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06.29.08, 08:44 AM General Topics
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OK, I seriously need some advice! Please! My aunt and my mom both have different dads and both have never met their father and through some internet searching I found my aunt's father and we have been emailing back and forth. He says since it has been so long he isn't exactly anxious to meet my aunt. What should I do? Should I tell her? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.29.08, 08:44 AM Flag

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you started this search on your own and without her permission ? why ? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:45 AM Flag

I dont know, just curious I guess [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:46 AM Flag

I think you opened a Pandora's box that wasn't yours to open and you should not pursue it any further. In a certain way it is a giant breech of trust. You've brought into your "world" the possibility of really throwing your Aunt's life into a turmoil she may not want. It certainly adds a complication to her life. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:48 AM Flag

op: I completely agree with you and thanks for bringing all that to my attention [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:50 AM Flag

good luck. I understand your curiousity though. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:51 AM Flag

thank you so much! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:53 AM Flag

have to ask why you did this? sounds like if you could do it, she could have too.... (not trying to be mean, really curious) [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:45 AM Flag

I really dont know, I was curious because I mean the man was married to my grandmother for a short bit and I had to add him to the family tree in order to add my aunt [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:47 AM Flag

If your aunt hasn't tried to find him then I wouldn't tell her. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:46 AM Flag

op: this is what I was thinking [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:48 AM Flag

No do not tell her? Who benefits from you telling her that her dad doesn't want to meet her? - unless she knows that you've already been emailing with him - which would have been horrible for you to open up that can of worms [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:47 AM Flag

I havent told her anything yet because I'm nervous [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:48 AM Flag

then don't - drop it quick. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:49 AM Flag

ita - I would drop contact with her dad and forget about it. He should understand if he doesn't want to meet her. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:50 AM Flag

OP: Thank you everyone! You definitely helped me in deciding not to tell her! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:54 AM Flag