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Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

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[ - ] Do people still wear Yurman? I hate those big stones. Who's designing great jewelry these days? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.25.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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my friends do, but we're in the burbs and not so cool. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 08:05 PM Flag
[ - ] I can not get dh to abide by any separation rules, except that he doesn't sleep here. No matter what I say he is here in the morning, stays all day (weekends), leaves when dc go to bed. Sometimes it's tolerable, most times I am irritated. He just does whatever the hell he wants at all times. Oh- unless there is something better to do. Then he goes out and I'm happy. If he wants to stay married and keep his home you'd think he'd apologize for his affair, stop their "friendship", go to counseling and work at it. But no, and I wouldn't take him back now anyway. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.25.08, 08:03 PM Flag
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can you change the locks and leave during the day? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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change the locks. get a legal separation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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op: I am working on the legal part. The locks thing, I'm afraid he'd get nasty about it and I'm trying my best to keep things even for dc. I'm mainly venting, I know this will end someday soon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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understood. glad you're working on it. if it helps, this weekend is the one year anniversary of my kicking my ex to the curb. and i feel like a new woman. we didn't have dc's together so it was less complicated. just wanted you to know that there's a light at the end of this particular tunnel... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 08:08 PM Flag
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Thanks- I look forward to that. I can't believe I married someone who would just toss me aside like he has. I lost my job this week, he was here (of course) and barely had anything to say in consolation. Nobody would treat a stranger that way, yet that's how he treats me. So you can see why I feel great when he's not around... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 08:12 PM Flag
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You can choose not to answer the door/buzzer/doorman calling up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 08:05 PM Flag
[ - ] PSA: Weeds is on! Was so happy to stumble upon it. (Not new -- from last season.) 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 08:02 PM Flag
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great show... i love the opening. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 08:03 PM Flag
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i am in the middle of season 2 (dvds). it's terrific!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 08:05 PM Flag
[ - ] Why are NYC kids so incredibly gifted and intelligent? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 08:00 PM Flag
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because their parents think they are... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 08:01 PM Flag
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and because their parents are the best and the brightest themselves. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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because they expose their children to a world of knowledge at an early age, using tutors for everything. If you have a child who is eager to learn to read and doesn't want to wait until 1st grade which is when children really start being given the exposure to reading, look into Reading In Preschool. It's a great tutoring service that teaches children ages 3 to 8 how to read. They also teach math as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 12.21.14, 01:01 AM Flag
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I believe the term is "severely gifted" as in, "Brookline is a lovely town; the only drawback is that all of the children are 'severely gifted'". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 08:13 PM Flag
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Because generally wealth = kids who do well in school and/or high IQ scores. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 08:19 PM Flag
[ - ] My town is big, cliquey, and unfriendly. there, I said it. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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what town is that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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You gotta warn us as to what town! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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can't - trying to sell my house... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 08:02 PM Flag
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in my town, they're not snobby but everyone has grown up here and married their high school sweetheart -- i feel like a totally outsider. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 08:00 PM Flag
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what town??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 08:01 PM Flag
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Sounds like tribeca... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 08:01 PM Flag
[ - ] I see my sister and she is annoying and then I see her a month later and we are best friends. Its so wierd. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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you need to get that book siblings without rivalry... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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Is that for adults? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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no -- i don't think so, but i'm sure there are a ton of books on the subject. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:59 PM Flag
[ - ] re:retin a.I'm so confused,if retin-a thins the skin,how is this anti-aging? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:45 PM Flag
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are wrinkles just on the surface? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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thins the skin b/c it creates cell turnover. New cells= younger looking skin. Thick skin is just lots of dead cells piled on top of each other [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:58 PM Flag
[ - ] Is anyone happy that they have a smart-but-average and not a gifted kid? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:45 PM Flag
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I am happy with my kids, who are average but have many gifts [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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me, too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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Just spoke to my dd's preschool teacher about this last week - some of the moms in the class mentioned their dcs had been reading since age 3 (mine is just starting at age 5). She said its better for a child to be midrange. Super smart kids have a hard time fitting in especially down the road. It was very eye opening. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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so true... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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You make the mistake of equating early reading with super smart. Early reading is indicative of not much [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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Its not? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:52 PM Flag
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It just means they learned to read early. There is the "great leveling out" at 3rd grade. That's when early readers fade to average (for many) and the "behind" kids catch up and everyone is even [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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NP: That's when children really do learn to read. All this push for them to read earlier is just unkind nonsense. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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The dividing line is in 3rd grade you start to read to learn, rather than learn to read [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 08:02 PM Flag
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thanks - thats good to know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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Well, yes and no. Reading early, esp spontaneously, is a sign of giftedness. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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Honestly, it is ONE sign. But it is not THE sign [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 08:03 PM Flag
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Oh yeah. She's in the top groups, but not the TOP of her top groups. I'm thrilled, really. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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sadly, most truly gifted kids never live up to their potential. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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me. i'm rather glad that my dd is bright and has good common sense/practical thinking. she may not rock the tests, but she's do v. well in life [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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they say that common sense isn't so common, so she's ahead of the game already! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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or: i agree! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 08:00 PM Flag
[ - ] my dc's want me to homeschool them this summer 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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how old are they? and why do they want you to homeschool? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:43 PM Flag
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sounds good to me. kids forget a lot over the summer. and some kids (mine) really thrive on the structure of school. I'm planning on spending 1.5 hours a day doing "school"work w/ dcs this summer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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1.5 hours a day? wow! how old are your kids? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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mostly for the 5yo going into K. it won't be that intense. He has developmental delays and really needs to work on fine motor and motor planning activities. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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ok -- that's a different story. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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not really. I think all kids can only benefit from one on one tutelage. just check out a homeschooling curriculum online, you can use the summer to get into a subject that's overlooked in school (say ancient history or geography) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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there's no way i could spend 1.5 hours on each kid -- who would clean the house? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 08:02 PM Flag
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Reading In Preschool offers summer intensives for early reading and math. It's a great time for a child to get ahead, plus with all the fun that's going on in the summer, it's a good idea to have the learning something educational so they don't lose what they learnt earlier on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 12.21.14, 01:03 AM Flag
[ - ] What would you do? DS is 3 yo. Just getting assessed and all are showing pot language processing issues (about 9-12 mo) delays with speech and some SI issues (flapping). Dev ped suspects mild PDD but the person who did the in-class eval does not. DS likes people, has friends who he talks about, interacts with DH and I. Main symptoms are language (speaks a lot, but mainly just in 2 or 3 word sentences), a lot of echolia (sp), and varied eye contact, plus the flapping (only when excited). DH and I don't know if we should go down the intensive ABA, etc route, or "just" do intensive speech, OT and PT. Are they very different? What would you do? BTW, this is just SO tough. Thanks for any help. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Special Needs 05.25.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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my dd did some of that echolia at age 3 and had speech delay and articulation problems. She was fine after a year of speech therapy (1.5 hrs twice per week). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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thank you. your response will help me sleep better tonight. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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it is tough. We are in the same place. dc gets ST, OT and may start ABA this summer. i say look into everything and try the different therapies. they don't harm the child at all. In fact mine really loves all the therapists. if you feel a therapy is not useful yo ucan always stop it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 08:02 PM Flag
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np - my dd loved her speech class and her teacher. It was like a second preschool. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 08:03 PM Flag
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You do not need to do intensive ABA (per se) - you can do Special Instruction instead. Not all children need ABA. My DS is also 3 and our dev. ped. specifically said no ABA when I asked. She told me to just do special instruction (he also gets speech and OT). I would work with the dev. ped. to figure out a game plan in terms of the types of services and the amounts to get. Your DS might not need 30 hours of therapy every week...every child is different, and it really all depends on his challenges. GL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:15 AM Flag
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^^P.S. the reason our dev. ped. told us our DS didn't need ABA is because he can learn naturally, so he didn't need the ABA system of having things broken down into smaller pieces. ABA can be great, but it really depends on your child. Don't necessarily assume that your DC needs it. And even if your DC has a mild case of PDD, with therapy in two years, he might drop the diagnosis, or be so mild, it really doesn't interfere with this life. Bump up the speech if you can though - IMO it's the most important thing b/c it impacts social skills as well. We do 5 hours a week (EI and private) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:18 AM Flag
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[ - ] Best non-pill birth control besides abstinence? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:39 PM Flag
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condoms or fertility awareness (for me) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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Me too. [ Reply | More
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IUD, tubal ligation, vasectomy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:45 PM Flag
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Condoms. [ Reply | More
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iud. love love love the mirena [ Reply | More
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Novu ring (sp?) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 08:38 PM Flag
[ - ] how did you get your dc in to reading?mine at 4,hates to do letters numbers work books.Do you all work on this with your kids?With 3 and full time job,cant find time to do anything but struggle to survive,help! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:38 PM Flag
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No. Let him have access to picture books that interest him. Read to him when you can, and let it be. He'll learn to read just fine. Workbooks are completely inappropriate for his age. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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just read to the child and surround him or her with books that are of interest. and go to the library with the child a lot as well.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:44 PM Flag
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This is what school is for. Just relax and have fun with your preschool aged kid [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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Sometimes it's just a matter of hiring a great tutor. A lot of children don't actually show interest in learning with their parents. Looking into the Reading in Preschool tutoring service. They're amazing with young children and the results are incredible. They start with 3 year olds, but also work with children up to 10 years old [ Reply | More
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General Topics 12.21.14, 01:05 AM Flag
[ - ] First time logging in all week. I am just not feeling this new format. It feels inconvenient and hard to read the posts now. What's the word with yoube? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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You are the same spamela all along. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 07:44 PM Flag
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just go over and see. [ Reply | More
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