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[ - ] School budget cuts are restored by City Council & the Mayor. Here's the story: http://www.ny1.com/ny1/content/index.jsp?stid=1&aid=83111 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.27.08, 07:14 AM Flag
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this is great news. thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:18 AM Flag
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AWESOME! So happy to hear this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 08:36 AM Flag
[ - ] 5yo ds has a cough, runny, nose and a slight fever (99.5. We were supposed to meet a friend at the playground. Ds does not seem uncomfortable or run down. Would you still go and meet them? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:59 AM Flag
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I would call and tell the friend but probably will be fine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:01 AM Flag
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would you want dc to play with a kid who's just starting to come down w/ something, so most contagious at this point? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:03 AM Flag
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if it seems like a cold and the kid isn't acting sick I usually go anyway. Kids are always being exposed to things like that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:04 AM Flag
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a cough and runny nose w/ fever sounds sick to me... I'm not a germaphobe, but there's no point in getting another kid sick... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:07 AM Flag
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99.5 is not a fever. I'm just saying the kid isn't acting sick and it's just a cold. I would go. That is why I told her to call and let her friend know. We are dif about this. That way her friend can decide. I would go - you would not. ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:08 AM Flag
[ - ] My Skip Hop Duo diaper bag is way too heavy for my umbrella stroller. Any diaper bag reccomendations that I can hang on an umbrella stroller and it won't tip over? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 06.27.08, 06:56 AM Flag
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Use a changing roll in a regular bag. I have 2dc and never had a specific diaper bag. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:58 AM Flag
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You can get weights for the Maclaren's so they don't topple, or just take the Skip Hop changing pad thing with a handful of diapers, or just move the diaper bag when you take dc out so it doesn't fall. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:03 AM Flag
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- I forget the Skip Hop things' name. It holds enough for a short outing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:03 AM Flag
[ - ] got the mirena iud a week ago. got my period 4 days ago and it's super heavy and crampy. dr said a heavier period was expected. anyone btdt? how long did it last? what was next period like? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:54 AM Flag
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i had mine put in 6 wks pp and i had just stopped bleeding for delivery. i bled very lightly for about a month. now i barely notice if i have a period at all aside from some ridiculously light spotting! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:56 AM Flag
[ - ] Public school rankings: NYC: % who got 4 in Math in 4th grade: LL: 91%, Anderson 92%, 9:77%, 130:67%, 199:65%,6:62%, 116:60%, 290:59%, 89:58%, 3:55%, 41:53%, 234:53% 166:50%, 87:43%, 163:38%, 11:21%,212:18% 51 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.27.08, 06:49 AM Flag
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Do we have to do this again? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:50 AM Flag
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what is LL? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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Lower Lab aka PS 77. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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LL was 94.2% for Gen Ed. The number cited included special ed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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So? You don't honestly think this means anything do you? Math? You people should be worrying about your whether your dc will emerge literate or not or with a strong understanding of actual history. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:53 AM Flag
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- I don't understand why math is less important than history? I am a history buff, but at my job, history never comes up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:59 AM Flag
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np they are both pretty important in diff ways [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:02 AM Flag
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Basic math is all that comes up at anyone's work unless they work primarily with numbers. Math is the only subject easily scored and measured so everyone jumps to use this as a measurement for quality of curriculum. It is the least important topic when considering value and level of curriculum. Literacy, the ability to speak properly with a varied vocabulary used correctly, sentence structure, the ability to write and communicate effectively and well, having a strong understanding of world history rather than a smattering of it from textbooks allows dcs to develop an analytical, critical mind and help them understand modern day politics. These things are essential to a good education, not how you score on a state monitored algebra test [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:03 AM Flag
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np I see your point, but learning advanced math helps expand the brain. It's not just the algrebra skills that we all forget, it;s the pathways that builds, the alternate ways of looking at a problem that are important. I don't think either is more important. It's all important and the state of public ed is disgraceful in most of the country [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:07 AM Flag
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Not saying math is not important, but people on this board over signify its meaningfulness because it is the only way for them to measure or compare schools. A public school where dcs score 90s% means what we all know about public schools - they teach to the test to get funding from the state and keep their jobs intact. I promise you far better educations are being had elsewhere [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:09 AM Flag
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probably so but like you said - math is esaier to test and score so there it is [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:11 AM Flag
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I find people with better verbal skills always say things like this about math. As if studying math doesn't/can't teach analytical skills. As if a good understanding of statistics and probability doesn't also help someone function better in the civic arena. Hell, just look at how many people are fooled by crackpots with crazy ideas about things like food allergies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:12 AM Flag
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This makes very little sense, sorry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:21 AM Flag
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This is stunningly untrue. Math is critical in a tremendous number of occupations, particularly the highest paying ones. Also, math provides the structural basis for logic. The vast majority of great philosophers were expert mathematicians, and many contributed equally to math theory. Obviously the discussion about which is more important Math or English (i.e. reading, comprehending and verbal skills) is a silly one - they are both critical. It is foolish to discount math. BTW, most history is essentially a rote memorization exercise. Clearly, a depth of historical understanding is important, but come on... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:41 AM Flag
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ITA, I am shocked at this statement. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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Yes, but if a smart kid goes to some of those other schools (not LL, etc) I wonder if they would still do pretty well (I'm not sure). I looked up my elementary school on greatschools and it gets like a 7 out of 10, worse than 290, 6, 158, etc. But the kids in my top reading group went to - Yale, Cornell, Haverford, Penn, Rhode Island Design, another Penn, another Cornell, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:58 AM Flag
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If you put a smart dc in a poor school you will have a smart dc with no education. Smart is as smart does and it needs direction and instruction to grow. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:59 AM Flag
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I agree, but I think that what these numbers mask is that you still can't tell how the smart kids in the non-G&T schools are testing b/c they are mixed in with other kids. So a smart kid might end up scoring well at PS6 or at PS158. My schools numbers are eh overall, but the smart kids score well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:08 AM Flag
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All it says to me is that the teacher is accurately teaching to a test which is terrifying [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:11 AM Flag
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I have very good skills in both, I was lucky to go to an excellent school in the city. The point is there is no sense in taking public school math scores and trying to determine which school is better based on results. Public schools teach to the test and that is never good for anyone. Those dcs aren't learning much more than memorization. Show me the public school dc who can write well, rare, or knows about history from a better source than a chapter in a broad textbook. That is the mark of a good education and the development of real analytical skills which will help them develop in the future. Not putting down math, just pointing out the limited significance of state administered test scores. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:16 AM Flag
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^^ this was meant in response to above comment that only people with advanced verbal skills do not see the importance of math. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:17 AM Flag
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If you think the problem with how history is taught in public schools is that it's taught out of textbooks and it's rote memorization, you are out of touch with how history is taught thse days. 1. It's not taught at all; 2. the teachers dont' know anything themselves; 3. it's taught out of order by politically correct themes so the kids can't follow any of it; 4. there are no textbooks, just random xeroxed handouts. STudents emerge not with a shallow knowledge of history but with no history at all. This is true for public elementary and middle schools that I'm familiar with. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 01:43 PM Flag
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np. 7/10 is not poor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:09 AM Flag
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That's good because 158, 290, 6, 199, etc. get much higher scores. I don't know, I find the gen ed situation (if you can live in a good zone) preferable in many ways to the G&T idea. That's life - there are people with various strengths. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:12 AM Flag
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i also prefer gen ed to g&t, but we have the luxury of a very good gen ed. that's where dc will be going in the fall, though we qualified for district-wide g&t. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:15 AM Flag
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your school may have more legacies to these schools than a school like 130 though. using college admissions as a guide is often inaccurate [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:37 AM Flag
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where's nest on that list? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:58 AM Flag
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64.1%. surprising. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:06 AM Flag
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You can't compare schools like this. Anderson and LL students are ONLY G&T kids and others are mix with gen. ed. Got it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:07 AM Flag
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I agree - see above. You have to kids pre-disposed to do well in each, and you can't break that out. On the PS6 tour, the kids that I spoke with (cherry picked of course) were probably going to end up at strong middle schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:10 AM Flag
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yes, but nest has ONLY G&T dcs as well (same with LL), so i was curious to see how it compared with anderson and ll. not very well, apparently. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:10 AM Flag
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Remember when you look at the numbers that LL has about 5 spec ed kids in a separate class that are assigned by the district. You need to take these out to compare to A or N. In fact since it makes up 10% of the base (a HUGE number compared to any decent public school) it is best to always compare gen ed numbers - the city provides these. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:36 AM Flag
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When was NEST made a G&T school? Was it after or before the current class of 4th graders? (NP) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 04:51 PM Flag
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The current 4th grade was not admitted via GT. I believe it would be the current 2nd graders that started with the GT standards. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 08:12 PM Flag
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and 150? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:10 AM Flag
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40% [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:14 AM Flag
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That's wrong, it's 57.1% for 4th grade for 2008 and 59% for 5th grade. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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for what year? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:13 AM Flag
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'08 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:23 AM Flag
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where are you getting these numbers? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:31 AM Flag
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http://schools.nyc.gov/daa [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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this data is meaningless in terms of quality of the teaching. You are comparing preselected kids, whose parents may well supplement their education at home, to a general population. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:27 AM Flag
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but it also compares GenEds. For example 199 has much higher scores than 87 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:32 AM Flag
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Probably a more homogeneous group at 199 with higher SES, housing stock is more mixed for 87 and it's a bigger school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:42 AM Flag
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are the stats available for brooklyn? bklyn is so sad, excluded everywhere [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:37 AM Flag
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So 3 did do better than 41? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 08:36 AM Flag
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if you look at those who scored 3 or 4 (the most meaningful stat), 3 has a 92 in grade 4 math, 41 has a 97. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 09:26 AM Flag
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^^for ela, it's 83 for 3, 93 for 41 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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But this was about those children scoring 4. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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PS 150: 57.1% [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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I think this is an impressive stat. It is a very small lottery school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 02:22 PM Flag
[ - ] In a weather forecast - what's the difference between party cloudy and mostly sunny or vice versa? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:46 AM Flag
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Probably not a lot of difference. Some sun some cloud. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:52 AM Flag
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what's the difference between half full and half empty? Isn't it just different ways of saying the exact same thing? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:27 AM Flag
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partly cloudy - more clouds than mostly sunny [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:28 AM Flag
[ - ] op: son is 2. party to be at the beach... 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:46 AM Flag
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I'm assuming this is refering to the sick ds post. I would postpone. At 2, he's not going to remember it as a life long disappointment. He will probably be better tomorrow, but if other parents find out he was sick, then they are going to be really uncomfortable. It's easier to cancel today than tomorrow. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:49 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone have experience with chemical pregnancy? Doctor told me that's what i have based on blood tests. I have not started bleeding yet. how long does it take? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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TTC 06.27.08, 06:46 AM Flag
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My sister had one, and I think that it started about 4 days after period was due for her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:47 AM Flag
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oh so it could take another 4 weeks. weird. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:57 AM Flag
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huh? no it happened only 4 days after she found out she was pregnant (4 days after period was due) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:02 AM Flag
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My Ob didn't call it that but that is what I had. Would have been about 5 1/2 weeks. But, I started bleeding then had the blood test and levels were VERY low. I found out I was pg at 5 weeks (about 4 days after period was due) and felt very bloated and crampy for 4 days then started to bleed. I am sorry! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:54 AM Flag
[ - ] two. party at the beach 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:44 AM Flag
[ - ] Is anyone having 2nd thoughts about your private school based on the meet-and-greet with other parents? Probably naive, but I thought this school was low-key, and I'm startled by the level of wealth...seems like 85-90% IBs. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.27.08, 06:41 AM Flag
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Not second thoughts, I am an alum I know the school v. well, but startled by wealth of parents overall that is a change but knowing the school not one which will be allowed to alter the class experience [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:43 AM Flag
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OP: Honestly, all were welcoming and I shouldn't be biased. Maybe it's not really the wealth. I'm in a creative field and was hoping, if not more creative professions, there would at least be more working moms. Very, very few. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:45 AM Flag
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People make snap judgments about schools here based on surface observations. Take it from someone who knows all of the schools very well, each has its own feel and philosophy and if yours is known for being down to earth than it will be. Schools have a way of curbing outside influences. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:49 AM Flag
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rich ppl could be down to earth. I'm a FA mom at a downtown private with lots of "deep pockets" but as much $$$ as they have, they are low key about it. Not all but the majority [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:46 AM Flag
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Exactly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:49 AM Flag
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Thank you for that perspective. I read about some of the people on socialite-type websites and was nervous. I have a high income by most standards, but our lives are nothing like that! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:52 AM Flag
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50% of those people are friends or people I knew in my childhood, I am not anything like that and we all went to school together they are more normal than you might think [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:58 AM Flag
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may I ask which private? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:47 AM Flag
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Not personally, but a friend of mine, a native new yorker, had purposely avoided certain schools because she didn't want to get into the whole competitive wealthy scene. She, too, was taken aback by the wealth (designer clothing, topics of conversation, etc.) at the "low-key" school they chose. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:28 AM Flag
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Going through this process we found that the one that pride themselves on being "low-key" were often the worst. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:38 AM Flag
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No, we are very excited. People are nice and down-to-earth even if they have tons of money. We went to an event and it was very obvious in the group we were talking to that I was the only mom who had to work and you know what - nobody cared. We had a lot in common despite our modest income by NY private school standards. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:32 AM Flag
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I was. We pulled dc and now at g&t. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:37 AM Flag
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how do you feel about that decision? may I ask which G&T? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:45 AM Flag
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my dc is at a low key private, and i was startled not so much by the wealth but the showiness of certain people. but looking beyond simple appearances and my own snap judgment, I found people to be very nice. they make different money choices than I do. my dc is happy at the school and thriving. the teachers do a good job with the dcs. dh and I met some great families. look beyond your immediate impression. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:42 AM Flag
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Honestly, I am surprised by how not showy the incoming moms (and few current moms I've met) are at DC's TT school. I know the money must be there (reputation), but so far alot of just regular moms like me - not wearing fancy clothes and shoes. Some work, some not. Thank goodness. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 08:08 AM Flag
[ - ] ds has 100 temp and threw up 2x's in past 12 hours. Tmo is bday party. Should I cancel? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:40 AM Flag
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I would, no point getting everyone else sick too... Even if he's better, that's a lot of excitement for right after being ill... How old is ds? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:43 AM Flag
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he's two. party is at beach [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:47 AM Flag
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Yes cancel. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:54 AM Flag
[ - ] How to handle? GF and I have dcs same age ready to apply to K, will be applying to private. GF very well connected at TT with legacy and dh also with legacy, knows admissions people at other TT and privates and so on. Feeling strain in our friendship from both of us, I am anxious and a little jealous I think and she acts relaxed, non committal and says my dc will get in somewhere and all schools are good and not to stress. This angers me, what to do to preserve friendship? TIA! 47 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.27.08, 06:35 AM Flag
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stop being jealous and relax. She is probably acting calm about it b/c there is nothing she can do about your kid and she knows you are jealous. Worry about your own family, not hers, and talk about other things. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:37 AM Flag
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Trying but it is the elephant in the room. Sorry but her attitude that ALL schools are good an it makes no difference makes me angry, its like smug [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:40 AM Flag
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np; all schools are good. You have been reading crap on UB too long [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:43 AM Flag
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most schools are fine. Your kid will do well I'm sure. Stop comparing. Are you this jealous if your friends have more $$ or different talents than you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:43 AM Flag
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I know I just can't help rolling my eyes when she says that her school, known as the best hands down, and her dh's school also best that they are really not greater or better than the others [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:45 AM Flag
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np: OMG I can't believe that you are so insecure about a school that your friend attended when she was a kid. She's trying to make you feel better with the truth but you are just looking for an excuse to be pissed off at her. ISSUES..ISSUES [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:48 AM Flag
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because it put her in a different class for admission, and gotta say she comes off as more impressive, I worry about parent interview too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:52 AM Flag
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so that is really your problem. you are insecure about your own stuff. Work on that and don't worry about what she is doing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:55 AM Flag
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not really. Leg. status doesn't hold much like it used to. OP is just insecure and gonna let it come btwn a friendship [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:06 AM Flag
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How about leg status, DH with leg status at another TT and bright engaging top scoring dc! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:07 AM Flag
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you are pretty insufferable. Is she beautiful too? rich? Did her Daddy make her feel like a princess? If you like this woman and are her friend (which I am beginning to wonder about) you will accept her with her good and bad points and not hold things against her that are beyond her control. If you really feel that way, maybe you need to find friends who are poor and downtrodden so you can feel better about yourself [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:10 AM Flag
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she is probably just trying to make you feel better. Either talk to her about how you feel or let it go. Either way, it's not her fault that she has more advantages and you should not hold it against her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:48 AM Flag
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So, you instead want her to bad mouth some of the schools? What if those are the schools your kid gets into? Or your friends' kids get into? She is being nice. You need perspective. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:44 AM Flag
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no but you don't think its smug?? 'oh I am at the top of the heap but don't you worry you will go somewhere' [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:47 AM Flag
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It's not smug, it's polite. She can never win with you. If she came out and said, "Well, we're going to Dalton and we'll just see what third tier school your kid ends up at," you would be sooo mad and posting on here like crazy. You are jealous; it has nothing to do with what she says or doesn't say. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:49 AM Flag
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ITTTA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:51 AM Flag
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you would have to see her face when she says these things, but maybe you are on to something [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:51 AM Flag
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np so what is she supposed to say? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:49 AM Flag
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nnp: OH I GOT IT..I think OP wants her friend to say [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:51 AM Flag
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^^^Don't worry honey we will make tons of calls on your behalf". I think this is what's bothering OP [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:52 AM Flag
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I think you are right. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:54 AM Flag
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OP: she says it wouldn't help to make calls or write letters [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:59 AM Flag
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and she is probably right. Just do the best you can for your own DC and stop worrying about what everyone else is doing. I feel like I tell my 3yo this on a daily basis! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:00 AM Flag
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and she is right..all it may do is get you passed a lottery if the schools has one..that's it. Don't let your own insecurity ruin your friendship. You are holding her schooling against her. Not nice [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:07 AM Flag
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np: I have a dc in a private and when my youngest was in a toddler class I used to tell parents not to worry, be themselves, it will work out, ect. Since my youngest is a sib was I being smug?? I don't think so. I don't think your friend is being smug unless her tone is smug (which I doubt) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:51 AM Flag
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She is telling you the truth - why is that smug? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:13 AM Flag
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I'm sorry, I know how stressful the whole process is, but I think you need a little attitude adjustment about this. Your friend is doing the only thing she can -- which is being positive, without being cavalier and dismissive ("oh, it will all work out"), which she can't because it is a tough process and admission is not guaranteed. It's sounds like she's a nice person, and you can't hold where she and her dh went to school or who she knows against her, unless she is rubbing it in your face or being unkind about it, which doesn't seem the case. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:38 AM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:39 AM Flag
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If you feel this way already, then you should just avoid her, starting now. You already know that she appears to have a few advantages that you don't. No one knows yet what that really means in terms of placement. My advice is just to avoid her, if you cannot handle it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:40 AM Flag
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wow. You both need to grow up. Everyone is not equal. Deal with it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:41 AM Flag
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Grow up? I was actually trying to provide helpful advice to the OP. What I suggested is 1 way of dealing with it, if the OP can't rise above her own feelings of jealousy. Rather than being judgmental (as you are), I think the OP could probably just get some advice on how to deal. Whether she can handle it is really up to her. But I'm not going to sit here and judge her for it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:43 AM Flag
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I think it's silly to avoid friends who have different advantages. Life isn't fair. Deal with it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:44 AM Flag
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Well, I would agree with you on that, but frankly the schools process is hard enough (and we didn't even do private), especially when certain kids get into coveted schools and friend's kids didn't, or score comparison. It's all part of what everyone will have to deal with, and the reality is that negative feelings come out. So the question is: how to deal with it. Some people can deal directly, some prefer to avoid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:46 AM Flag
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so you learn to deal with the fact that life is not fair. Some people have better schools, or are prettier or have more money. So? Do all your friends have to be exactly the same level as you? That's no fun at all [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:51 AM Flag
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Clearly you are in lecture mode, so have at it. Nice talking to you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:52 AM Flag
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NP - You aren't being lectured but you do have to realize that you are acting very immaturely here [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:54 AM Flag
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sorry if the truth hurts. Life isn't fair, nothing is equal and the sooner OP gets used to that, the better off she will be [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:54 AM Flag
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AMEN [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:43 AM Flag
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and of course her dc is clearly very smart so this will work out for her I kinda feel like we are starting leagues behind her even at the starting gate. can't help feeling its just plain unfair [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:41 AM Flag
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np: with this attitude you will get your dc into NOWHERE..you will be your dc downfall. GROW UP and stay off of UB. Seriously you need to stop believing all the crap you read on here from ppl who know SQUAT about the process or the schools [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:44 AM Flag
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and? Life is unfair. Deal with it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:51 AM Flag
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Unfair? Why is this unfair? Because her parents secretly conspired against you 30 years ago when they decided where to send her to school? And again she though it would be great to marry someone who went to a good school just to rub it in your face? Grow up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:56 AM Flag
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Or just grow up. There will always be people with more connections, more money, better looking husbands, smarter children, no matter who you are. Better to start being happy with what you have now -- and keep in mind, a lot of people would kill to live in Manhattan and have the money/wherewithal to be able to send their kids to private school here. So there are a lot of people you have a leg up on in life as well. Grass is always greener. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:42 AM Flag
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very well said [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:02 AM Flag
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Yes, there are a ton of people on this board who wished they had the money to have the option to send their kid to private school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:17 AM Flag
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I'm with your friend. She has a good attitude. I'm BTDT and please remember this...LEG status isn't what it used to be. Not like her dc is a sib. She's going into this with very little pull as a leg. You do need to relax because the DOA will see this. They want you to be yourself, relaxed and just normal. They don't want ppl who seem a bit crazy, acting like what they think the schools want them to act. DON'T let your jealousy come btwn your friendship...it would be your fault [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:42 AM Flag
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I am with her. You don't seem to be a good friend if you let school get between the two of you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:53 AM Flag
[ - ] i am struggling. msc or ps 166 g&t. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.27.08, 06:34 AM Flag
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shouldn't you be done and registered by now? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:37 AM Flag
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trying to decide what happens if i get the msc lottery- they have a waitlist [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:54 AM Flag
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I think they're done. I was told last week that the classes for next year were decided on and we'd be getting a letter in a few weeks with class assignment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:31 AM Flag
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i heard they have 10 seats left. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 07:17 AM Flag
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Stick with 166 G&T [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:05 AM Flag
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166 G&T [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:21 AM Flag
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I say 166, too -- but you have to go with your gut. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 07:46 AM Flag
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MSC is a wonderful,progressive school, but I am surprised at how low the academic standards are. If you are ok with a slower approach it should be great. If DC is advanced, they may be bored though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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what is msc? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:41 AM Flag
[ - ] at what point will you miscarry naturally vs needing a d&c? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:33 AM Flag
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depends on many variables. Talk to your Ob about what is best for you. SOrry for your loss [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:35 AM Flag
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i have a blighted ovum at 7 weeks. miscarried last time at 5.5 weeks. i am talking to her this afternoon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:37 AM Flag
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so sorry. I had the same thing at 8 weeks. I decided to go with the D&C because I had such bad MS and didn't want to feel like crap any longer than I had to. Again, I am very sorry. I went on to have a healthy DD if that helps. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:38 AM Flag
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thank you. i already have a fantastic 3 yo so if #2 did not work out i would still feel blessed. what was the d&c like? how long after did you wait to ttc? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:42 AM Flag
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not bad. I felt better that night physically. I think we had to wait a cycle or 2. Can't remember. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:45 AM Flag
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