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06.26.08, 18:42 PM Toddler
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Friend's wedding is this weekend. Dh just found out he'll have to work and can't go. Should I call and revise our rsvp or just show up without him? I don't want to make more work for them at the last minute (changing seating plan, etc.), but I also don't want to be rude. Wwyd? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
Toddler 06.26.08, 06:42 PM Flag

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I think you should call and tell them, that's what I would do, they may not have to pay for his plate, not a big deal to some, but others saves a couple hundred bucks! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:43 PM Flag

if it's this weekend it's probably too late to cancel his plate but do it as a courtesy. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:45 PM Flag

you're probably right, some places go right up to the day before, the less expensive places do anyway. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:47 PM Flag

I was a similar situation, but the wedding was a Thurs night and my husband found out that day that he couldn't make it, I didn't call and tell them since it was their wedding day, but I really grappled with the decision and to this day wonder if I did the right thing... [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:51 PM Flag

I would email not call.. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:52 PM Flag

This wedding as in two days from now? If so, they already paid for his dinner. You are already rude, calling them won't change that. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:53 PM Flag

wow, you're harsh! she made it clear she feels badly about this and is trying to do the best thing possible in a tough situation. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:55 PM Flag

I would always tell in advance. I think it's obligatory, since you RSVP'd for him. They might not be able to change the # for dinner, but at least you can make apologies. It happens, that people can't make it. It's showing up without saying anything that is rude, imo. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:56 PM Flag

You're right, things do happen, and most people will understand, instead of making up some story of how he got sick last minute. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.26.08, 07:06 PM Flag