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[ - ] Any Metropolitan Montessori moms on? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 09:52 AM Flag
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questions: (1) is it strict montessori or is it combined with typical "preschool" activities in the first couple of years? (2) would a confident but not talkative independent kid do well there? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 09:56 AM Flag
[ - ] have you seen Wall-E? Will my 4.5yo ds like it? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 09:51 AM Flag
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i've heard it's amazing, but i have to admit, the idea of watching a movie where all that is said is WALL-E over and over makes me cringe. we saw kung fu panda, tho, and all of us liked it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 10:05 AM Flag
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went this morning and my 5 yo ds hated it. we ended up leaving halfway through. He thought it was boring. It reminded me of 2001 or Solaris in tone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 10:25 AM Flag
[ - ] I never feel completely happy and content. I have what one would think everything to feel good but I don't. what is wrong with me? Depressed? but why? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 09:38 AM Flag
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Well, that's the thing with depression...there is no why. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 09:44 AM Flag
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time to get meds, they can do wonderful things. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 09:56 AM Flag
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I think a lot of people share that sentiment. there are things you can try. ANything from therapy and meds to meditation, yoga, homeopathy, energy healing, and many other things. For me, exercise, mediation and yoga are the best. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 10:00 AM Flag
[ - ] folks in NYC: does your family wear shoes in your apt? what about guests? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 09:26 AM Flag
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no, no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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no for us. yes and no for guests. we don't ask them, but if they see shoes off by door, some do take theirs off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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OP: is it considered good form as a guest to ask? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 09:34 AM Flag
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If you see that no one else is wearing shoes, then yes, you should ask. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 09:47 AM Flag
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we do not, I allow guests to choose. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 09:52 AM Flag
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no, up to them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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try not to [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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we do as do our guest unless they want to take them off. It was different when we had crawlers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 11:47 AM Flag
[ - ] would a montessori type school be good for a DS who loves math and science, and doesn't care too much about art? also, how do you view all-boys schools? tia. looking for opinions. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Preschool/Kids 06.29.08, 09:21 AM Flag
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I think all boys schools are great K-8. especially for some boys. As for Montessori, my only experience with it was when dc was very young and they did all sorts of art projects. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 09:30 AM Flag
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didn't apply - but AS seemed to have a heavy focus on arts/music. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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my sil is a montessori school teacher, and I think that they try to do a lot of hands on, and engage the child's interests, which can be great for math and science as well. I would check out the class and talk to teachers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 09:51 AM Flag
[ - ] has the mom with the cheating hubby and nanny been back today? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 06.29.08, 08:58 AM Flag
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not that i am aware of [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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not yet, i've been waiting for her to see what is happening [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 09:36 AM Flag
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noperrrrs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 10:12 AM Flag
[ - ] Sting or Bono ? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:57 AM Flag
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sting [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:58 AM Flag
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i think he'd be sanctimonious and Bono may just want to have a beer and chat [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:59 AM Flag
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are we talking about having sex with him, or just dinner? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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is the answer different for sex than for dinner ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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yes, actually. would want to chat with bono about his activism, but would happily boink sting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 09:01 AM Flag
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Hmmmm. I would more than happily "color" with Bono ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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bono [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:59 AM Flag
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sting, and no talking necessary [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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bono [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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thank you. I was feeling badly for him. I also think he could take Sting in a brawl over my love ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 09:05 AM Flag
[ - ] Last night at dinner I did a pretty giant "open mouth insert foot". The person just laughed it off, but should I call and apologize, or let it go and not bring more attention to it ? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:47 AM Flag
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you need to tell us what it was, so that we can help you better... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:51 AM Flag
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ita! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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I mentioned having a great time with another couple and that I thought they knew each other. Then at that moment it occured to me that the couples had been friends in the past and there was a huge and nasty (and justifiably so) "break-up". It was so stupid, but I had gone on and one about this couple and their great qualities which - in retrospect - was pretty insensitive in light of what happened. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:53 AM Flag
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Did you say anything at the time like oops! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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I think my eyes got huge like saucers (the "cricket chirping" thing was happening as I spoke) and I said that I was so sorry and that I had forgotten... the rest of the meal I felt like an idiot though. The couple I had been raving about really hurt the coulpe we were with about five years ago. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:56 AM Flag
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don't worry about it - if you weren't a part of the problem, then it's not that big a deal [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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no. i was just afraid that i may have embarrased the people we were with [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:57 AM Flag
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i would let it go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:56 AM Flag
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thank you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:57 AM Flag
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was the couple who'd been burned the host couple? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:59 AM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:59 AM Flag
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were there other people there at the dinner? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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one other couple who apparently also knew of the incident. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 09:01 AM Flag
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you can bet that those two couples have had a little chat about your antics. still, just let it go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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yeah. I will let it go. My DH says not to give it another thought, but I hate being the idiot in the room. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 09:06 AM Flag
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It would depend on the person and the situation. If you apologised at the time I'd leave it at that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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If the person is a friend, I would apologize. Sometimes people laugh things off just to cover up being hurt. If not a friend, you should probably let it go and just remind yourself that you're not perfect and that's a comment you won't make again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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story? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:53 AM Flag
[ - ] OK, I seriously need some advice! Please! My aunt and my mom both have different dads and both have never met their father and through some internet searching I found my aunt's father and we have been emailing back and forth. He says since it has been so long he isn't exactly anxious to meet my aunt. What should I do? Should I tell her? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:44 AM Flag
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you started this search on your own and without her permission ? why ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:45 AM Flag
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I dont know, just curious I guess [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:46 AM Flag
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I think you opened a Pandora's box that wasn't yours to open and you should not pursue it any further. In a certain way it is a giant breech of trust. You've brought into your "world" the possibility of really throwing your Aunt's life into a turmoil she may not want. It certainly adds a complication to her life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:48 AM Flag
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op: I completely agree with you and thanks for bringing all that to my attention [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:50 AM Flag
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good luck. I understand your curiousity though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:51 AM Flag
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thank you so much! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:53 AM Flag
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have to ask why you did this? sounds like if you could do it, she could have too.... (not trying to be mean, really curious) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:45 AM Flag
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I really dont know, I was curious because I mean the man was married to my grandmother for a short bit and I had to add him to the family tree in order to add my aunt [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:47 AM Flag
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If your aunt hasn't tried to find him then I wouldn't tell her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:46 AM Flag
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op: this is what I was thinking [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:48 AM Flag
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No do not tell her? Who benefits from you telling her that her dad doesn't want to meet her? - unless she knows that you've already been emailing with him - which would have been horrible for you to open up that can of worms [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:47 AM Flag
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I havent told her anything yet because I'm nervous [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:48 AM Flag
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then don't - drop it quick. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:49 AM Flag
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ita - I would drop contact with her dad and forget about it. He should understand if he doesn't want to meet her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:50 AM Flag
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OP: Thank you everyone! You definitely helped me in deciding not to tell her! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:54 AM Flag
[ - ] I don't want to travel with the Marathon - what do people do for a traveling car seat when their dc outgrow the Sit n Stroll? Booster? Which kind? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.29.08, 08:42 AM Flag
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how old is your dc? we've used a booster seat for travel (similar to the graco turbo booster) since dd was about 3. still using this at age 5 and it's great so far. the back comes off, so when she's a little older, we'll travel with just the booster part. you could also get one of those "gogo Kidz" things (i've seen them at airports and they look great; sold on onestepahead.com) with your Marathon. i think we might get this for #2. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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we travel with ours-we use those wheels. we actually don't take a stroller and it works. we also have a safeguard go booster seat for older dc which comes in its own carrying case but doesn't work as 5 pt harness on airline seats [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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Cares harness on plane; rent car seat at destination [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 09:46 AM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone know someone who actually was caught lying about address for an out-of-zone school? What happens? I heard that if it happens after the child has started school, they won't make the kid leave. True? 41 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.29.08, 08:37 AM Flag
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how can someone get caught? if you show the right documentation when you register, then that's it. you're in. I wonder how people fake con-ed bills. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 09:01 AM Flag
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Some schools check buzzers and talk to doormen [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 09:05 AM Flag
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which schools do this? that would infuriate me that $$ was being wasted like that. do they check on ALL students or just the ones that look different? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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but people are taking advantage of services that aren't rightfully theirs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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how do you know that? what are you basing that on? you need to mind your own fucking business. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 09:21 AM Flag
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wow, someone has anger issues-calm down, nellie. are we hitting a little too close to the bone here? there are people who lie about this-I understand, everyone wants what is best for their dc. but system is what it is and lying about it takes services and resources from others who qualify for them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 10:22 AM Flag
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np. my child's right to attend a school that is not overcrowded because of cheaters is my business, thank you very much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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I grew up in Queens, and we let a family friend use our address to send DD to our zoned HS. People do it all the time, but the DOE will check, and if you get caught, you will be forced to pay for the cost of the tuition (DOE will give you a number - usually in $10 - 15 K range) and you will be forced to return to your own zoned school if the school DC is attending is overcrowded. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 02:33 PM Flag
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I know 199 has done it. Don't know if it is all students. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 09:12 AM Flag
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wait, so a parent comes in with the b/c, the con-ed bill and the health form and registers the child. then the school actually sends someone out to the address on the con-ed bill to make sure the person on the con-ed bill at that address actually lives there? and they do all that before the child is then officially registered? because you can register your kid and then, say, october 1 move -- but your kid is still in the school until graduation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 09:20 AM Flag
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the rules have changed. if you've moved, fine. but if they find evidence that you lied when you registered, you can be kicked out at any time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 12:17 PM Flag
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how on earth can the doe prove you lied at the time of registration? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 03:33 PM Flag
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money well spent imo. i want my dc to get a good education in a classroom that is not bursting at the seam with cheaters. besides, in some cases the school enlists parent volunteers to do the home checks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 12:14 PM Flag
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name that school please. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 12:22 PM Flag
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ditto. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 03:32 PM Flag
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schools actually sic parents on other parents? i find that very hard to believe. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 03:33 PM Flag
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there are many schools where parents are eager to boot out the cheaters. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 11:47 AM Flag
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I don't blame them for doing this. The ability of the school to provide a decent education for kids WHO LIVE IN THE ZONE is being jeopardized by l [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 02:28 PM Flag
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by LIARS [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 02:28 PM Flag
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np: checking buzzers seems like unreliable proof. in our building, we don't have names on the intercom list, just apt. numbers. (and no doorman in our building, on LES). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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i think that's just a first step to check the buzzer. in some cases they will want to get inside the apartment and make sure the family is actually living there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 12:18 PM Flag
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This has got to be bullshit. There is no way in the US of A that a school has the right to enter an apartment to determine who is living there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 03:34 PM Flag
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I went to an informational meeting on public schools once and one mom was all up in arms about out of zone kids getting into schools and asked principals on the panel what they do about it and one principal said, "if they have the proper documentation at registration, then they're in. we can't be and are not in the private investigation business. we have too many other things to do." Then the mom says, "well what if parents did the investigating, and brought proof to you that the child is not in the zone?" and the principal said, "if the child has the correct paperwork at registration, then the child is in. a lot of times families move during the time their child is at our school, but even if they then move out of zone, that child still has the spot at the school." basically, she was saying it's impossible to prove a child does not belong at the school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 09:18 AM Flag
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Is this school one of the traditionally overcrowded schools? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 03:31 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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this isn't about moving out of the zone once you've used actual proof of residency to get into a school. and things have changed a lot since you went to that meeting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 11:50 AM Flag
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I know a family (out-of-zone--actually out-of-district) who was admonished for not always getting their child to school on time. This was years ago, before the crowding crunch in some schools, but I think it's a good point. If you lie, at least make sure your child gats to school on time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 10:03 AM Flag
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no, that's not true anymore. when you register you have to sign something that says the address you provided is accurate and that you understand that if it's not and the doe finds out dc can be kicked out at any time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 12:13 PM Flag
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BUT, you CAN MOVE after your child is in first grade and STAY in the school legally. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 12:18 PM Flag
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that's correct. but the address you provide when you register must be accurate at the time you register whether you subsequently move or not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 12:19 PM Flag
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and how pray tell one year later are you going to go about finding out if address was correct or not? Its the DOE not the FBI [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 12:23 PM Flag
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it doesn't really take columbo to figure it out. i'm not saying they are going to go after every family, i'm just saying that if someone rats them out and they are able to verify they never lived there, they can kick them out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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who is going to spend the time on this? I think a lot of people ASSume that a family must be in a school because of a lie when in fact perhaps that family got in the school years ago when it wasn't crowded, and once the oldest kid was in, then siblings are allowed to register. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 03:36 PM Flag
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no, a lot of us know for a fact who the cheaters are. you seem pretty defensive, btw. like you dodged a bullet and are now telling people your oldest got in under some old policy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 11:42 AM Flag
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I've registered at three different schools in the last 4 years and not once have I been asked to sign anything like this. which schools require this? it's a totally empty threat because the burden of proof that the family lied is on the doe -- which last i heard does not have an investigative arm. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 03:37 PM Flag
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i think it's new this year. and it's not an empty threat. people have been kicked out of schools for this. and there are plenty of people happy to turn them in, so not so hard for the doe to ferret them out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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I just signed one a week ago. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 11:52 AM Flag
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well i applied to two schools, one zoned, one unzoned, and had to sign the document in both cases. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 11:57 AM Flag
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If a question arises about a student's address, or there is a suspicion of a falsified address used to register the student, the school is required to initiate an address verification investigation within 30 days of discovery of the problem. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 11:50 AM Flag
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ding! ding! ding! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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I know a few people this happened to in Nassau County. They were charged "tuition" retroactively for all the years they were wrongly in the district. They tried to fight it, but had no grounds. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 11:59 AM Flag
[ - ] I guess I have too much lipase in my breast milk and so I can't store it unless I scaled the milk first - which I can't do while at work and my baby won't take formula - any advice? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:30 AM Flag
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I've read you can try mixing the non scalded stuff with the scalded but otherwise I'm not sure what you can do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:45 AM Flag
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what does that mean ? I have never heard of this ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:45 AM Flag
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essentially it means that my milk breaks down really quickly and spoils very quickly. After a day after expressing it it smells a bit funk and my baby won't take it - can't really blame him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:48 AM Flag
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Not that this solves your prob in any way, but I EBF for the first year and relied on pumped milk - maybe - two or three times total. If you pump in the morning is it still good in the PM ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:50 AM Flag
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np. Some people have too much lipase (an enzyme digester) in their breast milk. The lipase digests the fat in the milk and makes it taste off so if it is stored the baby refuses to drink it. Scalding (near boiling) stops the process. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:49 AM Flag
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that's so interesting. thank you for explaining. I never had heard of this. is it common ? is the milk as nutritous ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:50 AM Flag
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it isn't common - but past of the problem - aside from being just a total PITA is that scalding it takes away some of the immunity benefits. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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thank you. I am sure that this exact thing will now come up in some converstaion and I will actually know about it now ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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As far as I know it just doesn't taste good. [ Reply | More
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