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Dear UrbanBaby community,

Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

If you have any questions or concerns, you can email us at urbanbaby-support@cbsinteractive.com.

Thanks so much,

UrbanBaby Support

[ - ] how long did it take you to get your period after giving birth if you didn't breastfeed? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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i nursed for 8 wks and got my AF 4 wks after i stopped. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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Pretty soon. Maybe 6 weeks. It was 7 years ago so my memory is foggy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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op: is it bad that i haven't gotten it yet? it's been 4 mos. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:38 PM Flag
[ - ] Please pray I get my period tomorrow. TIA. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:36 PM Flag
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sending prayers your way [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:38 PM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:45 PM Flag
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Praying for ya... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 08:41 PM Flag
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and pray I don't [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 08:51 PM Flag
[ - ] 16 million members of the armed forces were in WW2. 400,000 died 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:36 PM Flag
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Staggering. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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that's a lot of young men. my great uncle stormed the beach at Anzio (sp?). He survived. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:38 PM Flag
[ - ] I asked someone to be my friend on facebook and they have not responded. I am so humiliated. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:35 PM Flag
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could be me. I haven't logged onto facebook for weeks and weeks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:36 PM Flag
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You are a bitch! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:36 PM Flag
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it's just facebook. i don't add a lot of people because i use it mostly to show pictures to close friends and family who live far away and don't want my co-workers or acquaintances to see my silly pictures. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:36 PM Flag
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I forget to check mine sometimes. Your friend might do the same. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:38 PM Flag
[ - ] pudendem? wtf 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:34 PM Flag
[ - ] do you do anything on Memorial Day that is related to the actual holiday? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:31 PM Flag
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Think about all the people dying in Iraq. And elsewhere. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:33 PM Flag
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sometimes go to town parade and see all the retired soldiers march. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:33 PM Flag
[ - ] stopped retin because I was getting brown spots.How long before it goes back to the way it was(acne,etc? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:31 PM Flag
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if i stopped it would only take a week or two... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:32 PM Flag
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retin-a doesn't give you brown spots. what probably happened was that the increased sensitivity to sun + inadequate sun protection caused them. you need a very good sunscreen when using Retin-A. your skin may go back to the way it was very quickly (weeks) or it may not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:33 PM Flag
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what is retin A for? wrinkles? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:35 PM Flag
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np. acne, wrinkles and hyperpigmentation [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:37 PM Flag
[ - ] These my-child-is-too-intelligent-for words posts are driving me nuts. But with this new format I cannot even figure out how to filter out NY Schools posts consistently. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:31 PM Flag
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Click on the topics you want on the right. Then scroll down and click on the WORDS "save as default". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:32 PM Flag
[ - ] 10 minutes here and I'm out. It's awful. At least it broke my UB habit. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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Okay, you're just as bad as the "Obamasheep" poster from the old board. We all get that you're from the new board and trying to sabotage UB. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:28 PM Flag
[ - ] they've killed ub. it feels empty now... what is the yoube? who started it and why? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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why don't they just admit it was a mistake and go back tot he way it was? it's site suicide the way it is now [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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Okay, spamela. Just deal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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you must be with cnet [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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Good Lord, woman. This place is always dead on holidays. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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np: it's not that - it really isn't the same. I am signing up for Yoube. Don't know that I will be back to this one/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:28 PM Flag
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np: you don't notice a change, other than the format? this site is on life support [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:28 PM Flag
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no, i've been on here on other days. it's dying [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:31 PM Flag
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I like the changes, but the site certainly seems pretty quiet. Not nearly as sharp, although the LI bashing was fun. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:41 PM Flag
[ - ] do how many people left this site, do ya think? a million? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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you really don't hang around other message boards, do you? if you did, you'd see that there are relatively few regular posters. Hard to tell on UB b/c it's all anonymous, but I'd say this site is mainly the same 30 - 50 posters all the time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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the traffic has slowed considerably since the new format [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:28 PM Flag
[ - ] My son had a diaper rash that I believe may have been a yeast infection. It was little blisters and bright red skin. It began to get better, but then he got a stomach bug and had terrible diarrhea for 24 hours. Because it hurt, he wouldn't say anything right away after he pooped, and so it sat on his bum too long sometimes. He was up all night screaming in pain, and today, in spite of our constant vigilance with gentle cleaning, antibiotic/pain relief cream, and triple paste, it's worse, with closely-clustered hard white bumps all over his bum, pudendum, scrotum and on his foreskin. What is going on??? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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You certainly know your anatomy terms! Take him to the ped. Maybe he needs a prescription for the yeast infection [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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This is worth a call to the ped. In the meantime, naked bottom as much as possible. No cream. Just air. Clean with water and a soft cloth. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:28 PM Flag
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He's not toilet trained. Do I let him sleep in a wet bed?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:29 PM Flag
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If he's in that much pain, you're not going to get much sleep anyway. Put him down on multiple towels or layers of diapers. Remove as they get wet. So sorry. I've had a lot of experience with yeast diaper rash, but I've never seen the hard white bumps you are describing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:31 PM Flag
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I just went in, took off his diaper, laid down a layer of towels, and am letting him air out. We don't have a ped in NYC yet, so this is the best we can do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:43 PM Flag
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You can call my pediatrician. The practice of Drs. Finkelman and Silverblatt. They won't know that you aren't a current patient. They probably wouldn't mind, but don't tell them. 718-858-4924. You may not get either one of them since they share call with a few other Brooklyn practices. Good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:45 PM Flag
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^^^ It doesn't sound life-threatening, but if he doesn't have to spend another night in pain, that would be best. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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get thee to a pediatrician. it couuld be a skin virus that is associated with chicken pox. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:28 PM Flag
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Where in the name of God am i going to find a ped. on duty on Sunday of Memorial Day Weekend?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:30 PM Flag
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At your ped's office. They have people on call. 10:30 isn't that late. I would call. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:32 PM Flag
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Tell us what the ped says! I'm curious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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every ped. has a doc on call. call the regular number and their answering service will ask if you want the doctor paged and say yes. if not then go to the ER first thing in the morning. also try mixing baking soda with mylanta or pepto bismol to form a paste and apply to infected area to soothe . [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:36 PM Flag
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Give him Tylenol or Motrin for the pain - every 4 hours, like with a fever. Air him out - I agree with the sleeping naked thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 08:04 PM Flag
[ - ] I like Laura Dern but don't like her as Katherine Harris - overacting in an annoying way 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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That IS the way Harris was!! She was disgusting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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Oh I know that - am not questioning that she is a nightmare just don't like the way LD is playing it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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I'm just saying that LD is not far off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:30 PM Flag
[ - ] I hate my SIL 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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por que? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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she didn't come to ds's bday party, never called [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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my biological sisters did this to me. it sucks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:31 PM Flag
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thats really awful [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:35 PM Flag
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Awww, I like mine. I haven't seen her in way too long. I'm coming to drink with you this summer, SIL! Make me a margarita! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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way to rub it in [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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sorry that you have a stinky SIL... i have one great one, two decent ones, and one so-so one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:37 PM Flag
[ - ] Who started Yoube? I really don't like this new format of UB and checked out the other. I think this all might help me break my addiction. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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obviously someone who works for UB. there's no other way they could get the code. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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I guess - wouldn't they have had to sign an agreement or something though? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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that's not true. I looked at the code myself a while back. not that hard. [ Reply | More
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you can't look at the code, it's hidden [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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^^^ UB uses CSS, which means the code doesn't show up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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this one does. the old site did not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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yes, it did [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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the old one did. so does youbemom [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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do you know anything about coding interactive sites? you can't just go to "view page source" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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lol, you fail at the internet [ Reply | More
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only problem is that i can't use the space bar to scroll bar (on mac/safari) and it pisses me off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:22 PM Flag
[ - ] hot lips, you incredible nincompoop. 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:18 PM Flag
[ - ] WWYD? 5 yo dd was invited to a classmate's birthday party next Sunday. She has dance recital pictures at the same time. She really wants to go to the birthday party, and I don't really care about the pictures. She's one of the youngest in her class and some of the other girls are already starting to get cliquey. I'd love for her to socialize with them more. Problem is that the birthday party is a pool party. DD doesn't know how to swim. She'll get in, jump in (as long as she can touch bottom), play, etc. But she can't swim. Is this just going to make it worse for her? She's taking swim lessons again this summer (she took them last summer and finally put her face in the water). WWYD? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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they usually have make-ups, and just take here to a photographer or a mall place some other times if she wants some pics [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:16 PM Flag
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Not overly worried about the pics. I can take some at the actual recital. But will her non-swimming make dealing with the other kids even worse? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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so you think they all swim? what kind of pool? does it have a shallow end or play area? I can't believe all 5yos swim [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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It's their neighborhood pool. I'm sure it has a shallow end. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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is it possible that other children at the party will not be able to swim as well? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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OP: I don't know. I need to call the mom and RSVP and I was going to try to feel her out to see if she knew. Heck, for all I know, she may want the parents to stay. I wouldn't want to deal with up to 20 five year olds in a pool. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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I would NEVER drop off my DC at a pool party. Drowning is a huge cause of death in children. Plan to stay. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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Yeah, that's the other problem. Her father and I are separated. It's his weekend. So it involves coordination with him if someone needs to stay. He's a manipulative, abusive asshat. Blech. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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i know plenty of 5yo who can't swim but can play in a pool [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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OP: Really? It seems like my dd is the only 5 yo who doesn't swim around here. We didn't have access to a pool when she was really little and most other people around here did. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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Go the party. Before you go get a little strap-on floaty that's secure enough so she can paddle around without your being on top of her. Do you really think the other 5 yos at the party will know how to swim? I'm going to find a picture of the floaty I mean and post it below. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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Like this one: http://www.swimoutlet.com/product_p/1841.htm. My DD has this in purple. She loves it, even though it gives her a horrible wedgy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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Thanks, but I think it would make it worse to put a floaty on her. I never see kids older than 3 in floaties around here. There are 5 yo on the swim team in our neighborhood and they have to try out because there are more swimmers than spots on the team. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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A post provides only limited information, but you seem overly worried about what the other kids and their mothers think about your DD. My 5 yo would never notice what other people think of her, and I don't think she's "poorly socialized." She's just 5. She doesn't swim, and the floaty lets her move around freely. It's also really given her the drive to learn how to swim, since she's experienced the freedom. Enjoy your child's strengths, and support her weaknesses until she's ready to strike out on her own. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:24 PM Flag
[ - ] When people ask you where your dc will be headed to for Kindergarten, and you say either Hunter or TT private, do you get total silence after you answer? TT private and I get total silence. I wish nobody asked me anymore. I am starting to feel bad. 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 09:30 AM Flag
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When I say citywide or private I get the same response. Would be nice if people no longer asked. I've stopped talking about it except on UB. (as a side note I don't live in Manhattan so couldn't apply to Hunter). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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you know what gets total silence? "I'm seriously considering homeschooling my ds for K." Yeah, that's a conversation stopper. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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Yeah, this has been pretty similar to our experience. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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We're in that position, and have that conversation all the time, and usually people aren't asking us unless they're in the same position. not a big deal at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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Do you really say "TT private," or just the name of the school. My DC go to a highly coveted lottery school, and I always tack on "we're so lucky" after I say where they go. Not quite the same, but an acknowledgement that I'm not all stuck on myself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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I don't want to name the school so I said TT here. I say private. But people ask "oh, which one?" and I have to answer which (one of the TTs). I don't know but nobody stops at private. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:30 PM Flag
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of course they don't stop. they're asking b/c they want to know the details, and you're not giving it to them the first time around. just avoid this middle man step and say Hunter and XYZ school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:32 PM Flag
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I suppose I will still get the silent treatment after, but at least I will be able to get it over with sooner? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:35 PM Flag
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The problem is when you just say "private". Sounds like you are hiding something [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 11:56 AM Flag
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say the name of the school -s aying private is inviting more questions and sounds silly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 11:58 AM Flag
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Maybe you give the vibe that you don't want to talk about it. I can't imagine people meet so few kids going to tt private that they're unable to speak. Do you really think you only come upon jealous types? Lots of people didn't apply to tt. I think it's you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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I think it tells me something about you that your conclusion is jealousy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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Then what was it OP thought was happening if not jealousy? And my ds is in TT so no jealousy here. I find that people are interested and open about ds school and I've never gotten silence. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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I don't know motive, but if I had to guess, it was 1) anti-private and 2) anti-elitist (hoity toity reputation) - like "oh, you are one of those moms" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 09:08 AM Flag
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Ah, so sorry! I completely took it the wrong way. That hasn't happened to me either or I haven't noticed it. I have had people come right out and say they don't believe in private and they prefer the real world for their kids. I wouldn't never say something like that to them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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np. This would be my guess as well. We get similar reactions to what OP describes. But we live downtown and dc is going to an uptown SS school w/ uniforms. People react negatively to the SS thing, the uniform, that it's private, it's traditional, you name it. It's not an issue of envy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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We say "Dalton" and responses vary from "Wow, your DC must be smart" to "that's a hard school to get into" to "That's on UES?" (we don't live UES). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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which is great - and I hope to be able to say that someday! Hope we see you in 4 years [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 11:59 AM Flag
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Private, or Public, if anyone has a child who is eager to learn more, or you simply just want your child to be confident going into any school, check out Reading In Preschool. It's an incredible tutoring service that teaches ages 3 and up how to read at an early age. Don't make the mistake of waiting to teach your child and expect them to learn everything the easy way when they go into 1st grade. By the time they're in 1st grade, they are mostly taught sight words, and thrown new words to learn how to read and spell every week. Help them by giving the gift of understanding phonics and sight words earlier on, so that by the time they go into 1st grade, they get it and are confident. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 12.21.14, 01:10 AM Flag
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So then what do you say in reply to "your dc must be smart"? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 12.21.14, 03:56 AM Flag
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Good, this makes me feel better bc we get the same response in public gen ed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 12.21.14, 03:17 AM Flag
[ - ] DS is barely 18mo and the trantraums have already begun. Any advice on how to handle them? Will this really continue for 1 year?? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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My ds is only 11 months old and they have started. From what I've been told, I have this to look forward to untill he's 3. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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my 19 mo has been throwing them for about 2 months. we just put him down and ignore him - but stay near so he doesn't hurt himself. he eventually loses steam. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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op: i have been ignoring, too, and trying to redirect, but its just annoying. and i can;t help but think that i have many months of this ahead of me. Anyone out there managed to avoid or lessen terrible twos? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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the happiest toddler helped me. i didn't use the way of speaking he talks about, but i did say what i thought toddler was feeling/going through and it seemed to help. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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op: that is interesting. i bought the book, read a bit of it, and was wondering if it really worked. that "toddlerese" thing just seems queer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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