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Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

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[ - ] can someone recommend a carseat ? db is outgrowing graco snugride. we have a small car too. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:48 PM Flag
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we love our britax roudabout and the marathon. we bought roundabout when we were in the city b/c we wanted somethng smaller, however, in retrospect we probably should have went straight to the marathon since we ended up needing in anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 09:55 PM Flag
[ - ] help! my 2 yo ds just woke up in his crib and cried for me. went in, he told me he was hot in his crib and them he puked. 15 mins later he's passed out on me and feels clammy to the touch. He's passed out in his crib. should I be worried? What could it be? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:37 PM Flag
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why don't you take his temp ? give tylenol if fever... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:42 PM Flag
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he's passed out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:42 PM Flag
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you still can take his temp, under the arm. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:46 PM Flag
[ - ] Would you buy a house in the burbs that did not have air conditioning? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.22.08, 08:36 PM Flag
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sure. I am guessing this is an older home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:40 PM Flag
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not sure, i guess if i really loved the house. we had a house once that only had a/c upstairs for bedrooms. no a/c on middle level with dining/living/kitchen and i honestly didn't mind. we just used ceiling fans to cool it down. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 09:56 PM Flag
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sure. it isn't that exp or hard to install central air [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 04:34 AM Flag
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could be difficult to install the ca - consult a professional. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:33 AM Flag
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Absolutely no way. Would cost a fortune to install. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:18 AM Flag
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I did HVAC earlier in my life. It is not that hard to do if somebody else is doing the work but retrofitting CA to a home WITHOUT tearing up a lot of walls or creating soffetts(sp?) all over the place can be really hard. It depends on the floor plan of the home in question. That said, there are new technologies which make it much easier to put a/c throughout a house without actually putting in central air. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:23 AM Flag
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^^^Reread above. It also can be pretty easy depnding on the home... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:24 AM Flag
[ - ] Okay, so here's a sleep question. DB is 7 m.o. and sleeps about 9 hours a night 7-4, then nurses and goes back down for another 2-3 hours. He seldom goes into his crib awake, though, sometimes drowsy and we pat his back until he's asleep and sometimes he nurses to sleep. Should we A) be happy with what we've got and stick with what we're doing or B) keep work on trying to get him to go into the crib wide awake b/c it's all going to go to hell in a handbasket soon? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:26 PM Flag
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my 13 month old is still nursed or rocked to sleep. i sort of think at 7 mo it wont' be easily resolved anyway so you can either try to fix it now if you must, or if it isn't bothering you, just keep doing it until it starts bothering you. fwiw, my dd (#1) was the same and one night she just didn't fall asleep when nursing at around 6 months and when i just put her in the crib to see what would happen, she was totally fine. now with db#2 this is not the case. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 10:00 PM Flag
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Sounds fine. You can always change what you're doing if it becomes a problem for you later on down the line, but don't anticipate problems that may / will probably never arise. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:30 AM Flag
[ - ] how do i find out about the people who come and stay overnight to fix sleep issues? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:20 PM Flag
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google? pediatrician? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:21 PM Flag
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bootie call ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:50 PM Flag
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search UB archives -- there was an ad for them the other day [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 09:34 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you think NYC has, overall, the smartest population of any city in the US? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:15 PM Flag
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no, i would think boston b/c of all the colleges there, and smaller city [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:49 PM Flag
[ - ] i asked about the ethnicity of nannies because i am having problems with my jamaican nanny and i think a lot of it may be cultural so i am wondering what nannys from other ethnicities are like. i know this is a general question and i am a very open-minded person, but any thoughts are appreciated. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:13 PM Flag
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I think with any childcare-giver, although they may heed your wishes, a huge frame of reference for how they deal with children is how they were raised. If they are older, from a different culture, etc., they may have very different experiences and norms for how children should behave, what they should be doing at certain ages, ideas about feeding and breastfeeding, etc., etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:17 PM Flag
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I think it has to do with your nanny and not the fact that she is jamaican. Different americans hold different values. So do different jamaicans. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:19 PM Flag
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This is true, there is definitely personal component, but there is also a cultural one. The stereotypes have come about for a reason. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 07:20 AM Flag
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I know this will sound terrible, but I hired a Jamaican nanny after my long-time nanny left to stay home with her baby. It was a disaster and I fired her after 2 months. Loved my old nanny, love my current nanny, but the jamaican nanny was horrible. After I fired her about 20 people told me that I never should have hired a jamaican nanny (including my old nanny's carribean friends, my housekeeper whose dd is married to a jamaican man, and many friends who had fired jamaican nannies). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 07:11 AM Flag
[ - ] anyone do the dana obleman sleep sense program? Is it any different than the traditional Ferber CIO. Her marketing is good, but if it's just a rehash of Ferber or Weissbluth, then I'll save my $$. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.22.08, 08:10 PM Flag
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There is money in making a kid sleep better at night? Wow. Maybe I should "invent" a slep program for babies, too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:24 AM Flag
[ - ] 37 weeks with first pregnancy. 1 cm dilated and 70% effaced. Any ideas when this might happen? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:59 PM Flag
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I was 1cm dilated forever (months)-not sure about the effaced part [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:00 PM Flag
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this was me...I delivered at 40 weeks + 3 days... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:02 PM Flag
[ - ] What were the old-fashioned/classic toys that Penny Whistle Toys carried? Tia! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.22.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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I actually don't remember them having any old-fashioned/classic toys [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:00 PM Flag
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Did they carry Lincoln Logs? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:01 PM Flag
[ - ] Financial moms-inherited a small amount of money $20k, wanted to put some "away" for myself. (Have used the rest to start college account for dc). Any suggestions? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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cheers, good choice to save for yourself and for dc. GL finding someone who can advise you. I wish I could, but I look forward to reading the replies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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Your bank advisor can probably help but if it's that amount I would think an index mutual fund would be a good bet for the longterm. But not the short term.... the stock market is not great right now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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I'm thinking long-term, thanks I'll look into that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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I assume you have no debts? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:08 PM Flag
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student loans, mortgage [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 06:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Tried to post this before and post got lost (sorry if this turns out to be a double post). 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.22.08, 07:45 PM Flag
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having computer glitches here... wwyd if your child had an English teacher who assigned lots of vocab and tested on it, and fairly often had totally incorrect defs for words? I mean maybe 4 percent of the time, but that is enough. Some of the defs she gives are FAR off. Some are even the opposite of the real def. Then the students have to match the words with HER given defs on the tests for credit. Private NYC btw, middle school, 7th 8th grade English teacher. Should I tell the administration of the school? The kids with good vocabs know it is happening and are afraid to say anything to the teacher. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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It's under general topics. Everyone says to talk to administration [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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thanks for helping me find it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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you're welcome [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:52 PM Flag
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Well, it's certainly worth posting twice [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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That's just horrible. Did you bring it up with the teacher last year? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:00 PM Flag
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it has been brought up directly by me (to the teacher) and I understand by others too, and her behavior does not change. She seems to have an unusually poor vocab (for an English teacher) and it would not be a prob if she realized it and took steps to check before teaching vocab to her students. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:10 PM Flag
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Then, yes, I would speak to the administration about her. Take the tests with you, or the worksheets. Isn't 7th, 8th grade getting too old for vocab tests? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:17 PM Flag
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I'm surprised the teacher is writing her own vocab tests. My dc's school uses Wordly Wise. I would talk to the head of the English department first, division head second. I would do this in person, bringing examples. All the other personal stuff you mention on other board is irrelevant. Keep it impersonal and professional. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:25 PM Flag
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this post sounds fake in so many ways. I just do not find it believable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 02:27 AM Flag
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OP here, I only wish it were fake. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 07:10 PM Flag
[ - ] Would you say anything to the administration if your dc's English teacher (middle school, NYC private) fairly often gave incorrect word definitions for students in her class to learn (for tests later). Some of the defs are moderately off, but for some she gives an almost opposite definition. Imagine, for example if your 7th or 8th grader came home with a def of "calm" (written out by the teacher) as a supposed def of "brusque." Seems like maybe 4% of her words have wrong defs and she assigns lots of vocab for the kids to learn, then gives exams which are multiple choice, match the word to (teacher's) definition. Kids need to answer wrong to get the credit, and those who know it is wrong are afraid to say anything. This is a 3rd/4th tier (according to UB) but they have plans to improve, are building the school in various ways. 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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Yes, I would say something [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:43 PM Flag
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absolutely - teacher competency is something you should expect at any private school! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:44 PM Flag
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ANY school, public or private [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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point taken! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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I would definitely say something, first to the teacher and if that doesn't work, talk to her supervisor. Is she a good teacher otherwise or are there other issues as well? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:45 PM Flag
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I think it is an issue that the kids are not comfortable telling her the definition seems wrong. There are other issues too. She prides herself on being strict and "no nonsense" but she is really more rigid than anything else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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why wouldn't you? no brainer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:45 PM Flag
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Curious why you wouldn't say anything? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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I am wondering how to approach it. The situation is delicate and she seems to be influential in the school, and quite the "politician." To be honest the school seems to operate that way, with relationships among staff taking precedence over issues of quality and competence. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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Is this a well known school?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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you know the name [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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if you are in nyc that is [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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bizarro. Definitely bring examples to the head of the school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:59 PM Flag
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Do you have written examples of her giving the wrong definitions? If so, I would collect them and pass them on to administration with a note, perhaps saying something nice about the teacher as well but saying you are disturbed by the incorrect definitions and wonder what you should do [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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it is on the final, two such words [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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Assuming since the school year is over and your child is no longer her student, could you email her? Okay, maybe a tad passive, but at least you could help out next year's class. Nothing you can do about her discipline policy, but teaching incorrect info is worth mentioning. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:01 PM Flag
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I did email her, pointed out one of the words. She said she would tell the students the correct def and then did not. I have heard reports of this from others, that the head of the division was told. Nothing has been done. The head of the division thinks people are "picking on" this teacher bc there have been an above avg number of complaints. Have heard the division head has some personal stuff going on in her life, and looks like the two hang out, and the relationship has crossed a boundary where the div head is no longer supervising this teacher. Of course this is all hearsay but I know from direct exp about the word defs, and I heard about it from another parent last yr. I am thinking of going to the head of the school. I think he likes this teacher as well though bc she comes from a prestigious school and looks good "on paper" which seems to be a high priority at the school these days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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he likes this English teacher too. She has impressive credentials. reply got cut off sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:07 PM Flag
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funny how the credentials seem more important than the everyday teaching within her class [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:08 PM Flag
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Well, it seems like you are doing what you can. Just make sure your kid knows the correct defs. You know, kids learn from having bad teachers, just like adults learn how to handle bad bosses. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:10 PM Flag
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OP here, ITTTA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:16 PM Flag
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E-mail is not the best way to accomplish things--it's too informal to be effective. At least write a letter--it's better to see administration in person at this point, I think. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:30 AM Flag
[ - ] 11wk newborn will not nap anymore. pretty much all day! unless I am in the car, he won't nap. At home, I cannot get him to nap, in crib or swing. Sometimes if I rock the carseat he sleeps for a bit 20 min and then stirs again. We have a 2.5yo so that doesn't help with him screaming around the house. How does everyone do this? I am about to lose my mind. Please tell me I can change his napping habits in the future, I am freaking out. Poor baby! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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Going through similar situation with 5 mo old right now, I feel your frustration! It's progressively gotten worse the past two weeks, although I have been able to get her to take a few naps, but most are only 30 min long. Does DB cry as soon as you lay him down for a nap? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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sometimes, but sometimes he lays awake and then eventually cries a bit. not a huge crier, just not a sleeper! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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Yes, my DD either fusses and crescendos to a scream or immediately starts crying when laid down. I'm trying to figure out how to get her to soothe herself to sleep since she used to fall asleep after feeding but all of a sudden she no longer does, not sure why? I was able to get her to sleep in her buggy today since she likes laying quietly in there for walks - had to move it back and forth for a while and another time I hung a little mobile above her. Also got her to sleep in her crib for 30 min by constantly pulling the string of one of those musical crib toys (for ~15 min) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:01 PM Flag
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^^ Check out this website http://www.babycareadvice.com It has some really good info about infant sleep cycles. We actually had our DD on pepcid for a while because we thought she had reflux, now I'm pretty sure it was just overtiredness. I noticed today that if DD gets cranky and I calmed her down and tried putting her down right away she never fell asleep. I had to do a little 5-10 min activity and get her laughing a little or interested in a toy. Then when she looked a little tired I put her down and that worked better, but not all the time. I think it helps to distract them a little so that they haven't been recently fussy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:09 PM Flag
[ - ] good public school districts in Queens and thier corresponding neighborhoods. starting to house hunt to make the move out of Manhattan 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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Douglaston is reputed to have some of the best schools in the city. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:28 PM Flag
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Floral Park has good schools (there is Floral Park in Queens and Nassau) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:42 PM Flag
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District 26 (largely Bayside) is the best in the city as a whole. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:49 PM Flag
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Doesn't Forest Hills have one of the best school district? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 09:19 PM Flag
[ - ] moms w/ db's in daycare -question about morning routine-how do you get db out of the house? Do you take them there while they are asleep; do you take them there just in time for a feeding or do the feeding at home? I go back to work in less than 2 weeks and am overwhelmed just thinking about how we're going to get out of the house and into the city every day. tia. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 07.22.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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Mine wasn't in dc until age one. However, now have a 2 yo-and it is a hassle. It must be pretty easy to pack up the baby & go [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:52 PM Flag
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We have a 6mo and kind of let her schedule dictate our behavior. Some mornings she's up early, I bf her, dress her, play with her and then get going. When she sleeps late, dh gives her a bottle, changes her and he takes her to daycare. When she sleeps really late, dh just transfers her into her bucket car seat in her pjs and gives the lady at daycare her day clothes and bottle. One tip is to do as much as you can (lay out clothes, have bottle ready, etc.) the night before. Although it'll be crazy at first, it will become second nature. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:08 PM Flag
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op: that sounds exactly how I am imagining it's going to be. thank you for sharing your routine. I have been advised to get everything together the night before - makes perfect sense! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 04:50 AM Flag
[ - ] why is 11 week old dd not interested in eating her entire bottle? She was going at a good clip up until her shots last week and now she won't eat the full 4 oz at every feeding. driving me nuts. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 07.22.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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kids will eat when they are hungry, never force. If they get sleepy while feeding, tickle their noses, it gently nudges them awake [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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op: thanks. I do that, and I tickle her feet. Sometimes getting her onto the changing table works, but she's just not interested in some of her bottles. we try to feed her as much as possible during the day in hopes she'll sleep more at night but it's not working since she's not eating the max we offer during the day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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Its tiring being a parent sometimes:) Hang in there. My mom said : Kids don;t starve when they are offered food. Some just choose not to eat on your schedule. I was a nut for about 12 weeks, then I startd to calm down. Remember at 6 months, put them in their own crib OUTSIDE of your room. It will kill you but your marriage will thank me. You will check on them but you start to chill with each month [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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DD was in her own crib in her own room at 2.5 mos. Best thing we ever did. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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op: we did get her in the crib a couple of weeks ago, so we feel pretty good about that. she had been in her swing, and had started going 8-9 hours at night. so I guess it's one step forward, a few steps back ;-). thanks for the advice and encouragement. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 04:49 AM Flag
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