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[ - ] If you found out your DH was cheating, would you confront the other woman? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.19.08, 09:34 AM Flag
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god no. Confront your dh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:36 AM Flag
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even if you had her email? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:36 AM Flag
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she's a stranger. the person who is supposed to love and honor you is the one who screwed up. start with him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:40 AM Flag
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Seriously, what good do you think would come out of this? She'd probably get the email, tell your dh, tell her friends and laugh. Won't help you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:40 AM Flag
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definitely not, it's you dh the f'ed up not her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:37 AM Flag
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unless you're going to divorce your DH there's no need to go through all that drama [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:37 AM Flag
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could you sue the other woman? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:38 AM Flag
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sue your husband...for divorce....he is in contract with you, she isn't [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:40 AM Flag
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for what? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:43 AM Flag
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No way. Your issue shouldn't be with her at all it should be with dh. What she is doing is wrong but she doesn't even know you. Your dh is the one cheating on you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:39 AM Flag
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no, that would be a waste of time. no need [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:43 AM Flag
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nope. She's not the one screwing you over. he is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:46 AM Flag
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My friend did confront the other woman face to face and the other woman couldn't have cared less, she certainly wasn't about to apologise. My friend was still glad she did it though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:13 AM Flag
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what did she say? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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HELL YEAH..after I confront his ass. She's not screwing my dh and getting away with it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:30 AM Flag
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you would confront her before dh? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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np: she wrote "after" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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Why? I don't care who she screws. I only care who dh screws. She's not my problem. He is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:13 AM Flag
[ - ] Any Western Queens Anderson Moms on? Would love to organize a private shuttle bus. 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.19.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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Sunnyside, where are you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:42 AM Flag
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Astoria [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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I am thinking of taking ds to school in the morning and have babysitter pick him up. I also looked at the afterschool program, it looks interesting. So I may sign him up for a couple of days. What's on your mind? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 02:08 PM Flag
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I know one other Anderson dc in our nabe. Thought we could get a private van service, but it may not make sense $$ wise with just 3 kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 02:15 PM Flag
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Wait until Monday to see how many in the K class are from Queens. Also, you might find some more from other grades that would be interested in the bus as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 02:33 PM Flag
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I think there are a few new Queens parents. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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. . . might be worth bringing up at registration/orientation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:37 AM Flag
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Is there currently a private bus that people organize at A for Queens kids? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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Donna's email from yesterday suggested they were going to try to get class info out so that people in the same general areas could begin to have playdates over the summer, so hopefully they'll get that info out soon. See you all on Monday! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:40 AM Flag
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Np: I vote for a playdate at the Beer Garden in Astoria. Just saying :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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You can take the girl out of Queens, but . . . [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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UWSer here. Can I join the Beer Garden party? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:04 PM Flag
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What do you think about the rumored 36/14 girl/boy split? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:45 AM Flag
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When the Yahoo G&T group did the poll, 99s appeared to be almost evenly split between boys & girls. 36/14 sounds pretty starkly lopsided. I hope there is more balance. We'll get a sense at the orientation events. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:48 AM Flag
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Interesting. I didn't know about that group. Anyway, balance would be great, but it is what it is (and I would gladly send my ds there if he was the only boy in the whole school). See you Monday. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:53 AM Flag
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who cares how many boys vs girls are in a class? Are your kids in need or a more balanced make-up? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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Western Queens? Why would you do that to your kid? Move to Great Neck, send to public school and be done with it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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why can't you just accept the fact that our kids got in and yours did and BE DONE WITH IT? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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>>> and do you have any idea geophically where wester Queens is? it is closer to UWS than Great Neck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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(though we didn't make it to A) From western Queens to Anderson takes just 30-40 mins drive (If triborough is not crowded, door to door could be less than 30 mins). So it'll be quicker than somebody commuting from lower Manhattan. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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Western Queens is closest to Manhattan. Eastern Queens is nearer to Great Neck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 05:53 AM Flag
[ - ] My DC learned to socialize at his zoned public...as far as Math, History and Science are conerned I'd say that he learned 90% at home. Thanks Bloomberg for helping my DC learn how to socialize, I'm not giving you any credit for his scores though 32 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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what school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:41 AM Flag
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very coveted D3 school [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:44 AM Flag
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I know a family switching their child from ps 9 G&T to private. They said it was good until 3rd grade and then it was just dumb, rote, boring work and their son stopped learning anything. They had a younger child in private already and they saw the difference immediately. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:50 AM Flag
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ITA with that. Public schools truly suck in grades 3-5 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:50 AM Flag
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that's because they're teaching to the test during those years [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:53 AM Flag
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Actually, around 3rd to 4th grade is when cognitive development really takes off. So, the under-demanding curriculum and necessary focus on classroom management become problems at that point. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:01 AM Flag
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It's not that, it's the endless test prep that replaces real learning at that point. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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But the "4th grade problem" has been around forever. In my neighborhood, people habitually sent their children to the "pretty good" local school but pulled them out in 4th grade to go to a private. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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It has gotten worse. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:50 AM Flag
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it's worse because thereare NO spots for third and fourth grade in most privates. Historically people moved to the burbs when their oldest kid hit third grade. ..creating attrition and openings in private schools, allowing for 'movement' from public to private for other kids. Nobody's going anywhere. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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This may change, actually. But I meant more that testing is getting more and more focus with the school grading and other crap. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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isn't 199 the only coveted zoned school in the UWS? Or is 87 also coveted? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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Both are quite coveted, by far the best gen ed schools on UWS. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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I would rank MSC up there as well (though not zoned). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 01:11 PM Flag
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Yay. Starting there in Sept. Unbelivably happy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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87 is edging out 199 in coveted-ness this year because of 199s crowding. 87 has as many kids, but more room to handle them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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199 still has quite a bit better scores and MS admissions which people care about as much as they complain about the testing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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No, scores are equal now with the new principal at 87. Don't know about MS admissions. 199 has gotten a negative-ish reputation in the past year or two. Less people looking for lottery spots, and more zoned people looking elsewhere. Not keeping up with the bigger population, some administration issues too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 07:38 AM Flag
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Very negative at 199 - go to 87. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.28.08, 07:42 AM Flag
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87 is way more preferrable. Go there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.28.08, 07:41 AM Flag
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oh god, stay out of 199 - 87 is SO MUCH BETTER. Go there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.28.08, 07:41 AM Flag
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Learning to socialize is a huge part of school. Did dc learn to socialize in a way you are happy with? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:50 AM Flag
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OP: Yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:54 AM Flag
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I think you probably give yourself too much credit [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:52 AM Flag
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ITA. Did the OP drill the kid for hours after school? I hope not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:03 AM Flag
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Well my ds got into every top tier private school that we applied to from p.s. 116. Oh and he was in gen ed, not tag. He is now at the top tier private school and is completly bored with the curriculum. He thought 116 was more challenging. But thanks for your comments. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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Defensive much? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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np: just another POV [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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A tt school and he's bored? Isn't there depth to the teaching? The science was better at 116? Is this middle school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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Did he apply out for MS? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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What grade is your DC in? That would be an important part of information. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:47 AM Flag
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Waht about G&T schools? Are they any better than gen ed? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.28.08, 07:43 AM Flag
[ - ] went for sonogram they said about 4 weeks but all you see is a donut hole?? where's the baby? I thought by 4 weeks there would be something there. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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I had a sonogram at 8wks, it was just a flicker on the screen [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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no, you definately cannot see the baby at 4 weeks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:33 AM Flag
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My scan at 6weeks only showed a sac (normal pg) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:58 AM Flag
[ - ] What is the process for starting a charter school? Anyone know of a resource? I have a great location in Brooklyn... 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.19.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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you need a lot more than a location -- like an educational plan! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:51 AM Flag
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granted. I taught for several years (I was provisionally licensed to teach social studies) and have been in business for some time. I'm wondering what is involved. I realize this won't be easy but I wonder if it is doable at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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this page might help: http://schools.nyc.gov/ChoicesEnrollment/SpecialPrograms/CharterSchools/CharterSchoolCreation/default.htm [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:10 AM Flag
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That linked to some other great stuff, too. Thanks. (I should have done my own homework before punting like that.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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You are very welcome :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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where in brooklyn? I know some people who have put together a school and are looking for a space [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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I guess I'd be selfish to not say... Thomas Aquinas Church on 4th Ave and 9th Street. They had a parochial school there for a long time and it closed a few years ago. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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thanks for answering but I don't think that will work for this school anyway (williamsburg) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:33 AM Flag
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I don't have a reply option on your post... tell them to look into old Catholic Schools. The diocese (sp?) closed several of them throughout NYC. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:10 PM Flag
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Catholic schools won't house public schools. Not sure if that applies to charters. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:26 PM Flag
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The school closed. It is empty. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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I know, but the diocese won't lease their empty spaces to the DOE. It's a real shame because there are unused classrooms that overcrowded schools could really use. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 04:05 PM Flag
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Do you know if that is true for an "extra governmental" group.. like a Charter School? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 06:09 AM Flag
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I know they lease to private schools -- don't know about charter. There's also a beautiful empty school in Carrol Gardens. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 07:18 AM Flag
[ - ] i need to rant a little. for whatever reason, there are a couple of vaccinations that do not work for me. i've received them a few times and they don't work. it really bothers me that people don't vaccinate their kids. i am left totally vulnerable and so is my fetus. pisses me off 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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oh - i get it - so your reasons to not vaccinate are legit and others are not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:40 AM Flag
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you misunderstood the post -- op vaccinates, but in a small minority of people, the vaccination just doesn't "take" so they can still get the disease even though they vaccinate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:45 AM Flag
[ - ] name one item that has become needlessly overpriced in the last few weeks/months. Me: Fruit. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.19.08, 09:21 AM Flag
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and how do you determine that it's needlessly overpriced? higher cost of fuel is passed on to the consumer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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50% ??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:33 AM Flag
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All fruit or some fruit? Some fruit has to be transported a huge number of miles. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:51 AM Flag
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I met a guy at a party who works for a big dairy in Queens. He said the Eastern Seaboard food distribution network is owned by one company, Dean Foods, and that they have been relentlessly shutting down union dairies and raising milk prices. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:52 AM Flag
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Thank you - I rest my case. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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are you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:11 AM Flag
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no, but I play one on TV...wtf. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:13 AM Flag
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there's a "big" dairy in Queens? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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did you know there is a price cap on milk in the NY area (rarely observed or enforced) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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gas [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:42 AM Flag
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entenmanns cakes!! they $5.69!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:15 PM Flag
[ - ] really interesting and disturbing article from Time website: http://tinyurl.com/5rxszu. As summer vacation begins, 17 girls at Gloucester High School are expecting babies—more than four times the number of pregnancies the 1,200-student school had last year. Some adults dismissed the statistic as a blip. Others blamed hit movies like Juno and Knocked Up for glamorizing young unwed mothers. But principal Joseph Sullivan knows at least part of the reason there's been such a spike in teen pregnancies... 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:14 AM Flag
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I read this. girls choosing to get pregnant. and Gloucester is really a dead end place. I think it is sooo irresponsible of parents to fight the school on birth control. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:19 AM Flag
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I agree, but birth control is not going to help the girls who want to be pregnant. They can't force it on them. Such a sad state of affairs that they seem to have no hope whatsoever. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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true. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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abortion rates go up under republican presidents. why? education goes down and abstinence only is taught instead. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:25 AM Flag
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but if you read the article, that isn't the issue [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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I can't imagine thinking a baby would make things better. I was a mother's helper the summer I was 14--world's best birth control. After a summer of helping with newborn twins and a 2yo I swore I'd never have kids at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:29 AM Flag
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So what can you personally do to help/change/contribute to the situation? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:30 AM Flag
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Personally? teach my dds to be responisble. I'm not sure how I can change the mindset of a girl in another state, or the family culture she grew up in. what are your ideas? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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I didn't read the article, but for the issues that concern me I do help in what ever way I am capable. I agree, raising our children with compassion and awareness is the best activity. But if you can't see how to change the situation for other girls, I don't see the benefit in worrying about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:42 AM Flag
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what does that mean? What exactly should I be doing? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:44 AM Flag
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the thing that kills me about this article is the quote about how wouldn't it be wonderful to have a baby because of the unconditional love. How many kids love their parents unconditionally in 10-20 years? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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ITA. with little to no understanding of the endless, thankless work that goes into caring for a newborn. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:34 AM Flag
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and girls who say that are rarely giving that kind of love back....it is conditioned upon having babysitting, being able to go out,etc, etc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:46 AM Flag
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This is an interesting post in conjunction with the race post earlier. I tried to point out that economics is more of an indicator for teen pregnancy etc. than race (shouldn't be necessary to do that, but....). Gloucester's a very white town, so I'm assuming most if not all these girls are white.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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true...and their reasons for wanting babies so young are very similar to the reasons given by black teens [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:05 AM Flag
[ - ] my dd is 4 1/2 months is it ok to start feeding her cereal in her bottle for the nightime feeding? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 06.19.08, 09:13 AM Flag
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not till 6 months [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:13 AM Flag
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really? so many people told me i was late that is was normal to start at like 3 months [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:15 AM Flag
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The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends that babies be breastfed exclusively for at least six months, I assume that this would also apply if formula feeding [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:30 AM Flag
[ - ] DD has been getting little red spots on her body, they only last a couple hours, and they don't seem to bother them. Could it be a food allergy? Has this happened to anyone? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:08 AM Flag
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heat rash [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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It's not hot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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my egg allergic dd gets what looks like tiny hives when she eats food with egg in it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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