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[ - ] My great-grandfather was a wealthy philanthropist and set up a foundation that donates a significant amount of money to public and private causes. However, all his money went into this foundation, and none of his heirs (I was one of the only 4 greatgrandchildren alive when he died) received any money from him. Still, we share his name, but everyone assumes that I must be extremely wealthy because of this, though I am far from it. I wish people would MTOB! 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:36 PM Flag
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how does it affect your life, this assumption of wealth? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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I have had people approach me for donations numerous times, and while i try to be generous, I can only give so much - and if I give a small amount (all I can afford) they seriously get upset and offended by it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:39 PM Flag
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and do what to you? Yell at you? Then no more donations. I just don't see where this would be a huge problem in your life. Heck, say "I get so many requests for grants they all go thru this address. Rent a po box and toss em all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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That is a good idea. I have people who tell me to my face that they can't believe I'm so stingy with my money and my family must be ashamed of me. Yes, I know they have no manners, but it can be very embarassing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:42 PM Flag
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that would be their problem not yours. If it ever happens again, you say "I can wake up tomorrow and be generous, but I strongly suspect, no matter what, you will still be a jackass." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:44 PM Flag
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thanks, that is a great response (though i doubt I'd ever have the guts to use it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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I'm asked for money all the time and no one has ever acted so out of line. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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I guess I'm just "lucky" then... are you wealthy/presumed wealthy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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both :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:47 PM Flag
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lucky you then [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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Why don't you simply direct them to the foundation? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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Occasionally I have, but some things (like schools) are not what the foundation gives money to [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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Then say, "I'm sorry, the xx foundation does include giving to schools." I wish I could be or more help, but I can't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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^^ doesn't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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exactly - tell them how to contact foundation and if they say - no, I meant you personally - then say "Oh, that would be an entirely different ballgame. We've planned our giving for this year, but feel free to give me your information for a later date. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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that is a good response, thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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I think it's perfectly reasonable to say, that your financial circumstnaces do not allow for donations at that level. And if they comment about your family, it is fine to say "their financial circusmtances actually have no bearing on mine". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:55 PM Flag
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ITA, but it can be embarassing depending on the circumstances. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 02:00 PM Flag
[ - ] what week did you feel your baby move during your first pg? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:35 PM Flag
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23 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:37 PM Flag
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24 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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around 20 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 02:15 PM Flag
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24 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 02:29 PM Flag
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17 with the first. 20 with the second, but this one has an anterior placenta. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 02:32 PM Flag
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16 weeks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 05:00 AM Flag
[ - ] 6mo LOVES to snuggle w/receiving blankets. Looking for good small blankie he can have. any recommendations? saw gigi blanki online looks cute but looking for suggestions. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.21.08, 01:33 PM Flag
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we have the Kushie kritters I think they are called. A blanket with an animal head and arms--sounds weird but my ds loves it--he can carry it around by the arms, chew on the nose but it also has those satiny edges like a receiving blanket. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 03:24 PM Flag
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why not give him a receiving blanket? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 03:25 PM Flag
[ - ] Any suggestions for a first baby doll? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:33 PM Flag
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Both of my DCs like the Manhattan Toys Stella baby doll. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:58 PM Flag
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I like Groovy Girls [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 02:05 PM Flag
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Both girls got a Corelle doll as their first baby doll [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 02:07 PM Flag
[ - ] what is the difference b/w the maclaren techno and triumph? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:33 PM Flag
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curious, what purpose is the stroller? every day, lightweight? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:34 PM Flag
[ - ] hiring a person to wallpaper maser bath (nyc). how do I know if it's a good rate? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:29 PM Flag
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I would never put wallpaper in a bathroom sorry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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but the steam from the shower makes marks on the walls. I'm a big fan of wallpaper in bathrooms [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:31 PM Flag
[ - ] visited an old friend of mine who is in a completely different financial league. not really jealous. but almost embarrassed about my lack of wealth. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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Why do you care? I have many friends who have a lot more than I and they don't care that my three bedroom apartment could fit in their dinning room and neither do I. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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good for you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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don't be embarassed. just be happy with your life-- husband, kids, etc. your friend just needs a friend too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:33 PM Flag
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i think part of the issue is that we aren't really friends. more of acquaintances who ran into each other and so she invited me in. so there's no friendship there to cover up other issues. and thanks, i am happy with my life. just wouldn't mind having about five times the income we have :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:34 PM Flag
[ - ] Any thoughts on the parole board moving into the same building as St. Ann's? 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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who cares? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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seriously? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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yes seriously. What's the problem here? Do you think sexual predators will be lurking in the halls of ST A because of this? Do you realize sexual predators can figure out where a school is and lurk in the hood anyway? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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Of course, but having parolees sharing a building with a school does not seem like a *good* idea to me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:36 PM Flag
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because? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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That seems like a really bad idea. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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why? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:35 PM Flag
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Kids, parolees: not a good mix [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:36 PM Flag
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Do you think they get to attend class together? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:37 PM Flag
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You are being purposely naive. Sure parolees can come into contact with kids anyway, but why actually pull them together? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:40 PM Flag
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^^^and the issue is not just sexual predators. Drug dealers, robbers, violent criminals, con men. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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Are you serious? You believe that a criminal on parole is going to sell drugs in teh same building as the parole board? Hell, why not in front of a police station. Get real [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:43 PM Flag
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As an ex-criminal defense attorney, I would not be at all surprised if a parolee were to try to make contact with kids he sees on a regular basis or follow them home and yes, even in front of the parole board building. Impulse control is not one of their better things. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:46 PM Flag
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oh please, he can follow them home if the board is housed in the same building, in the building next door, in the building two doors down or three blocks away. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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or if the school is right out of the subway that is nearest to the parole board location. Give it up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:52 PM Flag
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nope. I still wouldn't like my kid to go to school in a building housed in the same building as a parole board, and I'm thinking neither would you, in reality. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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Then don't apply to St A's - problem solved. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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no problem [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:58 PM Flag
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You think wrong. I truly don't care. Nor do I care if a convicted sexual perv moves into my building. I protect my child from the harms as best I can. From the convicted felons/pervs AND the ones who have not been caught that also live in my building and happen to have business in the vincinity of my dcs school [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:58 PM Flag
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^^ vacinity [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:58 PM Flag
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I am not being naive. I am asking for a reason this is a bad idea. You don't seem to be able to give a single one. Think about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:42 PM Flag
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I did give one. Parolees are not allowed to go into bars; they are not allowed to gamble; they are not allowed to hang out with other parolees. There is a reason for this. It is expected that they will get into trouble, commit more crimes. You are putting predators next to children. How is that not a reason? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:44 PM Flag
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not a very good one, or it would be a rule that they are not allowed to enter into a building with a school for any purpose including reporting to their po [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:46 PM Flag
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Parolees have kids, so of course you couldn't do that. But inviting hundreds of parolees to visit a school building on a weekly or monthly basis is a different thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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OMG !!! Is this post true? or fake? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 02:06 PM Flag
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It is true. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 02:07 PM Flag
[ - ] My ds is gifted ... at getting into trouble. Anyone else have a dc who is like Dennis the Menace? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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MY ds leads his class in time outs! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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op: you must be so proud! ;) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:33 PM Flag
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I am! My family was thrilled! It was almost a tie between my ds and my brothers ds, but mine WON [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:35 PM Flag
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My family was very impressed when my ds poured two inches of water into the freezer to see how long it would take to freeze. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:37 PM Flag
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my 10 mo dd tries to maul the faces of our friends children. clearly she is young and this is normal, but i have to sit and play interference. poked a friends daughter in the eye last weekend. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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my dh caught my ds at the bathroom sink filling an old coffee container with water so he could make me soup. he is sooo sweet but so much trouble! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 05:38 PM Flag
[ - ] Help- 11 month old ds just learned to sit from lying by himself. When he is on the floor he can go from sitting to lying and vice versa. Now when I put him in his crib he sits or knells and then becomes hyserical cause he can't get himself down. Happens at bedtime and if he wakes during the night. He use to be a good sleeper. WWYD? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.21.08, 01:22 PM Flag
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anyone I am desperate! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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Unfortunately the answer is that until he learns to get himself down you will be getting woken up a lot. It shouldn't take him too long to work it out GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:38 PM Flag
[ - ] Coxsackie Virus: My 19 month old just got the coxsackie virus. How painful is this? How contagious is it? I know this sounds horrible but now I am scared of getting it - I am always kissing her and we shared water yesterday. Is it bad if an adult gets it. Without exaggeration between my baby and myself we get sicj atleast 1x per month. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 07.21.08, 01:22 PM Flag
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I had it not fun but worse for the baby then you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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THAN [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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I had it, too. It was definitely not fun. First the throat that made eating almost impossible and then the painful blisters on my feet that made walking hard. What the hell did evolution think when it came up with that virus? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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I've had it twice. It's awful. The first time, I had a fever and was achy, but the worst part was the blisters that filled my mouth. I couldn't eat! The second time, I only go the blisters. Hope you don't get it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:24 PM Flag
[ - ] My new neighbor is crazy... she just moved in and so far has emailed me 18 times to "report" on "issues" in our building... (I am unfortunately on the condo board and met her when she moved in and to be nice gave her my email). This morning she emailed me to tell me she thought the "plantings in front of our building look a little shabby so she'd like to go to the nursery and pick out some new plants, but will need help putting them in and she thinks I should help her". I want/need to reply that the bldg has a gardener - oh, and i WOH fulltime - but don't know how to do without being snarky 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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dear so-and-so, it seems like you have a lot of great ideas about ways we can improve the building. is it possible for you to put all your ideas together in one email and i can forward it to the people in the building who can address them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:24 PM Flag
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good idea... I really want to be nice, but she is already so much work! (I think she is bored) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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it's nice b/c it lets her know to condense emails and also gives her the impression that you can't do anything about it so maybe she'll stop emailing you. worth a shot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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np you are a better person than I am. I would suggest she run for the board. :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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:-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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op - lol, I am suggesting it next year, but I was just elected myself (and hating it already) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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You are me! I was wondering if all small condo bldgs are as crazy as ours seems to be. You have my sympathies, but no great ideas. We are taking the passive-aggressive approach, and ignoring or taking forever to answer the e-mails. I have found that people are much more demanding and nasty on e-mails, but are too chicken to talk to you in person about condo issues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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true, true. The only people i ever discuss things with in person are my immediate neighbor when we share the elevator in the morning. She is really nice about things though, her dh was on the board last year [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:29 PM Flag
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People like complaining, but not so hot on the doing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:37 PM Flag
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sorry, but what does this have to do with being gifted? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:39 PM Flag
[ - ] Poll: your most embarassing moment was... 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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walking w/my crush in college and completely biting it on some steps. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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I never do this, but I asked the check out lady at Target when she was due after she adored my ds. she said, "I am not pregnant, just fat" - ugh! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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on my honeymoon I fell down an entire case of marble stairs and landed in the hotel restaurant. I jumped up and said " [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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yesterday was at a flea market with dh and I was looking at something and walked into a pole, broke my sunglasses and got a big lump on my head... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:22 PM Flag
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my secret crush at the office sent me an e-mail about something routine, and I wrote three different drafts in response, trying to make it super-witty. I sent all three drafts by mistake. He never mentioned it. My face burns even thinking about it. I was aiming for witty, and sent lunacy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:26 PM Flag
[ - ] What does it mean when you're walking with a male friend and he bumps into you a lot? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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drunk? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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sensory issue [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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omg [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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I'm a female, but have always bumped into my friends when walking. I tilt slightly to the right. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:19 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone LOVE their gyn? I'm hoping for downtown or Park Slope area. TIA!! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.21.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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I would love to know this too... unfortunately the hospital options in Brooklyn aren't so good, so my gyn is currently in midtown (Roosevelt).... but I live in PS so not so convenient [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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gynecologist, i mean [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:16 PM Flag
[ - ] Name Poll for ds: Connell (relative from Ireland's first name) 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.21.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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love it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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Bram [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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what? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:39 PM Flag
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great! love it because there's a connection [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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yuck [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 02:30 PM Flag
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cool. i might steal it j/k [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 02:31 PM Flag
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