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[ - ] support and encouragement please - have been ttc for 6mo - ds is nearly 3 (no prob conceiving him) - I turn 38 next week - my cycle as started to get slightly irregular please tell me it will happen or share your story 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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TTC 06.26.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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Many of my friends got pg well into their 40s. I realize it's difficult, but instead of focusing on the conception, focus on enjoying the act. :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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had they been trying for a while [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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I'm afraid I don't know the details for all of them, but one of my friends tried for 18 months before she got pg. Hang in there. Thirty-eight isn't that old, and six months isn't that long. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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getting stressed out will make it harder to conceive... I had baby #1 at 37 and #2 a 38. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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I got pregnant at 39, first cycle off the pill, I thought it would take months because most of my friends needed help. I don't think 6 months is that long for trying, my ob/gyn said it would probably take 6-12 months. Good Luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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do research and try all the tricks (Pre Seed, liquid Geritol, whole milk products instead of skim products, charting your cycle). if you are too thin, try getting a little soft. estrogen is secreted in fat cells. i bet that's why so many NY women need fertility treatments. everyone is too thin and, when we get older, it gets harder to get pregnant so we need the extra estrogen. good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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thanks for the tips - I'm not too thin no matter which city you placed me in - it's the new irregularities in my cycle that are making nervous. I'm terrified I'm going into early menopause even though the cycle changes are the only symptom - I have been charting though and I do ovulate [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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Stress can affect cycles, so it's not necessarily a sign of early menopause. If you ovulate, you can get pg. When I got pg with ds I was incredibly irregular. In fact I got pg during what would have been a 37-day cycle. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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just but white furniture like I did. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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^^^BUY, I meant buy- not but! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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You should go see a reproductive endocrinologist. Check out www.babymakers.com - they helped me conceive both kids. I don't mean this to be alarming at all... they will help you get things on track. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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no one's mentioned this directly yet, after 35 they recommend consulting your ob if you try for at least 6 months and don't get pregnant. You really need to make an appointment and start getting checked out, because there are things that they can do to help, but you're running against a clock, so they want to start as soon as possible... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:25 PM Flag
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I got pregnant the first time at 40. I tried for awhile. I used every trick, diet change, stress reduction etc.I am trying again at 45. We started last week & I am back to the tricks. also agree w/above poster get yourself & DH checked out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 05:25 AM Flag
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Give acupunture a shot before trying more invasive. If in NYC, there is a MD who specializes in acupunture (and fertility issues) in Chinatown on Canal Street. Worked for me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:27 AM Flag
[ - ] All the NYC public school use TERC math? I know Nest use Singapore? What about LL? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.26.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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All D2 schools use TERC, LL is in D2, therefore... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:06 PM Flag
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Thanks. Do they have different curriculum or methoud depends on the district? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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Sorry, not sure. DC is in gen'l ed K in D2. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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Not true. PS 130 doesn't use TERC and I know they're not the only ones. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:33 PM Flag
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What does Hunter use? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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OP: So what does LL use? Terc? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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Hunter uses their own. They have been looking at their math curriculum. You can read about their math initiative at their website. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:21 PM Flag
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Most use Everyday Math, which is not TERC. It has constructivist properties, but not as far "left" as TERC. The 3rd edition has addressed a lot of the earlier issues with the curriculum. Some schools also supplement. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 04:01 AM Flag
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D2 use "investigations..." and they suppliment for the most part. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 04:13 AM Flag
[ - ] do you think hot sex and sexual compatibility is a crucial factor in deciding who to marry? doesn't it always "fade"? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.26.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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it hasn't faded for us... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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no, i think your sex life with your spouse can grow with time. you need to be attracted to each other definitely but the hot sex is not something that will make or break a marriage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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if you go in with open eyes and know what you are getting and you are OK with it, then it will be fine. If you go into it hoping to change the situation, you will be miserable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:24 PM Flag
[ - ] would you ever send dc to boarding school? (if money were not an issue) 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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yes, if I thought she would be happy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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probably not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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I'd love to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:16 PM Flag
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Absolutely [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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doubt it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:33 PM Flag
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nfw [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:38 PM Flag
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I went to boarding school, and while it was a great experience for me, I would not want to send my dcs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:40 PM Flag
[ - ] DD is reading The HObbit tonight..pretty cool. I can't wait to see what she thinks..... 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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how old is she? I loved that book when I was a kid...kids have a great ability to skim past the boring parts, too ;) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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she is nine....entering 4th grade [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone hear about the mold problem at Anderson? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.26.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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lol! somebody cut the supply of sour grapes! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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yes. i did hear about it, but i also heard that they have it under control now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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i hope so [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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no, but I heard that all the pipes are lead [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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scary [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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joking! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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As Anderson says, its a public school with all the same problems as other public schools. Its not a "free" private school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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I'm there almost every day and never heard about this. As for lead pipes - don't lick them! How would anyone possibly "hear" about this, if it's even true???? I've been there several years and it's never come up at any meeting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 05:56 PM Flag
[ - ] what is NEST? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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it's makeshift housing for birds who have to lay eggs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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Some G&T school downtown. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:55 PM Flag
[ - ] what is up with lehman bros? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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Can you be more specific? It's been a rough 2 quarters for them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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lehman is rapidly delevering their balance sheet. it's not a viable competitor on wall street as they are overwhelmed with their problems. employees starting to quit as they know they aren't getting paid this year. bad situation for breadwinners who are in finance.. and not just lehman employees [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:04 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone know anything about the quality of Land of Nod furniture? How does it compare to Pottery Barn or Ethan Allen? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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I like how it looks, but don't know the quality [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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I ordered some wonderful toys from them but not furniture. and the customer service was impeccable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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why would anyone order furniture with out seeing it and touching it and really checking the quality? plus you have to pay for shipping...such a crock of shi@@ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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Land of Nod IS Pottery Barn. Same. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:18 PM Flag
[ - ] married moms or divorced ones at that: if you met someone who was very handsome (you were very attracted to them), powerful, and wildly wildly successful (hundreds of millions) but they weren't very warm or affectionate, and they were more often then not very withdrawn would you marry them? or would you marry the not rich, not ambitious, kind of cheap guy who you had the best sex of your life with and is one of the best friends you ever had? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.26.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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I would make up my own mind, not post this kind of quesiton twice in one night on an anon. forum [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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what does the anon forum have to do with it, although I agree, this post has run it's course, I keep trying to collapse it and it just won't go away! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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because she has not idea who we are, what our values and backgrounds are, and if some of us just keep posting over and over and over..... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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ok, I was just wondering, I thought she was giving away her id or something by posting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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that is because it is a popular one [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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i hate when people respond like this. obviously you are on the board all day or you would not notice. and don't answer if it upsets you that much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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I got on 15 minutes ago and checked the most recetn 3-4 pages. She asked what I would do. I answered. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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I would marry the latter. Affection and sex are more important to hapiness than money. Of course, I didn't marry very intelligently and I'm divorced, but though we're not rich, money was never our problem. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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divorced mom here. I found the most wonderful, loving, helpful, affectionate man; the man of my dreams and he has everything. I would never settle for anything less. He is a good father, a good man and happens to make a decent salary. Don't settle for anything that you are not comfortable with. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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np: out of curiousity, what do you consider a decent salary. you are very lucky by the way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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myob on this one. let's just say we have no worries. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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go ahead and sell your soul while you're at it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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so you are saying she should go for the best friend :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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hot sex! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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oh hot sex has to be part and parcel. how can you have a relationship/marriage w/out it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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I think marrying for hot sex is why we have a high divorce rate! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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if you have to ask you shouldn't marry either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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i married for love. next time i will marry for money [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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married for love and we made money together [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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that's too bad. I think love, hot sex, good communication is the way to go... money is necessary, but lots of it is usually a recipe for unhappiness any way. But everyone is different in what they require --with sex, money, affection, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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why do you keep asking this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 04:14 AM Flag
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I am married the first one and never get any affection or romance. It sucks!! dont do it, you will never be happy. Money is not everything and it surely wont buy you happiness. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 04:46 AM Flag
[ - ] how are those in finance dealing with the market after todays fall?? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:43 PM Flag
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Tomorrow is a new day. Will probably fall more [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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yea, you are probably right! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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It's basically like that movie "The Happening"... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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I've been through this so many times before. It doesn't even get a rise anymore. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:58 PM Flag
[ - ] Friend's wedding is this weekend. Dh just found out he'll have to work and can't go. Should I call and revise our rsvp or just show up without him? I don't want to make more work for them at the last minute (changing seating plan, etc.), but I also don't want to be rude. Wwyd? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.26.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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I think you should call and tell them, that's what I would do, they may not have to pay for his plate, not a big deal to some, but others saves a couple hundred bucks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:43 PM Flag
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if it's this weekend it's probably too late to cancel his plate but do it as a courtesy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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you're probably right, some places go right up to the day before, the less expensive places do anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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I was a similar situation, but the wedding was a Thurs night and my husband found out that day that he couldn't make it, I didn't call and tell them since it was their wedding day, but I really grappled with the decision and to this day wonder if I did the right thing... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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I would email not call.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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This wedding as in two days from now? If so, they already paid for his dinner. You are already rude, calling them won't change that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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wow, you're harsh! she made it clear she feels badly about this and is trying to do the best thing possible in a tough situation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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I would always tell in advance. I think it's obligatory, since you RSVP'd for him. They might not be able to change the # for dinner, but at least you can make apologies. It happens, that people can't make it. It's showing up without saying anything that is rude, imo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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You're right, things do happen, and most people will understand, instead of making up some story of how he got sick last minute. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:06 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone have experience with CTT classes? I found out my DD will be in a CTT kindergarten class next year, and am curious what that could mean. 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.26.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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Was this for PS41? How did you find out? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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no, I'm in Brooklyn. Where is 41? The pre-k teacher mentioned the name of dd's K teacher, and she's described in the directory as the CTT kindergarten teacher. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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I would be bummed. so much of k is socializing, and I could imagine that aspect being problematic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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how? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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well, I am assuming that the kids who need these classes have social and learning problems. the kids in K develop strong relationships. if half the class were autistic, or impaired socially or developmentally, i would think that would impact on this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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NP: My gen'l ed DD just finished K in a CTT class and had a fantastic year. The DC who had IEPs received a range of services -- many of them needed speech therapy, some got OT for fine motor and/or sensory issues, some many have received PT, too. None of these DC were severely impaired and I don't think that any of them were autistic. I don't think that DC w/severe needs are placed in CTT. Also, the majority of DC were gen'l ed. The class was beautifully managed and had 2 full teachers (one gen'l ed, one special ed), one full-time ass't. teacher, and a full-time paraprofessional for 22 DC. I would suggest that you contact the parent coordinator at DC's school and ask to speak with a current gen'l ed parent whose DC was in the CTT K class. You might be pleasantly surprised. GL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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but if they need all those adults in the room, perhaps the kids are more needy than you think. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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All of the gen'l ed classes had one teacher and one ass't. Yes, the special ed DC might need extra support, but they got it. And FWIW, all gen'l ed classes have some DC who get services. All of these DC are pulled out during the day to get the services. I can't convince anyone that CTT can work, but it worked in our DC's class. None of the gen ed parents seemed dissatisfied. I also think that K can be one of the best years to be placed in CTT b/c all of the DC are learning about how to be a part of the group. And to assume that there are more behavioral problems in CTT classes is unfair, especially at K. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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Yes, I posted below and I agree 100%. In fact, in regular classes there are always 1 or 2 kids who have behavioral issues and only 1 teacher in deal with them. In CTT, there are often no behavioral issue because all the general ed kids tend to be chosen because they are exceptionally well-behaved, and there are very few problems among the CTT kids and lots of adults to address the rare ones that come up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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Yes, OR above is right and you don't have any idea what a CTT class is, although you are "assuming". In CTT, only 8 kids have IEPs (they aren't "special ed") and you often don't even know who they are. You get a much smaller teacher/child ratio (2 teachers), and often a paraprofessional as well. My kid was in a CTT class one year and it was fine. Lots of time the non-CTT kids are they best in the school so there's lots of so-called peers if you are worried about that as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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Thanks, from OR. Plus in K, I really think that you don't have to worry -- the more adults to help with transitions, individual attention, the better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:12 PM Flag
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if you can't tell who they are, then why don't the parents mainstream them like they did in my day? cannot see taking a kid with a mild speech delay and putting him in spec ed class. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:29 PM Flag
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They basically are mainstreamed. The majority of kids in the class are general ed, the curriculum is the same. They have an extra teacher who is trained in special ed to provide extra help, that's the main difference. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:45 PM Flag
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Mom of a CTT student here, and this is a good description [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:43 PM Flag
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You are so off the mark here. As the mom of a SN DC you have no idea what you are talking about. If a child was autistic or needed that much support or could not function in a large class you bet they would not be in a CTT class. Why would we subject our child to that when they clearly could not handle it. We want the best setting for our child to learn as much as you dol. Such as a self contained class or special ed private school. My child actually is pretty typical and extremely social has lots of typical friends as well as SN friends. He is in a CTT class for that bit of extra support and peer modeling. Mostly speech modeling. Don't get your panties in a bunch my kid will not bring yours down! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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uh huh sure he wont [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:10 PM Flag
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omg i was just talking about this earlier today. its a possibility for my dc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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I have heard many stories of people who had wonderful experiences in CTT. However, I have to say that our experience this year has been horrendous. Most of the SN kids were wonderful, but unfortunately, we had a few who ended up being real behavioral problems, and pretty much sucked up almost all of the teachers' time for the entire year. Dc survived since she is very bright, well-behaved, and the type who can advocate for herself (and hence was perfect gen ed kid for CTT), but it was a wasted year for her. Will be doing enrichment over the summer to make up for the academics she did not get this year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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What grade was DC in? This is part of why I think it's better to be in CTT class in early years, rather than 4th or 5th. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:55 PM Flag
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2nd [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 09:05 PM Flag
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If it's any consolation, DC probably won't be placed in a CTT class again. At least that's how it works at our school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 09:07 PM Flag
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I know she won't. I spoke to the principal about it, and she agreed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 09:14 PM Flag
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