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[ - ] have a 4 month old- he is not able to support himself wi=hen he puts legs down- is this normal? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 07.26.08, 03:43 PM Flag
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You mean bear weight on his legs while held standing? I think it's normal for babies to buckle their knees at 4 mos and that bearing weight comes later ~ 5-6 mos. Do you hold DB standing a lot? If not, then he hasn't really had enough practice to strengthen his leg muscles. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 03:47 PM Flag
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/thanks so much- yes, he cannot really bear weight. I am trying to hold him standing more so he gets strength and practice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 03:52 PM Flag
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Bizarre response, babies do not need to "practice" bearing weight on their legs. They will develop the strength, coordination and balance when it is time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 03:54 PM Flag
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How so? They do need to push against something with their feet so that they can eventually begin standing. They can also lie on their backs and kick a toy with their feet or you can apply resistance to their feet when they are doing tummy time. If they never use their muscles in this fashion then why should they all of a sudden be expected to do it when it is time? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 04:03 PM Flag
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Well millions of years of evolution is how. babies do not go from being swaddled to walking - there are multiple steps of development that naturally generate the skills they will need. You do not need a set of special exercises, a class or even a p/t/ trainer to get you baby ready for walking. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 04:07 PM Flag
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A lot of babies now skip the crawling stage because they do not spend time on their tummies because of the "back to sleep" rule, plus they are always sat in car seats, bouncy seats and swings. I am not promoting that the child needs to be prepped for walking, simply stating that if they are placed in different positions, they will naturally explore their new surroundings and at the same time, build their muscle strength. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 04:14 PM Flag
[ - ] I need some love ladies. Twelve year relationship, two children, both adopted. Daddy leaves, one of the reasons cited is that he needs to reconnect with his roots, and can't do it with me around. I'm white, he is AA. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 03:30 PM Flag
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men's reasons are always so lame. Hugs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 03:40 PM Flag
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What is his plan to see and pay for the roots he made with you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 03:49 PM Flag
[ - ] a former colleague of my husband's got married earlier this year and we are yet to receive a thank you note. it was a big greek wedding where we gave $200 cash in a card - while i know most couples would love cash as a present i was sort of surprised when my husband told me there was no registry and we were giving cash because that's what the groom told him was done at greek weddings. does anyone know if thank you notes are not done for gifts at greek weddings? i guess i wouldn't feel it was as crass not to send a thank you note if this was also what was done at a greek wedding. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 03:26 PM Flag
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Of course thank you notes are required. Poor manners have no ethnicity or class. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 03:27 PM Flag
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OP- thanks. i'm thinking about it a bit more because DH met up this guy and some other former colleagues for drinks yesterday and i told dh there was nothing wrong with asking the guy if her received our card with the gift inside. dh thinks that is rude. i said it's not rude to ask if they received the card what if it was lost? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 03:33 PM Flag
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i'm sure it wasn't lost because if guy didn't get something from dh and me guy would have said something to dh about it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 03:36 PM Flag
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No experince of Greek weddings but I know cash is a typical gift. I'd be suprised not to get a thank you note though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 03:30 PM Flag
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My parents went to a Greek weeding a few months ago and they received a TY note. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 03:38 PM Flag
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I've heard that Greek weddings are very large and it's possible that the bride is still trying to get her Thank you notes done without any help from her DH. I think there is 2-3 months grace period to get wedding thank yous done, but they might be very busy and just behind. I was married in August and a grad student at the time and just couldn't get everyone's done immediately because I like to write a lot in the card. I ended up combining the last of my thank yous with Christmas cards. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 03:44 PM Flag
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There is no "grace period" for saying thank you. A note takes 2 minutes so writing thank you to 150 couples takes a crappy afternoon of sitting down and getting it done. Not fun, not romantic but simply the only acceptable way to appreciate the gifts you have been given. Frankly, anything less - 6 months late, combined with something else, etc. - is tacky and gross imo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 03:47 PM Flag
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I disagree. I like to be more personal in my note instead of thank you for the gift, it was great to see you. When I get a note like that I think it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 04:06 PM Flag
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^^ is tacky and the person obviously just wanted to get the damn thing done. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 04:06 PM Flag
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Good for you. I don't care what you write as long as it gets done in a week or two at the latest. Don't use th excuse that it needs to be a lavish event so its gonna take a year to get doen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 04:09 PM Flag
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how can a late reply be "Gross"? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 04:08 PM Flag
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Its careless, thoughtless and lazy. Is that better for ya? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 04:11 PM Flag
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yes thank you :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 04:12 PM Flag
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OP - it actually was in january so we are talking nearly 8 months here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 04:30 PM Flag
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She was referring to me, I suspect. 8) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 04:44 PM Flag
[ - ] applying for pre-school this year, when does DC have the "play date" or "interview" - not sure on the lingo but when does DC meet with the school??? Thanks 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 03:20 PM Flag
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Once you have applied the school will contact you to arrange the play date/interviews. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 03:27 PM Flag
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when is the deadline for the application - I'm sure all the schools are different, but generally what month / time of year is it done?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 03:34 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone going through fertility treatments at cornell this month? i have a question 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 03:19 PM Flag
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last month. does that help? [ Reply | More
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I am! What is your question? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.09, 07:14 PM Flag
[ - ] I am renting a 2 bedroom with a detached studio apartment for a live in nanny (whom I have not yet hired). I am also going through a divorce, and the Judge has ordered that I pay for hubby to visit our child seven days per month (he lives out of state). I am to pay his airfare, hotel & food for the 7 days he's here. In order to save $$$, I'd like him to stay in the detached studio apartment and have the live in nanny move into my child's room (child would stay in the studio with daddy for that 7 days) for that week. Is that something a nanny would accept? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 10.14.08, 03:25 AM Flag
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np: i'm sure the op doesn't want her ex in her living space.. hence staying in the studio. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 10.14.08, 07:00 AM Flag
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As long as you are up front when you are hiring about the situation, I'm sure you will find lots of people willing to take the job. Especially in this economy where lots of nannies are losing their jobs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 10.14.08, 06:36 AM Flag
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Perhaps hire a nanny that has family closeby and give her the days your ex visits, time off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 10.14.08, 06:59 AM Flag
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Frankly, if I were the judge I'd give the father custody. Avoid this whole mess altogether. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 10.14.08, 07:14 AM Flag
[ - ] whats better? nicholas anthony? nicholas antonio? or nicholas santino? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 03:13 PM Flag
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nicholas anthony [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 03:23 PM Flag
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1st. But I like Santino esp if it has some meaning to you i.e a family name. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 03:25 PM Flag
[ - ] moms ttc after hcg shot, when did you get iui? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 03:08 PM Flag
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General Topics 07.26.08, 04:40 PM Flag
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I would do shot in evening and then go next afternoon and following morning. I tried to cover all bases. You're supposed to ovulate 36 hours later. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 09:22 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone know dr williams from cornell? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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TTC 07.26.08, 03:05 PM Flag
[ - ] How many ounces does your 3 month old take and how often does he feed? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 07.26.08, 02:44 PM Flag
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bf. 3 hourly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 03:20 PM Flag
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^it's around 4months that they start going longer between feeds (4hourly). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 03:21 PM Flag
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she takes about 3-4 oz per feeding and she eats 6-7 times in s 24 hr period. It depends how long she goes overnight-if she skips the middle of the night feeding, it's 6 times. if not, it's 7. I wish she would eat more but she doesn't want to right now. what does your 3 month old eat and how often? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 05:15 PM Flag
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She eats every 3 hours and 4-5 ounces. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 06:09 PM Flag
[ - ] What are the first signs of teething? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 07.26.08, 02:42 PM Flag
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Lots and lots of drool! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 06:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Any mom from Newark,South Orange or somewhere around here? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 02:38 PM Flag
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i live in south orange [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 03:18 PM Flag
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How old is your baby and if you don't mind let me know where can I contact you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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So one more time ... is here any mom from South Orange,Newark or someshere around here,who'd like to meet and let kids play together? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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i'm back...do a search for maplewood/south orange mothers and more. we have a very active chapter with lots of playgroups and opportunities to meet lots of families. good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 08:08 PM Flag
[ - ] my mom keeps telling me that my 3 week old is not getting enough sucking time and needs a pacifier. anyone heard truth to this. i am against getting her stuck on a pacifier but sick of hearing my mom tell me she needs one. tia. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 07.26.08, 02:28 PM Flag
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Tell your mom that while that was the belief when she raised babies, it is not the belief now. Not all babies need pacifiers. My two never got used to one, and my second actively disliked it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 02:30 PM Flag
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Neither of mine ever pacified. get Kathleen Huggins' book "The Nursing Mother's Companion". Smile sweetly and say "Thank you for your concern." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 02:35 PM Flag
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Sucking does soothe them so you might find them useful. If you stop after 4months it wont be that hard to ween them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 02:40 PM Flag
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Two of my kids used pacifiers, one did not. If the baby is not cranky or needs to be soothed, I wouldn't start it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 03:03 PM Flag
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I never used pacifiers with either dc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 03:20 PM Flag
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DB having problems falling asleep for naps and so I've started giving her a pacifier after she lays down in the crib. She'll usually suck/chew on it for 1-5 min. and then spit it out. I think sometimes it helps her soothe herself to sleep, sometimes not. But I only want to use it for nap soothing since I've been having lots of problems getting her down. DB is now 6 mos old and was never interested in a pacifier until now (she sucks on her fingers and toys). When she was 3 weeks, she would stay on my breast and suck and that continued until ~4.5 mos. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 03:55 PM Flag
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^^ I also didn't want to get my DB stuck on a pacifier early, even though I tried it a few times when she was fussy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 03:57 PM Flag
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