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[ - ] bed time for 2.5 y.o.? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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Yes, definitely good to have one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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thanks, any advice about appropriate time? Now 7:30 pm too early? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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I think it really depends on your family and your child. What time does he seem tired? What schedule works for your family? At that age, if the family is on a later schedule, that's fine. If you need to be on an earlier one, like 7:30, so he will wake earlier, do that. I think Ferber,AAP, etc. all have approximate guides about how many hours a child that age needs (probably around 12-14). Work from there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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What time does he have to get up in the morning? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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he doesn't start work unitl 8 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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^^^ s/he should be getting 11 hours a night, so if needs to get up at 7:00, schedule accordingly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:45 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone have a dyslexic child? At what age were they diagnosed? 5yo DS is very bright (99 ERB), but isn't reading yet, reverses certain word sounds (aminal not animal), just now settling on left handedness, mirror writes. I read that reversals are common until 6yo. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.07.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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That is totally normal & reading at that age has nothing to do with intelligence [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:36 PM Flag
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ITA normal. Dyslexia really can't be truly diagnosed until around 6.5-7. Most 5yos are not reading. Signed mom of kid with dev delays [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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Most 5 yo dyslexics don't read yet so I am guessing you are safe. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 01:03 PM Flag
[ - ] I want to have my second child soon and i really want it to be a VBAC. I am looking for a VBAC OBGYN in Brooklyn or Manhattan. Someone who will really try for the VBAC and not settle for a c-section. I had an "emergency" c-section for my first pregnancy and I just did not sit well with me, b/c i feel that the OB could have taken other measured before sprinting me into surgery. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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BTDT, successfully I might add. And I can tell you that while it makes a big difference to find a supportive doctor, none will "give" you the vbac--they will go along with it, sure, but you have to make it happen through sheer force of will, and the odds are against you. You should certainly change OBs, but you should also hire a great doula and learn everything you can about labor and vbac so you can do practically all your labor at home and get there for them to catch the baby. Once you get into that hospital bed, you're in the hospital's hands. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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I should also say that the vbac meant the world to me. I found the whole process of finding the right people and learning what I needed to very positive and psychologically healing for me after an emergency c-section that also wasn't called for imho. Good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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are there doulas who take insurance? or is that really a reach? Also how soon into the pregnancy do you get one? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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I don't know of any insurance that will pay for a doula, but maybe there's a tiny chance you could convince yours? I am almost positive no doula takes insurance directly. The fees vary tremendously, though, and you could hire a "student" doula for next to nothing, though I would want someone with more experience for a vbac. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 03:35 PM Flag
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At my old hospital they provide doulas for free to everyone, so sad I moved before db was born. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 03:43 PM Flag
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Scott Postell in Park Slope [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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Are you pregnant yet? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 06:18 PM Flag
[ - ] Really dumb question, I know, but bear with me. I've never seemed to be very "good" at woman on top sex. What's the best movement to do? it's like I can't get enough movement going...any ideas? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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put your legs in front of you, with your knees up, and sort of "bounce"... my dh can't get enough of this, althoughit makes my legs tired pretty quickly (you can think of it as doing really intense squats) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:33 PM Flag
[ - ] I came home from work early and dh was dressed like Betsy Ross and the au pair was dressed like a Hessian and was beating him about the face with a ham loaf. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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OMG! Now what are you going to serve for dinner? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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That's hot! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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fantastic. let's hang out together ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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Great. You rarely see the word "Hessian" used these days. Bully for you ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 01:16 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone have such problems with ILs that you had to discontinue contact with them? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:30 PM Flag
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yes and then divorced loser husband. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:30 PM Flag
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Very interesting. I feel like our marriage will end in divorce if his family continues to have contact with us. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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his mother blamed me for everything that was wrong with him it was a nightmare. so much happier now : ) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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What do they do? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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My SIL did... basically she married her dh to get on his health insurance, his parents made a comment to their son that they were worried she only married him for $$ (not really true but given circumstances I can see their point) and SIL forced DH to abandon all contact with them. His parents don't know that they have a grandchild. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:36 PM Flag
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uggg [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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what are you ugging? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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the situation, that sucks... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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yep... but my sil is a piece of work. and takes no blame for her part in the situation, and is basically a leech on her parents... i feel bad for bil though [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:48 PM Flag
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yes with my MIL. We no longer see her or speak to her. Our nanny drops the children to visit her once a week and picks them up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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what caused you to stop speaking to her but will still allow her to see dc? Not judging, but it seems strange. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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We are allowing her to ruin her own relationship with our children and not deny them a grandmother just because we know she is psychotic. As soon as she starts turning them against each other like she did her sons, we will end the relationship. My dh and his brother no longer speak thanks to her. She is happy about it because it feeds into her divorce drama with FIL. She is liar and suffers from perpetual victim complex. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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Is her name Rosemarie? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 01:08 PM Flag
[ - ] Do Carrs water crackers go bad? Have an unopened (still shrink-wrapped) pack in my cupboard dated Oct. 2007... but I am so nauseated I need something bland to eat and that's all I have that fits the bill.... ok to eat? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:28 PM Flag
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If not moldy that you can see, or stale, go for it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:29 PM Flag
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not moldy... they seem a bit stale but not really [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:30 PM Flag
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stale won't hurt you. Go ahead and eat them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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thanks, I did, and feel much better. Much less ill... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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I would eat them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:33 PM Flag
[ - ] 5.5 month old LOVES to be pulled up to stand. MIL said i shouldn't do it b/c it will make him bowlegged..is there truth to that? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.07.08, 12:28 PM Flag
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old wives tale [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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No...it's fine for a minute here and there. But developmentally/neurologically his legs aren't ready for long-time weight-bearing just yet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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at 5.5 months? disagree -- we're not talking about a 1 month old here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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I'm saying don't hold him in a standing position for longer than he wants...which is probably just a few minutes at a time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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of course - i only mean for a few minutes at a time but he does like to do it a few times a day. i would never hold him purposefully in a standing position if he didn't want to! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 01:58 PM Flag
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if he can do it, let him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:52 PM Flag
[ - ] No flames please: where in Manhattan or Brooklyn can I buy Croclings for my sandal-hating toddler? TIA 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:26 PM Flag
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crocs store on columbus ave & 73rd st [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:31 PM Flag
[ - ] advice for getting 2 1/2 year old to stay in his crib 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Preschool/Kids 07.07.08, 12:26 PM Flag
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Crib tent or buy a bed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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he won't stay in his room at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:28 PM Flag
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Super Nanny would just keep putting back in room with little emotion or conversation. Never had to confron this one myself even though I have 2 kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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he physically is still in crib, he just stands there shrieking [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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How long have you let him shriek? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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sticker chart with rewards, or threats (no ____ tomorrow unless you stay in your room. Threats always worked better for me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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does a 2 2/1 y.o. get threats? I am not sure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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maybe that's because he hates his crib. move to a bed and see what happens. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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Maybe it's time for a bed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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he won't stay in his room without company and I stay with him for over an hour while he falls asleep, then when I think he is sleeping I leave and he wakes up and screams [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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did you have any sleep problems with him before this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:33 PM Flag
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none. it started after returning from vacation where we were in the same room and he would insist I sit with him while he fell asleep, which I did and he did without a problem, now at home, he keeps waking to check if I am still there even after a long time and if he wakes and I am not in room he shrieks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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Ugh, this happened to us and DD would get sick/bring up if we left her. DH is anti-CIO. Anyway, her thing was she became anticrib and needed company. We got her a big (full size) bed and I lie with her until she falls asleep, then leave. It's a pain, and maybe I haven't solved your issue, but she mainly sleeps through. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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np: I would suggest putting him in a bed. When he gets out tell him nicely the first time something like "it's time to sleep. You stay in bed. Good night." Anytime he gets up after that just keep walking back w/o talking to him at all. It could take a huge effort on your part and many times doing it, but if you are consistent it should work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:36 PM Flag
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I can tell you what willwork, but I bet you won't do it. And you need to do this before he gets his bed or life will be relaly tough. Put him to bed and follow your normal routine. Then leave. Put on your favorite tv show. Let him figure out how ot fll asleep by himself. it will take 5-7 nights if you are strong and don't go back in, at all. Other wise, just put his crib in your room. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:57 PM Flag
[ - ] does anyone have a dc who is a dwarf? besides being short, are there any other differences? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:22 PM Flag
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I know some little people. There can be a wide range of differences. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:25 PM Flag
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like what? they are chromosomally normal. what are some examples? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:25 PM Flag
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orthopedic problems, like back problems. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:26 PM Flag
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http://www.lpaonline.org/mc/page.do?sitePageId=44397&orgId=lpa [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:29 PM Flag
[ - ] Housing cost poll - All you people with payments (incl mntn) under 3K do you live in Manhattan and does that include taxes? Just seems so low to me. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.07.08, 12:22 PM Flag
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Our monthly mtg + maintenance + including taxes is about $3300. We bought 8 yrs ago, and we live in Manhattan. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:23 PM Flag
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about the same here--bought about 6 years ago, mtg/maintenance/taxes $3500 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:26 PM Flag
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hdfc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:24 PM Flag
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Yes, yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:26 PM Flag
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The big factor missing is what % of total price did they put down as down payment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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also when did they buy and what neighborhood in Manhattan. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:28 PM Flag
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We pay only $1100 in maintenance. We bought on the UWS in '93 and have paid off the mortgage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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OP - Why didn't I buy sooner?! UGH. do you all mind sharing how large your places are? Any rules of thumb re how much monthly housing nut should be vs. income? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:29 PM Flag
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OR who bought 6 yrs ago/$3500--1200 sq feet, and we make $170K total. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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wow, isn't that a stretch? we pay about $4k on a hhi of twice that and still feel the pinch. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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we live on a budget and frugally--no car, don't take cabs, no starbucks, pack lunch every day, no nanny, etc. we still manage to save some for retirement, and we get FA at a private school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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We have payments of $1000 we do live in manhattan but if we had more payments we probably wouldn't live here [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 01:11 PM Flag
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Washington Heights; mortgage is $1,800/mos and maintenance about $1150; total around $3,000. Taxes are included. We paid 25% in cash for our apt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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That was our rent, but it was a 1BR and we slept on the sofabed! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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if you're still watching..i bought a 1 BR in '98 for $140K, it tripled in value, allowing us to buy our 2 BR for $529K outright (in '04) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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Yes. But I only pay maintenance. I bought my apartment for cash during the last housing crash. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 05:30 PM Flag
[ - ] what time does you 7/8 month old go to bed? when is the last nap over? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.07.08, 12:16 PM Flag
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7:30. naps are still all over the place... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:18 PM Flag
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bed around 6:30pm, at that age he was finally dropping his 3rd nap so nap was usually over by 2:30pm or so. Third nap was usually from 3:30-4:30pm or so when it was happening [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:32 PM Flag
[ - ] can you recommend a good table and chairs for 2 year old? little tykes? kidkraft? tia. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:08 PM Flag
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I always read reviews on amazon. They have tons of table/chairs. What look do you want? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:13 PM Flag
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plain and simple [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:13 PM Flag
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kidkraft then. Little tykes are mostly plastic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:16 PM Flag
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Pottery Barn or Land of Nod [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:16 PM Flag
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ITA. We got a great deal on Land of Nod's outlet on a table, then purchased chairs. My dd loves it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:33 PM Flag
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We have a kidkraft one that I really like, but sort of wish I would have just gone with the pbk stuff. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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my advice is to make sure you don't get one that is too small. You want it to last until they are 5 or 6 and then get a desk. I have a little tykes one that is wood - its cute (red/blue painted wood) but it is very very small. ALso have one for my DD that we bought at a boutique that is a bit taller and much more useful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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We purchased DC's Pottery Barn table when she was barely 18 mos old. She is now nine. It has been through numerous play groups, parties, lunches, crafts, etc and grown-upunder 5' 5" can sit there too. Two of the chairs cracked after 2 years and PB replaced all four. The wooden table (not painted ) is a better idea for longevity. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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Community Playthings has -hands down- the best, most durable, resaleable and height optional play/work furniture for kids. They're not inexpensive but remain the gold standard for performance; many, many pre-schools equip themselves w/ the brand. My 5 yo is using the table and chairs passed down from my 39 yo neice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 03:37 PM Flag
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love our potter barn kids ones. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 03:42 PM Flag
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A table. And a couple chairs. Dude. I can't stand these questions! 2 year olds don't care about brand, only you do. Just get something that fits your family's needs. A table is a table is a table. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 03:53 PM Flag
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