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Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

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[ - ] UES family looking for Spanish speaking f/t nanny 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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someone posted here earlier this AM Do a search. Trying to place a fantastic bilingual nanny [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:11 AM Flag
[ - ] have 3 month old that is veery attached to me-she doesnt even like her father-the stroller or the bouncy-what do I do? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:02 AM Flag
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hold her? ...do you use a carrier? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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I have a sling and she will go on that-but I am overwhelmed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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she'll adjust. right now you're her primary caregiver and food supply. for this stage, best to get some kind of sling or baby carrier to make it easier for you to get things done (hands-free). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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mine was the same way and largely still is (at age 3). its very difficult - physically and emotionally - but its nice to be the favorite, too. hang in there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:10 AM Flag
[ - ] anyone know of a place that will do a private cooking class for a group of 10 women? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:01 AM Flag
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fairway used to do classes upstairs; the institute of culinary education (formerly Peter Kump); [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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http://gonyc.about.com/od/cookingclasses/New_York_Cooking_Classes_and_Wine_Seminars.htm [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:17 AM Flag
[ - ] whats the difference between a postnatal dula and a baby nurse? do they cost the same amount? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.23.08, 07:59 AM Flag
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Not so sure about price, but a doula is supposed to be there to care for the mother and baby and baby nurse is strictly for baby duties (no pun intended!) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:03 AM Flag
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np: good definition. doula for mom, baby nurse for baby. Also, I think baby nurses often stay all night and are more expensive because they have some kind of nursing degree. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:47 AM Flag
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Just to clarify, baby nurses do not actually have a nursing degree. They usually have training in infant CPR, and have attended a short training course in infant and child health. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:44 PM Flag
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doula will do for you whatever you need: cook a meal, do laundry, in addition to baby-related needs. Mine was very helpful/encouraging with breast-feeding too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 09:01 AM Flag
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Doula performs the functions that family women and community members used to. Supports you however you need/want. Is sometimes knowledgeable about lactation. Baby nurse takes away your baby and tells you what to do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 09:24 PM Flag
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"Baby nurse" seems to be a Jewish-American tradition, particularly in the Northeast. Doula is more a crunchy granola tradition. Roles tend to overlap, depending on person. (To previous ORs- baby nurses will cook, etc.) Main difference seems to be Baby Nurse is there to care for baby, Doula for mommy. But major overlap nonetheless [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 09:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone here ever realize that they never got over an ex-boyfriend and the regret is so big that it makes your heart still hurt? If so, what did you do to resolve those feelings? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.23.08, 07:58 AM Flag
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One is to realize you're romanticizing what was, likely because of probs with dh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:09 AM Flag
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ITA. focus on what is wrong now [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:12 AM Flag
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ita [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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Only thing that worked for me was to focus on what was wrong with the relationship, why he was an ex (in my case, he broke my heart) and to try to realize that there's no there there, really. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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i had that for a long time. I healed eventually, many years later. In retrospect, should have tried therapy. Probably, the problem is with your tendency to dwell on it (there are some unresolved issues from childhood, prior relationships... etc). What is done is done, cannot change the past. The issues now is avoid taking this baggage into your present and future. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:16 AM Flag
[ - ] Is summer almost over yet???? It is so damn hot. My 2 dc would stay at the playground for 8 hours if I let them. Feel guilty for wanting to "make" them go to the zoo or a museum since they love the playground do much. Camp is over and trying to find another one with openings in August for 2 weeks or so. Looking forward to Sept for school to start and to be able to get back on a routine. Anyone else? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.23.08, 07:56 AM Flag
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yes, everyday [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:00 AM Flag
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yup. hate, hate, hate the heat. would take 20 degrees and a blizzard over 90 and humid any day. and my younger dd (6mos) is the same way - i feel bad dragging her to the playground with the older one when it makes her so miserable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:01 AM Flag
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I am dreading Sept. Yes, it has been hot, but the no pressured routine of Summer is great. I prefer the heat to the cold. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:06 AM Flag
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op: ITA about the heat to cold, but I guess i am just ready for a routine besides- wake up, eat, go to playground, come home eat, bath, bed- 5 days a week! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:25 AM Flag
[ - ] Need work advice. Been slow at work for awhile. Part of problem is my boss is kind of lazy and takes off lots of time, deflects work onto other groups, so I'm not busy because he's not. I'm totally underutilized and want to do more. Have spoken to my boss about wanting to do more, but he doesn't come through. Should I approach boss's boss about additional work/special projects? Don't want to offend boss, but this is killing me and my career. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 07:47 AM Flag
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Network more around the office. Comment to whomever you can that you have capacity and would be happy to assist with projects. Volunteer whenever you get a chance. I wouldn't go to boss's boss b/c they may really tick off your boss. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 07:49 AM Flag
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Great idea. Have done some of this. Problem seems to be my boss is not respected and folks who have more work don't want to deal with him in trying to use me. He's kind of hard to work with. Maybe I'll approach him about their projects and pray he doesn't get sullen and jealous?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 07:53 AM Flag
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I would keep your boss in the loop before you solicit work around him. Suggest you identify 2 or 3 "remedies" or approaches to address your underutilization issue and present them to him. You need buy-in. good luck... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:21 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone here use an Au Pair? what are the best agencies and what are your experiences? Has anyone used Cultural Care? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.23.08, 07:36 AM Flag
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We just started with our au pair through CC. Seems to be going pretty well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 07:50 AM Flag
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We were checking out Cultural Care too. I saw a few disturbing stories about them on a new information site on au pair agencies (reviews of agencies, reports stories, au pair tips, etc.) at www.aupairclearinghouse.com. The VP of CC was interviewed there and gave a rebuttal to the story of sexual assault on one of their au pairs by a host father! Apparently a news reporter wrote about a cover up by the agency around this family and you can read the rebuttal here. Pretty good information site - book mark it if you have an au pair or you are thinking about hiring an au pair. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.11.09, 07:09 AM Flag
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We are looking to get an au pair through cc too. Check out the rebuttal VP of CC gives to an alleged cover-up by agency in a sexual assault case (host father rapes au pair) on the site www.aupairclearinghouse.com. I bookmarked this site - reviews and reports on the au pair agencies, au pair tips, etc. Great resource for all of us parents hiring an au pair! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.11.09, 07:13 AM Flag
[ - ] What is Dalton looking for in the "why Dalton" essay? We won't yet have toured when we have to write it, so I will just be going off of what I have heard and the written materials. 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.23.08, 07:36 AM Flag
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What is what we did. Open House and spring tours all booked and couldn't go. I didn't know anyone who sent dc to Dalton, either. All I knew was that it was the most racially diverse TT and the only progressive TT and that's all I had to know. Also read it had a great arts/theater/creative programs. In the end, they want to know if your family really buys into their Dalton plan/progressive education and if your values mesh (strong emphasis on diversity, justice, etc.). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 07:46 AM Flag
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Don't be safe and boring. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 07:47 AM Flag
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That's the position we were in. But - it was the only school we interviewed at where the essay seemed to matter. Babby (DOA) had highlighted essay and referred to it in the interview. So, I would say spend extra time on that one and highlight why your child would benefit from a progressive education and the Dalton Plan (if you can figure out what it is). IMO it helps to have DC's ERBs submitted before child and parent interview. Although there was no rush to actually get the application in as interview spots were not limited. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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Same. Babby highlighted various parts of the essay and commented on them/asked for more info. Other schools - don't even seem to read anything you write, esp'ly SS schools (very little space for essay). Maybe bec it's a prog school, they really want to recruit kids who will be a good fit (self motivated, smart, curious) and parents who are supportive of prog ed'n. Try not to sound snobbish. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 07:53 AM Flag
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I agree. Like most schools - they are interested in knowing what things interest your DC and not what things DC can do (read, write, simple math, chess). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 07:56 AM Flag
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Though if dc can read, write, etc., you could mention in under special abilities section; but if you do, they will verify during playdate or something. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:01 AM Flag
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>of course, these things can be taught and drilled, so may not reflect intelligence of the child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:02 AM Flag
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It's a matter of personal preference I guess. We justed listed DC's interests in "special interests or abilities" section and none were exceptional (art, music, cooking). But we talked about those in our essay and interview. Dalton does its own "testing" at the 1 hr. child interview like many schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:06 AM Flag
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Do you know what they test for? I think problem solving ability and social interaction are observed but not sure what else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:09 AM Flag
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DC mentioned battery of "exercises" they asked him to perform - although none involved reading. Most sounded performance related (like coding section of ERB). Then again, this was from the mouth of babes (not Babs) so who knows. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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Dc mentioned drawing, playing with some jewel looking puzzle toy (no idea what that is), helping a friend w/ a broken toy (dc offered his toy to the other kid and tried to mend the broken toy himself)... other than that, no clue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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At some schools they move around to a bunch of diff activities and watch how the kids deal with frequent transitions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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They all do [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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Interviewers def. ask the kids about things you mention they like. If you say DC loves science or music they will ask DC what specifically they like to do or which instruments they like to play (ice breaker). Better to list off-beat true interest than list something you think sounds impressive (studying mandarin/knows how to say hello in seven languages). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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The person who interviewed us didn't even have our essay with her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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Not Babby, then. Basement interview? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:20 AM Flag
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Honestly, I don't know. I thought we did a good job of ours. Curious, smart (99x3), self-motivated, independent dc. Dalton wasn't fc, but I thought we'd at least get a wl. Basement interview with Vivian (who said our essay was great) and ding. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:00 AM Flag
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What did you write? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:03 AM Flag
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I have to think it was your essay, then... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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Ditto, except we got WLd. Although I write for a living, I think my essays must not have been very good - DC got into several TTs but only ones that didn't ask for essays. WLd at all the essay schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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They are not looking for good writing. They are looking for content that shows your family/dc is a good match for Dalton. I'm not a good writer and got complimented on it plus an accept. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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We definitely weren't a match for Dalton - that was clear to us (and presumably to them). I tried to walk the walk and talk the talk in the essay, but it was complete crap - I thought (and still think) the Dalton Plan is hokum, which they presumably could tell. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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They've been doing it for a while now, so I think they can tell who's serious or who's a good match and who's not. Not a reflection on your writing, I'm sure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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Just be yourself. Okay to be eccentric. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:14 AM Flag
[ - ] i am ttc and have an outpatient mole removal surgery scheduled for one week after ovulation/ possible conception. if i happened to get pregnant, would it be okay to get anesthesia at this stage? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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TTC 07.23.08, 07:34 AM Flag
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I imagine it will be local so fine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 07:37 AM Flag
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I can't imagine this would impact your (possible) pregnancy at all. They'll just use a little local anesthetic. It's no big deal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 07:59 AM Flag
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