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06.19.08, 11:51 AM General Topics
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My DH left me last night. He told me the woman he's been having an affair with for the last 19 months is pregnant and he loves her and thinks he should be with her. He said that it wasn't my fault, that he realized that I wasn't satisfying him sexually and emotionally anymore. What do I do now? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.19.08, 11:51 AM Flag
 

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i am really sorry to hear that... did you know he was having an affair? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:53 AM Flag
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I had some suspicsions, but no clear proof. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:54 AM Flag
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wow that is unbelievable and he was coming home every night? i am really sorry good luck- you will be okay [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:56 AM Flag
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He came home 98% of the nights....which wasn't that unusual, sometimes if he had really late nights followed by early mornings, he'd stay in a hotel close to the office. The clue was a few times when people saw him close with a hot blonde in restaurants.....he claimed it was a business associate, turns out he was having sex with her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:58 AM Flag
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keep your head up and stay confident - very sorry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:00 PM Flag
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Thank you....it's a big shock and I am still trying to figure it all out. I mean there was nothing wrong in our marriage that I knew of. And we were having sex and all of that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:02 PM Flag
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np: his EXCUSE is just that..an excuse. Many ppl who are wrong always try to blame othes (like you not satisfying) when the truth is..the issue is with him. YOU are not to blame nor should he try to blame you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:03 PM Flag
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time for a std test I hate to say... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:04 PM Flag
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I am taking one tomorrow. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:05 PM Flag
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Thank you. He's always been a terrific husband and father, so I am not sure what caused this. I am literally stunned he did this. It is not his normal behavior and there is a part of me that thinks he has some sort of mental problem or something. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:06 PM Flag
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wow - i must admit last year i dated someone who was seperated and we spent 6 nights out of the week together... i brought up divorce with him after being together a year (we worked together as well and he had kids) and he couldnt give me clear answers and i left him 3 months ago and havent heard anything- so that being said there could be a possibility he comes back to you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:06 PM Flag
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Thank you. Right now I am not sure I want him back. I mean he cheated on me for 19 months and the tramp is pregnant. But I also know something is wrong with him (this behavior is not normal for him) and who knows maybe. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:07 PM Flag
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i understand it is very difficult to get over someone cheating... i think you have such a great attitude. i really wish you all the best and i am sorry this happened but i really believe in life everything happens for a reason and you dont get more than you can handle. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:10 PM Flag
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thank you. i am just tyring to work through it and it's hard [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:14 PM Flag
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OMG call an attorney [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:54 AM Flag
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First thing you do is call a lawyer, next thing you do is start making copies of every bank and brokerage statement you can find and if you can, pull his credit report, so you are sure you know what accounts are out there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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I have all the bank records copied, etc. And my sister is putting me in touch with a good attorney.......is it weird that right now I am in shock and part of me actually loves him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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np: not weird at all. my sis knew her dh had one affair - decided to work through it. a year later he confessed he'd actually been cheating with various people throughout the duration of their marriage. even after that revelation she told me that she still was in love with him. just wanted him to not have done what he did. you are completely normal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:04 PM Flag
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Thank you. I can't stop thinking of all the good times in our marraige and how much I love this man and how his behavior is not normal for him. I mean I've known him since we were both 20 (we're 35 now) and cheating and all of that is not normal for him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:08 PM Flag
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uggg that sucks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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I'm so sorry that you are going through this. First..do you have joint accts? Cover your ass NOW before the money is gone. 2nd call a Lawyer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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We do have joint accounts and I have been getting the records together on those. DH left the house and also left me with a letter saying that he wants me to have the house. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:56 AM Flag
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once again..so sorry this is happening [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:00 PM Flag
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did you know about the affair beforehand? do you have dc? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:57 AM Flag
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I had some suspicsions but no clear proof.....we have a 9 year old son and a 8 year old son. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:58 AM Flag
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did he tell them? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:59 AM Flag
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They didn't find out last night. He made arrangements for them to stay at friends and I thought he was planning this night romantic surprise for us and then he springs this bombshell on me. Both of us told them seperatly this morning that "Mommy and Daddy are having a little arguement and decided it would be easier to live in different homes, but that we both love them a lot and they did nothing wrong." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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that is very strong of you - i am really proud of you... you can get thru this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:02 PM Flag
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Thank you. He's a very good father and I don't my sons to get hurt. This is between me and DH and should stay that way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:03 PM Flag
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NP: I am hte single Dad who posted earlier, and when my ex wife told me it was a huge shock (I had no idea), but you do get threw it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 12:04 PM Flag
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