• Filter the conversation
 

Dear UrbanBaby community,

Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

If you have any questions or concerns, you can email us at urbanbaby-support@cbsinteractive.com.

Thanks so much,

UrbanBaby Support

[ - ] Name Poll: Oren? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:16 PM Flag
»
I like it [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:25 PM Flag
»
I know an Orin... always thought it was a bit of a weird name [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:31 PM Flag
»
geeky [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:41 PM Flag
»
Isn't that Mick Jaggers girlfriend name? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:43 PM Flag
[ - ] OK - b/t the poster who is mad that her sil picked her choice for a girl's name (despite the fact that op is not even pg and the sil doesn't know the sex of her child) and the posters stressing out over Angelina naming her child Vivienne, I'm thinking there are some whacked out people out there. If you derive your security and sense of self worth from having the perfect, not too weird, not too popular but completely unique name, you need a serious shift in your priorities. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:14 PM Flag
»
calm down [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:14 PM Flag
»
really? i need to calm down and not people in hysteria over the fact that their child will not be the only vivian or beatrice in the world? ok. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:15 PM Flag
»
well, the op's sil on that post sounded like a bitch, you don't know the whole story there. ITA with you about the Angelina Jolie post though [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:19 PM Flag
»
I think some troll is having fun at newbies' expense. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:15 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone deal with PRE partum depression? I'm 6 months with 2nd DS and just so incredibly down. I've been leaving work early, crying a lot, I can only sleep about 3 hours a night. OB was so completely unhelpful. She suggested I stop working. (Although at this point, with my attendance and performance lately I might just get canned.) I don't really know what to do. I don't even feel I can talk to my friends. I don't want anyone to think I am ungrateful for my pregnancy (esp. my many friends who are or have had trouble conceiving), I just can't seem to enjoy it. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:13 PM Flag
»
I do this every pregnancy. Usually gets better (but not completely gone) by 5 months. Have you noticed any difference as you've progressed? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:15 PM Flag
»
oh, it's gotten worse. much much worse. Honestly, I don't even know why I'm posting. I feel completely paralyzed with sadness most of the day. This feeling is so overwhelming. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:18 PM Flag
»
you need to talk to someone. sorry your ob was not helpful. i'm sure it feels too late to look for another one but it may be worth the effort. after sticking w/an ob i didn't love through an entire pg, i ended leaving when db was 7wks old b/c she was so unsupportive of my issues with thrush and mastitis and other things. do you have a general practioner you can talk to? what about your son's ped? could that dr. give you a recommendation? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:21 PM Flag
»
i had that. prenatal depression, they call it. i distinctly remember holding my 1yo and thinking "maybe i'll just throw him down the steps". i also passed the bathroom one day and thought "maybe i'll just go in there and take a razor and slash my wrists". i was very emotionally shaky. how old is your ds? how are your finances? my advice to you would be to think really hard about what your triggers are and what will make you happier. (not in a fundamental way but in a practical way. for me it was the mess. really exacerbated my issues). see if you can take a week off from work. better than stopping completely. use it to take some walks, relax, unwind, breath, organize yourself, etc. good luck. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:18 PM Flag
»
^^^just wanted to add that my ob was also not very sympathetic. maybe i whitewashed the issues a little but he basically brushed it off. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:22 PM Flag
»
agree with above and you may also need therapy. my sil was depressed while she was pg and she got meds for it [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:22 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone heard of acupuncture to treat seasonal allergies for kids? Any experience? Dh met someone who does this, and he is usually the skeptic on these kinds of things, but seems convinced it's the way to go. Thoughts? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
Toddler 07.21.08, 12:13 PM Flag
»
omg, no way would my dc sit still to have needles poked in him. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:22 PM Flag
»
That was my reaction. Dh says the acupunturist says most kids love it! How is this possible? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:24 PM Flag
»
of course the acupunturist would say that. Also depends on the age. How old is your dc? Mine is 4 and has a serious needle phobia. Maybe older kids would think it's cool to get needles poked in them. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:26 PM Flag
»
There's a way of doing "acupuncture" w/ kids w/o needles, btw... [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 08:43 PM Flag
[ - ] Just moved to Forest Hills. What is the best supermarket? We've gone to trader joes a few times and I love it, but someone told me there's a stop and shop as well? where is that one located and is it a good one? thanks!!! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:11 PM Flag
»
there's a stop and shop off woodhaven blvd, i think on union turnpike. it's in a small mall with a michael's, a payless, a dress barn, and some other small stores. i don't know if that's closes to you. there are a million key foods all over the place. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:13 PM Flag
»
^^^closest. not closes [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:13 PM Flag
»
op: OK, i think that's the one. thanks!! [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:14 PM Flag
»
it's nice. very clean. i've never been to the trader joe's. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Thoughts on living in the Financial District? Fantastic 2000 + sq ft apt, if that matters...tia 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
New York City 07.21.08, 12:11 PM Flag
»
dead at night and on weekends (of course, depends where in FD). LOTS of tourists and no parking [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:12 PM Flag
»
Thanks. Dead as in quiet, or creepy and I would be afraid to walk home alone after dark? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:15 PM Flag
»
it really depends where. there are areas DH doesn't want me walking around alone late, but he's probably more cautious than I am [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:20 PM Flag
»
It's on Stone Street. So you live there? Do you like it? Thanks again. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:22 PM Flag
»
I'm nearby. One of the worst things is all the construction in the area, and the unreliable subways especially on the weekends. It is rather isolating. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:24 PM Flag
»
Thanks. I'm just feeling like all of the space would do wonders for our sanity and I feel like we will have to compromise on location to get a lot of space. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:25 PM Flag
»
that is true. Are you set on staying in Manhattan? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:26 PM Flag
»
Yes, and we need to be in District 2. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:27 PM Flag
»
gotcha. In that case, spend some time walking around there at all times of day and week (incl weekends) and see how you like it. Then, go for it! [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:28 PM Flag
»
Thank you so much. I will do that. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:29 PM Flag
»
good luck (and maybe, Welcome to the Neighborhood!) [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:31 PM Flag
»
;) [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:31 PM Flag
»
np: I work around there. Stone St has a ton of restaurants and bars -- could get noisy at night. On the other hand, it would keep your street from getting too quiet and isolated. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:25 PM Flag
»
We almost bought there, but couldn't do it. Too little green space and lack of basic amenities. We moved to Brooklyn instead. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:26 PM Flag
[ - ] NYC moms: how did you go about finding your very first nanny? any recommendations for agencies/web sites, etc? tia! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
New York City 07.21.08, 12:05 PM Flag
»
Interviewed many people from sources previously listed. When I liked someone checked references and paid the person to work for the day while I was home to get sense of personality. Hiring the nanny is the worst [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:08 PM Flag
»
We actually hired my nanny! [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:11 PM Flag
»
huh? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:22 PM Flag
»
we hired the woman ho watched us growing up [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:27 PM Flag
»
drea? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:22 PM Flag
[ - ] sorry for repost. was told at 15 1/2 weeks pg that i am having a boy.we clearly saw the penis. the sonogran machine is very clear. the doc saw it clearly. then said after that he is 95% sure that it is a boy. so is it a boy. how accurate is 95%? do they always use the percentage no matter when they do the sono? we saw the penis but the 95% is throwing me off. or are those pretty high odds. thanks 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:04 PM Flag
»
Friend's doc delivered her baby and said, Congratulations on your beautiful baby boy! The nurse said, Uh, doctor, it's a girl. Doc was sure it was going to be a boy from the sonogram.... [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:06 PM Flag
»
I don't understand the question. 95% is very high odds -- it means out of every 100 babies, they are right for 95. You could be one of the 5 out of 100 in which the sonogram is wrong. Can't you just accept that you are "probably" having a boy, but won't know for sure until later -- 20 week sonogram perhaps or after amnio. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:13 PM Flag
»
I think you understand the question...you (and I) just cant quite believe it. What on earth is OP looking for here? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:15 PM Flag
»
I'm guessing one of 2 things -- she wants to know if she can tell people it's a boy. Or, she was hoping for a girl and is wondering if there's still a chance she'll get one. I think the problem is that she thinks she was first told "it's a boy", then later told "of course, only 95% accurate", so that threw her. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:18 PM Flag
»
^^^in other words, right now, you do NOT know for sure what the gender is, so don't assume you do. But you are more likely to have a boy than not. Still no guarantee in either event. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:15 PM Flag
[ - ] Speaking of nannies and references, I decided to let my nanny of 2.5 years go. We thought she was reliable and honest until a series of incidents this summer. I'm sure she will use us as a reference. I have a hard time badmouthing her since I would feel awful if she couldn't get a job. I know the obvious advice is to be honest with anyone who calls for a reference, but I can't help but feel conflicted about it. 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
New York City 07.21.08, 12:03 PM Flag
»
That's when you go to answer what asked. If, however, any incident resulted in harm to child or a crime you need to be open with other parents. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:05 PM Flag
»
that's true -- I won't lie. I'll answer what's asked. If they don't ask, I won't volunteer. It's possible that another family won't be annoyed by the things that bothered me. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:07 PM Flag
»
be totally honest. Say that. I have gotten lukewarm feedback on nannies from their previous moms and I factor that in, but at the end one always goes with their own gut and experience with the potential nanny. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:05 PM Flag
»
what happened? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:06 PM Flag
»
what happened this summer? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:06 PM Flag
»
It came to my attention that she hasn't been watching my dc in the playground as closely as she claims. Also, she was late to pick up my dc from camp a few times and didn't tell me about it. When I learned from another parent and asked her about it, she lied. Things like that. Nothing really major or criminal, but enough to shake my trust in her. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:16 PM Flag
»
As a parent who employs a nanny and baby sitters, I would definately expect you to tell me this kind of stuff when I call. I would certainly questions like "what were her worst qualities" and "why did she stop baby sitting for you." And I would expect you to give those examples as answers. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:23 PM Flag
»
Nobody will ever say this though. People are very diplomatic with their references, which is why they are generally quite useless. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:33 PM Flag
»
well, if a reference said to me that she let the nanny go b/c they just weren't a good fit, I would press for examples. But I also probably would cross that nanny off my list at that point anyway. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:37 PM Flag
»
how late is late - like < 5 minutes or like 20 minutes? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 01:41 PM Flag
»
Broccoli pancake mom? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:07 PM Flag
»
lol, no, although I remember that post. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:08 PM Flag
»
IMHO it is worse to knowingly set someone up to have a dishonest or untrustworthy person care for their child. I don't understand feeling guilty about having fired someone who broke your trust. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:08 PM Flag
»
you don't need to badmouth. let them ask specific question and you answer them honestly. don't offer anything. and if they don't ask, then you won't tell. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:09 PM Flag
»
^^^and that's only if it's not a real safety issue. if she was negligent or harmful to dcs, i think you have to say so. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:09 PM Flag
»
what did she do that led you to this? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:16 PM Flag
»
see above. Nothing major and possibly things that another family would overlook. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:17 PM Flag
»
I cannot imagine any parent willing to "overlook" your child's caretaker being late to pick up your child, not watching your child closely at the playground, and lying to you. That is egregious. These are the things people are hoping to avoid when hiring a nanny. You should definitely warn any potential person who calls you for a reference. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 01:01 PM Flag
»
95% of nannies don't watch their charges closely in the playground. I was appalled the other day when I saw a group of nannies hanging out at the 77th and Amsterdam playground. They were talking, eating ice cream, and looking anywhere except at their charges. I had no idea which kids were with them. So, there are many parents out there who overlook or are at least oblivious to their nannies' lack of vigilance in the park. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 01:13 PM Flag
»
are you the original poster? If so, just because 95% of parents are not aware of such behavior does not make it tolerable. If you are not the original poster, I understand your observations completely -- it's a real shame. This is my biggest fear with hiring a nanny. Who knows what they are really like when you're not around. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 01:35 PM Flag
»
i think different parents expect different levels of vigilence and those who exepct high vigilence think the rest are nuts. I KNOW my nanny does not watch DS closely enough to make lots of other moms confortable, but I also know that she watches him closely enough to make ME comfortable. I take into consideration the park that they go to AND DS's maturity level which is far more than other kids his age. I'm pretty sure most moms don't think that I watch him closely enough either. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 01:41 PM Flag
»
there are a lot of creepy people out there in the world and a NYC public playground provides them with easy access to kids. At the park, vigilence should be at the highest level, for this reason alone. One would hope parents would instruct the nanny as to the risks of not paying attention at the public playground in NYC and that the nanny is competent enough to want to be protective. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 01:49 PM Flag
»
np: I think that people's fear of such risks is far greater than the actual risks. People feel that children are constantly prayed upon and abducted by creepy strangers but this simply isn't true. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 01:53 PM Flag
»
"constant preying upon" is not the issue. The presence of even a tiny risk is risk enough to warrant careful watching at the playground. I guess if nothing bad has ever happened to you, you tend to think it will never happen. Other peoples' experiences, however, can influence how you feel about this issue. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 02:03 PM Flag
»
be honest and let them decide. Just give the facts. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:23 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone else a patient of dr moritz? what type of sonogram machine does he have? is it 4D? seems very high tech and you can see everything so clearly 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
General Topics 07.21.08, 11:56 AM Flag
»
Not Dr. Moritz but another at the practice - yes, I think it is a 4D but not sure [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 11:57 AM Flag
[ - ] SAHM question...how much TV does your 3yo watch a day? does younger sib end up watching too? thanks...just trying to see if we are watching too much (guilty muddah) 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
Toddler 07.21.08, 11:56 AM Flag
»
varies, but I try to keep it to about six hours a week- so if we watch Cinderella one day, we won't watch anything the next to balance it out, that kind of thing. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 11:57 AM Flag
»
when school is in session, none. during the summer, it's about an hour a day, about four times a week. i let them all watch the same things. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 11:59 AM Flag
[ - ] We need boy names. Literally, cannot think of a name I like. Right now, Roan is only one DH will consider. I don;t like traditional names either, but do not want to go thru the "No not, Rowan, Roan" thing..... 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
Expecting 07.21.08, 11:56 AM Flag
»
how about Kale? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 11:57 AM Flag
»
i like the "casual" vibe, but prefer Cale to Kale. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 11:58 AM Flag
»
Or Spinach. Or Francois. Or Johan [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 11:59 AM Flag
»
mmmm, kale with bacon. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:05 PM Flag
»
they are pronounced differently, you know [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 11:58 AM Flag
»
Of course! I am assuming that everyone will "hear" ROWAN and we will be repronouncing ROAN. : ) [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:00 PM Flag
»
gotcha. I'd just say "Roan, like the color of the horse" [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:00 PM Flag
»
This would confuse me more. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:08 PM Flag
»
Ronan? Similar, but perhaps easier to spell? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 11:58 AM Flag
»
Comic book character. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:02 PM Flag
»
what type of names do you like? Ethnicity? Short and simple? etc. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:00 PM Flag
»
We are Irish, but live in NY. We both like some traditional Irish names, but the spellings would not work here. I then lean towards more "off the beaten track names," but DH does not. I like causal names for boys...River, Eli (but we can;t use with last name), Levi etc.. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:05 PM Flag
»
Ok... "casual" names: Tate, Jake, Jack, Danny(Daniel), Ellis or Elijah (could call him Eli), Dashiel (nn Dash, my cousins name which i LOVE), Ben [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:09 PM Flag
»
I hate to say this but it was not until I got to the last three words of your post that I realized I had made exactly that mistake. (But then again I read fast and... well, I'm not too bright.) [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:02 PM Flag
»
yep. I think with the Rowan trend it's going to happen to us a lot. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:06 PM Flag
»
Plus it is the name of the best bourbon I've had recently. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:10 PM Flag
[ - ] name poll: Cristina 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
General Topics 07.21.08, 11:55 AM Flag
»
nope. feel like you need to be 20-30+. Not a classic, just used. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 11:57 AM Flag
»
I like it [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 12:25 PM Flag
[ - ] Opinions on teaching the proper names for genitalia to children? At what age should this be done? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
General Topics 07.21.08, 11:53 AM Flag
»
My just-yo is almost there. I mean, he will call it whatever we tell him to, I just havent yet felt the need to use "proper" terms. We will probably teach him this year. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 11:55 AM Flag
»
so you will have your 1yo walking around saying "This is my penis"? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 11:56 AM Flag
»
oops. just-5 I meant to say. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 11:58 AM Flag
»
I see, that makes more sense. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 11:58 AM Flag
»
from the beginning. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 11:55 AM Flag
»
ditto [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 11:59 AM Flag
»
we did it while potty-training each dc, because it just came up naturally. So about 2 and 1/2. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 11:56 AM Flag
»
op - that's what I am thinking too, no need to really refer to them as anything before then, right? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 11:57 AM Flag
»
what ever makes you happy [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 11:57 AM Flag
[ - ] induction post makes me want to ask - isn't it s.o.p to get pitocin after the baby is delivered (regardless of whether you had it during labor)? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
General Topics 07.21.08, 11:53 AM Flag
»
yes because it makes your uterus contract much more quickly and prevents a lot of blood loss. it does not have any negative side effects at that point. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 07.21.08, 11:56 AM Flag
Refresh » New Post »
Select Category
close [X]

close [X]

Select a Category (only 1)

category
Stages
Regions