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[ - ] Friend of mine is dealing with major potty training issues. Would like input/advice. Her son is 3.5 yo and started potty training last summer to prepare for preschool. He was successful peeing, but would not poop on the potty. She would sent him in a pull up for the entire school year with no accidents. But he will not poop on the potty. She is insane about it. Advice? What do you think this is about? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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my dd was like this. no clue why. all the literature i read said to just go with it - she'd go in the potty when she was ready. dh did not subscribe to this theory and banned pullups. she never went in her panties - would just cry and beg for a pullup and withheld her poop. i gave it two weeks - told him i'd try his way but on day 14 i was going back to pullups. she gave in on day 5 and after a few weird weeks she is totally fine. now 8 y.o. and no issues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:06 AM Flag
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So what would you recommend? Stopping the pull ups all together? It is crazy, we go for playdates over there and he plays with peers who are totally trained, but will slink off to the corner to poop. It makes my friend CRAZY and I wonder if it is now a power struggle between them? Have you ever heard of anyone hiring a potty trainer? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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i, honestly, don't know. dd was 3 yr and about 3 months when we tried it my dh's way. she does not seemed scarred many years down the road. i don't know if we had done it in a kinder and gentler way if the results would have been the same or if we would have had the rare kid that holds poop all day and then asks for a pullup when she gets home from kindergarten. i suspect the latter b/c she didn't start pooping in public without resistance until 1st grade. i don't know that there is an absolute right or wrong way but more what will work for individual families. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:13 AM Flag
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My son went through this for a few months. On the advice of our ped we didn't push it at all, just told him that when he decided to use the toilet to poop we would take him to the toystore to pick out something new. He did on his own after about 3 months, no looking back. I would guess that pushing it/making a huge issue out of it, only makes it worse because it becomes a power struggle (and 3 yos are fantastic at power struggles) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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I just find it hard to believe that he has been going for a YEAR with this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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One of my friend's kids did this until after his 4th birthday. I think some kids just have issues. She could try to take the pullups away and see what happens, but it may be that he'll just go in his underwear or start holding it - neither really better options. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:10 AM Flag
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Why do you find it hard to believe? I know many parents who experienced this. Every child is different. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:11 AM Flag
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Mine wouldn't poop on the potty for about a year after being trained for pee. She would ask for a pull-up, go, and put her underwear back on. We obliged her. Once we approached a year we started weaning off the pull-ups - did a countdown to no pullups, made a big deal out of buying the last package, decided on a "reward" for pooping on the potty and the very day we used our last pull-up she pooped on the toilet. It's really one of the only measures of control a child has. Our ped said not to push it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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Leave it alone. The child is only 3.5, he's not going to be 4 and still wearing pull ups. Your friend shouldn't make the kid crazy, shouldn't make herself crazy. Its gonna happen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:11 AM Flag
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np: i think that leaving it alone is a fine method. i think you're completely wrong that the kid will definitely not be 4 y.o. and still wearing pull ups. he very well could be if they choose to leave it alone. that wouldn't be a tragedy but it could happen. what's the difference b/t wearing pullups at 3.5 and wearing them at 4? only 6 months [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:16 AM Flag
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Lots of boys are still working on potty training at 3.5 and virtually all of them have got it down by 4. Not all, but most. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:28 AM Flag
[ - ] Gazillion Bubble Show good for 20mo? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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I'm pretty sure a 20mo thinks of the bubbles you blow out of a 99 cents jar of bubbles as a "Gazillion Bubble Show"! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:59 AM Flag
[ - ] If your baby measures 6 weeks 3 days (according to the u/s machine measurement), you are in your 7th week, correct? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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yes, about half-way through. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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when does the heart start to beat? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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right away. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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21 days after conception [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:35 AM Flag
[ - ] brown or black shoes with navy blue suit? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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BROWN! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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ITA!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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black [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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ita. i'd do black with a navy suit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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used to be strictly brown, but I feel like people are becoming more open minded about it... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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blue and black do not go together - major fashion faux pas. almost as bad as stockings with open toed shoes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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I totally disagree. I think black shoes are fine, black is the ultimate neutral that goes with everything. And there's not much worse than stockings with open toed shoes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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either is fine. black patent would look nice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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op: that's what I planned to wear with the suit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:06 AM Flag
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Black. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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Eli Manning says BROWN all the way [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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wow did you see the bod on that wife of his?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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betsy basketballs, with a 19 inch waist [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:20 AM Flag
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man or woman? pants or skirt? stockings or bare legs? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:33 PM Flag
[ - ] I am going to Marc Cohn concert tonight. I am so excited should be great. I hope he plays his older stuff. I grew up listening to hime because of my parents. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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you will be the youngest one there [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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Yup who cares. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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I love marc cohn. Walking in memphis is one of my favs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:35 AM Flag
[ - ] what's your hobby? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:49 AM Flag
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Used to have a few now I have no time because of the kids. They are my hobby. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:50 AM Flag
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lately, obsessing about the declining value of my house. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:50 AM Flag
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oh god me too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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when and where did you buy? Us, Sept 07 in Prospect Park South, Brooklyn [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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where is PP South? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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cooking. does that count? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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knitting and quilting [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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shopping and eating [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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bicycling, obsessing about next cycling-related acquisition [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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what are you riding now? what is your hope/dream? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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want to make the jump from Trek 1.2 to Orbea [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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That is a sweet bike! I love that integrated seat clamp on the Orca. I ride an old school GT. It is stiff as an I-beam. But fun to ride. (It gets to be a bit much on centuries but is really responsive.) Which Orbea are you looking at? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:05 PM Flag
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reading. used to be community theatre but i don't know if i'll have the courage to audition again once my kids are old enough for me to get back into it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:07 PM Flag
[ - ] I have an interview next week and it's with the HR person instead of the director of the dept. What type of interview should I expect? Being grilled from a list of questions like where do I want to be in five years? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.19.08, 10:47 AM Flag
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yeah, it'll be irritating, a screener. just be presentable and articulate and they'll move you through to the interview that matters [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:48 AM Flag
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thanks. any other advice? It's for a management position in my field so I'm not sure if I should emphasize supervision of people and/or take on a certain persona. I get so worn out by these interviews that are so different from the job I'd actually have to do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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HR will ask questions like, What was your experience at your previous company, are you a yeam play if so why, why are you leaving current job. We just want to ensure you are a good fit for the dept and company. I do this at least 3x a week. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:53 AM Flag
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Thank you. That helps. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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will ask why are leaving current job [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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What is a good answer? Actually, my department is being reorganized and I want to move back to my old state. Is that a reasonable answer? Because it's true. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:44 AM Flag
[ - ] looking for 12 oz. foogo nyc metro area anyone know where I can find one 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:45 AM Flag
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whole foods, target [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:46 AM Flag
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target didn't have I'll try whole foods thanx do you have one for dc if so how is it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:48 AM Flag
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our target (in CA) had them with the regular thermos stuff near the camping gear if that is helpful, not with the baby stuff. We like them a lot - have had 2 for a few months and they are starting to get leaky... bumming me out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:50 AM Flag
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oh wow really should I bother. have a three/four and two/three year old looking for something for playground short runs etc. What about klean Kanteen? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:53 AM Flag
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If you don't need the sippy spouts I would go with a regular thermos/water bottle type thing. I think it's the sippy valves that leak. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:12 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone know where you can buy a basal body thermometer? Or does it have to be ordered online? TIA 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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TTC 06.19.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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any drugstore [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:46 AM Flag
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went to both duane reade and walgreens and they said they don't carry them... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:47 AM Flag
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really? that shocks me. and then i'm not sure. try bigelow in the village [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:49 AM Flag
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Just order one from drugstore.com. And while you're at it, you can order some OPKs & pg tests! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:49 AM Flag
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Duane Reade I'm sure carries them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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maybe its just the duane reade near my office then - it sucks. No one working there even understands or speaks english so I'm not surprised.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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i got mine at walgreens - isnt it just a thermometer that goes out 2 decimals? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:13 AM Flag
[ - ] If you have out of town guests from his side visiting when DH is at work. Is it horrible to not entertain them and just stay at your house till your DH comes home from work? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:43 AM Flag
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yes, and you know it is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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yes that's not nice..but I get what you are saying. His family, his problem. Unless I loved them it would annoy me to have to babysit ppl I didn't invite over [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:45 AM Flag
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I offer to have my ILs tag along with us for regular activiites. Also try to help them find things they would like to do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:46 AM Flag
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Tough call. It' [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:46 AM Flag
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Depends who they are. If I hardly know them and they are new to NY I leave them to sightsee. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:49 AM Flag
[ - ] Friend's DS in another city has had trouble in math this year. Told by school he needs summer school to work on it, but they are leaving the country for summer to visit family (unavoidable). Can anyone recommend good computer programs to help 2nd grade boy get up to snuff?? TIA! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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she should ask the school, so that whatever program is used complements what he's learning [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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That gets complicated. He just needs help with basics I think -- it's actually my friend's housekeeper's son and she's had trouble communicating with school all year. Friend wants to tutor boy before he and his mom leave country. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:47 AM Flag
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Maybe find out where he's lacking (reading? math?) and then buy a few of those grade-specific books by Kumon or whatever. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:48 AM Flag
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It may be that he need drilling in math facts (a big problem at this age and will prevent him from moving on). I second the idea of getting a few math workbooks (summerbridge for 2nd to 3rd grade) or a 2nd grade workbook and working through pages as much as possible. The boy should then have homework ...ie quiet work time for 15 minutes per day in the work books. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:59 AM Flag
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