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[ - ] Any nutritionists on? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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Dietitian here [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:11 AM Flag
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Hi - do you believe in food combining? i eat a whole cantaloupe every night after dinner. friend tells me this is bad - must eat melon alone or else delays digestion of everything that came before. any truth to this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:13 AM Flag
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No. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:16 AM Flag
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What about just eating watermelon for dinner, will that help feeling less bloated and full I always have a salad for dinner but feel full [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:19 AM Flag
[ - ] 6month old feeding schedule...confused! Started solids & feel like I'm feeding now 6x a day instead of 4. Wakes gets bottle, then after am nap gets solids, then bottle, then naps, gets solids, then bottle, then naps, gets solids, bottle. I've tried giving solids 30min before regular feeding time so not frustrated & he still goes nuts. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.07.08, 11:05 AM Flag
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When you start solids, you don't need to give them 3x a day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:10 AM Flag
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why is he going nuts? too hungry? too full? I started out giving solids (just a little) after bottle, then after he was used to it, start with solids and immediately follow with bottle, but the bottle after solids is 4-5 oz whereas the 1st and last bottles of the day (bottle only) are 8 oz [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:11 AM Flag
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this makes most sense to me b/c that's pretty much what we've been doing. he actually does need solids 2-3x a day. actually started solids a few wks ago and pediatrician suggested it b/c he said he was ready. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:16 AM Flag
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db only needs solids once a day.....do it at dinner for socialization, or a time that is easy for you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:11 AM Flag
[ - ] Does anybody know anything about surrendering an adopted baby? +no judgement, pls+ 63 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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Do you mean you adopted a child and are now reconsidering that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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No, I am sorry I do not. Did you have a lawyer for the adoption? Perhaps they can guide you. Good luck, I'm sure its a real struggle. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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I don't. Did the agency you used give you any information? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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I have heard of it being done, but have no idea of the processes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:06 AM Flag
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Have you tried calling 311? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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^^^Dh and I are right now strongly considering adopting. You seem to have a perspective I haven't encountered, but must be valid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:10 AM Flag
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I don't think that it is easy. Why are you trying to surrender? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:11 AM Flag
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i don't know but assuming the adoption is final, i don't think it would be any different than surrendering a bio child [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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true. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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How old is the baby? I don't know the specifics, but can you take advantage of the laws in the states that allow you to abadon baby at hospital/firehouse no questions asked? Again, I would check with lawyer before acting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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Those laws generally only apply to newborns--babies that are just born. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:13 AM Flag
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that is why I asked how old the baby was and said check - its the "generally" that needs to be turned into a specific. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:15 AM Flag
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Whatever--there's no way that an adopted baby is young enough for those laws to pertain. Your "specific" is not remotely helpful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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and your helpful suggestion is... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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OMG, no they should not do that. They should make damn sure their child (and an adopted child is their child) gets the best home possible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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All depends on where did you adopt from and how long you have had the child. You need to go back to your adoption agency. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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Did you have a judge? Maybe you can ask him or her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:13 AM Flag
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Are you comfortable giving us more of an idea of what's going on? I feel for you and your child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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np, why does it matter - who cares what the reason is. She wants to know information that you don't need a reason for. Asking why is just being nosy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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I didn't ask for a reason--sorry, wasn't specific. But the advice would be different for an agency vs. private adoption, newborn vs. older child. That is what I meant. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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nnp: Not necessarily. If the child has serious medical issues,the answer would be different than if it's just adjustment issue. In any case she needs to make sure child can find another place. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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not necessarily. Some of the responders seem to belive that finding a placement for the child is OPs responsibility. It is not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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OP can just turn child over to CPS, just like you would do if you can't handle your bio kids. Then dc will end up in foster care. I would think that's very much last resort option. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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would you like for me to call CPS and ask for you? I'm happy to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:31 AM Flag
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you can't just turn over dc to CPS, there has to be a judge involved. CPS will avoid taking them at all costs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:31 AM Flag
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^^^under most circumstances [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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It is her ethical responsibility. This is her child! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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That is your emotional opinon. It is not a fact. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:35 AM Flag
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NP IDA. I think anyone who gives up a child for any reason, bio or not, has a responsibility to find the best place possible for that child. You are supposed to take care of your children. If you can't do it yourself then you should find someone who can! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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CPS will be in charge of finding the next place most likely. If you're giving up db, you loose your say. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:42 AM Flag
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This is so not true. You don't know what you are talking about. There is nothing that says you can't give your older child up for adoption. Whether you can find a suitable home is another question. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:50 AM Flag
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So, if you decided you didn't want your child any more, you don't think you have a responsibility to make sure your child has a good home? Are you actually a parent? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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I think that it really depends on the circumstances. If she would give db up that was biologically hers if facing the same issues, then I can see giving up adopted db. There are some things that we aren't equipped or have the money to handle appropriately. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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I didn't say there were no circumstances in which she would give up her child; I am saying, she shouldn't just dump him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:49 AM Flag
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was this fake? op never responded... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:15 AM Flag
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My guesss is this is real only b/c I never heard of such a thing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:16 AM Flag
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I hope so. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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OP dosn't need to respond to the questions about why she is doing this. She asked for information. Why are you demanding a response or calling fake? Do you have any information to give her? IF not, collapse. Who needs you to sit in judgement of fake and real posts anyway? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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Well, obliviously it depends on the situation. If it is a birth problem that was disclosed, then it is nearly impossible to give back dc. If it was in this country from social services, then you need to contact them first. If it was recent from another country, you need to contact agency, but if it was a long time ago, then social services is the place to start. I've heard of a ton of different situations, but with so little info, there's no way to know where to start. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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If the adoption is final, wouldn't they be, in effect, putting the baby up for adoption again rather than giving the baby back? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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it would depend on how long and under what circumstances. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:30 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:35 AM Flag
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why would a responsible adult do that? We don't know if the OP just changed her mind, if the child is ill or special needs, if the OP has serious drug problems or what. Why wouldn't someone attempt to find a good home for their child if it's at all possible? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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np: you seem really invested in a post on an anonymous board. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:31 AM Flag
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What in my response makes you think that? Because I stated she needs offer no reason? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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No, it was the collapse and who needs you to sit in judgment language [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:52 AM Flag
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The "fake" posters get to me too, they just show their ignorance. If its not their experience or suit their sensiblity it must be fake. Just ignore them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:58 AM Flag
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I'm an adoptive parent. I have heard of people doing this when the child suffers from fetal alcohol syndrome or the like, but it's hard for me to imaging. Why are you considering doing this? Are you really? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:16 AM Flag
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adoptionservices.org and adoptingfamiliesresources.com are legitimate sites where you or your friend may find therapists to work with you on post adoption issues..... 1 800 943 0400. Please call them as they may be able to help you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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I think all parents have moments when they think, however fleetingly, What have I done? Is it more than that? Parenthood can be hard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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hijack: best piece of advice I've heard regarding adoptions is to stay away from former USSR countries b/c they have significantly higher fetal alcohol syndrome. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:20 AM Flag
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And, sadly, American Indian reservations. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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Yep but people still go there, mainly because it's one of the few places where you can get caucasian dc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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Do you live in NY State? If you tell me the state you live in, your marital status and the date adoption was final, I'll make some calls for you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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sorry, no backsies [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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I have not read all the other responses yet, but it is called adoption disruption. UB is not the right place to ask about that, you need to find adoptive family forums (for example, there is an attachment disorder network, other places, blogs). And you have to be way more informed before thinking about anything like this (and in any case if you have adopted you have to get informed on these issues) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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Good advice (np). So sad that it's sometimes necessary. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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The adopted parents are like any other adopted parent. If you want to surrender, you need to go to Family Court to surrender parental rights. If no one is there to take the child, the child will go into foster care until a permanent resource is found. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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get in touch with achildswaiting.om...they are an agency that works with adoption dissolution situations and placements [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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^^^^^^achildswaiting.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:52 PM Flag
[ - ] do ticks fly? or do they crawl up your leg from the grass somewhere? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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crawl. They don't fly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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they crawl in the grass and wait to latch on to something that passes by. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:34 AM Flag
[ - ] We do not sit our 9 mo down to watch tv, but it seems impossible to avoid her watching tv entirely -- want to turn the news on some point in the day, see the weather report, or when we visit other people, would be rude to insist that they do turn off tv. What do you do? Thanks. 32 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 07.07.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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OMG. Is this a real post? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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OP: Sorry, if I was not clear, I would never ask anyone else to turn off their tv and no, I don't think her head is going to melt from watching too much tv, BUT I have a lot of friends whose kids watch a lot of tv, and I do think in certain instances, it has affected the kids negatively -- and it is hard to spend a lot of time with them if you want to avoid tv. I was just interested in hearing how people negotiate being reasonable about this, because it has become problematic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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Why is it hard? Just meet up in the park or elsewhere, not in their house. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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our 8 mo watches tv. there i said it. we always have it on in the evening for us, and we watch some noggin/sesame street in the morning. I watched plenty of tv when I was young and i dont think i had any adverse effects [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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np: Ditto. I have 2 dds (8yr and 4yr) and they watch TV. I have found when you try to keep things from the kids they want it more. At times my kids don't care if the TV is on..they have to be in the mood for it but they can watch Noggin whenever [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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there's a huge difference between a 4yo and a 9mo.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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yes but my dds were 9mo olds at one time weren't they? I allowed them to watch TV from the beginning. Never an issue [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:20 AM Flag
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np; are the kids born at 8yr and 4yr? lol don't you think this person had a 9mo old once before [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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You do know that there are plenty of reasons not to let kids under 2 watch tv, right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:13 AM Flag
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oh please. I'm 40 yr old and everyone I know watched TV when they were very small. Never an issue and they are all very successful. We don't plop our kids in front of the tv for 8hrs but tv isn't bad [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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what? This is nuts. YOu cannot ask other ppl to turn off their tv's just because of some neurosis. TV will not blind your dc or shrink her brain [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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but masturbation will [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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It's not just a neurosis silly. If you get your head out of the proverbial sand, you would know that there have been SO MANY PROVEN studies on the adverse affects of tv. I still let mine watch every so often, but it's BEENPROVEN! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:27 AM Flag
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what do you think? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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I think your retort made up in snideness what it lacked in imagination and creativity. You must watch a lot of reality tv. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:16 AM Flag
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We just have the TV on from time to time. I get news from NPR and weather from weather.com so pretty much the only time the TV's on during the day is when our older DS is watching something. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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My dc was born in November - Ice Skating Nationals are in march - so db was 4 months old and loved watching the men skate (it was the black suit on the white ice). Has an IQ of 140 now. So all is well :) IF it REALLY BOTHERS YOU, just put db in a bouncy seat turned away from the tv. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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LOL. when my dc was 2-3 months I parked her in front of NYC Fashion Week coverage one day--thumping music, lots of color, repetitive motion--happy baby. Also very bright kid now, although I'm sure I've created all kinds of body issues :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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ROFLMAO [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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watch out for the weather channel [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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you are a nutter [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:06 AM Flag
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Not really. You don't have friends that parent differently than you and have to figure out how to negotiate it? Or do you just call them silly names too? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:15 AM Flag
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why would you negotiate? Let them parent their own way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:16 AM Flag
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I do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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1. In your own home, just leave the TV off...listen to the radio if you want company or watch tv while db naps. 2. When visting, yes it is rude. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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You can't ask other people to turn off their TV, [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:13 AM Flag
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You do realize that in less than 10 years you will look back and say to yourself, "Why the F was I such a nutball?" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:16 AM Flag
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nah, I'm not much of a curser. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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Nothing wrong with TV. It actually teaches your child a lot if you make sure it is tuned to age appropriate channels. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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that's a load of crap for a 9mo... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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says you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:00 PM Flag
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Def don't ask other pp tp turn off their TV. A little bit of TV once in a while at a neighbors house is not going to harm DC. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:51 AM Flag
[ - ] I am trying to tolerate my ILs now that I have db, but they are so tedious. MIL's friend came to visit last week. DB is 3 weeks old. We didn't mention the visit to MIL (who was on vacation) and she called from vacay to say she was "mortified" that her friend told her she'd visited us before we told MIL. Now MIL wants us to come visit with new baby and I just don't want to go. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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Don't go. You have a small baby and you just want to settle in to your own routines not go rushing about. Just say no! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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i know but we just spend 4 days at my parents' house. my parents are SO much easier to deal with (for dh too). i think i'm going to tell her we overdid it at my parents and shouldn't have gone there either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:10 AM Flag
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Don't go down the road of lying. Just have dh handle it and tell her that you aren't ready for another extended visit and that you would like to start establishing your routine. We had a very similar thing happen with my ILs. It was awful and awkward at the time, but 2 yrs later, I can see that it was the best thing we could have done to establish boundaries as new parents. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:14 AM Flag
[ - ] My sister got wind of the name we are using for our DD to be and told me that it's "her name" (she's also declared that she's never having kids). She went out and got a dog and gave it the name and then told me that it would be embarrassing if we named our child after her dog. WTF is wrong with her? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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This is why people should never discuss potential names until they've actually named the baby and there's no longer room for discussion. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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OP: we tried not too - my idiot DH had one too many last weekend and referred to the baby by name by accident in front of my mother, who then activated her phone tree [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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I wish it was my ILs - it's my own family! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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she's a nut case [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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This is why you NEVER NEVER NEVER tell the names you are thinking about. I only ever told the names we were no longer considering. That way the person felt like the were getting info but I could keep our real names private. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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please tell me this is fake [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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what is the name? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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tell her it was very sweet of her to name her dog after your dd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:59 AM Flag
[ - ] I'm waiting for a plumber. I'm waiting for a plumber. I'm waiting for a plumber and hope I don't get reamed! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:56 AM Flag
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op- you don't like my song? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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yes but I prefer the "waiting for the cable guy" song on Itunes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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But when you have no water you really have the blues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:11 AM Flag
[ - ] Is it true that DB's have difficult time sleeping when learning to walk? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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I have 2 kids and never heard this before [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:56 AM Flag
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never heard such a theory. does not ring true with my experience [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:56 AM Flag
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mine both did - if they stirred at all they would pop up and walk around. I think they were just really excited about their new skills. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:57 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone hear of any flexibility lately with DOE and placement changes for g&t? or is it a lost cause.? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.07.08, 10:53 AM Flag
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Worth a try. What are you trying to change? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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What do you want them to do for you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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I would not expect it. They were pretty adamant about no wait lists, and if they make an exception once, they'll have to do it for everyone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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I have heard of nothing, but if you feel strongly about getting a different placement I encourage you to lobby for it--what do you have to lose? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:42 AM Flag
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you can try and you might have success if you are looking for a less popular G&T program. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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ITA, once again there are some seriously underenrolled programs. So if you are not looking for Anderson or top district programs it's worth a shot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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I for one would love an underenrolled program. would rather have 15 or so kids, or even 20, than 25. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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eh. the underenrolled ones are often brand new ones in sketchy schools. who knows if the teachers are up to snuff? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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I know of some siblings who didn't make the score who are holding out hope for citywides. Not sure if the DOE or the schools gave them that hope, but they aren't proceeding like its a done deal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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So not happening, DOE can't afford such outcry considering how many kids made the cutoff and did not get citywide (or in some cases any) placement. They should spend the time with heavy tutoring instead and try again for first grade. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 01:09 PM Flag
[ - ] having an impossible time w/dh picking dd's name. he will only agree to name that has significant hebrew meaning. none of the names i like do. how do we negotiate this? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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what are your names? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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compromise..you both should right down names you both love then work off that list. He needs to compromise if not the kid will be named Sunday Rose [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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op - he won't make a list - just wants to nix all my suggestions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:56 AM Flag
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sounds like my dh. We are expecting a boy and finally after months of him nixing everything, he said yes to a name [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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Rebekah [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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if we had a daughter, this was my #1 choice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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someone gets first name, the other gets middle [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:56 AM Flag
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op - what if he refuses? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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You really married and A** if you can't come together on something as wonderful and rare as naming a baby. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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Can't you just leave that for Hebrew names? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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there is abook that I bought before I had DS and was doing a bris/ needed to choose a hebrew name for him and my dd. It gives, among other things, a list of hebrew names and their meaning. Unfortunately I can't think of the name of the book, but go buy a book like that, put the list infront of DH and ask him which ones he likes. Take the discussion from there. If he's not interested in even doing this much work, then he doesn't deserve to be able to nix your ideas. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:44 AM Flag
[ - ] CVS question: Are you on limited activities or bedrest after the test? If so, for how long? TIA 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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not sure but if it's like the amnio, I was told to take it easy for 2-3 days [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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You are told to take it easy for the rest of the day (i.e. go home and sleep) and avoid exercising and heavy lifting for 2-3 days. I went home and slept all day (I was really tired afterwards) and went to work the next day. I had mine done on a Thu and I was in the gym on Sun w/ no issues [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:00 AM Flag
[ - ] where can i go in NYC or westchester to have a painting appraised? when cleaning out my grandmother's apt (she passed away) I picked up 2 old paintings and wondering if they are worth anything. she is a holocaust survivor and perhaps these are important paintings. dont know. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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Christie's or Sothebys. or the art gallery I work at on the UES... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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who do i call? how to proceed? thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:53 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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they have very old, ornate framing. small cracks/chips on the frames. they are oil paintings. she came to this country in the early 40s, so the paintings are sometime before then. i have no idea at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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any signatures? what is the style of the paintings? can you take pictures and send them to me? (I work at an old master painting gallery, used to work for an auction house). Do you want to sell them or just find out about them? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:56 AM Flag
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i would sell them. dont have an attachment, but obviously want to know if they are $ or critically important somehow. yes, I see a signature on one of them. and i can send a photo. how to contact u? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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alexamd AT gmail.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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where are you located? would you be open to bringing them to NY or having me or someone come to you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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i can bring them to manhattan. no problem. first, i [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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first, i'll email you pics and any information i can see from frames or painting. thanks so much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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sounds good. If there are any labels or marks on the back pics would be great, or if you can read them and write what they say that is good too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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ok thanks so much. cant send pics until dh home from work, bc i don't know how to download from camera. i'm clearly not an early adopter of technology. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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no problem. I'll look for your email tonight or tomorrow [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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try Doyles on the UES [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:05 AM Flag
[ - ] John McCain does not know how to use a computer. That says it all. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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uggg... you're kidding! Please tell me you're kidding... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:53 AM Flag
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http://www.motherjones.com/mojoblog/archives/2008/03/7743_john_mccain_doe.html [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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NYT has covered it repeatedly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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plenty of older people don't. That's what he has paid researchers for [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:53 AM Flag
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Both of my 78yo grandparents do... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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wow - your grandparents are 78? my mother is 73! and uses a computer daily for work & play [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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and that proves exactly what? I said plenty of older people, not all older people. Geez [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:56 AM Flag
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come on, plenty of technology in the senate he could have learnt. My dad did. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:56 AM Flag
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I personally believe that the president of the US should know how to use a computer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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I read something this weekend that said that he thinks we could have won Vietnam, if only we had gone in full force. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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that is very possibly true. We wimped out and left them to a genocide. Horrible and shameful on our part. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:56 AM Flag
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Do you have a ds? Would you like him to be drafted to fight a war like that? No president would survive full force invasion. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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yeah that's what I said. Whether we should have gone in at all is a differet question than we could have won if we didnt back out. And there is not and will nto be a draft again anyway [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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That's what you think. If you keep starting useless war we will have to have one, military recruiting is way down and we'll have really hard time keeping sufficient professional army. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:15 AM Flag
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it would not be possible for us to invade Iran and not have a draft. Guess who's in favor of going after Iran next? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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Exactly. If there is another war before we get out of Iraq draft will be on the table. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:20 AM Flag
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trying to take the country would have also been genocide... Do you have any idea the atrocities we did and it didn't even come close to winning it for us? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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OK Mr Kerry. Don't you have something better to do than UB? Yes - there were atrocities. They happen in every war. Horrible and hopefully kept to a minimum. It was not as widespread as some people would like you to think [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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right, did you fight in Vietnam? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:16 AM Flag
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I love people like this. They would tell John Kerry about what war in Viet Nam was like and how it differed from other wars. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 01:44 PM Flag
[ - ] Name Poll: Roan or Ronan? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:48 AM Flag
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boy or girl? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:49 AM Flag
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Only if you are Irish. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:49 AM Flag
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ronen, with an "E", is a hebrew name. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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ronan [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:50 AM Flag
[ - ] while we are on the topic of annoying things - how annoyed would you be about this? IL's built a mountain house. All the kids (My DH is one) get a room. We were told "it's your room. Decorate it how you like" But every time I mention something MIL says "Oh no. We don't want to do that". Annoying a little or a lot? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:47 AM Flag
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Ask her to go shopping with you and pick out stuff you both like. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:48 AM Flag
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yeah - that sounds reasonable - but she has way more $$ than we do and would pick out things I could not afford. We haev very dif tastes too. I am seriously thinking of just letting her do the room for us. I don't really care that much. She likes things to be just so and I just want a comfortable house to relax in. They bought new furniture and all I heard all weekend was "no eating on the sofa" "no kids on the chair with shoes on". Sheesh. How can I relax when I can't even sit down? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:50 AM Flag
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Then either go where you can afford the stuff. BB&B or Target vs Macys/Bloomies or get her to think she's doing you a huge favor, being the hero, saving the day to let her do it herself. Make sure she thinks it's all her idea though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:53 AM Flag
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now that is good advice. I feel like just saying "just do it your own damn self" and storming out. Not very grown up eh? LOL! I think I will just have a few family pictures framed and let her do what she wants with the rest of it. There had better not be any Thomas Kincaid pictures on the wall though! I have to draw the line somewhere! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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Then you could replace it with something so she could use it somewhere where she's see it more often! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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LOL! I love you! ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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Oh what i would do for a mountain house in vermont. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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would you let your MIL decorate it? ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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hold on while I get my violin... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:49 AM Flag
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LOL! I know! I know! It's a free vacation house. But it is annoying isn;t it? Just a little? ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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Okay, I'll get my smallest violin out and play softly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:53 AM Flag
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thanks! LMAO! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:53 AM Flag
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It's their house. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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I know. And I would never have even thought about doing anything other than offering spare furniture etc but they made such a huge point of saying it's our house too and we should do what we want with our rooms. I know it's not a big deal but it bugs me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:53 AM Flag
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i would have no interest in decorating a room in her house [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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