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[ - ] Suggestions for an engagement gift for SIL? She is not from and does not live in the US so the wedding planning books I usually give as engagement gifts don't really apply. She does read English so any other book suggestions are welcome. Any anything is suggested - I really need to acknowledge her engagement in a postitive way (not everyone in the family thinks it's a good thing.) 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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no one has any ideas for engagement presents? do people not send engagement presents to relatives anymore? can i skip it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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I didn't get a single engagement gift. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:00 PM Flag
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OP: Really? I did. That was a while ago, though. Maybe I'll just send a card. I don't know why this is stressing me ou. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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send a NICE card with a great note about how happy for her you are. I was engaged 2 years ago, married last year, no engagement presents. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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I sent my sis a pineapple plant as her df proposed by putting the ring in a pineapple. Go figure! Otherwise I would just have sent a card. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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cute idea ! i love it ! did she get a good laugh ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 03:53 PM Flag
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i like the card idea. if not, a set of wine glasses might be nice. another nice welcome gift to the family might be some pictures of your dh as a kid (especially if the groom's mom is not happy about the engagement.). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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i like to send a nice bottle of champagne and/or quality champagne glasses. might be tough to send champagne out of the country, but you might be able to find a local source. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 03:50 PM Flag
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send her flowers via fleurop [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 03:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Any experiences w/ PB bedroom furniture? They have a bed that I love, but I've never ordered anything big from them. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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have several things, no problems with them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:48 PM Flag
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fine - but check the jcpenny website before you order from PB. they use the same furniture maker and i've bought some things that look identical for 1/2 the PB price. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:48 PM Flag
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wow - good tip. Checking now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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sadly, they don't have the one I want, but you are right - a lot of there stuff is very similar. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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ita - costco.com has a lot of stuff that looks identical too. they also don't charge extra shipping fees. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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Can you see the furniture anywhere before buying? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Would you ttc for #2 with the possibility of starting a new job in the next 6 mos? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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Yes but I would accept that it might screw mt chances of a new job. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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^my [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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I am already talking to a new company but I know that I want to ttc soon. I can't mess things up because I am the breadwinner. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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depends on how quickly you conceive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 03:45 PM Flag
[ - ] So furious: am positive that weekend guests had sex in DD's bed, where they were staying 32 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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Did you forget to tell them the house rules? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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oh well [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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If DD wasn't in the room, why is this a big issue? I'm assuming you changed the sheets. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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no kidding - whats the big deal. Is DDs bed for-virgins-only? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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np: i guess i'm a prude b/c i've never had sex as a guest in someone's house. they couldn't control themselves for two nights? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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are you serious? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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totally serious. dh and i have plenty of sex in our home. if we spend the weekend at friends' it simply doesn't occur to us. we can have sex monday night. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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How about on vacation? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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you must be joking? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:29 PM Flag
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It is the bed that a child sleeps in! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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so? My kids sometimes sleep in my bed and DH and I definitely have sex there! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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np: And what? you do wash the sheets right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:48 PM Flag
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I'm going to go to your kitchen and have sex on your cutting board. You do wash it, right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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does dd eat off of her sheets? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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What does it matter? You *wash* your cutting board, right? Oh, wait... it's the *idea* of it that grosses you out. Oh, hmmmm... very interesting [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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can't believe i'm askign this, but how do you know? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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OP: ugh, the noise [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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then i think you have a right to be annoyed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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ita - even if it wasn't dds bed I'd be annoyed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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yea, the noise would of annoyed me too- not right [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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ok, THAT is worth being annoyed about... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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totally annoying! Sorry, they are weirdos. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:48 PM Flag
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wouldn't even dawn on me (as a guest) that you'd have a problem with this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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me either, but I would certainly not be LOUD! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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yeah. i'd be embarrassed if they heard me. but i dont' see any problem with the action. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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I am shocked you have an issue with this. I guess you didn't want guests in the first place as a guest is someone who is welcome in your home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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A guest should know to be quiet when having sex in hosts dd bed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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Yes people should be considerate but that was not OPs bitch - she was horrified that the act took place in her daughters bed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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np: that is what makes sex in somebody else's house so hot. That "BE QUIET!" voice in your head winds up focusing all your energies... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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So long as it didn't involved water sports or anything, I wouldn't care. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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LOL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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eeew! that is so rude! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:30 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm 34 weks pg. When does the OB start internal exams? Also, are they done with a speculum? Thanks. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.21.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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Mine starts around 35 weeks, I think, if needed. I don't remember on the speculum... but I'll find out in a few weeks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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With me never. I was due one at about 36weeks but Dr didn't have time then baby arrived before next apt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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36 weeks for me, no speculum, you get a swab for the group b strep the first exam, then they just check your cervix by feeling it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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Thanks. I had to have a speculum exam a few weeks ago and it was outrageously painful so I'm paranoid that they use a speculum for the internals. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:00 PM Flag
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Mine started around 37 weeks. He did not use a speculum. I believe it's just to feel if you are dialating. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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Mine waits until 38 weeks if this is your first baby. I was 2 cm when she checked and baby came three days later. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:01 PM Flag
[ - ] so, my 4.5 month old has been reaching for my food. She is eating cereal but today I let her kind of suck on a banana and she was in heaven. Is this to early for solids? Ped said I could start them but just wanted an opinion. Also did anyone out there make thier own baby food? Did you just grind it up? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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Sounds like she is ready. I have made my own food before, basically just run it through a food mill or processor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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I waited until six months. Your db also is in heaven when sucking on her toes, doesn't mean you should feed toes to her :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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For making your own try the Beaba Babycook from Williams Sonoma [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone provide health insurance for their nanny? Are there any inexpensive alternatives? Our potential nanny is 26 and healthy, but insurance would cost $10k per year. That seems crazy. It's just subsidizing someone with poor health. At the same time, don't want to "self-insure" in case something bad happens. Suggestions? Ideas? TIA 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.21.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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look into freelancers insurance (she'd sign up for it but you could pay for it).... I know what you mean though - I am 25, healthy, luckily my boss pays my insurance but it is over $600/month [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:37 PM Flag
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I would love to do this. I really wish there were a way for employers who hire on the book to get there nannies into a group plan. Our nanny is in a NY plan for low income families (forget what it is called), but I wish we could help her get better care. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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They probably qualify for "Healthy NY" NYS plan. Not bad insurance, and relatively cheap. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:49 PM Flag
[ - ] Thinking about TTC #1... dh's dad has terminal cancer and though he is doing quite well atm, there is no way of knowing what will happen in the near-ish future. So far, since his diagnosis 8 months ago, he's been in the hospital half a dozen times with infections or minor procedures, in addition to his regular chemo weekly (which is outpatient of course). My question is, would it be very bad for me to get pg at this time? Anyone BTDT? Really difficult topic to discuss with the family, of course. 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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Your life goes on [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:36 PM Flag
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sorry? I don't understand your response [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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I think OR means that you shouldn't plan your life around others that much. Do what you think works out for you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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the thing is, this cancer is very life-consuming - dh and I live in the same place as his parents and any time there is a problen we are there. It is not easy, and I wish for so many reasons things were different, but it does pretty much take over our lives, especially when he is in the hospital. Just don't know how dealing with that while pg would be [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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so this is a situation only you know how to deal with. Nobody here will be able to really help you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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I was just wondering if anyone here had experienced caring for a very ill relative while being pg [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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haven't btdt, but don't see what the problem would be. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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I'm sorry your FIL isn't well - I lost my mom to cancer and it really just sucked. That said, I wouldn't let his schedule guide yours. If you are ready to start a family, don't put it off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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I guess I'm just worried about being pg and having to spend lots of time in the hospital with fil... whenever he is there we're there all the time, and I'm the one who usually ends up keeping everyone else going. I'm worried that if my pg is hard I won't be able to be the one who is "there" for everyone [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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Only you can answer this. And mostly I think it has to do with you> It will be nice for the family to have a happy occassion to celebrate. it will give FIL something to "live for" but it may taint your DH's and your happiness over having your first child and if you or your DH are very focusd on Fil's illness, it may take away your ability to focus on you new baby. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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thanks... those are pretty much my fears. DH very much wants to start trying, I think in part to give everyone something "happy", and also to help him cope with losing his dad. Personally I think it might not be a bad idea to wait a bit, but again, I don't want to be "waiting for him to die"... fwiw, I was born 3 days after my grandfather died and my mom became PG while he was very ill... I'm sure my birth was helpful for my mom and grandmom, but my family is very different from dh's [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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np. if you and dh are ready to start a family then do. Being pg will not stop you being around for FIL. A newborn would take more juggling but still possible unless you live a long way away. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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we live in the same place (NYC) and spend a lot of time with his family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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Go for it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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thanks. Think we might start ttc in Sept/Oct [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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I think it would be a gift, a bright light, a happy happening. A baby will only bring joy, especially to fil, even if he doesn't live to meet db [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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I agree, and you don't know timing wise how anything will play out. TTC and see what happens. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 02:03 PM Flag
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Thanks. I guess the stress of everything is making me MORE stressed about TTC.... we'll see what happens [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 02:06 PM Flag
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my mil is very ill and db has been a tremendous bright spot for everyone in the family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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thanks. how was it dealing with pg/birth/early days with her illness? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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my father got sick and died in the first few months of db's life. it was difficult to be tired/dealing with new parenthood at that time, but also so wonderful to have db to distract, talk about w/my mom, etc. You wouldn't believe how something like baby's first tooth can lighten your load when someone is dying. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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I'm sorry to hear about your father. Thank you for your advice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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My father was going in for cancer surgery and he tells me that findout otu that we were expecting (his first gc) made the whole experience so much better - something positive to think about, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 02:14 PM Flag
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I got pregnant with my ds when my father was in an advanced stage of cancer. He died one week after my child was born. It gave him something to feel good about, that life was continuing through me, his daughter. I didn't care for him, my mother did. We visited a lot and talked on the phone. I am sad that my father never knew my son, but I know it comforted him to know he would have a grandson [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 02:26 PM Flag
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^^ When I say I didn't care for him, I mean I didn't take him to the doctor or do the hard medical type stuff because I lived in another state. I did care for him emotionally. If my DH and I had had to take care of him ourselves, that would have been tougher. I was tired a lot through my pregnancy and I had to work up until the last two weeks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 02:28 PM Flag
[ - ] Gifted doesn't mean genius (as in Little Man Tate). It's just a category defined by those scholars in the field. http://www.educationaloptions.com/levels_giftedness.htm 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.21.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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Mine appears to be either level 3 or 4. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 02:39 PM Flag
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Ditto. #1 is a mix of level 3 and 4 while #2 is more like a 2 (but then she's only 18 months old). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 02:51 PM Flag
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I feel like dc is growing up too fast and don't teach anything on purpose. Call me crazy but I don't think being too advanced is a desirable thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 02:51 PM Flag
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I hear you. Especially the early reading thing can be a little much especially when you in the subway station and your kid reads all the bill boards and asks you what it all means. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 02:53 PM Flag
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Subway station signs are not so bad.. but you do have to babyproof all your books away bec the content is not appropriate. You have to be careful about letting dc do internet search on her own also. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 02:56 PM Flag
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>sometimes, strangers treat your dc as a freak or they say things to imply I drilled her or whatever. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 02:58 PM Flag
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That is true. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 03:00 PM Flag
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You must not have gotten asked what "erectile disfunction" means in a crowded subway car with 30 people listening to my explanation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 04:12 PM Flag
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LOL, no. Never saw that ad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:01 AM Flag
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Looks like my dc is a Level 4-5. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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hmmm, is there a Level 6? Mine is more than 5 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:25 AM Flag
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you wish [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:29 AM Flag
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this is a useful scale. My dc seems to be a 3 but a 4 in strongest area. GT is a level one with some level 2 kids and the occassional outlier 3. Anderson and Hunter are mostly level 2 kids, although there are under-served 3s and 4s in the schools. I've never met a level 5. Where do you moms with 3s and 4s send your kids to school where their needs get met at all? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:48 AM Flag
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np; level 4 kid (some 5 traits). Chose progressive private. There was a mom here with pg kid who likes the school also. I don't know about Anderson (olsat and no onsite) but Hunter- I think mostly level 2-3 kids and probably some 4 kids and possibly 5 (they are very rare, maybe one a year, if that)... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:10 AM Flag
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oooooooooooooohhhh, testy! What's the matter, can't stand other people's kids better than yours? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 03:04 PM Flag
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Hey, dumbass. There is no level 6. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 04:34 PM Flag
[ - ] Just starting with a fertility dr. I need to get the HSG test. It sounds scary. Can anyone tell me about it? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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TTC 07.21.08, 12:33 PM Flag
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yes, and it's not scary at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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I think it's a routine blood test. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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i had that and it was not bad at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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OP: Thanks. This is allnew to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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Not scary - take 2 motrin before and you'll be fine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:58 PM Flag
[ - ] Help! 5 mo old DD used to fall asleep at the breast for naps and for some reason no longer can. Instead she begins to fuss after feeding because she can't soothe herself to sleep and the rest of the day she's a big crank and I'm trying to get her down for a nap. She'll quiet down on my shoulder, but won't fall asleep on my shoulder. She just won't nap! Any suggestions? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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please dont read this as being preachy, becasue Ive been there. But this is why they tell you not to develop these sort of sleep crutches. Have you considered nap training? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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she'll fall asleep in the carseat if i'm driving and used to stay asleep upon getting home but not for very long anymore. i think her finally crashing works [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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i know i know! my dh made the same point to me earlier and i didn't realize that her ability to fall asleep on the breast would vanish! i just thought that it would be a problem when she got older and was weaning. are there nap trainers? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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or: how is her sleeping at night? You dont need to hire someone, but you may have to go the cio route. We had to, but it worked out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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can't complain there at all. she sleeps through, i think, because she's so exhausted [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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or: beware - eventually, this too can be disrupted if you cant get her naps on track. I agree with poster below - you dont HAVE to cio. read some books for suggestions. At the same time, Im just not the kind of mom who can just take naps on the floor with her baby. #1 dont want to #2 I work #3 ds would never sleep that way,either. you do what works for you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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sleep crutches? Every child will outgrow this. OP, this is the age when sleep gets really difficult for many babies. Some will tell you to let the child cry it out now and force them to learn how to self-soothe. I suggest to get the No Cry Sleep Solutions book and read about some ways to get your kid to sleep without tears. They are not going to work as fast as letting the child cry but they eventually help. All my kids were not able to self-sooth until they were around 18 months old. Until then we nursed (until weaned), rocked, sang, slept next to them on the floor, etc. Now they are much older and sleep like angels at night. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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Have you tried swaddling after she finishes? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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Dh and I are swaddling retards and gave up after a week when she was 1 month old. guess i could try again [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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definitely try again. And I highly recommend the "Happiest Baby on the Block" DVD, just for the swaddling demo. Get a big blanket - at least 42" sq [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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you could try the "miracle blanket" It looks like a gimmick but it actually made swaddling easier. Don't fret too much if you can help it--what works to get them to sleep one week can be entirely different the next. Just keep trying different things until you find what works, then be ready to change! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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Did you try to walk her outside in a stroller? My first child was a stroller napper and the first 2 years of her life that was the only way to make her nap. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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I have in the early morning and she'll fall asleep towards the end of the walk and it seems to work. But it's too hot out right now to do that in the afternoon with the kind of stroller that i have (believe me, i wish i could walk her outside and just get out of the house). I've noticed that when I transfer her from the carseat to the crib or the stroller to the crib when she's asleep, she'll wake up after 40 min. I found a website that says that babies wake up intermittently after each sleep cycle (20-40 min) and if they see they are in a new place when they wake up they might cry out instead of soothing themselves back to sleep. That is also a problem - once I do get her to sleep she doesn't stay asleep long enough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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yes. Every human being wakes up multiple times during the night. Babies don't have the experience and the maturity to know that they are not alone and therefore start crying. That said, the weather should not stop you from taking the child out. Get a good sun shield (like a Protect-a-Bub or that Hippo thing), load up with bottles of water, and walk around the block. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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Thanks for all the suggestions! Wouldn't you know it? DD finally fell asleep after three hours. Not due to any soothing method I was trying, but finally from sheer exhaustion and hunger - on the breast . . . I guess I'll try again tomorrow. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 02:41 PM Flag
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Try a pacifier. My bf baby wanted it over the breast for falling asleep (that "crutch" business is nonsense, btw. These are all just phases, and will change, as you found out!) Do whatever works for her (ie, not CIO, which will damage your relationship w/ db, IMO) and gl! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 08:00 PM Flag
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Yay! DD fell asleep on her own in the buggy with gentle rocking after fussing on me and fussing in the crib (no fussing in the buggy, just head turning and little moans for ~5 min). I'll focus on the buggy for naps now and try to transition her to the crib a little later. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:52 AM Flag
[ - ] What do we think of the name Bain? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.21.08, 12:26 PM Flag
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I prefer McKinsey [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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not much [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:28 PM Flag
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of my existence? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:29 PM Flag
[ - ] What did you get for your 21st Birthday??? Will you give anything special?? Need a gift idea for DD. Thanks 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:26 PM Flag
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My mom had a pair of diamond earrings made out of diamonds from my grandmother's wedding ring. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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I posted below you - too funny the coincidence! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:28 PM Flag
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I received diamond stud earrings from my grandmother - one of them was my great-grandmother's engagement diamond and she got another to match, and had them set of course. I always wore my g-g's in my right ear until I got engaged, then switched it to my left [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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I *wish* I had gotten diamond studs like above posters! That would be an extremely nice gift if you can swing it, OP. I actually don't remember what my parents gave me...I'm sure it was nice, gifts just aren't really big in my fam. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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^^ or from above - any piece of nice family jewelry is a lovely 21st bday gift for a girl, imo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:36 PM Flag
[ - ] did anyone see last week's post about what you'd think if your dd wanted to be a sahm? any thoughts on the topic or the responses? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:26 PM Flag
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There were some people with STRONG feelings. I agreed with the ones who said to relax and not worry too much about what kids say at a young age. I wonder what those who would be mortified would say if it were another occupation that is not well paid or univerally respected. As the mother of 2 ds and (hopefully) a future grandmother, I hope the young girls of their generation feel free to stay home if it is right for them and their family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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I think that being a SAHM is a valid choice to be made inside of marriage (or a relationship) but that it is not a career choice. Marriage is not inevitable and marriage at a young enough age where one never needs to work beforehand, is even less inevitable. Financial circumstances allowing for a single income and a partner willing to earn that single income are not things that will just happen for any woman who wants to be a SAHM. I'm of the belief that women should plan on a career and plan on working. I also think that if sah is a goal, then women should take some responsibility for the financial aspects of it - like saving more money in anticipation, etc. Then, if circumstances allow for it and the woman and her partner are in agreement, then that's great. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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^^^ in agreement, then that's terrific. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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I would be proud of her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:39 PM Flag
[ - ] 39 weeks pg>>went in today and dr. said "finger tip dialated and soft." Other midwife (last week) said 1cm dialated and 50-60% effaced....what does this mean? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:25 PM Flag
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i spoke to a midwife who said she is convinced that the cervix dilates and then goes back. she said she has had too many occasions when she herself measured a dilated cervix and then later on it wasn't dilated. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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In terms of when you'll have your baby - nothing! Good luck :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:28 PM Flag
[ - ] DS is 17 months, many of my friends are planning to start the pre-school process this fall, and sending thie DC to preschool fall 09 when they are 2.5 years old. 2.5 seems young to me. Do most parents send thier DC to school this early? If I wait will this put my child at a disadvantage - advice please... 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.21.08, 12:25 PM Flag
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Many send them that young. I waited until 3 with both of my dc and I wouldn't change it. It was the right time for them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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mine started at 2.8 months. He loved it from the start. And most of the other kids in his class also seemed to enjoy it from the start. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:27 PM Flag
[ - ] thought i had my 12 week old all figured out but I guess I don't - she is waking up early from naps, is tired every 40 minutes or so after waking and has a hard time getting to sleep if she does not get to a nap right away, etc. anyone have a good routine with that age they'd care to share? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:25 PM Flag
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Have a look on the Babywhisperer website. You will find lots of examples of routines for a 3mo and you will see that they are all quite similar. Go to the boards section. Select E.A.S.Y and then FAQ. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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