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Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

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[ - ] Anyone EBFing while on antidepressants? I'm at home with my 3 1/2 yo and my 3mo and crying way, way way too much. Is it safe? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:35 PM Flag
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What are you on? I developed PPP after ds was born and had to add lithium and depakote to my drug routine. At that point, I had to stop bfing. But on other drugs (lexapro for example) you can bf. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:38 PM Flag
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OP - I used to take celexa but stopped before I got pregnant. So it's safe? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:40 PM Flag
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I don't know about celexa. But many antidepressants are safe. Talk to your OB or Psychiatrist. Don't suffer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:42 PM Flag
[ - ] I wonder what that crazy Anderson mom thinks the reason is for the girls to decline Hunter spots, then. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.20.08, 08:25 PM Flag
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Too many lesbianic girls at Hunter [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:26 PM Flag
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Duh, the lack of sexy boys [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:26 PM Flag
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The boys aren't masculine enough [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:27 PM Flag
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the girls don't decline in the same numbers. only 4 did according to ub. the boys are dropping like flies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:29 PM Flag
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As a mom who declined Hunter, your theory doesn't hold water. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:33 PM Flag
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BTW, I prefer Hunter over Anderson. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:34 PM Flag
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so what did you choose and why? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:36 PM Flag
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TT. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:41 PM Flag
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bet there will be lots of masculine boys there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:43 PM Flag
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whatever. you are nuts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:44 PM Flag
[ - ] just curious. The mom whose dd (december birth) only got 2 questions wrong on OLSAT. where is her dd going? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.20.08, 08:20 PM Flag
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ps166 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:22 PM Flag
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166, and she is PISSED [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:22 PM Flag
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THANKS. are your sure? that's really unfair. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:29 PM Flag
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why? the kid was likely prepped, and she will be in good company at a great public school program. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:30 PM Flag
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she should go to Anderson or top G&T. ALL KIDS ARE PREPPED, NOT ONLY HER. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:32 PM Flag
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np - You're the same "Hunter = nerdy" troll, aren't you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:33 PM Flag
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my dc was not prepped, and got 39/40. going to anderson [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:39 PM Flag
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you go where you should go,but she doesnot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:40 PM Flag
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I actually think you are right. if the kid got no official prep, and did this as a december kid, she would benefit more from anderson than another kid who was prepped. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:46 PM Flag
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NP: But 166 is a very good G&T. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:48 PM Flag
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What's unfair? Please tell me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:31 PM Flag
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she deserves to go to Anderson or top district G&T. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:33 PM Flag
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166 IS a top district G&T, though. So what's the problem? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:43 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone suffer from anxiety? what med(s) do you take? me -- effoxor and wellbutrin. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:16 PM Flag
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I useto suffer from anxiety but didnt want to take any meds. Just took St. John's wort and my vitamins. I would try to control it with my mind. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 05:03 AM Flag
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NP: unlikely that you had a real anxiety condition then (I speak from too much experience) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 08:12 AM Flag
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Look in Aromatherapy and Reflexology as natural and safe options to address...Check out website, www.WholeCreations.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:47 AM Flag
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I have been on and off Zoloft over the years. My OB/gyn has suggested I try Lexapro if I need to go back on. I've also had to take atavan and/or lunesta during really bad periods. I'm med free at the moment and hoping to stay that way for a while! If you have a really serious condition, I suggest reading Noonday Demons for some perspective. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 08:14 AM Flag
[ - ] xpost we feel a big pull to move the suburbs and see if life is easier for us there. anyone move and after a year realize they were nyc people and come back? it's our fear, but we also think this is the time to try 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:13 PM Flag
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We tried the suburbs on a short term basis. It was a disaster, so we moved back to the city ASAP. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:14 PM Flag
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what did u hate? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:14 PM Flag
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We underestimated the toll the commute would take on us. We idealized. In reality, when we factored in the drive to the train station, the train to Penn Station, the subway, and the walk to our office, it was 2.5 to 3.0 hours a day of travel time. 3 hours on top of a 12 hour work day meant that we never saw our dc and had to hire a second nanny! It was a disaster. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:17 PM Flag
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we moved to the burbs but it really worked for us -- esp. since we both grew up in the burbs... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:15 PM Flag
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op: that is how i think we will feel, we miss the space, don't mind the driving, and are so tired of the cramped apt with two kids, the high rent and the lugging everything to the playground... but can't help but worry we are romantacizing what we'll get once we go suburban. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:16 PM Flag
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if you move close enough to the city, it's not so bad. i go in all the time and i din't have to pay $$$$ for private schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:21 PM Flag
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Friends did this, moved back after 2 years. I'm 2 months in, but loving it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:18 PM Flag
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where did you move, i can work at home, so that is why we think it could work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:19 PM Flag
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We moved to a lake town in northwest NJ. I work from home and DH only needs to go in 2-3 days a week, so the commute works for him (1.5 hour door-to-door most days). But last night after dinner, DH and DS went down to our dock after dinner to fish before bedtime. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:20 PM Flag
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I moved to Eastern Long Island and after 1 year got to say I love it. When I miss the city I just go and visit. Once you get useto this lifestyle and your children get useto being so free you never can go back. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 05:01 AM Flag
[ - ] Crazy Anderson mom is back! 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.20.08, 08:12 PM Flag
[ - ] What's your favorite breast pump? Thinking of Medela "Pump in Style" 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:09 PM Flag
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i rented a hospital grade one -- one was a medela for dc1 and the other was a medela for dc2 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:15 PM Flag
[ - ] R.E.M @ MSG last night...Michael still rocking! looks sexier than ever 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:03 PM Flag
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sexy and Michael Stipe? There's a disconnect here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:05 PM Flag
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ITA! yuck [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:10 PM Flag
[ - ] what happen to youbaby.com? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:02 PM Flag
[ - ] nyc parents are we crazy? we desparately want to try the suburbs, but we have two kids in manhattan preschool, we are thinking of renting in a close in burb live bronxville or yonkers and driving the kids to school on uws each am, and nanny would bring them home at 2, anyone know someone who did this? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.20.08, 08:00 PM Flag
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just shoot yourselves now! why on earth would you do this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:03 PM Flag
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we really want to move to the burbs, but are afraid if we hate it, we already paid for the two preschool spots.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:03 PM Flag
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ok then, but at some point you just have to jump and commit. i guess I would do it for a year and then decide. bronxville, but not beyond. also, only if the preschool were uptown [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:18 PM Flag
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op: our preschool is on uws, not sure tho how long a drive it would be if they need to be there for 8:30, are we kidding ourselves? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:19 PM Flag
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It's going to be a total nightmare. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:24 PM Flag
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Why not send them to school in the town you move to? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:03 PM Flag
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Then wait till they graduate from prek. You are crazy to do this to your kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:08 PM Flag
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op: our other option we are thinking about is to move to an entirely different city, we have a window of oppty now with our jobs that we likely won't have in a year, do we just eat the preschool money and move [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:10 PM Flag
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op: and by city, we mean a suburb of a differnt city, therefore not even having the preschool as an option [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:12 PM Flag
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There were families that commuted really far for our nursery school - some from Jersey, some from East Harlem - and I was always surprised by this, but I guess it worked for them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:20 PM Flag
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i wonder how long it would take in the am to get frmo bronxville to uws? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:20 PM Flag
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Do a trial run in the summer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:23 PM Flag
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NP: My family lives in Westchester and drives us home to 125th a lot. From Yonkers it's about 15/20min with no traffic. In the AM you bet there will be and I'm sure pre k is not in Harlem but down town from there. I would guess from Bronxville to the school would be 30min with no traffic double that in rush hr. Maybe longer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 03:39 AM Flag
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that is really nuts. it is just preschool. ridiculous to put little kids through a commute like that for circle time, snack time, ABC's and "socialization". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 03:46 AM Flag
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NP: My family in AZ drives kids 1 hr to pre k. Just what you do out there. Of course out there it's at least an hr anywhere you go. Sure not so here but don't say it's ridiculous because people do it in other parts of the country! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 03:56 AM Flag
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there is no traffic in AZ- big difference. I would not want to be sitting on the HH for an hour to go 12 miles. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:04 AM Flag
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We made the move to the burbs and are extremely happy. WHen we miss the city and want a dose we take a ride. Its like having the best of both worlds. BUT i wouldnt drive to the city everyday, thats a bit ridiculous. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 04:51 AM Flag
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Crazy!!! I would never want to leave the city but if I did make a move it would be to make my life eaiser, not more difficult. Have you ever sat in rush hour traffic from the burbs at 8:00am. Plan on that 1/2 hour trip taking an 1 1/2 hours. Plus what is the point of moving if your dc will not meet other dc. All their friends will still be in the city and you will be very isolated there without some kind of connection to the community [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 05:08 AM Flag
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We moved 2 yrs ago for more space. LOVE that we have visitors right now and there isn't stuff all over the apartment. HATE HATE driving though. Biggest drawback for me. Also, we deliberately didn't buy a house near the train. Big mistake - if I could just walk to the train station, I'd be in the city a lot more than now. We're only a few miles, but it still means finding a spot etc. Also, the responsibilities when you have a house are enormous. There's just so much a super does that you just don't realize until you do it all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 05:13 AM Flag
[ - ] Would it take a whole tree falling to come through your roof, or could a large branch do it? Trying to decide whether I need to move the kids downstairs. Really bad storm and a very large branch just fell with a boom onto our deck. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:00 PM Flag
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Move 'em. A friend of mine had a tree fall on her house, it was not good. Said she should've gotten dcs downstairs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:20 PM Flag
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Thanks. Luckily, the storm has moved away. If it gets closer again, I'm moving them. I think the deck was damaged! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:22 PM Flag
[ - ] so i am sitting here at my house with my three nieces, eight months pregnant, as my sister-in-law is in the hospital giving birth - nearing 40 hours of labor and no sight of the finish line yet! let me just tell you - i haven't had any fears about labor, mellow these last eight months, i am in a panic now! i went to the hospital for a bit thinking i would be able to see the baby, instead i saw a woman in unbearable pain who wanted to kill her husband! i am so nervous! 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 06.20.08, 07:59 PM Flag
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Just get the epidural? (Said cautiously, not questioning your SIL's choice.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:02 PM Flag
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she got the epidural but it didnt do much for her - that is my newest fear [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:07 PM Flag
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that's even worse... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:10 PM Flag
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I bet she is having back labor [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:11 PM Flag
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every birth is different - sometimes it's really tough and other times, it's not... try not to worry -- there is a thing such a pain medication.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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that's agonizing... 40 hours is definitely a very long labor, so that probably won't happen to you... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:10 PM Flag
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her experience isn't typical. your labor will more likely be between 12-14 hours [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:12 PM Flag
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I had a very long labor (55 hours) followed by a c-section. I had excellent pain management, and the worst part was the exhaustion. I was in such sorry state that I stayed in the hospital an extra day to recover! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:13 PM Flag
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my first dd was born an hour after i was admitted to the hospital and my second (twins) was a c-section so it was rather speedy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:16 PM Flag
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I've been working with pregnant/new moms and babies for about six years assisting with dealing with the physical and emotional/mental transition. If you are interested, visit [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 07:09 AM Flag
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visit my link at, http://www.wholecreations.com/wombfull.html [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 07:10 AM Flag
[ - ] Hi NYC parents! Are families in the city tutoring over the summer to get an "edge" on the next school year? What happened to an unstructured summer?! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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An unstructured summer is not really an option for most parents who work, and have to fill the summer with structured activities when school and after-school care is not in session. But this is nothing new. I went to camp and summer programs, as did my mother, and my grandparents actually met while working at a summer camp. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:00 PM Flag
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Thanks. I wasn't criticizing camp. I was just stunned to learn that many of the parents at my school are engaging reading and math tutors for the summer not for remediation, but to be ahead at least a grade level when school starts. At first I thought it was the parent population in my city (two tt colleges), but it turns out people in public in the suburbs are also tutoring - feels a bit like an arms race! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:07 PM Flag
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So it isn't structure you object to, but tutoring. Personally, I feel that if you are going to fill a child's summer with activities, there is nothing wrong with adding some balance and having academic activities as well as social, cultural, athletic, and leisure activities. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:11 PM Flag
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It is insane. Typical ny. I don't know where or how most of the posters on UB grew up, but I grew up in middle class suburbia - and no one would have ever considered tutoring during summer break. Oddly enough, I was at the top of my class at the end of the year, and the top of my class at the beginning. I didn't "lose" anything. Give these children a break. They need to bored and inventive, they need to chill and just relax, process. I understand if both parents work you need childcare, but that has nothing to do with academic work over the summer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 05:05 AM Flag
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