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[ - ] North Shore LI moms: Name a nice cafe where I can sit for hours with my laptop. TIA. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:45 AM Flag
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Port Jeff St. mom here. Go to the Marina in Port jeff, its gorgeous and there is a starbucks where you can sit for hours. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:23 AM Flag
[ - ] FYI Brooklyn Parents Dr. Marlorie Stinfil (LICH) excellent Ped and Dr. Untray Brown DDS (Fort Greene Dentistry) Absolutely wonderful and reasonably priced. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:43 AM Flag
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Dr. Stinfil is very good, as is the practice she's in. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:16 AM Flag
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but LICH sucks. My friends have instructions: if I am driving down Henry Street and lose control of my car, crash into the ER bay at LICH, and the car bursts into flames, and I have compound fractures and extensive burns, and I am screaming in pain -- please drag me out of my car and put me in a cab going somewhere else. Don't let them take me into LICH. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:22 AM Flag
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ITA. I had to take DD to the pediatric ER once--the staff was lovely, but I thought i was in soviet russia circa 1970 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:25 AM Flag
[ - ] Where did I go wrong? My DD is so shy and timid - I have failed to give her the confidence she needs to come out of her shell...I am completely overwhelmed - any advice? 30 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:39 AM Flag
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some kids are just like this. most grow out of it. fwiw, my dd was painfully shy for a long time and then suddenly it just switched. she's still cautious in new environments, but it's more of a desire she has to take her time with people. how old is your dd? don't be so fast to blame yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:41 AM Flag
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Just turned 3. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:44 AM Flag
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really. don't worry. 3yo is definite shy time. some kids are moreso than others, but most are very shy. best thing i think you can do is encourage her but don't push. also, is she in school? going to school brought dd out of her shell a lot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:46 AM Flag
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She will start preschool this August - I know she is going to freak out. As I have had a couple of oppotunities to see what happens when it is time for me to leave her side - namely a swimming lesson, kid only story time, gym classes..the list goes on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:51 AM Flag
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you might be surprised. dd always clung to me in classes etc, but she was pretty into school when she started. what always helped was bringing her to the school first, showing her around. explaining. and then she'd go in without much trouble. (Don't get me wrong, there was somet rouble, but it was ok). don't expect her to freak out. but perhaps do expect her to cling, make it hard for you. which is totally normal. then you leave and all is well. (did that make sense?) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:53 AM Flag
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So stay with her as long as she needs you to, til she feels comfortable; try not to feel embarrassed that she needs more help than the other kids...and if you do feel that way, give yourself a break -- this is natural -- but do it anyway for her sake. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:54 AM Flag
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yes. ask the teachers for tips on how to move away. i sat with dd for a bit. then sat in a chair at the back of the classroom. then gave her a kiss goodbye. stood by the door for a while and then left. the teachers play with them and get them involved in the classroom stuff. but i'm not sure it's the best thing to stay as long as "she" needs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:58 AM Flag
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ITA - take as long as she needs for separation and you're less likely to have problems later. Everyone told me with my ds it might go easier than I imagined and I didn't believe them but it only taook 5 days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:00 AM Flag
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3years old? You need to get a grip, since you are probably reinforcing her behavior [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:04 AM Flag
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^^^by being so anxious about. Different kids have different personalities, so let her be who she is. Also, her personality is not written in stone, and she will likely change many times in the next decade. Just support her in whatever wonderful way she is, and stop thinking of it as negative. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:06 AM Flag
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I was like this and while I'm still shy underneath, I don't seem that way and have always had plenty of friends and social/professional success. Not to worry. One piece of advice: help her confront new people and situations AT HER OWN PACE without ever making her feel there's something wrong with her for being shy. Don't use the word "shy" in front of her; it quickly becomes a label. If she really needs help, there are social skills workshops that work with kids to teach them skills for entering group situations, etc. Also, shy kids are often highly empathetic, conscientious, sensitive (in the good sense of the word). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:48 AM Flag
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yes. totally agree. i'm also shy like that. don't seem it but I am. and some people are just like this. there's not really anything wrong with being "shy." but it is a label that's best to avoid. but your dd is still way too young to know one way or another. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:49 AM Flag
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OP: I know that her shyness is a reflection of her temperment and personality but when all the other kids are joining in the fun and she just cant seem to muster up the courage to join them I feel like a total failure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:53 AM Flag
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you're not a failure. I'm telling you, dd was the same way for a long time. she's not liek that anymore. even so, if she is by nature the type who goes slowly and isn't immediately open to people, that's not necessarily a bad thing. i think, also, if you categorize her behavior as a failure on your part, she will pick that up and judge her own behavior as well. you end up putting a lot of pressure on yourself and on her. Fwiw, i found that dd was shy when I was around, but would play without trouble when i wasn't. Heard this from babysitters, teachers, etc. She'll be fine. You're not a failure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:56 AM Flag
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np: it's not about you. You have to let go of the idea that people will see your dd hanging by you & think you're a bad parent. Just get over it. It's about her, her comfort level, respecting her temperment. She will pick up on your anxiety and it won't help at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 06:27 AM Flag
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Another thing: shy kids are often quick to be kind to others, if given the chance. If you see your daughter going in this direction, praise/encourage her. I know a girl like this (now 7) and she's always winning Good Citizenship awards at her school and feeling proud of herself for it. Being kind and civic-minded has now become a central part of her identity and she's well-liked as a result. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:52 AM Flag
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OP:This is totally my DD - even now at just 3 years old she is always looking out for others..she jumps at the chance to get out of doing whatever is being asked of her in the name of helping someone else. EX: I took her to a gymnastics class and while she did agree to go in without me she did not participate in any of the activities yet when it was time to get in a line she gladly ushered people to get in front of her and made sure everyone had ehlp getting water [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:57 AM Flag
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Do you know any other kids who will be in her preschool class? Maybe you could set up a few playdates so she has a friend starting day 1. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:57 AM Flag
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This is a good idea. In general shy kids are more comfortable one-on-one than in large groups. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:01 AM Flag
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I'm curious how early on you knew that your dd was shy, and how you knew. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:02 AM Flag
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Well, we've always done things together but now that she is three there are many activites that she can do on her own..story time, gym classes, school...when my kid is the only one that cannot seem to muster up the courage to join in the fun - I assume it is shyness because she is a totally different kid when she is around the people she knows best. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:10 AM Flag
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extroversion /introversion is one of the most genetically determined of any of the traits, according to twin studies. Look it up if you don't believe. You did nothing to cause it (unless it came from your genes and not dh, lol). No big deal, just personality [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 10:01 AM Flag
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my dd was like this as well, i just made sure to have her participate in lots of events before she started kindergarten bc i didnt want her to be one of those kids that was msierable and crying - i signed her up for ballet class, brought her to the park to play with other kids, signed her up fr a siwm class at the town pool, really immersed her in group activity [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 10:03 AM Flag
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My DD was the same way at 3. She's now 5 and much less shy. That said, she still has issues with separation anxiety. I deal with it by explaining that nothing she can ever do will change how much I love her and by giving her stickers if she's able to separate with just one hug and kiss. If there's another kid having trouble separating, I might ask DD to comfort that child (freeing her from me). Otherwise, I may enlist the teacher's help in distracting her (for example, by helping the teacher close the door or water the plant). All of this has done wonders, and I'm crossing fingers that she'll do well in September! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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I like the book The Confident Child, Raising Children to Believe in Themselves by Teri Apter. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:29 PM Flag
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my dd is 3.6, She is & always has been shy. I think she was even too shy to talk and was delayed with her speech. I have taken her out to many social events. It has changed since she started school & got to see the same kids on a regular basis. She adjusted well to school but I spent a great deal of effort prepping her with walks by, books, talking about school & all the fun. I recreated a schedule at home similar to schools in the weeks before. I too avoid the shy label. She is much better and now a motor mouth but still takes her time with strangers but is more outgoing with familiar also very sensitive. Always let her bring something from home to school. that seems to help. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 05:37 AM Flag
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My daughter seemed to have become shy out of nowhere! Now, I realize that some kids just go through this. Yoga helped her a lot in gaining confidence. The whole phase seemed to last a few months (though it seemed like years to me!). Hang in there - it should pass, especially if she's starting preschool soon. But don't blame yourself!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 06:17 AM Flag
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My oldest is VERY slow to warm, very quiet w/ new people and in public situations. I think you have to not freak out about it--it enforces to them that there is something "wrong" with who they are. Instead focusing on showing her your confidence that she can be on her own a little bit and focus on the things she does well. Don't label her shy--if people make a big deal about her clinging or being quiet stay breezy & just say "she needs a little more time to warm up, thanks." My DS is 6 now and doing so well. He refused to speak much in preschool--followed the rules beautifully, did the projects but would not talk to the teachers or in front of the kids. Because of that alone they said he shouldn't go to kinder. We sent him anyway and he did so well. Lots of friends, fine academically, the best behavior reports you can get, teacher adores him. He is still slow-to-warm but gaining confidence and growing up. Try not to stress. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 06:23 AM Flag
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he did absolutely fine. Made lots of friends, is very well-liked, fine academically, teacher adores him and great behavior reports. He is still quiet in some situations and I can see him observing things to figure them out first. It's fine. Things that have helped are giving him jobs to do or ways to help others, keeping goodbyes short and upbeat, taking time before bed to talk about anything that worries him. Most of all letting him see that I have confidence in him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 06:25 AM Flag
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You've gotten good advice here. Mainly, I'd work on seeing situations from her perspective, allowing her to express how *she* feels about things, seeing her unique gifts (what's so great about conformity, anyway?)-- don't label her, and try to resist your own fear-based reactions and projections into the future. SEE her for who she is now, respect her need to be in fewer group situations if that's truly her need, etc. She is, and will be, fine (were you shy? excessively conformist? may be interesting to turn your focus inward with these types of questions, if you are so inclined, and allow her to be herself). gl... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 09:00 AM Flag
[ - ] The problem is also how "slow" is defined. Is it developmental, special needs, behavioral? Most kids who end up being put into side programs are lumped together and thus few receive the attention they need. So really, moving slow kids out of the regular classroom just means getting them out of the way so the rest of the kids (really their parents) dont have to deal with them. Which teaches your kids a lesson. Is that one you want them learning? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:38 AM Flag
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yeah - kind of. People who have issues that disrupt other people need to be in another place. You can't have one kid holding up the whole class no matter what the issue is. Competition is a good thing and a healthy motivator [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:52 AM Flag
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But you can develop a situation where the kids support each other in learning. Any teacher will tell you that you learn best when you're teaching others. the problem arises when kids are labeled and placed out. of course there are kids who will do better in situations with fewer people and specialized attention. but it's generally best for them to be eventually placed back with the others. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:03 AM Flag
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That is true. I taught a collaborative special ed class for several years and many of the special ed kids were there for violence, but not all. The dc in there for violence were often smarter than the general population, but we also had dc with severe disabilities. It was not easy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:09 AM Flag
[ - ] My 8 mo isn't standing on her own yet - that's fine right? Friend's db is a month younger and already standing (and I am feeling guilty since she is SAH and I work) - flame away 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:30 AM Flag
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there is a huge range of "normal". I'm sure your kid is fine and whether she stands or not yet has NOTHING to do with SAH vs WOH. Stop worrying. ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:31 AM Flag
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8mo is still early. very early. also, when these things happen, they happen quickly. it has nothing to do with SAHMing. Dbs develop as they develop. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:43 AM Flag
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My 9mo is no where near standing on his own and I'm a SAHM. It really has nothing to do with it. Don't worry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:50 AM Flag
[ - ] Make fun all you want, but the Anderson parents raised almost $500,000 last year. How much did your school raise? ( This is in response to the I hate the wall color post- I cannot reply directly to it for some reason.) 42 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.27.08, 05:22 AM Flag
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PS87--right about the same. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:24 AM Flag
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np: how many kids go there [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:25 AM Flag
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Around 600. K-5. No MS. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:32 AM Flag
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PS 87 makes a ton of money of the Greenflea flea market. It's a great source of revenue, but other schools do not have that sort of "easy money". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 09:09 AM Flag
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np-- According to Inside Schools, PS 87 has over 900 kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.28.08, 04:37 AM Flag
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And a $1K donation per family seems so cheap compared to cost of private school and day care. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.28.08, 06:14 AM Flag
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Just Anderson, or Anderson + PS9? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:33 AM Flag
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Thats just Anderson, I believe PS9 raised the same. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:36 AM Flag
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They raised $1 million in that building alone? I don't think so. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:41 AM Flag
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41, 234, 97, 199...lots of schools raise that kind of money with only k-5, not k-8. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:34 AM Flag
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I mean 87, not 97. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:35 AM Flag
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Don't bother. Anderson parents will never stop looking for new ways to post about their superiority. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:35 AM Flag
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and every penny is desperately needed. this is one reason we reluctantly turned down ps 11. they raised about $100k last year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:14 AM Flag
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yeah but it's public school (j/k). Is that the kind of answer you are looking for? This post is ridiculous. WHO CARES what publics raise. There will always be complaints from families. Money can't buy happiness [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:06 AM Flag
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no, but it buys xerox machines and typing paper and art supplies, etc. it's not a ridiculous post at all, considering the sorry shape the nyc public schools are in. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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So, they're a bunch of rich parents who can - good for them, but many schools don't have such an affluent parent body [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:14 AM Flag
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it was a joke, sweetie. aimed at the humorless likes of you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:15 AM Flag
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Not a very good joke, you should try again [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:17 AM Flag
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it wasn't me. but i at least got it. many of us are sick of all the insane carping, pathetically disguised gloating, navel-gazing, minutiae-parsing and boasts the a parents are passing off as actual posts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:21 AM Flag
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I am sick of that too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:23 AM Flag
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Yep. And it's insane that 50% of the gloating/navel gazing posts are by Anderson parents, while the other 50% are pretty equally divided among dozens of other g&t, private, and public schools. Anderson rules and we all drool. We get it, we get it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 09:18 AM Flag
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eh. i thought i would do anything to get my dc into anderson. then i started hanging out here and seeing how crazy the parents are. all those rabid divergent thinker posts. i think the mean comments about donna were sort of the last straw for me. the sense of entitlement is mind-boggling. no way i'd want to spend 9 years in that toxic environment where the parents all seem to hate each other, each other's dcs (who apparently don't deserve to be there) and the admin. yuck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:59 PM Flag
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np - You cannot judge anything - whether a school, or parents, or kids - by UB. That is just plain stupid. There are many lying posters, hiding behind their anonymity. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 08:11 PM Flag
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Oh, so you're the stalker that's been hanging out near the school... we called the cops about you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.28.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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amen sister. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 09:23 PM Flag
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Our school has 100 million. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:24 AM Flag
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:34 AM Flag
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Anderson should be required to share those funds with less affluent schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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ITA, but I feel this way about all publics, not just Anderson. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 08:01 PM Flag
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Because I think it's a bad idea that parents are allowed to contribute directly to their own dc's school the way they do here in NYC. In other places where I've taught it's not allowed. It intensifies the disparities between the haves and have-nots, and it's unfair in what is supposed to be a public system to serve ALL dc equally. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 08:16 PM Flag
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I think all private schools should tithe over 10% of their fundraising to the poorest schools in NYC every year. Now THAT would be a sh**load of money! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 09:18 PM Flag
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A number of private schools--among them, Horace Mann, Grace and Little Red--have programs that work with kids in local public schools who need extra help. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.28.08, 04:42 AM Flag
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^^^ The GO Project (Grace Opportunity Project) has a full-day program in July and on Saturdays throughout the school year for public school kids needing extra help. It's a terrific program. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.28.08, 04:51 AM Flag
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Re the idea of pta money going to an all school pool - I think all the kids should wear the same clothes and bring the same food from home because everything should be equal. Given that there are a limited number of good teachers, I think no school should be allowed to have more than 4 good teachers. If the principal of the school is good, the asst principal should be bad. Parents should not be allowed to read at home to their children since other parents do not have the time or the cultural capital to do so, and as a result, their children fall farther behind. Everything should be equal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.28.08, 04:15 AM Flag
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np: You mock, but it's horrible that some children get a better public education in NYC because their parents have money. It's PUBLIC, it is supposed to be equal. Doesn't meant it should be equal but shitty - you've just bought the lies of the DOE. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.28.08, 06:16 AM Flag
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Why does being "public school" mean every school should be equal? I really don't understand that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.28.08, 09:38 AM Flag
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Talk about ridiculous logic. The DOE can't control what happens in children's homes, nor should they. They can and should control what happens in their schools. No one is claiming that all inequities can be erased; dc from affluent families will always have an advantage thanks to their home lives. But the PUBLIC school system should not be exacerbating the situation by providing such unequal services to dc in different schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.28.08, 09:48 AM Flag
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You do realize that not all of that money comes out of the pockets of parents there, right? A lot of it comes from leveraging the private sector and people who come in from outside the parent body to spend $ on stuff and make donations. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.28.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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Less affluent schools get TONS of Federal and local govt funding to compensate through Title I and other sources. Even at a minimum (say a school with only 20% poverty) they'd get an extra $300-400,000. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.28.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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of course they did. they're the bestest. you're hypersensitive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 09:21 PM Flag
[ - ] Einstein was considered a "slow" child. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:22 AM Flag
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and? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:24 AM Flag
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that again? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:26 AM Flag
[ - ] Fwiw, I'd def choose the best friend with good sex than the rich guy. Now, off to make oatmeal for dd's breakfast. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:21 AM Flag
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LOL! Not sure what you are referring to, but I chose the same [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:26 AM Flag
[ - ] have a car for a few hours tomorrow. where should we go??? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:13 AM Flag
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where's your starting point? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:18 AM Flag
[ - ] Since today is the first day of summer break for publics, how is everyone going to keep the dc's entertained? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.27.08, 05:10 AM Flag
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i was just about to ask that. not interested in wall-e. 5 year old cant stay in apt. needs to explore city or do something! camp starts monday [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:15 AM Flag
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np: It looks as if it is going to rain today. We may do AMNH or maybe the library to pick out some books off summer reading list. Only problem, I have a 2 yo who is not into the library thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:21 AM Flag
[ - ] Is there an Anderson yahoo or google group? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.27.08, 05:09 AM Flag
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there will be come september. wait it out. its not that big of a deal to skip their posts. and i'm sure you've bored people with your questions before. i know i have. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:14 AM Flag
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op; I am just interested in setting up some playdates for my dd over the summer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:20 AM Flag
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Start one. Please, start one. Please please please. Then y'all can go talk about wall colors and triple 99s and the PA and we don't need to hear it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:36 AM Flag
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and donna. and culot. and building preference. and barbecues and divergent thinking and ela/math scores vs. nest and lab and whether the lottery was rigged to let brown people in and what a bunch of freaks you all are. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:24 AM Flag
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np: and I have nothing to do with A- you should try decaf [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:19 AM Flag
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you should try more original material. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:20 AM Flag
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Don't forget cocktail parties and being the best l'il fundraisers and how to kick out the gen ed kids to get more space and boy/girl ratio. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 09:19 AM Flag
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Not schoolwide, but several grades have established this kind of thing for their grade. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:27 AM Flag
[ - ] Current Anderson parents- Is the PTA really like a high school "clique"? I REALLY want to be involved in teh PTA, but afraid I might not be "cool" enough. The 3 ladies at the orientation meeting, the co-presidents, seemed OK, but kind of like they were in a members only "club". i really hope this is not the way it really is. Don;t get me wrong, they seemed really on their game and maybe i was just a bit nervous/anxious/excited that day. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.27.08, 05:08 AM Flag
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I think one of the PTA members said it best in an earlier post. "I'm on the PTA and say "welcome!" It's really great to have K parents who are willing to jump right in. Please don't be shy. As a group who've been together a long time, we can look too busy to pay attention. But please, just butt right in. You'll get a very warm reception! And again, thanks!!!" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:32 AM Flag
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i thought the anderson pta parents and the coordiantor seemed like a bunch of nutties. honestly, it was a big reason we didn't even list it. but i know so many people love it - good luck - i'm sure your dc will love it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:26 AM Flag
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np. ita. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:27 AM Flag
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ditto. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 12:00 PM Flag
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Are you in high school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:27 AM Flag
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The only thing I thought was that they all were very committed to their volunteer "jobs," that as a new family, our dc will benefit directly from their efforts, and wondering how we will be able to contribute, both financially and in terms of manpower. I have to believe it's the kind of place where there's room for ALL types. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:37 AM Flag
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They are hardly HS girls at this point, and will likely age out soon enough. You will be the new order, and should get involved and take over. the old gals are getting tired [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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You should volunteer for a few events, and perhaps co-chair one in a year before running for the PTA. It's the best way to ease into it and figure out where your strenghts are and who you want to work with. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 11:53 AM Flag
[ - ] Current Anderson parents- 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:05 AM Flag
[ - ] In desperate need of Marriage counseling. DH wont go, so I am going alone. For those who have been there, should I get a male or female therapist? would it make a difference? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:02 AM Flag
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I don't think it would make a diff unless you think DH would care if he eventually decides to go. GL and good for you for doing it even without him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:06 AM Flag
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op thanks, im feeling desperate and this is my last hope. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:03 AM Flag
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i think it always help to go as long as you have a good therapist. changing your own behavior and etc can make a huge difference in a relationshp as a whole. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:04 AM Flag
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Yes I agree, Im thinking if I try to regain my life then things will get better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:10 AM Flag
[ - ] anybody ever been to an aa meeting? i'm about to go to my first this morning. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 04:03 AM Flag
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Yes. Be prepared to roll your eyes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 04:59 AM Flag
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good for you! Ignore or above. Some of it might be hokey or seem silly, but it does work for many many people. MY brother is recovering so I know a little about this. GL to you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:11 AM Flag
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