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07.21.08, 13:36 PM General Topics
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My great-grandfather was a wealthy philanthropist and set up a foundation that donates a significant amount of money to public and private causes. However, all his money went into this foundation, and none of his heirs (I was one of the only 4 greatgrandchildren alive when he died) received any money from him. Still, we share his name, but everyone assumes that I must be extremely wealthy because of this, though I am far from it. I wish people would MTOB! [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.21.08, 01:36 PM Flag
 

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how does it affect your life, this assumption of wealth? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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I have had people approach me for donations numerous times, and while i try to be generous, I can only give so much - and if I give a small amount (all I can afford) they seriously get upset and offended by it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:39 PM Flag
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and do what to you? Yell at you? Then no more donations. I just don't see where this would be a huge problem in your life. Heck, say "I get so many requests for grants they all go thru this address. Rent a po box and toss em all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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That is a good idea. I have people who tell me to my face that they can't believe I'm so stingy with my money and my family must be ashamed of me. Yes, I know they have no manners, but it can be very embarassing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:42 PM Flag
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that would be their problem not yours. If it ever happens again, you say "I can wake up tomorrow and be generous, but I strongly suspect, no matter what, you will still be a jackass." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:44 PM Flag
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thanks, that is a great response (though i doubt I'd ever have the guts to use it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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I'm asked for money all the time and no one has ever acted so out of line. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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I guess I'm just "lucky" then... are you wealthy/presumed wealthy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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both :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:47 PM Flag
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lucky you then [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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Why don't you simply direct them to the foundation? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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Occasionally I have, but some things (like schools) are not what the foundation gives money to [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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Then say, "I'm sorry, the xx foundation does include giving to schools." I wish I could be or more help, but I can't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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^^ doesn't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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exactly - tell them how to contact foundation and if they say - no, I meant you personally - then say "Oh, that would be an entirely different ballgame. We've planned our giving for this year, but feel free to give me your information for a later date. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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that is a good response, thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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I think it's perfectly reasonable to say, that your financial circumstnaces do not allow for donations at that level. And if they comment about your family, it is fine to say "their financial circusmtances actually have no bearing on mine". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:55 PM Flag
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ITA, but it can be embarassing depending on the circumstances. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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