PM Flag
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chef central is selling an awesome ice luge for shooters... seriously -- it looks really cool [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 03:51 PM Flag
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beer of the month club [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 03:51 PM Flag
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dh isn't a big drinker but I'd like one! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 03:51 PM Flag
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mine is getting a portable radio for the bus. thrilling! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:17 PM Flag
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candy cake - pamcake.com? grilling stuff? ipod converter for the car? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:44 PM Flag
[ - ] Where does your child go to school? 39 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.10.08, 03:39 PM Flag
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UL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 03:43 PM Flag
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PS 196 in Forest Hills [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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PPAS [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 03:46 PM Flag
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what is that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:20 PM Flag
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NP: Professional Performing Arts School - a public 6-12 school in midtown west (same building as PS 212 Midtown West). Only 25 kids in 6, 7, 8th grades. Alicia Keys went there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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NP: Is your dc in the performing arts? If so, what elementary school did dc attend? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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I'm just answering the question of what PPAS is. My dc does not attend. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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she doesn't work, if that's what you mean [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 06:04 AM Flag
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You mean 25 kids per class, not per grade right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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No - basically 25-30 kids per each grade, 6th, 7th & 8th grades. The number goes up for HS. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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Dalton [ Reply | More
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Mine, too. [ Reply | More
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Fieldston [ Reply | More
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Don't know yet. Hopefully, I can answer you tomorrow or by Friday at the latest. [ Reply | More
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Mandell K in Sept. [ Reply | More
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ps 282 [ Reply | More
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acorn in the fall [ Reply | More
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City & Country [ Reply | More
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mine too! [ Reply | More
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what grade? we're starting in the fall... so excited. [ Reply | More
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she'll be in 1st. [ Reply | More
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Horace Mann [ Reply | More
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i went there [ Reply | More
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mine too [ Reply | More
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Hunter [ Reply | More
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us too [ Reply | More
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anderson. [ Reply | More
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PS150 [ Reply | More
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go PS150! dd went there. she's in high school now [ Reply | More
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Cathedral [ Reply | More
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We---Still--- [ Reply | More
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~~Don't---Know! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 06:36 AM Flag
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Ugh -- so sorry. What are you planning to do? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 08:56 AM Flag
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Sorry--the melodrama is just because we are waiting on G&T--zoned school is fine as a backup so we will be ok--but thank you for caring! [ Reply | More
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MTW [ Reply | More
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PS183 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 08:32 AM Flag
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Lower Lab this year, East Side Middle School next year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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Probably PS124. [ Reply | More
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^^ meant for September [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 12:07 PM Flag
[ - ] i send my dd to a very diverse public school - mainly low income, projects nearby. there are some troubled kids of course (a K classmate recently threatened to kill the teacher) but the teachers seem to have a handle on the discipline side of things. i can afford private but i just don't like the thought of sending her to some protected enclave with kids who are essentially just like her. am i the only one who sees value in kids experiencing "real" diversity instead of a sanitized private-school version? i don't see the income/racial differences as a negative. i've gotten to know the kids through helping out in the class and although some of them are tough they are essentially good kids. i feel judged sometimes for my decision to send her there (most friends do private). 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 03:35 PM Flag
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If you value diversity so greatly for your daughter why are all YOUR friend upper middle class? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 03:42 PM Flag
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np: how do you know OPs friends are all upper middle class? She may have made friends with some of the moms who live in the projects [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 03:43 PM Flag
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I know because she wrote that her friends children go to private - an upper middle class priviledge for the most part. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 03:46 PM Flag
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I'm your opposite. We are hispanic, live in a very ethnic area and send my dcs to private school. My kids are there with dc who are like them and very different. Some minorities, some poor, many rich. Doens't bother me. I went to a NYC public for HS and it was a joke. DH and I both said we wouldn't waste our dc time or education in our local zone public which is failing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 03:43 PM Flag
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i think it is great as long as dd is getting a good education. that the teachers can teach and not just discipline. i would also worry about dd safety with some of the older kids at school if they are tough as you said. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 03:45 PM Flag
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of course they are not getting the same quality education from an academic perspective. OP is sacrificing that on behalf of political correctness. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 03:46 PM Flag
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i don't think she is just being politically correct - i agree that there is more to learn in school than just academics. frankly, learning that there are different types of people in the world and knowing how to get along with them will probably be more important than ap calc or the history of russian lit in the 1800s. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 03:52 PM Flag
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we are making the exact same decision. (What school, by the way?) I think being exposed in a real way to all kinds and types of people is great for dcs and for us. There is absolutely NOTHING that a kid can learn in private school that is as important in the longterm as learning to live with all types of people. So a private school kid might learn division in 3rd grade and mine will learn it in 4th grade. Who really cares? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:18 PM Flag
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a kid threatened to kill a teacher? the teachers don't have a handle on discipline? not in a million years would i subject my kids to that if i could afford better for them. you're insane. and, i agree with a previous poster, you could choose to widen your social circle so that your kids could experience 'diversity," as you so quaintly put it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:42 PM Flag
[ - ] 6 yr old is not interested in longer books, chapter books, anything without pictures. So frustrating! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 03:30 PM Flag
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mine isn't, either, but i'm certainly not frustrated about it... why does it bother you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 03:51 PM Flag
[ - ] what age would you stop putting a boy in hanna a. striped pajamas? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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18. don't want him to get beat up in the dorm. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 03:30 PM Flag
[ - ] Poll: Most picturesque college/university campus. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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princeton [ Reply | More
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middlebury [ Reply | More
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is this even remotely relevant to anything? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 03:54 PM Flag
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William and Mary in Williamsburg, VA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 03:57 PM Flag
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not sure if this is 'picturesque' in the way that you mean it, but UC Santa Barbara has the most gorgeous campus right on the ocean. That's more a 'sublime' campus I suppose [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:04 PM Flag
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^^^the campus itself is not gorgeous (dreadful 60s concrete buildings)- the location is gorgeous [ Reply | More
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USC [ Reply | More
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surrounding area is not so great [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 04:29 PM Flag
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Colgate (I'm partial b/c it's my alma mater -- but it is often included on lists like this) [ Reply | More
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naval academy [ Reply | More
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Wellesley [ Reply | More
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[ - ] where are you and what is wrong with the schools? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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sorry, mispost. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 03:26 PM Flag
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marin county, california. too white [ Reply | More
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