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[ - ] boy names: what are great, interesting names for boy who has a brother named Jack and very traditional family name? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 06.18.08, 03:08 PM Flag
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do you want a unique name or more traditional? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:08 PM Flag
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both would be great [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:09 PM Flag
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owen [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:11 PM Flag
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you know there are books you can get from the library and people you can hire to do this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:11 PM Flag
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np: You can HIRE someone to pick a name for you? Holy christ. I'm all for outsourcing but that takes the cake. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:13 PM Flag
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yup! get paid big bucks too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:14 PM Flag
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cade [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:11 PM Flag
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i like irish names. cian (pron kee-in) or colm (colm or colum) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:11 PM Flag
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aran [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:12 PM Flag
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Norris; Edmund; Barrett; Walter [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:23 PM Flag
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Bennet [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:33 PM Flag
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Dalshiell [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:35 PM Flag
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Owen, Thomas, Garret, Aloysius, Benjamin, Jerome, [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:53 PM Flag
[ - ] TMI post perhaps, but: 39 weeks, 5 days, lost mucous plug yesterday, crampy and, uh, loose stools today. This is #2, had #1 on due date. Predict when I will go into labor. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 06.18.08, 03:06 PM Flag
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in an hour. you will deliver at 1am [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:09 PM Flag
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that would be fab [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:11 PM Flag
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DC will arrive on it's due day - GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:36 PM Flag
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your body's cleaning itself out... your on your way ! water breaks tonight in bed, you're pushing tomorrow by noon ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:39 PM Flag
[ - ] Did anyone else watch the Tim Russert memorial? So sad, but everyone did such a good job. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:01 PM Flag
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I am glad this is an anonymous board - and yes, I feel terrible for his family, it was a tragic death. However this wailing by the media about one of their own is frankly unseemly and ridiculous. Wonderful, honorable people die every day and the entire media industrial complex does not grind to a halt. It is just grossly over the top imo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:04 PM Flag
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ditto here. COME ON! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:08 PM Flag
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yeah! where was the memorial for dr joe rechtschaffen!?!? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:11 PM Flag
[ - ] If i have to argue over meals again with my ds i may just give up and give in to his whims. He is 3 and every meal is a battle. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:54 PM Flag
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Don't let it be a battle. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:55 PM Flag
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You can't argue with a 3 yo. You are the boss. Give him a choice of foods if you want (or don't), stick to that choice, don't offer anything else. He won't starve. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:00 PM Flag
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I agree with this. Make a reasonable meal, if he doesn't eat it, so be it. He'll eat the next one. If he can tell that it's bothering you or that there's a control issue going on, he'll make it a thing even if actually likes what you serve and is hungry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:05 PM Flag
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i know it's just upsetting and i feel like a flunky person [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:31 PM Flag
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I ditto this a million times [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:39 PM Flag
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As my ped. said, no child has ever starved himself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:22 PM Flag
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I live above post's ped, mine said "When he's hungry, he'll eat" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:41 PM Flag
[ - ] you know what really irks me? my SIL signing email with both her & her dhs name. that's weird. you wrote the email. it came from your personal email address. or are you 2 actually one whole person? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 06.18.08, 02:48 PM Flag
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Maybe she does that so you know that it's coming from your brother as well. Sometimes DH has me email his sister about something and I sign with both our names to indicate that it wasn't me alone initiating the email. B/c if your SIL feels about you the way I feel about my SIL, she doesn't want you to think it was just her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:50 PM Flag
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what way is that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:51 PM Flag
[ - ] My dd started daycare this week. She's 16mo. When I go in the classroom all of the teachers are nice and say hi, but that's it. I ask, has she had a good day? They always say, "oh yes!" but it's like I have to fish for every little bit of info. They have a sheet of what she ate and when she took a nap but her day is a mystery. Today when she saw me she ran to me and clung on for dear life. I just wondered what her day was REALLY like. Is this how daycare is? I guess I was spoiled by nanny care? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:47 PM Flag
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Yes, this is how daycare is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:48 PM Flag
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1) She is 16 mos old - my kid was saying 2 words then. 2) ask vry specific questions "Who did you sit next to at snack?", "what color did you draw with?" 3) You wont ever get much more detail no matter what you do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:50 PM Flag
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and probably they will make stuff up, misremember, tell you about something that happened yesterday, last week, last month, last year. if you want to know you have to be there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:11 PM Flag
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I think most teachers do not initiate this type of conversation b/c a lot of moms will go on for an hour talking about dc. You need to ask specific questions if you are concerned about something. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:31 PM Flag
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yeah, this is daycare. it's just the way it is. and i think it's fine, as long as you can deal with the mystery. i never thought much about it honestly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 04:11 PM Flag
[ - ] what is the psychological eval that's part of the CPSE process about? is it the same as a neuropsych eval? What will it tell you? 3.8 y/o dc will be going through process soon.. thanks 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Special Needs 06.18.08, 02:45 PM Flag
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i believe IQ. when my dd was evaluated a few months ago, that was one of the tests. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 03:30 AM Flag
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No, neuropsych eval is much more thorough. However, the WPPSI is indeed the IQ test used for this age group. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 08:28 AM Flag
[ - ] At what age did your ds stop wearing a pullup to bed? Did you just do it cold turkey one nigth and let the accidents happen? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.18.08, 02:43 PM Flag
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children have to produce a certain amount of a hormone before they are capable of being dry throughout the night. if your ds is going in his sleep, taking off the pullup is not going to help him wake up. let him sleep in the pull up until he wakes up dry 5 - 7 nights in a row. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:44 PM Flag
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I have never heard of this hormone you speak of - could you be more specific or point me to a link? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:05 PM Flag
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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bedwetting [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:12 PM Flag
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ds was day and night trained simultaneously when he turned 3. DD was day-trained at 2.2, but not night-trained until almost 4 (she has a small bladder) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:46 PM Flag
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when the kid is dry in the morning. it's a physiological process, not something that can be trained. range of normal is 2-8 yo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:47 PM Flag
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just recently stopped diapering 3.5yo DS at night. he was dry for 7 days in a row. only 1 accident so far - i think DH didn't make him go before bed AND gave him water. fortunately DH was there that night to help with the clean up. (i still had to get up and show him where we keep the sheets for toddler bed) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:07 PM Flag
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happened all at once--day and night simultaneously. Ds was about 3 years, 2 months. An unofficial poll of friends with kids of the same age: Kids who get the day training early, seemed to take longer with the night stuff. Kids who were relatively late to potty train, like ds, seemed to get both at the same time. Completely anecdotal; have no idea if there is an validity to observation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 04:13 PM Flag
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My ds is almost six and still wears a pullup at night. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 04:18 PM Flag
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you just wait for it to happen. #1 was day trained at 2.2yo and wore a pull up until about 3.5yo, #2 day trained at 2.5yo and is already dry all night. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 04:33 PM Flag
[ - ] French mom here. Have any of you heard if the Lycee Francais in NY is good comopared to eith the private schools or the G&T public schools...I am new to this whole process... 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:41 PM Flag
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Angelina Jolie's kids went there when they lived in nyc. I think it is VERY exclusive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:35 PM Flag
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It's no more exclusive than the other private schools, and it is several thousand dollars less expensive than many of the other well-regarded privates. I've heard that the facilities are very nice (they are relatively new, apparently). Of course, they follow the French system, which could be an issue if you should later decide that you want your child in a different private school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:16 PM Flag
[ - ] Poll: What's for dinner? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:36 PM Flag
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Pasta with vodka sauce and shrimp [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:37 PM Flag
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steak, corn and broccoli -- nothing too exciting... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:44 PM Flag
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grilled chicken and broccoli. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:48 PM Flag
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Ziti (I never cook and 6-y-o DS said: "Do you know how to make that?" Luckily, I do!) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:01 PM Flag
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leftover dumplings from the Chinese place nearby. Delicious! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 05:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Is Hunter better than G&T? 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.18.08, 02:35 PM Flag
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I think so. Some of the G&Ts are probably as good in terms of academics, but the K-12 aspect and lack of DOE interference make Hunter better than any of them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:37 PM Flag
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I wouldn't be able to compare but we love Hunter - but there are a lot of Hunter/G&T families at Hunter [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:40 PM Flag
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not many people get to choose between the two [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:41 PM Flag
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In the past, of course they did. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 04:41 PM Flag
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i know 2 kids who got into hunter this year, and none of them scored high enough to qualify for g&t. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:54 PM Flag
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And? You're a fool if you think that signifies anything about the intelligence of those dc vs. the dc who did qualify on the OLSAT. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:59 PM Flag
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i never mentioned intelligence in my sentence, did i? it just shows that the tests are different, the kids are different, and it all depends on the program. i doubt hunter is much better than A or N or ps9. and you are so fast calling names, yikes :-( [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:06 PM Flag
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np - I do think that Hunter is better than PS 9, NEST and Anderson FWIW. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 04:45 PM Flag
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Right, because the SB actually tests for IQ. Also, the are probably creative. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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duh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:13 PM Flag
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Much better. And the HS is arguably the best public HS in NYC. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 04:42 PM Flag
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Where does Hunter get its money? How can they provide such a good education without charging tuition and also not be under the jurisdiction of the DOE? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 04:45 PM Flag
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they are funded by hunter cuny (city university of new york) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 04:50 PM Flag
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Right - through the Regents, which funds the whole CUNY system. Plus they get state funds, like the DOE schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 04:51 PM Flag
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Why? What's in it for CUNY and the State? How did it start? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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It is a lab school for Hunter college for the study of gifted children [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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They also get only about half of what DOE allocates for students. BUT, they have massive fundraising - over $1 million a year by parents. They also have teachers that are hired in a University system (read: better benefits and tenure) than DOE can offer. Much easier employer, Hunter College, than DOE with revolving door of power/mayoral interference. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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Although CUNY has its own set of bureaucracies, of course. It's been somewhat easier I hear since Jennifer Raab became President of Hunter College. She's a graduate of Hunter HS herself (+ Cornell BA, Princeton MPA, Harvard JD - she likes school!). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:28 PM Flag
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I thought Hunter receives around 12K per student--around $1500 less per child than regular NYC public schools get. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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NYC public schools do it on 10k a child [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:01 PM Flag
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It was around 13K per child in 2004 per this: http://www.nysun.com/new-york/new-york-outpacing-other-states-in-school/30299/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:29 PM Flag
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$12,644 it says for NYC. But I saw DOE figures which shows that that also includes the over $30K per pupil spent for Special Ed kids and that gen ed kids alone had an average of $10K per pupil [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 09:01 PM Flag
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Thanks, that makes sense. Schools in the expensive suburbs spend over twice that amount per child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 05:00 AM Flag
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I find these statements hard to believe: Hunter parents raise over 1 million annually for the school? and Hunter receives around 50% of DOE allocation per child? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:33 PM Flag
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I also don't think that's true re 50% of DOE amount, but Hunter does get less than DOE pupils. As for the $1 million, I don't know the exact amount either, but remember that it's a K-12, with 2 separate PTAs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:58 PM Flag
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Hunter parent: elementary school raises close to half a million so the over 1 million for the whole school number looks about right when you add in the high school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:01 AM Flag
[ - ] is hunter better than G&T? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:34 PM Flag
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imo, yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:35 PM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:44 PM Flag
[ - ] What do you all think about giving priority to zoned kids for district G&T spots? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.18.08, 02:34 PM Flag
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I don't like it, but I wish they'd do away with the districts entirely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:39 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:42 PM Flag
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Absolutely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:43 PM Flag
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This will cause an even wider disparity between desirable district G&Ts and the others. At least now, the "smartest" kids in the district who don't get into citywides remain in their districts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:45 PM Flag
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ITD. Keeping the system as it is perpetuates the disparities. If UMC dc from D2 were just as likely to get a spot at PS 19 G&T as at PS 116 G&T, and vice versa, it would help to reduce disparities. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:58 PM Flag
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^ Just as an example. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:58 PM Flag
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Not sure I follow. What I meant was, if all the qualifying kids end up in the most desirable schools, these schools will continue to thrive whereas schools that would otherwise have received these kids will lose out. The disparity between schools will increase. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:04 PM Flag
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A lot of "smartest" kids will be staying in their zones. Don't assume because you chose a city-wide that other parents with 99s won't keep their children in their zoned school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 04:22 PM Flag
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I know 2 99s going to PS 9 Gen Ed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 04:25 PM Flag
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Unless their zoned school is of some standard, I doubt many of these 99s will keep their child in their zoned Gen Ed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 04:25 PM Flag
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I'll be keeping my 99 at 321 in Brooklyn over NEST. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 04:40 PM Flag
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Do you know how large this city is? That's ridiculous. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 04:35 PM Flag
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I think this was how it worked many years ago. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 04:29 PM Flag
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And it got abolished because...? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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np - That's how D3 worked. So a dc with a 90 on the SB but who lived in PS 9's catchment got preference over a dc who scored a 99.99 on the SB but lived out of zone. It got abolished when the DOE took over the G&T process. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 04:34 PM Flag
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So they've replaced it w/sibling preference, but now potentially spending much more on busing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 05:43 PM Flag
[ - ] newborn ds is sleeping in what looks like to me a very uncomfortable position. let sleeping dogs lie right and don't move him? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:33 PM Flag
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take a load off and relax... think how squished up ds was just a short time ago ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:35 PM Flag
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bless your heart. nap here i come [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:38 PM Flag
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You must be southern. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:49 PM Flag
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move him, he'll be still sleeping. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:56 PM Flag
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Yes. My 2 yo still sleeps in the most ridiculous looking positions. Doesn't bother him so it doesn't bother me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:08 PM Flag
[ - ] i am weaning myself off of this percocet stat! i am so swollen and the pain's not so bad anymore a week after the c-section. Anyone else btdt? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:32 PM Flag
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I had 2 c/s and I don't think I took the percoset for more than a day or 2 once I was home -- Motrin was enough by that point (everyone is different of course, and no one should suffer unnecessary pain, so if you need it, take it!)... And congrats!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:36 PM Flag
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for my first c/s, i was just like that ... 2 days of percocet and that's it. for this second one though i think i've been so much more active sooner that the pain has been worse. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:38 PM Flag
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OR -- interesting. For me it was the opposite. The first 24 hours after the 1st one were the worst pain I have ever had (and then I was fine once they started alternating motrin and percoset). For the 2nd, it was nothing. Same exact incision save like 1mm where I felt that burning. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:41 PM Flag
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i haven't even enjoyed the drugs this time around. i'm definitely not addict material. i also think they had to cut through a lot of scar tissue. maybe that's my problem [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:46 PM Flag
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i never lasted long on percocet - it made me feel wired and i couldn't sleep. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:46 PM Flag
[ - ] confession: I have an office job and do so little work it is laughable. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:25 PM Flag
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as a business owner i consider that stealing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:26 PM Flag
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op: you would be 100% right. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:28 PM Flag
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as a business owner I consider that a stupid business owner [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:29 PM Flag
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op: you would be 100% right as well ;) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:31 PM Flag
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why would you say that? You don't know the circumstances. I work at a job where fo rthe first 4-5 months I begged for work and they said I was doing so much already. I finaly got used to doing sooooooooo much less. I am not stealing and maybe she isn't either [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:31 PM Flag
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op: I am in sales and I bring in my numbers every month. That is all I care about and I guess it is all they care about too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:34 PM Flag
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