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[ - ] I am the Mom who just posted about my DH leaving me last night. DH just sent me this e-mail..."Honey, I screwed up so much last night and over the last 19 months, I love you so much and I don't want to be with her. I will support the baby, but I want to be your husband and a father to our kids. I couldn't sleep last night knowing I hurt you. I can't eat knowing I hurt you. I can't go on without you. Please take me back." What does this mean? What do I do? 47 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:12 PM Flag
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This just can't be real, right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:14 PM Flag
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OP: It is real. I think my DH is losing it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:14 PM Flag
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np: i thought the other post was a fake post but didn't suggest it b/c if it was a real post why put her through more grief. but this is a poor follow up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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OP: these posts are real. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:16 PM Flag
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if this is a real post, i'd say to not do anything for a week. arrange to meet again on monday or tuesday evening in a neutral setting and discuss what you each want to do and where you want to go from here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:20 PM Flag
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OP: I like this idea. Thank you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:21 PM Flag
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it means that when he told his 'other woman' that he left you for her she said she wasn't that into him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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He sent this in an EMAIL? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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Yes, he just sent it a few minutes ago. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:16 PM Flag
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you need to be strong. i would make him be tested for bi-polar [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:16 PM Flag
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Thank you. I am thinking that something is really wrong here. This is just weird and I am freaked out by it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:17 PM Flag
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screw him! no excuse. take him for all he's worth. once a cheat always a cheat. there are consequences for actions [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:16 PM Flag
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i agree with good he cant eat or sleep the ahole... but there are two kids to worry about [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:18 PM Flag
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Only you can decide what to do in this situation. If you are willing to work it out, more power to you. Insist that you attend counsling together. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:18 PM Flag
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You tell him No. Having an affair is something that can often be worked through. Getting another woman pregnant is a deal-breaker. This woman and her DB will be a part of your life for the duration of your marriage, no matter what DH is telling you now, unless all is going to be doing is writing checks, in which case he is not a good father (and what is he teaching your DSs with this behavior). He got another woman pregnant. It's over. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:18 PM Flag
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I don't know what his plans are for the baby. I would hope he'd be a part of the child's life, I mean he is a good Dad to our sons and I'd hope he'd be a good Dad to the new baby. The whole thing concerns me and I am really confused on what to do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:21 PM Flag
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You don't need to make any long term decisions right away. Take your time, go to couples therapy, see what develops. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:18 PM Flag
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I am willing to do therapy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:19 PM Flag
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Then do that. Go to therapy, keep your mind open to forgiveness, but also start thinking about the idea of being on your own so its not so terrifying to you. You are shocked and confused right now, but in time the path will reveal itself. So just take it slow for now, no long term decisions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:22 PM Flag
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Thank you. I am going to start looking for a therapist. Does anyone know any in the Westfield, NJ area? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:23 PM Flag
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BTW, I've BTDT. I know that it is incredibly painful and at time it may seem like its always going to feel that way but I swear to you that it won't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:24 PM Flag
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How did you get through it? What did yur DH do to you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:26 PM Flag
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I learned that he had been cheating for years. It was hideous and our marriage ultimately did not survive but you know what? Life goes on. I'm a middle aged, single mother of three and I never in my wildest dreams could have imagined that my life would turn out this way but its ok. And do get a good therapist. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:28 PM Flag
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Were you ever at a point where you thought it could stay together? How did you find out about the affair? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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Yes, there was a long period where I flip flopped -- sometimes I thought I could live with what had happened, then I would think that there was no way I could ever be happy in the relationship again, then back and forth. As time went on, and as we talked about stuff in couples therapy, the time that I spent thinking that I could never be happy with this man again took up a greater and greater percentage of my time until it finally became clear that the marriage wasn't going to work. But honestly, it took a long long time to get there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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OP: Thank you. I will keep this in mind......do you mind if I ask you one thing. When you were in therapy, did yuo live together? DId you have sex at all? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:36 PM Flag
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Yes, we lived together until well after we finally decided to divorce. And believe it or not, as strange as it sounds, we did have sex. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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Thank you. I was just curious about living arrangements, since obviously that is something DH and I may have to address. And yes I wanted to know about sex, because that could come up. One other question, was the sex any better or worse than before? Was it tough to have sex with him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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OK, this is complicated but I'm willing to try to articulate it in an UB post. The sex was different than before. In order to be able to do it, I had to purposefully push out of my mind thoughts of him with other people and it took quite a bit of mental energy to do that. So while I was able to have sex with him and orgasm and actually enjoy the physical part, the emotional bond of making love with someone you are in love with was gone. By trying so hard not to feel the painful stuff, I wound up not feeling anything much at all. But at the time I felt that it was important to have sex if there was going to be a real chance at reconciliation so I gave it the old college try. I hope this is helpful and not depressing; just because it didn't work out for us doesn't mean that it won't for you -- my ex had many many issues, childhood violence, multiple substance additions -- I hope you don't take away from my story the idea that your marriage is doomed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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Thank you. I needed to know. I am no where near a point where I'd consider sex with him. I still need to see what is up and why he did this. And see a therapist. Right now the thought of having sex with now is disgusting to me and I would almost rather have sex wtih Wilfred Brimley than DH. Who knows maybe it can work or it won't. I know it will be hard to push out the thoughts of the other woman. I mean my DH had sex with her, he was inside her, pressed against her. It is sickening to think about. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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Oh, honey, I know. My heart goes out to you. GL whatever happens. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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NP: Doesn't sound strange to me, when my ex DH and I were in therapy we'd have sex sometimes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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He got another woman pregnant. What's therapy going to do, discuss visitation? And most of the time I suggest therapy (it saved my marriage). No therapist can work through this one. It's time for a lawyer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:24 PM Flag
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Look, it is a very problematic situation but how can you say that no couple on earth can possibly survive this? Even if they eventually separate, OP will want to know in her heart -- and be able to tell her children one day -- that she didn't act in haste or out of anger, that she did everything she could to save her marriage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:26 PM Flag
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OP: Thank you. I want to make sure I took every step. Even though I am angry at DH I also love him a lot and I know somethign is wrong with him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:28 PM Flag
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OP: This is a large part of me that still loves him a lot and the whole having an affair for 19 months is not normal for him and this e-mail says to me that something is wrong. I think he has some sort of issue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:26 PM Flag
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np: one thing i will say. maybe you don't know what is normal for him. i'm not saying you do or you don't but 19 months is a long time to do something. it BECAME the norm for him whether you want to think of it that way or not. i have one friend who discovered her dh was cheating and it turned out he was an alcoholic who drank alone while traveling and started making bad decisions. i have another friend whose dh cheated and while she thought it was a one time thing when she found out, she later found out that he cheated before they ever got married. she had no clue. if you're willing to do counseling, that's great. but you may have to face the idea that you don't really know your dh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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OP: That is too much to think about now. Honestly if I found that out, I think I couldn't go on with this marriage. I know it's a long time and something is telling me that something is really wrong with DH. I am really praying that I know DH well and something is terribly wrong. I really hope that's the case. I mean I've known him 15 yaers and in no way would he do something like this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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But he did do it. He's been having an affair for at least 19 months and she's now pregnant. That's a very harsh reality and it's easy to say "something is wrong", yes something is very wrong and now it's time to do what's best for your DSs and yourself. He made his decision when he had his affair, she made hers when she decided to keep the pregnancy, now it's time for you to do what you need to do, which is get out of this marriage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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That is easier said than done. The decision to leave a marriage, especially when there are children involved, is a process -- it doesn't happen in an instant. Give OP a break, its been a huge shock and maybe she'll get there but she's entitled to do it in her own time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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Not this time. She needs to protect herself and her DCs. There is now another child, not hers, who will have rights to his time and his money. If OP wants to protect the interests of her DCs she needs to call a lawyer today. A court will get involved to protect the rights of the other child outside of the marriage as part of a paternity suit, but will not protect the children within an existing marriage. At the very least she needs a post-nuptual agreement ASAP to protect her own DCs. The decision to divorce can happen later, but the decision to act in the interests of herself and her DCs can't wait. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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Why is it either/or? I respect her ability to tolerate ambiguity and pain in the service of what may be the greater goal of preserving an important relationship. At the same time, DH is clearly volatile and may cause more problems down the road, so she needs to cover herself financially while leaving options open. Some people can't tolerate cheating other people can. I personally don't think it's the worst thing and it sounds like there's a lot of real love there. Maybe therapy can work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 03:44 PM Flag
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If this was a child from a prior marriage or if OP was already separated, maybe. He's having a DB with another woman - that woman and her DB will be a part of OPs life as long as she remains married to him. She can't pretend that her DH is a "good father" or a "good husband" when he's having DCs with other women. She may want to tolerate the ambiguity, but what is she teaching her DSs? She will have to explain to her DSs why she stayed, all the while trying to teach them that they should respect their spouses, when her DH, their father, didn't. An affair can be overcome, a child with another woman is a totally different situation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 03:57 PM Flag
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ITA! You cant teach faithfulness and self-respect if you stay in that marriage. The chidren will be better off raised by a strong single mom than a sorry excuse for a father. The children may later even resent their mother for staying and not being strong enough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 04:03 PM Flag
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ITA with this. I love my dad, but he was a total alcoholic and not faithful to my mom (I only found these things out as an adult), and I really have a problem with her version of things, i.e. that she stayed for ME. Which is all to say, if you can stay and really be at peace with what's happened, that's one thing, but if it's going to be miserable, that's another. GL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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btdt. It is still just words. You need some disance and he needs to SHOW you he is changing. this will probably include therapy on his part, if for nothing else than to examine his destructive, selfish behavior and to provide ongoing reassurance to you. In addition, he must be transparent for a while, must always be willing to tell you where he is and who he is with...for startrs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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^^^I just saw the responses that mention he is having a child with the other woman -- I have not been there. you need to think this out without pressure from him and take your time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 05:42 PM Flag
[ - ] 5.5mo ds is not rolling over yet, but is starting to sit up. no reason to worry that he's not rolling, right? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:08 PM Flag
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Neither of my dc's rolled over until 7mo and are both 'normal' [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone else searched something on google and been lead to an urbanbaby post. Ugh! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.19.08, 12:00 PM Flag
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How do you think I got here... and now addicted? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 03:13 PM Flag
[ - ] Name poll: Noah. So hard finding a name for a boy 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:54 AM Flag
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love it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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op: thx..I'm going to bring it up to dh. We had this name for our last dc but had a girl (that was 4yrs ago). We have had such a hard time agreeing on a name this time but never brought up Noah again. I will bring it up later [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:56 AM Flag
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love it. my friend used it, so it's out for me. still need a boy's name! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:04 PM Flag
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op: this was our boys name 4yrs ago but we had a dd. Since then a cousin who doesn't live in the same state used it. That doesn't bother me. Now that we need a boys name..I think this may be it. Both dds love it..hope dh loves it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:05 PM Flag
[ - ] My DH left me last night. He told me the woman he's been having an affair with for the last 19 months is pregnant and he loves her and thinks he should be with her. He said that it wasn't my fault, that he realized that I wasn't satisfying him sexually and emotionally anymore. What do I do now? 30 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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i am really sorry to hear that... did you know he was having an affair? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:53 AM Flag
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I had some suspicsions, but no clear proof. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:54 AM Flag
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wow that is unbelievable and he was coming home every night? i am really sorry good luck- you will be okay [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:56 AM Flag
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He came home 98% of the nights....which wasn't that unusual, sometimes if he had really late nights followed by early mornings, he'd stay in a hotel close to the office. The clue was a few times when people saw him close with a hot blonde in restaurants.....he claimed it was a business associate, turns out he was having sex with her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:58 AM Flag
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keep your head up and stay confident - very sorry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:00 PM Flag
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Thank you....it's a big shock and I am still trying to figure it all out. I mean there was nothing wrong in our marriage that I knew of. And we were having sex and all of that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:02 PM Flag
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np: his EXCUSE is just that..an excuse. Many ppl who are wrong always try to blame othes (like you not satisfying) when the truth is..the issue is with him. YOU are not to blame nor should he try to blame you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:03 PM Flag
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time for a std test I hate to say... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:04 PM Flag
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I am taking one tomorrow. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:05 PM Flag
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Thank you. He's always been a terrific husband and father, so I am not sure what caused this. I am literally stunned he did this. It is not his normal behavior and there is a part of me that thinks he has some sort of mental problem or something. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:06 PM Flag
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wow - i must admit last year i dated someone who was seperated and we spent 6 nights out of the week together... i brought up divorce with him after being together a year (we worked together as well and he had kids) and he couldnt give me clear answers and i left him 3 months ago and havent heard anything- so that being said there could be a possibility he comes back to you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:06 PM Flag
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Thank you. Right now I am not sure I want him back. I mean he cheated on me for 19 months and the tramp is pregnant. But I also know something is wrong with him (this behavior is not normal for him) and who knows maybe. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:07 PM Flag
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i understand it is very difficult to get over someone cheating... i think you have such a great attitude. i really wish you all the best and i am sorry this happened but i really believe in life everything happens for a reason and you dont get more than you can handle. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:10 PM Flag
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thank you. i am just tyring to work through it and it's hard [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:14 PM Flag
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OMG call an attorney [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:54 AM Flag
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First thing you do is call a lawyer, next thing you do is start making copies of every bank and brokerage statement you can find and if you can, pull his credit report, so you are sure you know what accounts are out there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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I have all the bank records copied, etc. And my sister is putting me in touch with a good attorney.......is it weird that right now I am in shock and part of me actually loves him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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np: not weird at all. my sis knew her dh had one affair - decided to work through it. a year later he confessed he'd actually been cheating with various people throughout the duration of their marriage. even after that revelation she told me that she still was in love with him. just wanted him to not have done what he did. you are completely normal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:04 PM Flag
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Thank you. I can't stop thinking of all the good times in our marraige and how much I love this man and how his behavior is not normal for him. I mean I've known him since we were both 20 (we're 35 now) and cheating and all of that is not normal for him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:08 PM Flag
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uggg that sucks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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I'm so sorry that you are going through this. First..do you have joint accts? Cover your ass NOW before the money is gone. 2nd call a Lawyer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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We do have joint accounts and I have been getting the records together on those. DH left the house and also left me with a letter saying that he wants me to have the house. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:56 AM Flag
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once again..so sorry this is happening [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:00 PM Flag
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did you know about the affair beforehand? do you have dc? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:57 AM Flag
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I had some suspicsions but no clear proof.....we have a 9 year old son and a 8 year old son. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:58 AM Flag
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did he tell them? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:59 AM Flag
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They didn't find out last night. He made arrangements for them to stay at friends and I thought he was planning this night romantic surprise for us and then he springs this bombshell on me. Both of us told them seperatly this morning that "Mommy and Daddy are having a little arguement and decided it would be easier to live in different homes, but that we both love them a lot and they did nothing wrong." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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that is very strong of you - i am really proud of you... you can get thru this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:02 PM Flag
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Thank you. He's a very good father and I don't my sons to get hurt. This is between me and DH and should stay that way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:03 PM Flag
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NP: I am hte single Dad who posted earlier, and when my ex wife told me it was a huge shock (I had no idea), but you do get threw it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:04 PM Flag
[ - ] Looking for a family vacation spot for parents 40th wedding anniversary. 14pple total with kids ranging from 10-2. Anyone have any good recos (aside from Atlantis)? Thanks. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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Where do you live? Do you want to fly or drive? What time of year are you going? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:52 AM Flag
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NJ/ fly/ August. Some in the bunch are on a tight budget so we need someplace that is somewhat affordable... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:54 AM Flag
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Caribbean is affordable that time of year, but you have to get lucky with hurricanes... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:02 PM Flag
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some ideas...Steamboat Springs, Colorado in the summer is awesome and will be cheaper than in ski season - lots of great restaurants and outdoorish activities, great drop-off kids art classes, etc. Consider renting a house in Va Beach (has houses that feel like OBX, but with boardwalk amenities and museum nearby. Hudson Valley also great in August. have fun [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:07 PM Flag
[ - ] Can someone explain how the kindergarten acceptances work? Do you find out from private schools (if you apply) in early spring and then find out from all of the public schools/G&T programs later? Sorry, but I'm just trying to educate myself about what's ahead since I know it'll be a stressful mess. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:50 AM Flag
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pretty much yes. Private schools all notify on the same date (dates differ based on grade level) in the last winter/early spring. Hunter notification this year was shortly after private notification. Other public schools can't start the screening process for Gifted & Talented programs until after Dec. 31, so they can be sure that all the DCs have turned 4 already. Those notifications were badly screwed up and not done until last week. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:58 AM Flag
[ - ] 18 weeks and have gained 5 lbs so far. Started out heavier this pregnancy so trying to eat as healthy as possible. Is this normal? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 06.19.08, 11:46 AM Flag
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i think it's fine. i gained 7 pounds in the first trimester [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:29 PM Flag
[ - ] wedding is next weekend. still never got the invitation. mil already bought dresses for dds so i guess we will just show up with our kids. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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why not call and ask about the invite? is this a family party? I would never just show up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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mil called and they said the invitation was returned to them and they'd send it again. i called and they never called back. mil seems to be confident that dds are invited. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:46 AM Flag
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did you just move? why would the invite get returned? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:47 AM Flag
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we didn't move recently. i'm sure that we were supposed to get an invitation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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don't listen to MIL..many ppl don't want dc at their wedding. I would call BRIDE [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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i called and left a message. i feel really weird calling again. i'm not sure if it's worse to call again or just show up with dcs. or i could not call again and leave dcs at home and tell mil to see if she can return the dresses. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:50 AM Flag
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It's far worse to just show up with the DCs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:53 AM Flag
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unless the bride is your MIL's DD, do not just show up uninvited, even if MIL has already bought dresses. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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ummm are you positive you're invited? Who is the relative? Most of the time children aren't invited unless specified. Can you trust that mil has actually asked? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:46 AM Flag
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groom is dh's first cousin. i don't know if i can trust my mil. she seems sure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:47 AM Flag
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don't trust her. Call yourself. I didn't have kids in my wedding. Many ppl don't. Don't let mil screw you over [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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we didn't invite all our cousins, and definitely not their kids, I would definitely not show up without calling them again. In the message, say that you're going to assume not invited if you don't hear from them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:49 AM Flag
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i'm sure we were meant to be invited. (dh's sister is invited and they wouldn't invite her and not us.) maybe i'll try what you suggested. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:51 AM Flag
[ - ] Can't wait til camp starts. Love my dcs but they're driving me crazy. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.19.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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me too. My dds are bored and want camp already [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:45 AM Flag
[ - ] and I thought they didn't delete anymore...the entire post about blacks getting into g&t went poof 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.19.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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funny, i just noticed that it is on the homepage [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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weird. do they take it off the regular board when they move it? guess so [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:47 AM Flag
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yes but when you click on it it's not there. was a pretty offensive header, imo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:49 AM Flag
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couldn't agree more [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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they sure deleted it but that doesn't update the homepage. UB should really rethink that practice to put the most active topics on the homepage. It can get very ugly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:49 AM Flag
[ - ] I have been hearing rumors that Lenox Hill L&D/OB ward is going under?Anyone else hear this?Any recent experience delivering there? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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doubt it. friend delivered there 6 weeks ago and said it was like a hotel. also, I was told it is one of the few hospitals that is running "in the black" these days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:09 PM Flag
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