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[ - ] Montessori mom still there? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 08:09 PM Flag
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go away!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 08:10 PM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 08:11 PM Flag
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Have something against it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 08:13 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone have dcs in Montessori school? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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yep. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:59 PM Flag
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I have dd and ds starting this year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 08:00 PM Flag
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What grades? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 08:00 PM Flag
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What do you like/dislike about it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 08:03 PM Flag
[ - ] good night my virtual friends. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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me too. I'm out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:56 PM Flag
[ - ] I have a MAJOR problem with my dh. He is so snappy with my 6 yo dd, and sometimes outright frightning. He gets so angry at her - it scares me. Today she was listening to our conversation in the car and I was telling her that she misunderstood something I was saying, then she asked again, and he turned and gave her a look like he was about to beat her...I mean he never would but his face just looked evil. He says she keeps pushing limits, doesn't listen etc...but WTF??? He is the grown up. What the hell do I do - - I just can't even look at him. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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you need to talk to him about proper ways to discipline her. You both need to be on the same page with this. Have you tried talking about it when he is not upset about something? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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op-omg - so many times...i have bought him books even. i was out yesterday with a friend and she was telling me how sweet and gentle her dh was with he dd..and that she even prefers the dh - my dd would never do that...she loves him of course - kids love even the crappiest parents...but he is just so cold to her so much of time - and it just feels so forced for him to be gentle and sweet to her. nothing like iwth our ds who is younger. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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that's tough. i hate it when my dh loses it with dcs.is yours in therapy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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op-no...he use to be for other issues..is your in therapy specifically for that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone ttc and doing shots? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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I mean pin cushion shots [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:54 PM Flag
[ - ] 5yo dd was waiting for a book while I helped other dc. She fell asleep. feel guilty, want to wake her up- should I? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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No, just read her an extra one tomorrow. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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No, no, no... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 08:57 PM Flag
[ - ] My 12 y/o niece is away at sleepaway camp for the first time. What are some 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:43 PM Flag
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^things I can send her in a care package? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:43 PM Flag
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temporary tatoos, mad libs, candy in tins that she can share with friends. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:52 PM Flag
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No candy allowed at either of my kids' camps. No food in care packages at all. Colored pencils, sketch book, book, socks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 08:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Just had sex with DW, any questions?? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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go to sleep! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:42 PM Flag
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too wide awake - want to talk. She's sound asleep [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:43 PM Flag
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creep [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 08:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Alright so - at the beach today with 6 yo ds and his best friend. His best friend has this thing about promising my ds things he can't deliver on ("I'll give you my new video game if you do x,y,z with me ...") Ok, so - we're at the beach and ds doesn't feel like swimming because he has a healing cut on his foot - he's relaxing and his friend says, "come on in the water, Jack - I'll give you my Hulk toy if get there 1st!!" So ds runs down to the water, his friend following and they have fun. About an hour or so later, I notice ds pouting and can't see his friend anywhere. His friend's mom comes over to me and says, "Jack must be having an off day. He just told Sam (best friend) that he didn't like him anymore and didn't want to be his friend anymore." (Keep in mind, best friend's mom had no idea her son had been promising my ds the world). I'm so tired of this kid (who I adore) telling my ds about all the things he'll give to him, mail to him etc etc .... It sets my ds up for disappointment time & time again. So tonight I explained to ds that sometimes his friend likes to "tell stories" (I didn't want to use the "lie" word) and to not get too upset when his friend's promises fall through. Did I handle it the right way? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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^^^ Oh, and I forgot the most important part: his friend's mom told me that the reason her son wasn't near my ds at that moment in time was because she told "Sam" to stay away from ds since ds was being MEAN to him. Oy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:42 PM Flag
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well, I would have told my kid the same thing....if your dc was being mean to Sam why should he play with him? If Sam is promising things to your DS and he never delivers you should talk to your ds about how to handle that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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Why don't you just talk to ds and explain "when Sam says he'll give you a special toy, it's because he wants you to do something you didn't want to do, or play something you didn't want to play. But even if he wants to, Sam isn't really allowed to give away his nice toys, so you can't take those kinds of promises seriously. If you want to do what Sam wants, you should, but not because you think you will get a toy, because Sam can't give that to you." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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^^^but it's important that your ds isn't doing things because he thinks he is getting a toy out of it. He needs to play with his friends because he likes them, not for some reward at the end, and you should help him understand that. What if Sam kept his promise? Would you really let your ds keep presents given to him by a friend under those circumstances? You'd probably end up giving them back anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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np, I think you are blaming the wrong child here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 04:59 AM Flag
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And I also think that your characterization of Sam "telling stories" is the wrong thing to say to your son. All kids say things like that and you need to help your son understand when kids are making promises they aren't able to keep. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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I disagree. Calling Sam a name (liar) would have been wrong. I think OP handled it in the best way possible. And if Sam and Jack are best friends, I would have clued Sam's mom in to what her son has been saying. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 09:08 PM Flag
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NP, we don't call people names in our family. I answered below. Just describe the behavoir for what it is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 04:57 AM Flag
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And you are surprised the apple didn't fall far from the tree? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 04:59 AM Flag
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First, parents are way too involved in this. But, since you are - you deal with your son only. You explain the situation (the truth), your friend is manipulating you to force you into doing something you don't want to do. Ultimately it is your choice - you get to decide - but has he ever given you what he says he will? DC says no. Do you think this will change? DC answers. So, lets come up with all the ways you can handle this. Do you have any ideas - and let him say whatever he wanst no matter how crazy and then just work it around to some other ideas. The POINT is for your dc to be able to resist temptation when he's older and the stakes are higher. So, in your mind - thank the other kid for giving you the opportunity to teach your child some life skills - and completely dismiss other mom. Chances are the two children won't even know or remember each other by college age. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 04:55 AM Flag
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You could also help dc come up with a sentence that is nice, polite and to the point the next time this happens. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 04:58 AM Flag
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OP, I think you did exactly the right thing. You told your son the truth without attaching labels to it or making it a personal negative. You told him what we all need to know- that some people are manipulative and to look out for yourself- without actually calling Sam a manipulator. Kudos. Your dc will be the wiser for it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 03:58 PM Flag
[ - ] I think I've been banned for life from UB! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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and yet here you are [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:40 PM Flag
[ - ] how small does ralph lauren clothes run? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:36 PM Flag
[ - ] brag alert! DD 3.5 yo, wrote her name today all by herself. Carry on 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:29 PM Flag
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let me guess, it's "ann." no just kidding. good for her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:29 PM Flag
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LOL! nope. A little more complicated that that! ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:31 PM Flag
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esmerelda? :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:33 PM Flag
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anastasia [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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nooo. are you op? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:35 PM Flag
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LOL! Yes I'm OP but kidding about the name. It was the longest weirdest one I could think of on the spot. Kuddos for esmerealda [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:36 PM Flag
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hah. well, it's great for your dd. she [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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^^oops. she's got strong language abilities which means she's smart. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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she is very smart. She can count to 100 and add and subtract. I know she didn't gte her math abilities from me! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:38 PM Flag
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really? that is smart. my dd is nearly 6 and she's not there. and she's a bright kid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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it's a little scary. I just hope we can keep up with her! I know I was bored in school and I am not nearly as smart as she seems to be! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:42 PM Flag
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you mean when she hits high school? ;) no, nyc is great. so many museums, great ways to learn and grow. and school? what will you do? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:44 PM Flag
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we aren't in NYC. Plan on sending her to private school since public in Georgia are HORRIBLE! That's where I went and you see how I turned out! I was bored all the way through from about 4th grade on. I just want to make sure she is challenged enough. I will have to be on top of things. And my parents took us to museums and did all sorts of cultural things. That doesn't replace good schools [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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with you on that. sounds like you're doing the right thing. and then supplement w/lessons. follow her interests. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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thx. I already feel like I need to study! I think she will be fine but it is intimidating! ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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my dds grade has both an esmerelda (ezie) and an anastasia, not to mention athena [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:38 PM Flag
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yikes! People are just trying too hard these days! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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definitely! There is an Uma a year younger too, ouch! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:40 PM Flag
[ - ] To those of you new Anderson parents who were at the cocktail tonight with me (and you know who you are) I have NEVER met a more obnoxious group of people! I hope the remaining A parents who were not invited to this party are more normal than you. Seriously, you were (each of you) annoying but the group of you together were an experiment in social dimensia. PLEASE try not to hang out together in the future. The rest of us can't take you!!! 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.26.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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this is not only fake, it's pathetic ("dimensia"?). there was no cocktail party tonight, sweetheart - get a life [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:30 PM Flag
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np do you think this is the same mom who wrote "suppliment"? has i/e issues [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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what are i/e issues? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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I guess you weren't invited! No seriously, it wasn't a school function. It was a private party with many guests including a creepy crew of Anderson parents who all sucked in together and talked about Anderson..which in and of itself would have been fine but these folks really stunk up the party. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:52 PM Flag
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This Anderson bashing is just so stupid. See you later beeyatches, you can all continue your public navel-gazing without me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 08:14 PM Flag
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They had a cocktail party for new parents & did not invite everyone? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 08:17 PM Flag
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One more way you can tell this is bullsh!t. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 08:49 PM Flag
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OP: This was NOT a cocktail for "new parents", there just happened to be a lot of new Anderson parents there. Five couples, actually. It was at a friend of my husband's home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 07:15 AM Flag
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Where does your child go to school, as of this fall? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 07:17 AM Flag
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I have a 2nd grader at Trevor and a preschooler at Horace Mann. We will move out preschooler into Trevor if 2nd grader doesn't get accepted at HM. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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Even if there were a party where a couple of Anderson parents came to why would anyone attribute anything negative to the school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 04:39 AM Flag
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because people are envious and are looking to hate people, or at least size them up, when they have something the others want. have noticed when people ask where dc goes to school, and I say it (coveted schoola0, people look at dc and try to size him up. it is a weird experience.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 05:23 AM Flag
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They all congregated in a corner, which is fine, but the comments were SO obnoxious and continued as they mingled into the rest of the party. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 07:18 AM Flag
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What kind of comments? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 07:25 AM Flag
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np: she is a nut. doesn't realize how competetive SHE is. who notices things like this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 07:33 AM Flag
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Some examples include, the mom who wouldn't stop talking about how giftedness is a special need/learning handicap that needs to be treated the same as a child with problems in the opposite direction (her words, not mine). The dad who showed off his I-Phone to anyone who was unfortunate enough to cross his path, holding them captive for an entire demonstration. The Mom who immediately asked everyone where their kids went to school just so she could volunteer, 'Oh well we're starting at Anderson in the fall". The Mom who was selling real estate and was guessing at how much the host's apartment was worth and giving out her card. I could go o0n.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 11:16 AM Flag
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not an anderson mom, but I find your need to discuss in such detail some people you met at a party on a public message board highly disturbing. who cares about any of this, and frankly, the stuff you note is not all that notable. obviously something is stirring up such raise in you, but it is doubtful that it is related to anything these people said or did at the party. my guess is your kid didn't get in and the grapes are still extremely sour...perhaps, bitter. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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^^^rage, not raise [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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np: I disagree. I'm not there yet, but the few A parents I have come across at the playground are obnoxious enough for me to know that it is a place where the (poor) kids' educations are not nearly as important as the parents' egos. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 03:25 PM Flag
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How many people were at the party total? Must have been a HUGE party to have a contingent of new Anderson parents like that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 05:42 AM Flag
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It's just a fake post from some desperate housewife who doesn't have a loving man at home to keep her entertained... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 06:02 AM Flag
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Talk about bitter and jealous! And what the hell is this "loving man at home" comment? What is this, 1955? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 07:16 AM Flag
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having a lovin man at home in 2008 or 1958 is the same. nothin like good lovin' [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 07:53 AM Flag
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LOL. What a freak. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 09:19 AM Flag
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This post, and you OP, are so pathetic. Get a life already. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 07:18 AM Flag
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seriously! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 07:39 AM Flag
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I think you are ALL pathetic. From someone who is not even in your state, doesn't know what school you are talking about and is more concerned with the examples you must be setting for your children. Talk about back-biting and pettiness. I haven't said Meeow like this since highschool. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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Actually, what this thread proves is that there are even more obnoxious, petty and illiterate parents with kids at Horace Mann and Trevor. Meow. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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